How does Capricorn give you so much time then gone

How does Capricorn give you so much time & attention than take it away suddenly because he is very busy? It is true, but how does he expect the woman to not be CONFUSED? He acts like this is normal. Won't say when we will see each other again. I texted more often, and sometime he answers but with a delay. It seems disrepectful, does Capricorn realize it?

He is:

Sun Capricorn
Moon Aries
Mercury Aquarius
Venus Capricorn
Mars Capricorn
Ascendant Taurus

I am:

Sun Aquarius
Moon Gemini
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Sagittarius
Mars Leo
Ascendant Pisces

What problems will we encounter? What is it like between the sheets?

Is there a love that will grow? Does Cap mean it if he said the three words before?

** Patients is a Virtue **
Go about ur business, and when you least expect it..
Poof... There he is... ;}

Yes, that is what exactly is happening to me. All of a sudden he is busy, and tired, and the messages seem kind of cold to me in comparison to what he wrote in the past. I hope capricorns are honest and eventually tell whats going on because I hate waiting and hanging. Keep us posted if he turns back to his old self.

Been there done that. My advice? Pull the focus off of him, do you and wait and see what he does not what he says. He will do what he wants when he wants and not a minute before that. If he's becoming more chilly with you when you speak then that would be a red flag for me to just back up and give the guy some space. I know you like this guy and don't want to lose that spark of what brought you together but stepping back and letting him come to you or not is the risk you have to take as well as the test you have to pass. Trust that if you continue to initiate all contact in pursuit of "holding on to him" when he for whatever reason at the moment doesn't want that then you're guranteed to lose him. He either wants to earn you or not. If he does let him show it because believe that he truly will.

you guys make a lot of sense. very logical thinking on your part. My cap changed from one day to another. He told me everything that made it appear that he was into me. Even asked me if i would marry him, and i said i would. We have been in constant connection, but like i said, from one day to another he changed. the last text i got from him said, "im thinking ill text you in a bit." not very loving since the text i sent him before that i said "i love you". I have not been hounding him, nor asked him any suspicious questions. Nothing that would annoy and push him away. Well, when he comes around to contacting me I guess i will have to wait to see what the verdict will be.

qt keep us posted! i want to know if things turn out in your favor.

Here is the key to the mystery : the last text i got from him said, "im thinking ill text you in a bit." not very loving since the text i sent him before that i said "i love you".

You told him you loved him and he backed right off. Telling these types that you love them is what sends them running. It's that simple.

Heck yeah it sends them running. People have to understand that Capricorns are an earth sign, possibly the most solid earth sign, which means we are very physical, which means the initial attraction towards 98% of people will be sexual. If your talking about love, especially before the act, that throws the fantasy all the way off. I think Cap men seem to assume that many women are on the same page as far as wanting sex, but they often realize over and over and over again that it's not the case. Women want and need more and they will back off if they when that starts to surface and they are not ready to give that, or even realize they can't give it.

missbizarre, he told me he loved me first from the get go. he told me he loved me everyday. but it was from one day to the next that he all of a sudden became busy. He asked me to be his gf and i said yes. He asked me if i could ever see myself married to him and i said yes. He even asked "will you marry me?" and i said yes i would. Now he is distant. Could it be some sort of test? Wanting to see if i am clingy and needy? I know he likes trusting and independence in a person. And I have proven that im like this. I guess ill get my answer once he tells me whats going on. It just sounds like i was lead on. For whatever sick reason, i dont know.

Badgirl, there are unfortunately toxic types of men of ALL star signs that tell you what you want to hear in order to obtain sex and to con you into thinking they will love you back, and be around forever. The moment they acquire your love, they are gone. He will never really tell you what is going on. It's horrid, I know. He LOVES trusting type of people because it makes his sick work, so much easier.

Thats another way to see it. Hey, it could be possible. If it is in his case, then he is some sorry soul. If he keeps using people for a game, then hes going to end up one lonely guy. No one will trust him and take his word for anything.

im giving my cap the benefit of the doubt. I just dont understand why he says he cannot go on without contacting me for more than a day, and now he is doing it. I hope with all my heart that he comes through for me. I just worry and get all sorts of ideas in my head.

