Gems VS Caps Need more info

Hello, I am a gemini lady dating a Capricorn male and there isn't alot of info about the fit. Either they distroy each other. Or if they last at all, they will stay together forever...... Not very good feedback.... I have found more bad then good on this mix!!!!
But it also says that "if" you find your common ground with each other you will be very happy together..... We are better together then we are alone. Or This pair benifits one another. O and can't forget roller coster life together full of suprises...
I have also heard that if these 2 do fall in love they will never get over each other....

Have any of you gems or caps dated the other sign. MALE, FEMALE I want to hear about both sides!! PLEASE!!!!

Can you tell me whether it was a good or bad relationship—
How long did it last for—?
Did you fight alot??
If so why did you break up—

If you did break up, do you still think about them? Talk? See each other??

Let me know Thanks.

Hello Genome,
I Thank you and yes you are right. I have never cheated and I never would.... I have always been a very open person with him, he is the one that is secretive. But it doesn't bother me cause I know he is a good boy. If he doesn't tell me something that just means its not important. The flirting thing usually when we go out I'm stuck to him, and if I do go off and talk to his boys I keep my distance and make sure he can see me at all times.. His ex screwed his best friend I don't want the slitest thought in his head that I am going to do that to him, cause it makes me sick that she did!!! He always gives me my space but that is also cause I tell him everything and if I leave one spot I call him and tell him.. I know it sounds controlling but it doesn't bother me one bit, as long as he knows what I'm doing and who Im with he wont have any bad thoughts cause he knows everyone I know. I do invite him every where I go but he doesn't really like my friends and thats ok to cause sometime you need to be away from each other. Im also a work aholic I have a full time job and I go straight to my part time after so from 8:30am to 10pm he knows I'm making money to pay the bills. He doesn't like that I work 2 jobs but he can't stop me : )
Usually I'm to tired to go out anyway so him staying home all the time doesn;t bother me cause I don't want to go anywhere. So really my life fits his... Very well. We do fight alot about money but that's cause Im a worry wort. The money had to be in the bank before the bill even comes in or I will worry.. It drives him crazy...
So I try to avoid talking about money whenever possible. It keeps us happy.
Like I said to you before the first year sucked but something always pulled me back to him. He would screw off for days. But I always gave him shit told him that I needed a phone call so I new he was ok so then whenever we faught he would take off and call me at 4am to say goodnight that he was safe. After the 1 year mark he calmed right down it was great, like a new and improved person. I guess that when he became commited as a cap would say. Then november 2005 he was diagnosed with Crohns Desiese. We faught all the time but that was because his family.. Big family issues his sister still hates me. Which is another important thing to a cap, so I know Im very special to him. I once cryed to him about not being able to put up with the family issues I have never had anyone not like me before...

It hurt me very deeply. But he fixed that to he told them where to go and how to get there. After that things were much easier. I took care of him till he got better if it wasnt for me he wouldnt be here today. His parents would have killed him with the food they were feeding him... No joke!!! He stayed at my house for a couple weeks cause we eat plain food. I did all kinds of research on what he has so I new what to feed him and what not to feed him. I taught him about what he can and can not eat too. Then his grandmother died in feb 06 and that is when his family announced that I was part of there family. So then we made plans to move out together this july. Well, his sister got a devorce in Dec this year so he couldn't stand living there anymore so we moved out in Feb. Tooo soon for me I got home sick, the noise in the building was really bad. I didnt sleep for well over a month I was exhausted... So I asked if it would be ok if I moved back home untill I was really ready. He said if I leave that means Im leaving him. So I stayed after 4 months I had gotten used to the noises used to never having anymoney. and we were fighting all the time.. Then in aug. I lost my job so instead of leaning on him for support I freaked out and said I couldnt affort to leave there and that I was moving back home. So he broke up with me. Called me every name in the book. I didnt talk to him for 3 weeks thats is how much pain I was in from what he said...
Mostly my fault I asked for it... (too long of a story). Anyhow after 3 weeks of egnoring him and being really rude to him I finaly went to his place now... to get the rest of my stuff. And he was really caring. I new what mood he was going through even when we werent talking Creepy! But I did the whole romance thing and now I have him back... So I am happy and he is alot more happier.. So we both needed the break from each other.

