How fast do you get back in the saddle of dating?

I'm almost 100% done with dick! Thinking of switching teams if ya know what I mean! Do you guys believe in "time to heal"? At this point in my life: 13yrs married (at 20yo), now divorced + 2 kids, I don't want to waste time, I know what I like and ain't afraid to show it! I've always been bi-curious, and don't necessarily want a heavy-relationship, but do like someone who only has eyes for me. Time to try these new waters, I think! lol

How long has it been since you split with your husband? How long since the divorce?

Hun, it's time to go play. Have fun! Experience life! Experience sex! Get that out of your system. Then answer those questions.

I'm divorced. I played. Now I'm in love again. Been there. Had those same thoughts and feelings. Message me if you want.

Oh, for the record, I never switched teams.

Posted by Caplove
Ha ha! Switching teams, eh? I guess if you know what you want then you should just go for it.

I think I need tons of time to reflect and heal from ending a loooong relationship. It's been over a year for me and I STILL don't feel ready to date. Ugh.

But if you're ready then you're just ready. You know yourself better than anyone else. I totally hear you about the "wasting time." I feel like that too but I don't want to force myself when I don't feel it. I went out on a date a few weeks back (FORCED myself) and it was a total disaster. The dude was so excited and I just wasn't into it. I felt so bad.

Hey, you gave it a shot! No need to feel bad. He just wasn't right for you or you weren't ready afterall.

i'm the wrong person to answer. i feel like anytime i ever give advice on these matters, i end up sounding like someone's shoulder devil.

HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE I SPLIT FROM MY MAINSQUEEZ
WHICH TIME?

i dunno... the thing about a relationship with another lady for me is the commitment issue.

i'm a commitment type. i want to be in it for the long haul. every relationship i enter is with the intent that it's my one and only for the rest of my life.

i honestly dont know that i can make that kind of commitment to another woman. maybe? .. grr.. i dunno. maybe i could.

i could commit for as much as a long term. i know that.

the idea of being bi is something that has crept up on me over many many many years... even when i was a little girl. a kid. i can't explain it. it's not that i was attracted to little girls when i myself was a little girl, but i secretly had my admirations i guess. then when i was a preteen and teen, lol, i liked kissing my girlfriends. i think i was that girl amongst my friends who started doing it and provoked it. by college i had a crush on a couple girls. nothing major, but it confused the heck out of me. after that i was in committed relationships with guys so i never thought much of it, but i've always known what i find attractive in a woman.

after being single for a few years, i realized i could be physical with a woman and really enjoy it.

bi curiousity was never a phase for me. i've had my "curiosities" all my life that have been slowly but surely breaking down my cap reservations.

saggicap... if you want to explore that within yourself... shoot, girl, i say GO FOR IT!

but i gotta warn you... women are damn tough. men are easy... women can be impossible. you are one. you ought to know! lol

seriously though... kudos to men for dealing with us. *facepalm* we're a tough goddamn crowd.

"Stay true to you and the rest has a way of working out."

le sigh... what a great mantra

I was just speaking out of sheer resentment towards my last experience with a DICK-head fuck lol! But in all reality I don't think I could ever switch teams, If I did I would like a lipstick lesbian not a butch bitch ewww! But at the end of the day I am a traditionalist who am I kidding? Nothing gets my panties moist-ER that a MANLY MAN who can envelop me in his MANLY strength and MANLY smell! Mmmm think I just made myself ____! LOL

I think I might just want to kiss a sexy girl, but that's as far as I can see myself going with that 1

Just ready to live a little! NO, ALOTTTT!~

HAPPY FRIDAY LUVIES~ 😉

Posted by cunninglinguist


Plus I asked my Scorpy bf if he'd be ok with me also exploring with women, and he said no way. 😢 Not even for a threesome!! That's pretty shocking coming from a Scorp....

FUNK that scorp Cunning! Hahaha, I'm biased against them now so they're on my shitlist for sure! JK, but I was also repressed by my ex, so I say stay true to yourself and never let someone else dictate your life to the point where you're not yourself! That is all...

Pesonally, it takes me a LONG time to get back into dating. I like to analyze what went wrong so hopefully avoid a redo in the future. Plus, I don't NEED a man in my life so am just fine flying solo. Serial relationships are cheapened IMO.