QS, I wish I were projecting my own experience and that it was as simple as that. That everyone who is having trouble with Capricorn or other men who are displaying some really big red warning signs, suddenly find everything turns around for the best and live happily ever after.

Spank me, but I have my doubts :-)

quietstorm, thanks for that. as a matter of fact, i logged into facebook and he was logged in, too. I know he saw me online but didnt text. then he logged off most likely is because he did see me. im leaving him alone. how many days of not hearing from him do i wait before i tell him off?

Caps are..slow..
They take things slow..so..just keep being busy and don't take it personally.

Yesterday I sent my cap a text asking what he is up to, and that i hope he has a good day. He responded with "thinking, text you in a bit." Well, its the next day and i got no text as of yet. My anger towards his distancing himself from me has calmed it self. I even had a dream last night that I was being chased by him. Hiding where I could to avoid him. Heck, I dont know what that dream was about.

I gotta say that confronting this type usually makes you wind up feeling even more confused! Because they won't give you a clear answer and they end up distancing themselves even more, once you dare confront them and quiz them about their behaviour.

The main priority here is about you feeling alright. He can't make you feel alright because he isn't going to give you what you want in order for you to feel alright about the situation. You are relying on him and that is a big NO.

As QS has pointed out - you really have to switch off from him, which is easier said than done, when all you want is to know what is going on. But, it's the only answer here. Don't even go on Facebook, stop texting him, stop wondering for a week and he will probably reappear then. He will tell you a whole lot of stuff and get you feeling all good about things, and then he will do the distancing thing again. Because you will be so relieved that he is back, you will overlook his bad behaviour and the cycle will start all over again.

Great advice given from everyone...

I have a rule....Distance yourself once with no apparent reason/explanation....I'm out

If he says he's busy then you can pretty much determine he's too busy for YOU...That "being busy" explanation doesn't include his friends, his family, his job, Facebook...He's drifting off with people and things that don't expect nor require him "GIVING" a huge amount of his energy, time and love too...basically anything he can do that gives him enthusiasm/mental/physical stimulation from he'll make time for...

It's not personal but it damn sure feels personal...You're caught already, no challenge, just yes I love you, yes I'll marry you, yes yes yes...So you're stuck sitting around waiting whereas before when he was unsure about you he was super attentive,

So now he's sure you'll sit there and bite your nails to the nub waiting on him, he's just sitting back chilling finding other things to do that challenge and stimulate him and all the while you're anxiously waiting for his return and he's pretty sure about that so no need to hurry and rush, he can count on you to be you, be loyal and in love and thus there is nothing else to do but make you wait.

I wish women wouldn't put themselves in such powerless positions but hey it what it is...

it is what it is...

very good advice you guys.Im going to go and do the things i did before he came into my life. You guys have opened up new perspectives. Ill give him a week. I wont text or communicate in any way. If he doesnt contact me by then, then I think i have the right to tell him off.

Posted by QuietSt0rm
The moment you become less concerned with how often he contacts you, the more often he will contact you.
If that makes any sense. LOL

Don't chase him, don't corner him, don't smother him.. but don't write him off just because he has a life outside of you. If you're going into this being completely dependent on him for your happiness, it won't work. It takes a self assured woman to deal with some types of capricorn men.

I went through those same panic attacks in the beginning when I first met my boyfriend, before we were officially together, and it was almost as if he sensed it, he would act even more distant. Once I reached a point where my focus shifted to keeping myself happy rather than relying on him for my happiness is when it did a 180 and has been rock solid since and he's ALL in.

I can't say whether the same will work for you, but I do know that depending on someone else for your happiness is just setting yourself up for failure, regardless of the man or situation.

Exactly QS! I have been to hell and back with my Cap and now that I have learned to love me first before him and have placed the focus of responsibility for my own happiness in my hands this man is saying and doing everything I ever wanted from him and more. LOL Once in a while I might have a "I haven't heard from him" moment and I just let it pass without a second thought. When he's ready to call, text or be with me he will and I allow it to happen without any inteference or obsessing over it on my part. I don't have to wait long either because the minute I turn the focus back to me here he comes with the whole package and all I can do is smile at the ease in which I can have my way with him without losing myself or mind in the process.

