if you cheat on a cap female...

Do they forgive/give second chances? Example: over a year relationship, guy just throws it away by cheating...

The relationship was only for a year so she may not give you another chance. She was betrayed and that's is definitely unforgivable. If she does give you another chance then you will never get that trust back. The relationship wont last if a second chance is given. A second chance is highly unlikely. Just my opinion...

Oh no. I'm the new guy. But her ex did, i think it was over two years... I just don't understand why she's still considering that guy, where as I'm not lacking in anything. And imo am more goal oriented and ambitious.

I'm just trying to understand her process.

Cheating and unfaithfulness is taboo for me, i wouldn't forgive if that happened to me.

That's horrible...

Posted by size zero superhero
The answer varies depending on the individual Capricorn, naturally. IMO it would be recklessly unwise to put this question to the test.

A Capricorn guy I know tried staying with his girlfriend after she cheated on him with his friend, of all people. She became his ex-girlfriend in no time. Before they ended it, he basically kept her around for sex-on-demand and in the meantime, explored other options until finding another chick to latch onto and jump ship.

Granted, the above example isn't what I'd consider the norm for Caps who've been cheated on; the dude in question also has bi-polar disorder.

What do you mean by "put it to the test"? If she ends up giving her ex a second chance and me just moving on?

I guess it depends on the guy, and the relationship. Every relationship wont be worth sticking around. There are some Caps that will forgive, some that wont, and some that will get even and flaunt it.

Posted by size zero superhero
The answer varies depending on the individual Capricorn, naturally. IMO it would be recklessly unwise to put this question to the test.

A Capricorn guy I know tried staying with his girlfriend after she cheated on him with his friend, of all people. She became his ex-girlfriend in no time. Before they ended it, he basically kept her around for sex-on-demand and in the meantime, explored other options until finding another chick to latch onto and jump ship.

Granted, the above example isn't what I'd consider the norm for Caps who've been cheated on; the dude in question also has bi-polar disorder.

Why wouldn't it be considered the norm? What does being bipolar has to do with any of this?

Also, what is so horrible about this situation? The chick cheated with his friend. In a perfect world he'd move on,, hold no grudge, and forgive but this aint a perfect world. I dont see why he's "called out" and made to look like the bad guy in this situation.

I think you misunderstand. I fell for the girl, i want to start a relationship. But she is still considering her ex which cheated on her.

She even asked me "would you take me back if i cheated on you?" I said " no, and if i ever did cheat and you took me back i'd think you're stupid, and would probably cheat again"

I would never cheat tho, she ended it with a "i have to think things through..."

I am starting to have my own doubts, that maybe she isnt mature enough for a real relationship with a real man.

She also started testing me with all these personal questions and wierd scenarios, i didn't really mind. I answered truthfully, though i feel bad for her, that her ex would turn her into this. She must've been really hurt.

PS: i didn't really have anyone to tell this to, typing it out has been a great outlet! 😄

Time, time, time. Hate to feel as though its all been wasted. Most guys wont tolerate cheating, so its easier to say you'll walk away because most do. With women, there seems to be more "forgiveness" as well as its embedded in our brains that most men will cheat. Give her space and time to sort out what she really wants.No need for you to catch feelings and she definitely goes back to him.

Posted by lnana04
Time, time, time. Hate to feel as though its all been wasted. Most guys wont tolerate cheating, so its easier to say you'll walk away because most do. With women, there seems to be more "forgiveness" as well as its embedded in our brains that most men will cheat. Give her space and time to sort out what she really wants.No need for you to catch feelings and she definitely goes back to him.

This makes the most sense. Harsh that a get out of jail pass is embedded :/

Jenlov makes a valid and good point.