But the reason why Im telling you all this is because when we were not speaking he found his ex the same chick who caused all the problems before. So when I asked him if he wanted to try again I told him the only thing I ask is get rid of her I don't want her screwing stuff up like she did last time.... It hurts my feelings and it underminds our relationship... He understood and told me that it wasnt to much to ask for. I think about this chick all the time and I wonder if he really did get rid of her or not. I wont go through his phone and I asked him if he was

faithful and he said in a calm voice why you think Im cheating. I said no I just want the reasherence, He said yes i am faithful i have been faithful and I dont plan on going anywhere either.... I felt better. I guess I just need another opinion from a cap male like yourself. Cause you are alot like him in many ways.... I really want to be with him but if she is going to pop up everytime I put my guard down I dont know if I can handle that anymore....
Even the fist time 2 and a half years ago she new how i felt about her and she still kept calling but he stopped answering his phone to her. So eventually she got the pic. But she stil called him for his birthday.. I new that was going to happen we even had a bet going... But then he changed his # so I didnt have to worry about abything anymore. Now she has it again. I dont no how to approch him, I want him to change his number again. So that I dont have these little doubts in my mind about him talking to her behind my back again. If he is serious about getting rid of her for good and being with me I really feel he should do it for me...
What do you think! I no yopu will be honest.

Keep in mind that since we have been back together he has given me my key back. Our relationship has gotten alot better.. We are looking at houses to buy for feb when the lease for the apartment is up.. And he talks to me all the time.... About everything...
I personnally think that he contacted her because he thought I wasnt coming back... And we got another cat together... Things are better then ever now.
Don I really have anything to worry about—

Thanks Genome..

Thanks very much I will try to talk to him about it this weekend. ttul... : )

Well i've had two relationships with Gemini men...

My first was not good. He was so gental and i hardly ever could stay mad at him, but on the down side i felt like i had to entertain him all the time and he ended up cheating on me. He had a good heart though and was really sweet until that happened and i left him.

My second was great!! His Sun sign was a Gemi but his chart was mostly Taurus and Virgo so he had tuns of earth in his chart and we got along great! He was perfect and the relationship was wonderful. He moved away though and we had to part but it was great.

It really has so much to do with what is in the Birth Chart though. I don't think a Gemini with a lot of Gemini or Fire in his chart will fit well with a Cap however one with Earth in their chart may be a great fit.

Have you pulled you alls birth Chart yet?

Yes I have done the charts for both of us and some was great but most was bad, it has always been a rocky relationship but now we are both settling down (I guess). We still drive eachother crazy at times. But we do have alot of fun together too. So it balences most days.

Can you tell me whether it was a good or bad relationship— Great relationship with 2 Geminis. If I wasn't young when I met them, it probably would have ended in marriage. We were very close, it was a spiritual connection with Gem #1. He was so caring, faithful and sweet. Romantic. We were perfect for each other.

How long did it last for—? 1 year. Gem #2 was long distance so it was like 3 months

Did you fight alot?? No, 1 fight and that was a minor one.

If so why did you break up— I still had feelings for my ex so I left him after my ex started getting friendly with me again. I was so confused and I wanted my ex more so I decided to let the Gem go. My ex took advantage of me and dated some other girl. So I regretted losing the Gem and couldn't get him back, he already moved on. I was stupid at the age of 17. Gemini # 2, i met while I was on vacation, he lived next to my family in another country. I didn't want to have a long distance relationship and I couldn't afford the phone calls since I was a college student.