No offense to Scorp women but I noticed that every Scorp women I've encountered for the exception of one on DXP (she's awesome)tend to over look a lot of things that a boyfriend or potential boyfriend does to her, most seem to be in complete denial over behaviors that men play out with them and will stand against the tide no matter how wrong he is.

I do agree having a great fun full life and doing things to complete herself and complete her own happiness 100% can be the determining factor if a relationship can stand on it's own 2 feet without all the drama and anxiety and break ups.

As to the poster it's important to not sit around simmering mad, making up negative reasons why your guy isn't attentive b/c if you do that kind of behavior by the time he shows up again you'll be tense, angry and ready to blow. Assume he really is busy and you get busy too, he'll be back.

There are female versions of this type of man and when they get together - oh boy.

I for one, did some dreadful things to my ex Capricorn that I simply was not willing to take responsibility for at the time. I was too busy being 'the victim' and blaming him. What in fact was happening was that he was simply mirroring me, then I would mirror him, and on and on it went.

It wasn't until I had cut all contact with him that I was able to step back and see what had been happening. These types of Capricorns do need handling a certain way. Once I cracked the code - I realised I didn't want to be a Mother to a little boy who would probably never leave my side again or do anything wrong. They fear abandonment. Which is usually the reason these types are like they are in the first place - from broken homes and dysfunctional families who have suffered severe emotional damage at a young age. I'm speaking for myself only here and what is right for me. And sadly, this man/boy wasn't it, at the end of the day.

Mainly because I had never grown up either. It would've been a constant nightmare that never got anywhere, for very long.

I understand were you're coming from QS...I think some women feel like she's upgraded, basically she's exchanged something terrible from her past relationships for something less terrible, almost like she doesn't have to go through XYZ anymore, I don't like ABC either but it's better than XYZ and for her that's better than what she had and it's better than nothing...I'm not saying you specifically QS but I sort of caught that vibe from your last statement because I've heard other women say the same thing. What I find is that those women tend to over look ABC kind of behavior b/c she know XYZ kind of behavior was way worse...LOL Ugh...I think I confused myself

Great input ladies, keep them coming!

Well, I finally heard from him. This was yesterday at midnight. His text said, "Been texting you for two days, guess your done with me. after this text im deleting your number so bye." The next text said "I did tried all night last night but you didnt answer." The third one said, "i dont know if your done, just tell me." According to him, he was calling and texting me but that I didnt respond. I told him my cell did not ring not once, nor did i get any of his texts. I know for a fact that some people have told me that they have called me but that i didnt pick up, or texts for that matter that my cell did not recieve. Yeah sometimes my cell screws up like that. But I wonder, if he has been calling and texting for two days, why is it that only the first text i told you about came through. After explaining about the cell situation he told me that he was still thinking. He said that he didnt know if his heart could take us being apart. Then he said, "i do love you but you not texting me is killing me." My conclusion is he either lied about that and just wanted to avoid me. Or it can be that someone influenced his thinking. He knew our situation of living far apart, but why would he want to start a relationship in the first place? Theres a lot of sacrificing involved. Alot of obstancles that i told him i was willing to get through because i thought he was worth it.

The way he put it was that he was discouraged and thought negative about me because i wasnt returning his calls or messages that, i swear on my life, i did not recieve. Then he went into saying that he was hurt before and that he doesnt want it to happen again. This might be true, but I am I, and not those other heartbreakers. I told him to tell me what he wanted and to be truthful to me as well as to himself and to not leave me hanging. I told him that i was all for him but that i deserve to know what his intentions are. I asked if he wanted me out of his life, and he said that i am not out of his life but that he needed time to think. So that is what im left with. He did say four times that he loved me, but that he was afraid of being hurt again. He said i could text him when ever i wanted. I know this isnt all clear to make a proper response, but it does look like its going to be a negative outcome. Unless by some strange miracle he comes through and thinks im worth the effort.

Oh God.

thanks for that quiet. just wished i knew the truth from his mouth before it doesnt matter anymore.

