How to make him feel?

Alright. Here's a briefing of what happened.

I was in love with a Cap man who was initially really nice (which later proved to be a facade) and it was his subtle expressions of love that I loved (through poetry). It was an LDR for one year. Very soon after the romance phase, all his true colours began showing. He was so boring, very cold, frequently gave me the silent treatment and used passive aggressiveness. He annoyed me like hell by being hot and cold for almost one year. Every time I'd decide to leave him, he'd come back. He never truly committed, and never really let me go.

At the end of it, I realised that he was cheating on me all long while he was already truly committed to a Virgo woman. The two of us ladies confronted him where he said lie after lie. She seemed to be soft and gentle and he tried to bully her, whereas those tricks didn't work with me. Both of us got really pissed off. I ended it there and walked away.

But she still held on to him. Not only did she continue to stay with him, but she also harmed herself to show him how hurt she was and to teach him a lesson (don't ask me what, I don't wish to elaborate on that; it was very sad and really painful).

Guess what? His reaction to that was a simple "Ok" as he went on with his daily business!

Some of my friends are telling me to totally forget this whole thing, forget both of them, and leave. But I find myself concerned about that woman. Also I want this dirty idiot to learn a lesson!

Do you think he's regretting or he will regret in the future? He was always least bit expressive to both of us, so we never know what he's hiding! What do you think would hurt a man like this the most, if he can't value true love?

Or like my friends said, must I really forget both of them and move on? Help, please?

Girl, I feel some of your pain 😢

It sucks

If she was stupid enough to stay with him because he's such God's gift, then that's her problem. You do what's right for yourself and stay away from that filthy manwhore.

And show him this

Posted by InLoveWithLife


Do you think he's regretting or he will regret in the future? He was always least bit expressive to both of us, so we never know what he's hiding! What do you think would hurt a man like this the most, if he can't value true love? Or like my friends said, must I really forget both of them and move on? Help, please?

Do you think he's regretting or he will regret in the future?

Karma will administer justice on her own time. You are neither guaranteed to bear witness to this nor take part in it. Since it is totally out of your control it should be none of your concern.



He was always least bit expressive to both of us, so we never know what he's hiding! What do you think would hurt a man like this the most, if he can't value true love?



Vengeance is never worth it (and as Cap it has taken a long time for me to learn that lesson!). Let those thoughts go ASAP. They are poison.



Or like my friends said, must I really forget both of them and move on? Help, please?

Yes, this is great advice. This man was a GRADE A certified P.O.S. Leave him in the only place he truly belongs... in the past.

Posted by leowww
Forget them both, learn your lesson about that type of man / relationship, your own attitude and move on.

What she does from now is not your problem.

Is part of you upset / envious that she stayed with him?

Envy? Me? Lol, definitely not. Be it an object or a person, if it's someone else's then I'll not even look at it! I don't want anything that's not mine!

But I'm concerned about her. It's just that I hate any man who cheats on women. Earlier a friend of mine went through something similar and till she could totally come out of it, I used to call her frequently to find out how she was doing.

Posted by pinkbird03
Girl, I feel some of your pain 😢

It sucks

I'm generally very fast paced, sweetheart. My pride is so strong that I can't remain hurt for long. In this case, yes, I'll be hurt because I was I was so true and serious, but I'll be able to also come out soon knowing that he's a jerk and not a gem!

But the girl... I don't know. I wish I could get over this and forget both of them, but I feel bad for her the way you do for me. 😢

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Posted by InLoveWithLife


Do you think he's regretting or he will regret in the future? He was always least bit expressive to both of us, so we never know what he's hiding! What do you think would hurt a man like this the most, if he can't value true love? Or like my friends said, must I really forget both of them and move on? Help, please?

Do you think he's regretting or he will regret in the future?

Karma will administer justice on her own time. You are neither guaranteed to bear witness to this nor take part in it. Since it is totally out of your control it should be none of your concern.



He was always least bit expressive to both of us, so we never know what he's hiding! What do you think would hurt a man like this the most, if he can't value true love?



Vengeance is never worth it (and as Cap it has taken a long time for me to learn that lesson!). Let those thoughts go ASAP. They are poison.



Or like my friends said, must I really forget both of them and move on? Help, please?

Yes, this is great advice. This man was a GRADE A certified P.O.S. Leave him in the only place he truly belongs... in the past.

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Thank you. Your advice is really helpful. I'll keep this in mind and try to forget them. 🙂

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
If she was stupid enough to stay with him because he's such God's gift, then that's her problem. You do what's right for yourself and stay away from that filthy manwhore.

And show him this

Thank you!

Posted by leowww

Posted by InLoveWithLife

Posted by leowww
Forget them both, learn your lesson about that type of man / relationship, your own attitude and move on.

What she does from now is not your problem.

Is part of you upset / envious that she stayed with him?

Envy? Me? Lol, definitely not. Be it an object or a person, if it's someone else's then I'll not even look at it! I don't want anything that's not mine!

But I'm concerned about her. It's just that I hate any man who cheats on women. Earlier a friend of mine went through something similar and till she could totally come out of it, I used to call her frequently to find out how she was doing.

Good.

That's very generous of you but at the end of the day she'll do what she wants and she made her choice.

What matters is that you heal yourself and keep it going.

I remember your threads, he's the cap that would write poems on his blog and you had trouble detaching completely ?

Sounds like his cheating ways will be what helps you to let him go.

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Yes, dear. That same fellow.

Yep. When thoughts of him appear suddenly, what I see is not his face anymore, but the fact that he cheated and lied.

Posted by Capri-sun
Forget about them both & move on with your life.

Nothing else that you can do because none of it will make a difference anyway.

Ok. I don't know her. She's a stranger till I found this out and exposed it to.him. But if she were my friend, I'll not let her do this to herself. That's why I'm kinda hesitating...

I don't want a disgusting being like that to keep that woman or any woman under his control like that! No man should, right?

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Posted by Capri-sun
Forget about them both & move on with your life.

Nothing else that you can do because none of it will make a difference anyway.

Ok. I don't know her. She's a stranger till I found this out and exposed it to.him. But if she were my friend, I'll not let her do this to herself. That's why I'm kinda hesitating...

I don't want a disgusting being like that to keep that woman or any woman under his control like that! No man should, right?

I understand and your heart is in the right place. It's still out of your hands and there is nothing you can say or do to change that.

She'll figure it out in her own time if that's what she chooses to do.

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Thanks for being kind and explaining reality to me. Yes. You're right. It still is out of my hands.

I think the hardest part is accepting the fact that he didn't love you the way you deserved. It's definitely his loss, not yours.