How do I know the cap is interested?

I (a gemini female) met a cap a few weeks ago. We went on a date the next day....and things kind of got out of control. He calls me late at night to "watch a movie"...but other things transpire. He says he isnt looking for a relationship and that is cool...but he doesnt call at all. I usually just get a text every two or three days. But he will show up when least expected. How do I know if he is just looking for a "fun time" or if he is really interested in getting to know me?

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I don't know .. let's "think" about it ...

You open your legs on first date ..
he only contacts late at night and you allow other things to transpire ..
and when he shows up unexpected you allow him entrance ...
all the while he tells you he isn't interested in a relationship


"He says he isnt looking for a relationship and that is cool...but he doesnt call at all."

Does this surprise you that a guy who isn't interested in a relationship doesn't call you?

Really?

wow ....

"How do I know if he is just looking for a "fun time" or if he is really interested in getting to know me?"

GeminiDame, I think you already feel badly about this. But as P-Angel said, "think". Since he told you he is not looking for a "relationship" (I presume he means "serious committment") and you sleep with him anyway, he figures you are "cool" with this arrangement. He probably has NO idea that you are not "cool" with it. So tell him and see what happens.

I met a capricorn male about 7 weeks ago and we slept together for the first time 2weeks ago and i am experiencing the exact same thing (he doesn't call for about 1 week; receive email/text maybe 2 or 3 times during the week; and then call/show up unexpectedly and pick up where we ended). We have slept together only 2 times but he tells me in person how he likes me alot but is busy at work. He owns 2-3 businesses and is always busy. When we are together the phone constantly rings and he is always talking business.

I too find myself confused because when in I am around him, we have fun and seem very close; but it is when I don't hear from him that bothers me. I have decided to just continue dating and not wait around. If it is meant for us to be...then it will happen.

"I have decided to just continue dating and not wait around."

Excellent, Aries.

How do I know he is interested?
We met a month ago, then went to different colleges. During our first week apart we: exchanged a couple of emails, he really really wanted to visit me and we kind of agreed on the date of his visit. He called and we were talking for hours. I knew he was busy with studies and stuff, but still...he could have called...or was he just playing with me?

And then, there was silence for two weeks. I thought he was not really interested in me. Despite his earlier words that he wants to be with me. I was devastated. Then, I finally emailed my guy and asked him about his life. He called me back right away and we were talking once again for an hour or so.

I guess it is in the cap's nature not to call, especially if he is certain that the girl is really into him. Don't know what to do next. I am sure that he will not call me first in the next couple of weeks though....

On my experience with CAP men - I agree 100% with TORO

Another thing....my cap friend disappeared even B4 I slept with him. He would be wonderful and then I wouldn't hear from him for about 1 week and then he would reappear out of the blue. I have decided to turn the tables on him. I am too impatient to play these games with him. I thought about not being around/responding to him when he FINALLY comes around; I even thought about sending him an email/text detailing how irritated he makes me when he pulls this stunt...but the problem with this tactic is that he may disappear even longer afterwards; lastly I thought about just kicking him to the curb all together. I too really like him but these mind games are ridiculous.

Gotta agree with Toro on that one. I spent 20 years married to a Cap (I'm a Scorp). Bad, bad combo. Great as a friend, but very controlling and wants things his way or the highway. Obviously, that's why we're now divorced. If he says he's not looking for a relationship, believe him! I've never known a Cap to say anything he or she didn't mean.

Umm, no woman of ANY sign should with a guy on the first date, even after the first date. LOL, no matter how HOT I get, that'll never happen. Being a capricorn, I'd be too insecure to that. Plus, I'd be afraid of what would happen the day after.

Also, being a cappy, the reason why he hasn't called you is because you sleep with him on the first date. That's a bad thing to do with a cappy man. You can probably get away with it with a virgo, another gemini, scorpio and all the fire signs but not a cappy.

what's with u people?? why the hell does it matter if i sleep with a guy on the first date? if he wants u for more then sex he's still gonna hang around..cos well he only got sex and he wants more...if it was just sex..well..if he doesn\t get it he wont hang around waiting either, cos he doesn't want the talk, and getting to know part!!

"I'd be afraid of what would happen the day after." ---worst case scenario -- i'll laught it off ..and have a lot of fun doing it ...

or maybe that's just a gemini brain thinking ....