Ok, girls. He finally texted me to get on messenger to talk to him. He asked me what i wanted to know, and i said what ever it is he wants to tell me. He told me that he needed time to think about things, about the relationship, basically the pros and cons, and he decided to stay with me. He said that he was afraid of being hurt again, and thought about the obstacles we would face in living apart. His final decision was to stick it out and take a chance. Soooo, with that said i guess we will take it one day at a time. When I got on the cam i was not happy because i was just bracing myself to what he was going to tell me. He told me I looked beautiful, and that he missed me. He also told me that he did not eat or sleep while not being in contact with me. So, with that said, lets see how long this lasts. Maybe he is going to come and go like ive read about caps in these forums. But one thing is for sure that i discovered. He does not like to be pushed into anything. So I am going to keep it cool... lets see what happens.

"He told me that he needed time to think about things, about the relationship, basically the pros and cons, and he decided to stay with me."

Goodness, that would offend the heck out of me, but congrats to you. I hope everything works out.

You can't jump online every time HE decides he wants to talk. It really is all about making him realise he isn't your world. Being available to him every time he wants you, is deadly.

when we get on the phone, its always, "what?" because we cant clearly hear each other. So we get on cam and messenger. Yeah, you are right, miss. Im not going to stalk him or be pushy. If he wants me, he knows where to find me. Again, he told me he loved me, and that i was his girl, and he puts his last name as mine, etc. Oh boy! What a roller coaster ride! Im just going to chill. We are supposed to see each other on the 27th. Lets see what happens.

Trying to call and text for 2 days....he told me he loved me, and that i was his girl, and he puts his last name as mine, etc. Oh boy! What a roller coaster ride!

hark I smell desperation and a liar

I swear, people shouldnt tell people things if they are just going to pull it away. I told him not to leave me hanging and just be up front. Seems like he is avoiding stuff just so that he wont hurt my feelings. I even told him to just tell me the truth. But he said just to forget all about that and for us to just love each other. Damn, why cant he just make up his mind.

Why are you available for him to do that to you?

aries

Sounds like you keep blowing hot and cold on him. Perhaps the fact you talked about splitting up cooled him down a bit. After all, if he developed strong feelings for you then you pulled that stunt again it would hurt him so much more...so youve created a situation where he has to protect his heart and not develop too strong feelings in case you end it. It sounds like hes also confiding in his friends and they dont approve of you...which would be right if you will hurt him by ending it.

But it is naff if hes cancelling plans and not giving you a good quality conversation. If long distance doesnt suit you, which it sounds like because you are monitoring and keen for more than your getting, hes obviously not the man for you. Long term suits people who only want a small amount of contact, or have a lot of money to talk on the phone and a lot they want to talk about. Most long termers run out of things to talk about on the phone and do the chore of phoning but then they have nothing to say on the phone

amethsy- haha im sorry i just couldnt stop writing once i started. 😢


michellemabelle- thank you for your reply. I dont expect him to be really mature and sure of his feelings because we're both 20 and we knew each other for only 2 months. I dont know if i make him feel insecure sometimes, because he texted me the day before he came down, didnt ask me to meet him but tried to make a convo. soo what you said makes sense, it's too early for us to have a long distance relationship. and i always get annoyed when he does something wrong.

Today i am grinning. Why? Because three days ago, my cap told me he couldnt text me for two weeks because he is lending his sister his cellphone while she goes on vacation (lol!) He said we could talk on messenger and cam. So far he hasnt left me any message telling me when he would be available to chat online, yet he is posting on his fb wall and doesnt even bother to leave me a message. He's doing the old disappearing act again. He is leaving me hanging again! He probably thinks he has me in his pocket. Little does he know his pocket has a hole in it. I totally believe that if i dont contact him in any way he will wonder whats going on. He wants to marry me? yeah right! I hope he enjoys his jollies. I thought we were cool, so i was leaving him a message on messenger once a day (he doesnt like to be pushed, you know?)Shame on me, but its starting not to bother me anymore because why waste my strength? If he wants me that bad he knows where to find me. Hopefully for his sake its not too late.

Hasn't he heard of pay phones - you have to put money into them and you can talk to people you love!

He isn't leaving you hanging again. You are allowing yourself to be hanged again.