If you did break up, do you still think about them? Talk? See each other?? Ya I still think about Gemini #1. He was a great boyfriend, so sweet. I have a personal policy to not keep in touch with exes because of feelings involved. All of my exes were assholes except the 2 Geminis. I rather not stay in touch with the Gems, it will be too tempting to revisit the past. If I was single, I would join myspace and get in touch with Gem #1 because he has a myspace page. Gem#1 and I haven't spoke in 10 yrs, I cut off contact by changing my #. From what I heard Gem #2 is married so I would not contact him anyways.

My favorite astrology book "Love Signs" writes info on Gemini woman Cap male relationship. If you haven't read it, here's a link to the text: http://songsdomain.tripod.com/geminicapricorn/index.html

"My Mother is a Cappy! I love her like crazy,but she tries to tell me what
to do all the time,lol!!!"

same here

my mothers a cappy and she can be so damn controlling sometimes

1 sexy gem- Caps are controlling you just need to know how to deal with it.. Im pretty lucky My cap man is not like that but I always tell him everything im doing anyways. So it has never been a problem. When I keep secrets we fight.....


Capangle & Genome. I tryed going to that site it doesn't work for me. Do you have anything else for me. or what site can I find it off off....

Genome- Update we are back together and happier then ever we are looking for a house and as soon as we find one he wants to marry me..

Ha I found it and it is soooooo true. We are a very difficult match and we do do our own thing which is very rare (beautiful). He gives me stability ( which i really need) and I give him imagination and communication. I also show him responsibility. I'm good with money he spends like it litterally grows on trees. I like to take him out of his bubble.... Sometimes it works sometimes he gets mad. I dont care either way. I just love to spent time with him... And some how the quite part does not apply to my cap... I have learned to have a softer side to me. I listen to him instead of talk so much and he really has alot to say. I try not to get mad at him for stupid stuff anymore and I no that i have to be next to perfect all the time. Cause caps do expect there partners to be better then everyone else.... I dont think its high expectations, I think its choosing wisly.... They want the best so if your dating a cap, (male or female) you have to be the best.
He grounds me and I keep him on his toes... We work that way...
And when I diside to challenge him (fight) doesnt matter what angle I take he always wins.. Weather it takes a week or a month... Unless its some thing I really believe then I have won a couple of times. And those where the fights that went on for months.... But I did it... Now him and I are both happy cause I wont let him walk all over me.. I have prooved that to him a couple of times.

With a cap you always have to set boundries otherwise they do take advantage of people.. (No offence cap people) But I have read it and experienced it....

Thanks G
My thinking process is the same.... I am a very a jelous person... So I always think the worst tooo.... Shame on me.... I have been working very hard on it....

I met a guy when me and my cap broke up!! Nothing happened with us and I have told cap everyhting... If I meet up with this guy without asking do you think that will strike a problem...

I will just ask him anyways.. Keep the peace....
""Its not a control thing its a respect thing""..
Most important in ANY relationship..

Right on... THats exactly how I feel about his tramp ass chick friends..... Thats why I used to tell him off about them... Now he is friends from a distance. Or they have to be in groups... I have had a close guy friend since high school... Cappy still gets worried and tells me to be good when I go out with him...

Understandable cause me and my friend get along really well... (non sexual) Has never happened and never will)

G-man why do you like astrology so much and my cap cant stand me even talking about it.....

I like it and it drives him crazy... It's like him talking about his work ALLLLL the time... I show interest why cant he. Or wont whichever...

Emeraldgem...


I personally think its the person... My mom is a gem and she loves to spend money... Me I cant stand putting stuff on my credit card. But my mom could max out here cc 4 times in a month.... LOL..

I did however learn from my mother that I really need to save money instead of live pay cheque to pay cheque...

Capywife.

i have read about your situation.. Gem get bored and cheats.. Not a good thing. I have thought about it but I cant do it I have way tooo much reaspect for my cap.. If I do think about cheating I go out with cap for the evening. He makes it all better...

