How to Handle this CAP women. Please Help PT.2

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and I'm either out of town or miss the call/text. When I send something her way she wants to take a rain check. When we see each other we kiss when we part ways. Then the next day she cold as ice. She texts me more than I text her, and I understand CAPs have a hard time expressing themselves but it sure is hard to remain patient with this girl. But, when I see her she still gives me chills and I see us having a successful future in my eyes. I can't go 15mins without thinking about this girl. I get so tempted every day to text and call and tell her my feeling but I know that will have her running for the mountains. I know I need to give her space but, I don't want another guy sliding in to my place. While we are not dating. She's good looking and gets hit on all the time at the gym. I myself am in great shape and have no problems attracting women. But, she is all I think about. When the smoke clears I want her to know I am here for her and want to be her first pick (again without scaring her off or giving her too much Power). Just yesterday she told me her feelings for me change every day. — DAMN! She knows she has trust issues but I have NEVER betrayed her and have since day 1 been her ROCK! Do I need to keep waiting and show her I am the one? Or do I need to disappear for a while and make her want me? It is a definite power struggle. I can see it now. When she wanted me I felt powerful and kicked back and when I express a lot to her she seems to fade. Please ask me any questions to clarify and I will. This is a very current topic in my life now and would love assistance. This CAP girl has taken ?_ of my heart!

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"when I express a lot to her she seems to fade"

Don't make her feel pressured. Back off a little bit, but keep being her friend. She will need to heal over her previuos relationship before she can continue to move forward with you. Give her time to figure things out. She will need to be sure of what she wants. It wouldn't hurt to let her miss you, but don't screw up. She needs to learn she can trust you. She needs to realize you're stable. But, don't push and don't pressure. Be fun. Be sweet, but don't be a wimp either. Make her laugh - we can't resist that!

I think she likes you, but she is a little confused. She might not be over the ex fully. You'd rather her be certain, I'm sure.

Good luck!