Cut that rope :-)

Well spotted M. I write for a newspaper over here in Oz :-)

Posted by paranormalbadgirl
Today i am grinning. Why? Because three days ago, my cap told me he couldnt text me for two weeks because he is lending his sister his cellphone while she goes on vacation (lol!) He said we could talk on messenger and cam. So far he hasnt left me any message telling me when he would be available to chat online, yet he is posting on his fb wall and doesnt even bother to leave me a message. He's doing the old disappearing act again. He is leaving me hanging again! He probably thinks he has me in his pocket. Little does he know his pocket has a hole in it. I totally believe that if i dont contact him in any way he will wonder whats going on. He wants to marry me? yeah right! I hope he enjoys his jollies. I thought we were cool, so i was leaving him a message on messenger once a day (he doesnt like to be pushed, you know?)Shame on me, but its starting not to bother me anymore because why waste my strength? If he wants me that bad he knows where to find me. Hopefully for his sake its not too late.

Why are you even giving any of this nonsense your valuable time and energy? He can't text YOU for 2 weeks because his sister needs to use his cellphone while she's on vacation? Really? BS. He could buy the girl a Tracphone or some other type available in the local grocery store along with some minutes and she'd be all set to communicate with whomever while she's away. Better still, why doesn't she have a phone of her own? She can afford a vacation but not a phone? Yeah right. And why are you monitoring his behavior on FB? All I'm saying is that a man who loves and wants to marry you does not put your through this type of butter I don't care what the hell is going on in his world. A Cap man in it to win it isn't taking his woman (or a Cap woman her man) through these types of changes. You will never be left to linger in doubt or uncertainty when a man loves and cares about you. Would he go for this okey doke if the shoe was on the other foot? I don't think so. He sounds totally unprepared for a relationship of any kind be it with you or anyone else. I wish I could be happy for you but all I can tell from your story is that the merry-go-round of heartache is running on all cylinders.

Not just capricorns but MEN in general. Don't question everything he does, let your guard down. You don't trust him anymore then he trusts you. If he can't text you for 2 weeks, oh well that sux. However, he did say he wanted to talk on cam and messenger? So he is on facebook and you wait for him to initiate conversation with you. Why not initiate conversation with him? See you are playing the same game he is, by waiting for the other to initiate. He's probably thinking the same thing you are.

He said he loves you, wants to marry you but then you don't hear from him. Men do want the same things we want but they also have their own fears. Just like us, the fear of getting hurt and more so for men, losing their freedom. He is trying to work through his feelings, his own insecurities and trust issues. He knows what he wants, he just doesn't know how to get it, or if he can even live up to it. Being he was hurt in the past his guard is on high radar. Being a Capricorn myself, I know we are RUNNERS. First chance we get, we will run and then we start to rationalise things and realise, (in his words)it's worth taking the RISK. That's where he is at right now and no it's not fun. But you also have to realize it takes time to build trust and get to know each other. Relationships are not going to be perfect and you will either grow closer together or totally fall apart. Which do you want? Constantly questioning everything he says or does isn't going to bring you closer. Instead of playing the game with him, be honest and open and CONTACT him. Tell him how you feel when he doesn't contact you, that you don't take him serious. That it hurts you....Start communicating, your real feelings to "HIM." One of you has to open the door so the other can walk through. Men also need a lot more privacy then we do, space and time to themselves. This is when you have to trust him because if you don't trust him then what is the point anyway?

Does he love you? Do you know the answer? You both seem unsure of what either wants, who is trusting who? Grow together or grow apart, there is your answer.

Posted by amethyst2002

Posted by QuietSt0rm
@ ammy you're right. I guess sometimes maybe I'm just too optimistic because of my situation. I guess now maybe I'M the one projecting. 😛 LOL

As for the OP, since this seems to be in the beginning stages, I agree with everyone else. Do you. He'll be around eventually. For some reason it's like Caps like to be ignored. Every time I went into ignore mode with my friends, they were in touch more often than they were when I wasn't in ignore mode. Buncha weirdos.