Well, I was married 18 years. He decided he wanted a girlfriend. I had his cheating ass out of there in two days. Once the trust is gone it's always gone. It made me literally nauseous to imagine them together. The betrayal is one of the worse case scenarios for a cap. It takes so much for me to learn to trust. Once I decide to trust you and take all the shields off, then you betray me? I don't think I'll ever be able to get past that. Oh, I can forgive, but I will never forget and the relationship is forever changed.

I might could have worked through a one night stand, but his was an ongoing affair. So, no, I couldn't get past that.

Jenlov, I have found a wonderful, amazing man. In fact, I think they did me a favor because now I feel like I've found the love of my life! 🙂

personal for me no im very open. so if sneaking around and cheating is a never getting back together.

but i know caps who would and have taken people back but the relationships were never the same. so whats the sense?

when i was cheated on, i felt very numb. didn't cry much, but i felt this kind of overwhelmign quiet sadness. not razy sadness, not suicidal sadness, just disappointment. it turned o resentment. i gave him plenty of chances ot admit it; i asked directly if there was something going on with the other girl (the guy was a pisces btw) but he did not admit it, although i was very open and very direct. i even offered him a 'get out for free'; i told him i jus twanted him to be happy even if it isnt with me. if he admittd it then, i would have been okay. but he kept lying and eventually i could not handle it anymore. stopped speaking to him for nearly a yaer. eventually i felt guilty, apologised for disappearing, and told him how i felt blah blah we talked it out and i'm okay with it now. however i still resent him because he is still rude to me sometimes for no reason at all. i know he is insecure about HIMSELF and all that, but it's not a valid excuse to be rude to me. so i still do resent him. but if e apologised and cleaned up his act and started acting like a real friend, i would be 100% fine.
(yes i do believe in friendship after a break up, mostly because i don't like just not being in contact wiht people anymore)

Posted by size zero superhero
The answer varies depending on the individual Capricorn, naturally. IMO it would be recklessly unwise to put this question to the test.

A Capricorn guy I know tried staying with his girlfriend after she cheated on him with his friend, of all people. She became his ex-girlfriend in no time. Before they ended it, he basically kept her around for sex-on-demand and in the meantime, explored other options until finding another chick to latch onto and jump ship.

Granted, the above example isn't what I'd consider the norm for Caps who've been cheated on; the dude in question also has bi-polar disorder.

This is what happened to me with the girl I lost my virginity to. I'm not bipolar, and the other guy was her first. We broke up n years later she asked for a second chance, which I gave, only to keep her around for sex. It was really vengeful, went on for awhile. Never trusted her again.

Posted by Stinger Baby
i have cap in venus. if my partner cheated on me, i'd end things. i dont care if we were together 100 years. you cheat 1 time and it's over. why? because you betrayed me. i've never did such a thing to you, but you could do it to me. i wont hold grudges, i wont cry nor ask you why. no, i wont make a fuss. you will wake up to find all of your belongings neatly packed out on the front lawn, with a cab on standby and me holding a shotgun waiting to escort you out. the shotgun is just in case you think you're going to not leave my house and give me all kind of problems. you know how it is with those hangers on... 'get out.' 'i aint goin' nowhere." yeh, i dont have time for that. then i would change locks, destroy everything with your memory, change numbers, and quietly move on with my life. you go be with the one who made you feel like sleeping with them was more important than being faithful to me. i wish you happiness, but dont ever pop up in my life anymore. or wrath will befall you

that's vivid. I feel the same way tho.

Maybe cept the shotgun part, and the wrath befalling.

i have 2 say honestly all cap women ask 4 is the truth for understanding#if it was a year, then you cheated that would be hurtful to findout but if it were me i would like to know and i have forgiven relationships where the guy has cheated on me b4 but it has strains on the relationship, cuz we caps don't try holdin grudges we just have impecable memories so it is impossible to forget that it happened......

Not this Cap female.

If he cheats, he can't be trusted so it's over. Period.

Posted by CapsRule
Not this Cap female.

If he cheats, he can't be trusted so it's over. Period.

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