If a Capricorn doesn't see the proof that astrology is real, they won't believe. I didn't believe until one day out of boredom, I did research into astrology and found out it was based on a natal chart and not just sun sign. So I got my natal chart done. I found my chart to be true so then I did an experiment by checking charts of people I know well. It was true for them as well. My results proved that astrology is real so I became a believer.

That is some interesting stuff... Very knowledgeable.

I have done research on gem vs cap and most is bad but it does say if you stay together you will be together forever.
Or if you do break up they will never get over eachother. I have prooved both theories right. When we are good we are amazing together. But when we are bad its really bad. Nut when we break up is harder then being together and mad at eachother...

We are definatly happier when we are together.

I have seen mix match couples that have lasted a ling time that were happy too.
Also I have seen good matched people not last long at all with each other...

I think its the people in the relationship and how strong the connection really is that make the relationship work.

Well Like i said my second relationship was wonderful that i had with a Gemi...I think it has much to do with the natal chart and less with the sun signs. Our charts were rhythmic and so we related on a whole new, exciting, and free level. I wasn't too bosy for him and he wasn't to goofy for me. I guess that's one of the ones that could have lasted a life time...where as the other Gemi relationship i was in wasn't...

I know many happy Cappy/Gem couples, especially Gemini man/Cappie woman. Look at Johnny Depp and his French girlfriend/mother to his kids -- she's a Cappie.

One of the reasons is that Cappy is Gemini's natural 8th house of mystery and sexual attraction. We all know how Gems love a mystery, and need to remain fascinated.

It's a pretty good match if the Gem woman can handle the Cappy guy's macho behavior.

And I totally agree with the comments that you have to watch your man around your girlfriends. Once you've "vetted" him, he's got that female stamp of approval.

Hi Emerald Gem -- I'm sorry I left the boards without saying goodbye (Or perhaps you didn't notice I was gone.) I'm dating a Libra guy now (my Gem guys are friends now) and we are getting along fantastically.

Eagle girl thanks for your comments so far we have made a very good match. My thing to handle is not macho-ness its acting secretive.. Sometimes our personalities clash so he wont tell me whats on his mind especially if Im in a bad mood so it the waiting for him to spill his guts to me thats irretating. Sometimes if I handle it wrong then he gets very defensive and i end up hurting his feelings un-intentionally. 😢

Thanks

Oh Gman back to the begining, I asked him to change his number and he said again. So the answer was NO!!!! Same phone number. Whatever. Doesn't matter anymore. She called him 2 weeks ago and he told me about it. Its like he wants me to be insecure or something. So I stopped wondering I do look at his phone every so often. But I think she changed her number.
He did tell me that he was really rude to her as soon as she pointed out who she was and she said well I guess you back with (me the writer). and he said yes. So she said ok well if you want to talk give me a call. His sister said she had a boyfriend Yes she still talks to the ex as do his other cousins and his aunt. Anyway he told me he got really nervious and emediatly earased her number cause he knows im not fucken around about her. I have left him before because of her Im not afraid to do it again except if I have to do it again I will never look back.....

Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice shame on me......

Anyway he reasures me he is not talking to her at all. I believe him cause if he was lieing I get this sick feeling to my stumack right away.... Thats how good our connection is.
Talk to soon I hope everything is well with you..

See mine has always wanted to be friends. Its me that cuts him off. Then when I go back to him we end up together again. I have matched our charts together and it said that we will be off and on all the time and it will be a relationship that both parties will never get over... Sucks cause when I speak my mind we fight when I dont I get really depressed and sick from it.... When I treat him like shit he shows more love then when I show my true passion for him its stupid.....

CMGS- Sounds like you two would have been like me and my man if you stuck around.... Good thing you didn't.. Sometimes its like personal torcher....

M&M Where did you put the thread?

CMGemSis- To late for that he broke up with me 2 days ago.... I tryed to hard to hard..

You can't make a person love you although he told me he loved and he will always love me. After he broke it off... Weird.

Thanks M&M. I will have a happy reading session when I get home from work thank you again.