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I'm taking notes on this also 😛
Caps like to be ignored..seems everyone is experiencing this. I haven't ignored mine yet, perhaps should give it a try.

well said, glamour. Three days ago he contacted me and said he couldnt do this anymore. that its too stressful, and that he has alot going on right now. and just because i didnt text him back right away, he thought i was ignoring him. He said, "Fine, i didnt want to do this but its over. ive been texting you , no answer. phone problem, my ass. delete my number, Im done. Have a nice life." Then in another text that same day he put, " Im sorry, i just can't anymore. its killing me. im sorry if i hurt you but i have feelings too, bye." Yesterday he wrote, "Hi." and wrote hi back. Then he put, "what you doing babe, its been a hard couple of days." "you, ok?" he wrote. Then he put these six texts one after the other, "I just wanted to say sorry about the other night. I didnt mean what i said. its just been a bad few days." "I miss you im so sorry please forgive me." "I love you and im sorry i just almost had a nervous breakdown." "I've been trying to find a way to tell you sorry for a day now and i figured the best way is to tell you that its just been rough and im sorry and please forgive me." "I'm really sorry, baby i love you." "I'm here now baby." I can understand that he has been busy. He had an interview yesterday for abc.com. and today i heard him on a radio/web show in an interview. Plus he will be travelling for several months for promoting a book. Glamour, I think you are right when you said he doesnt know how to get what he wants, and that he has to think about the risks. That is totally understandable. Plus, when i was listening to his interview, his dad mentions that he wants him to play football again. So yeah, I can understand he has a lot on his plate. Today, i left him two texts, and two on messenger. Just to let him know im thinking of him. He hasnt responded, but i guess he will eventually get around to it. I can give him all the patience he wants. Just as long as he is being truthful to me.

Posted by qt
How does Capricorn give you so much time & attention than take it away suddenly because he is very busy? It is true, but how does he expect the woman to not be CONFUSED? He acts like this is normal. Won't say when we will see each other again. I texted more often, and sometime he answers but with a delay. It seems disrepectful, does Capricorn realize it?

He is:

Sun Capricorn
Moon Aries
Mercury Aquarius
Venus Capricorn
Mars Capricorn
Ascendant Taurus

I am:

Sun Aquarius
Moon Gemini
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Sagittarius
Mars Leo
Ascendant Pisces

What problems will we encounter? What is it like between the sheets?

Is there a love that will grow? Does Cap mean it if he said the three words before?

Have u tried telling him how u feel...?? could solve a whole lot u knw

HAHA Sounds like my Cappie EX. He would call me in the morning,make plans and than at night forget,because work or something. BUT if you dont return THEIR text right away, than they blow up your damn phone. But if you blow up their phone your a un-understanding psycho, if they blow up yours its because they care.. LOL Its just how they are... love em, or dont lol

oh boy! guess what? last week i took a trip for some ghost hunting. My cap was excited cuz i was going to drive down to see him while i was out there. He told me he was excited and couldnt wait. When i got to the hotel, i texted him. let him know what hotel and what room number. He didnt respond. I texted him and he didnt know it was me texting him. why? cuz he deleted my number! He told me that he didnt have time for me that he was way too busy for a relationship. How cowardly! And i discovered he took me off his friends list, hahahahahha! I was steaming! at least i had my good friends to keep me company every night. We went ghost hunting and had a good time. Too bad i was still upset for what he did to me. I truly think he was influenced by others. But oh well, maybe one day he will grow a set of balls and start doing and speaking for himself.

Chase a man and he'll run especially a cap, something I notice through helping other women is that once a Cap realize a woman is caught they get really really cold and apathetic towards there love interest and things just get slower and slower and slower until POOF the relationship goes back into nowhere land, if she's smart she'll outgirl him and never contact him, never DO anything that says I'm emotionally invested and inevitably once he see you are not a threat to his freedom he'll heat up again. Not all cap men are this way of course, a clever woman that has been a few rounds with cap men paces herself with him and even falls behind him letting him lead the way all the way, the women who get caught up with the dizzy love spell he cast on her stay stuck into nowhere land/friend zoned.

Sorry he flaked out but all the evidence you provided pointed to the inevitable ending...Ouch that had to really hurt sorry he did that to you.

I never contacted him after that. He didnt block me on fb though. If he wanted he can still see my pics. Im talking to other guys, but its not the same. I still have feelings for the cap.