Isolation

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ChocolateHazelnut
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7 YearsSagittarius

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I put this thread here cause even though I am a Sag I believe isolating myself is due to my

Capricorn stellium (including moon and rising in Cap).

I have been in a bad state emotionally and mentally the last two years.

I tried to get over it on my own, with a psychologist too for a while. No serious progress happened.

Now I was sick for 4 days and I lost some regional celebrations.

And I canceled on a friend today cause I am not yet recovered.

She said '' it's OK your are sick now but in general you should join us once in a while''.

It was a text and I took it as a complain even though it probably wasn't. I am being overly sensitive.



I feel I need to put myself first right now. But isolation is probably making things worse than better. I am angry with me and then I am angry with others, I don't really want to throw this on them.



What the heck should I do?
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ChocolateHazelnut
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7 YearsSagittarius

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I don't know.... I feel troubled and lost since years before. I am never satisfied with myself and my life, which is logical with the way I choose to live currently.

I keep searching and searching for what will make me better and nothing does.

I just dont know.

Other people my age at university don't seem to face similar problems

Thank you for the comments though
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Posted by _gg
Sorry to hear you're going through that. Sounds like depression tho. What is it about hanging put with that makes you not want to hang out?
I have thought of depression too lately. But it's a clinical term I don't like to use it on my own.

I don't know. Probably that I don't feel really connected to others. I am quite Internet addicted and try to limit it now. Confusion in general for no reason I believe.
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Posted by _gg
Sorry to hear you're going through that. Sounds like depression tho. What is it about hanging put with that makes you not want to hang out?
I have thought of depression too lately. But it's a clinical term I don't like to use it on my own.

I don't know. Probably that I don't feel really connected to others. I am quite Internet addicted and try to limit it now. Confusion in general for no reason I believe.

Did someone close to you die? Did you lose something you cared a lot about?

And hows your sleep?

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No noone really close died. Except my grandfather some years ago.

My sleep is not enough cause I am online....
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Posted by UnicornSag
when did it all start? what's the reason behind the isolation? Usually there is a trigger so maybe if you discuss more about what triggered such state you might find solution to it. So obviously things aren't good as they are right now, then what did you do to try and change it? I've gone through this 2 times in my life so far and I have some insight into it but somehow I don't let myself to go that deep down, somehow I seek for strength within me to rise up. Something like a Phoenix would be best description. It's not some complete physical destruction in question, but actually a mental destruction. So you need to look for that strength within you. I don't believe in therapy so much and I believe we can heal ourselves, just that we need to discover what helps in our healing processes. So my power is in friends and socializing and art. Even at those times I didn't completely shut down my friends so keep in mind what your friend told you is true, they are genuinely concerned about you and it would do you good to socialize with them. Sometimes not thinking or talking about your issues can be helpful as well. For example I have 2 circles of friends, one is made of 3 Gems, 2 Sags, Virgo and Cancer and it's a larger group which is basically only for the fun part. Not very serious talks going on in it. The other is a small group, just Virgo and Scorp and with them I can talk about anything at all, whatever bothers me. But even then I don't tend to open up so much, just when I really need it. So maybe try to have just those casual talks with your friends, avoiding problem talks


I overthink a lot. I have some friends I talk with about this stuff. They tell me to relax and it's all gonna be OK. It's not easy for me to relax. I believe if I don't initiate and work for something I want, it won't happen. But then I get afraid and instead of trying I begin to read how to do something, that I actually already know how to do ... And this way I keep myself preparing and actually not act. It's silly.



I have a huge desire to try to control everything to feel safe. I give up perfectionism. I believe in therapy but my two therapists helped me on a basic level.
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Posted by _gg
Sorry to hear you're going through that. Sounds like depression tho. What is it about hanging put with that makes you not want to hang out?
I have thought of depression too lately. But it's a clinical term I don't like to use it on my own.

I don't know. Probably that I don't feel really connected to others. I am quite Internet addicted and try to limit it now. Confusion in general for no reason I believe.

Did someone close to you die? Did you lose something you cared a lot about?

And hows your sleep?


No noone really close died. Except my grandfather some years ago.

My sleep is not enough cause I am online....



Yeah just as i thought. My suggestion is try to correct your sleeping pattern first. The brain is has plasticity... Meaning it can heal itself.

You're going to have to wing yourself off.

Your body starts producing the melatonin you use for that night around 3 pm. Try cutting internet use in the evenings/ late afternoons. Get at least 15 minutes of exercise every other day.

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Thanks I will do this. 🙂
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How is your diet?

Im a sag and isolate at times for sure but I always know I still need to get out and see people, I make myself. haha. I work from home mostly so I Really need to see people...

Im kind of in isolate time now. NY winter funk and guy funk! LOL

Even with life's crap at times... when Im in some funk usually my diet is off, not enough vitimans, exercise, etc. That is off so the rest is off. When the rest is off its harder to take life's punches.

I didnt read all posts but just throwing it out there. 🙂