My male cap picked me up in a bar a couple of months ago. He came on very direct, which I admire. At my suggestion, we've had an ongoing casual relationship since then. I told him that I enjoy dating in general and don't really want to tie myself down at this time. He agreed to keep it ongoing but has told me, several times, that he is not good at relationships. I usually see him about once a week. I let him initiate because work dominates most of his time (but you all know that already). Every time we see each other he's continuously asking me "why him?" He tells me he thinks "there should be more between us than just the casual relationship". He says he thinks we'd make a "great team". He tells me that he knows a cap/leo couple that have had a very successful relationship for almost 10 years. He tells me that he's dated two leo's before and that he liked them because they challenged him. I can go on and on with the things he's telling me. My point is that it is very confusing to me. Is he saying/asking these things because he needs to feed his ego? Does he think he needs to say these things to keep me interested in him? Or, could there be some truth to them. The only time I communicate with him is when I see him. Outside of that time I don't talk to him at all during the week. A few weeks ago we had a very bad week of trying to get together. He stood me up twice after he initiated getting together (yep - bad at relationships). The following week when he called I stayed on the phone with him but refused to go see him. Since then I've seen him twice and his actions seem to be speaking louder than words. It's as if he's apologizing for his bad behavior. He's very into me and acting almost as a bf would. He is suggesting things (in addition to the normal things he usually says - see above)like we should go to lunch together or you should come over and use my pool...suddenly he wants to "do" things for me. Cont...
