is it too late for something more than friendship?

Theres this cap that I have really liked from the moment I saw him... since about 2 and a half years ago.

At first we would do that whole awkward look over, look away thing... we were terribly shy with each other and whenever we'd get the nerves to talk to each other we'd be all smiles. It seemed obvious that there was something more... however time went on there was this other girl that I guess showed interest in him, and she wasn't as shy about it than I was so they ended up with each other.

By the time they'd broken it off, I was with someone else. His cousin
Since I was dating his cousin, We became closer and we would share a lot of things with each other. We get along amazingly well and have SO much in common. Things got rough between his cousin and I but he was always there for me... not him, he was on my side In the end him and his cousin drifted apart. He knows my now ex very well and says hes incredibly selfish and crazy for treating me the way he did.

But by the time things were over with my ex, he then had another gf... We continued just hanging out, being friends, giving each other advice, etc... one day we got drunk and he admitted all this stuff to me saying that he wanted to be with me, but that my ex had claimed me. That he has always been waiting for someone like me to come along. the way he said it though I'm not sure if thats the way he felt THEN or if he feels that way still.

Now i don't think he remembers telling me all that, but I know now. and he had a gf when he told me all of that...

however i guess they're broken up now but hes not too upset about it. we've been talking/hanging out.

it seems time has never been in our favor but now it is. I just dont know if its too late because now we're more like just friends

how can I make my move, or see if he still feels that way without scaring him away or turning this friendship awkward? thats the last thing I want.

ellessque, I can relate to the part about not wanting to chase after men... I don't like doing that either. And I am always faithful to whoever i'm with also. However I can't deny that I still thought about being with him... I think, (and i'm just guessing here) he never made a move because he is also one to be faithful to who he is with. and because I guess his cousin told him that he had feelings for me so he was loyal to his cousin.

but now, they don't even talk and their relationship isn't the same anymore. I've already met the mutual friends and the mutual friends seemed to have dropped my ex also...



we hung out the other night but things were awkward and tense, I can't even understand why though.... its like we were both nervous. Just like in the beginning, before we were friends. Its so confusing! Now he is distant and haven't heard from him for 2 days. When we were parting ways he told me to text him and i did but he didn't text back... So idk, I guess I'll give him some space.

I'm wondering its one of 2 things.

1) he senses that I like him and doesn't feel the same way...
2) he does still like me, and doesn't know how to react to that...

very true amethyst... anytime I feel like i'm making progress with him opening up, its like SNAP shut-down mode :/ where as I am an open book and have no trouble sharing anything with him.

he does open up to me sometimes and on accident, I can tell cause he gets this "oh shit, did I just say that!" look in his eyes. hahaha.

or, of course, after a few drinks.

have a few drinks and make a subtle move 🙂 Cap's like myself sometimes need to be hit on head to realize your intentions...he very well maybe thinking the same things as you but afraid to gamble and look foolish...caps are sure-footed and don't take many chances.

thats kinda what I was thinking, happycapri... but a subtle move, like what? I need to do something kinda obvious, but not too obvious to the point of scaring him off... So thats where I'm stuck. lol.

I feel like updating on this...

pretty much... umm... I GIVE UP.
Whenever I try and initiate contact with him it seems like he doesn't want to talk. So I back off give him space and figure hes in a mood. But then I try again a few days later and still being weird. I can take a hint.

I don't know what happened but maybe he just figured out my feelings for him and thats why hes being that way.

So... i'm done! Goodbye beautiful cappy man!! I feel strongly about him, but I got more than enough coldness from my libra I don't want any more from him.

I'm done. 😢

yeah, maybe he'll be back around... who knows 😛 but since we have real shit luck with our timing I'm sure when he decides he wants me again I'll probably be taken again... ughhh..

I'm not sure if a Cap would get too serious with someone their cousin, or friend has been with. They can really like you, but it would just be too awkward knowing that someone close to them were with you. If we have a block there, we rarely get around it, unfortunately.

Posted by lnana04
I'm not sure if a Cap would get too serious with someone their cousin, or friend has been with. They can really like you, but it would just be too awkward knowing that someone close to them were with you. If we have a block there, we rarely get around it, unfortunately.

I think you're right... it is just too weird.

Why did you date his cousin for chrys sake, and then TALK about the relationship with him?

Let me say this... if he really likes you and knows he can not have you because of his own moral code, he will try to make you miserable because you can not have him either. IOW, he will let you see how wonderful he is and how much he really liked you and still does, but alas, how it will never be because you slept with the cousin. The cousin he doesn't even like or respect and who didn't even treat you right. It's liked your cappy is saying:

--> You are a bad judge of character, now you've ruined everything

--> It's too bad you didn't choose me because I would have treated you so much better.

--> Why the hell did you date my friggin' cousin?

--> Why didn't you date me?

--> Why were you so fast?

--> Couldn't you wait for something better than that jerk?

--> Couldn't you see how much I liked you?

--> Why didn't you WAIT for ME?

--> I was waiting!!!

I never even slept with my ex, hell, we never even kissed. :/ Our "relationship" was pretty much nothing and the cappy knows this. and I never made a move because when I was single he wasn't. and when I wasn't he was. It was neither of our faults just shitty timing for the two of us. his cousin wasn't always bad hes just a whole different person now and he knows this. he had told me numerous times when his cousin went through his change that I need to leave him. he was trying to not get me stuck in a bad situation.

Posted by dreamingpisces
I never even slept with my ex, hell, we never even kissed. :/ Our "relationship" was pretty much nothing and the cappy knows this. and I never made a move because when I was single he wasn't. and when I wasn't he was.

You are confusing me here. Were you and his cousin considered bf/gf, a couple, messing around, what? I'm running out of terms for what you admitted as dating...

Posted by dreamingpisces

By the time they'd broken it off, I was with someone else. His cousin
Since I was dating his cousin,

Posted by dreamingpisces

He knows my now ex very well and says hes incredibly selfish and crazy for treating me the way he did.

Posted by dreamingpisces

one day we got drunk and he admitted all this stuff to me saying that he wanted to be with me, but that my ex had claimed me. That he has always been waiting for someone like me to come along.

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Why do you keep referring to someone who you had a "pretty much nothing" with and never kissed as an "ex"?

You need to be careful how you deal with the family of a cappy. Also, how you treat someone who everybody (but you) understands to be your boyfriend. Some men watch how you allow other men to treat you...