Leo woman Cap man - power struggle?

Hey, there! I've some friends in this forum who put up with pages and pages of "I'm confused - he's annoying - what must I do?" a few months ago. Remember me? Sorry, was busy for a long while. Got back with the updates, wanting your suggestion again.

After 9-10 months of a lot of misunderstanding over texting, fights, hardly any phone calls after the romance phase, and 2-3 meetings (we live in neighbouring states) all initiated by me, a few apologies on both sides now and then, yelling from my end and acting cold and carefree on his end, both of us blocking each other, and a lot of frustration, I finally sent him a long mail saying that I would like to put an end to this as there was no effort on his end and I felt as though I was walking the path alone.

I won't say it is entirely my fault or it is entirely his fault. But what bothered me most was no proper communication. He'd say something rude or say nothing at all and when I'd get annoyed, he'd come back and start a conversation as though nothing happened or he'd apologise (which is very rare). The cycles only kept repeating as he'd convey his love for me in many subtle ways (too difficult to comprehend, made me mad) apart from saying it openly just twice or thrice. And even his frustration and annoyance, he wouldn't directly tell me about it. Instead, he'd post arrogant posts on his blog. In fact, earlier this shy fellow conveyed his love through a poem on his blog.

This lack of direct communication especially during the times of conflicts and misunderstanding frustrated me so much and I couldn't deal with his two faces. "Idgaf" nature one day, mild flirtation another day!

Whoa! It was like hell. I couldn't stay. I couldn't leave. But when many of my friends told me to leave, I sent him a looooong mail explaining everything and that I don't want any communication ever again.

I felt relieved for getting out. But in a few days, he started acting weird. Unblocking me everywhere, changing his DP knowing what I'd like (I told you, subtle ways) and posting a poem through which he conveyed how much he wanted me. (indirect communication all the time).

But I fall for poetry. That's how we met. Since then, I felt very bad that I'd hurt him. So after a few weeks and after many warnings from my friends, I sent him a few messages, mail and called him. No direct response for my mail. A poem in the "I don't care a bit" tone. If you really don't care, then why the hell take the effort to post a poem?

Since then, his blog activity has been responses to my mail. When I asked him what was going on, he replied, "what poem? What mail? I didn't read anything" (which is a big lie) and said "like you said, there's no 'us', so let's keep it that way".

Please tell me fellow Caps and friends, what do you think he means? Is it that he still wants me and just hates to admit it, or is this his way of coping up and has he REALLY given up on the relationship, or is it just a matter of hurt ego?

What is it? If I ask him directly, he will never tell me the truth. I don't want to leave someone who really wants me in his life, but I can't imagine being in a relationship with a man who'd never speak up openly and convey positive and negative feelings only through poetry or subtle ways!

What is going on? I know that there are several other 'confused' women here, confused by some Cap man. Any progress in getting closer to understanding them? Phew! Thanks in advance!

PinkBird03, CapsLock, missed you. 🙂

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Posted by InLoveWithLife
Hey, there! I've some friends in this forum who put up with pages and pages of "I'm confused - he's annoying - what must I do?" a few months ago. Remember me? Sorry, was busy for a long while. Got back with the updates, wanting your suggestion again.

After 9-10 months of a lot of misunderstanding over texting, fights, hardly any phone calls after the romance phase, and 2-3 meetings (we live in neighbouring states) all initiated by me, a few apologies on both sides now and then, yelling from my end and acting cold and carefree on his end, both of us blocking each other, and a lot of frustration, I finally sent him a long mail saying that I would like to put an end to this as there was no effort on his end and I felt as though I was walking the path alone.

I won't say it is entirely my fault or it is entirely his fault. But what bothered me most was no proper communication. He'd say something rude or say nothing at all and when I'd get annoyed, he'd come back and start a conversation as though nothing happened or he'd apologise (which is very rare). The cycles only kept repeating as he'd convey his love for me in many subtle ways (too difficult to comprehend, made me mad) apart from saying it openly just twice or thrice. And even his frustration and annoyance, he wouldn't directly tell me about it. Instead, he'd post arrogant posts on his blog. In fact, earlier this shy fellow conveyed his love through a poem on his blog.

This lack of direct communication especially during the times of conflicts and misunderstanding frustrated me so much and I couldn't deal with his two faces. "Idgaf" nature one day, mild flirtation another day!

Whoa! It was like hell. I couldn't stay. I couldn't leave. But when many of my friends told me to leave, I sent him a looooong mail explaining everything and that I don't want any communication ever again.

I felt relieved for getting out. But in a few days, he started acting weird. Unblocking me everywhere, changing his DP knowing what I'd like (I told you, subtle ways) and posting a poem through which he conveyed how much he wanted me. (indirect communication all the time).

But I fall for poetry. That's how we met. Since then, I felt very bad that I'd hurt him. So after a few weeks and after many warnings from my friends, I sent him a few messages, mail and called him. No direct response for my mail. A poem in the "I don't care a bit" tone. If you really don't care, then why the hell take the effort to post a poem?

Since then, his blog activity has been responses to my mail. When I asked him what was going on, he replied, "what poem? What mail? I didn't read anything" (which is a big lie) and said "like you said, there's no 'us', so let's keep it that way".

Please tell me fellow Caps and friends, what do you think he means? Is it that he still wants me and just hates to admit it, or is this his way of coping up and has he REALLY given up on the relationship, or is it just a matter of hurt ego?

What is it? If I ask him directly, he will never tell me the truth. I don't want to leave someone who really wants me in his life, but I can't imagine being in a relationship with a man who'd never speak up openly and convey positive and negative feelings only through poetry or subtle ways!

What is going on? I know that there are several other 'confused' women here, confused by some Cap man. Any progress in getting closer to understanding them? Phew! Thanks in advance!

PinkBird03, CapsLock, missed you. 🙂

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Haha! Hello, Caplock! 😄

Posted by Seraphlight
That's too long sorry!

I don't know if it's my post or the time period that you're talking about! But what are his intentions then? Crazy fellow!

Also I read posts online that tell me that this is how Cap men behave most of the time and that patience is the only way with them. I'm confused!

Oh! Ok, I get it. I wish I could stop thinking of him! Yes, he does annoy me like hell at times, but he's also really sweet (lol, even earlier, when we'd fight and there wouldn't be much communication, this raw hulk smash has to drink to find the guts to ask me, "wassup"!).

I guess you're right! Thanks for being honest. I guess I'd better stay away from all reserved men who give me awkward smiles in future! 🙂

Hey, Leowww, it's just that I'm not able to forget him so easily, I guess. I remember how sweet and romantic he was the few times we met personally. I find myself going back to recollecting the first time we kissed and how passionate he was. Phew! To be honest, I don't even know what it is that I'm going through myself! A few friends tell me, "just try to avoid all contact with him and you'll get over it" but I fall for good poetry and find it too difficult to not check his blog. Silly, I know. His poems only add to the confusion!

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Posted by InLoveWithLife
Oh! Ok, I get it. I wish I could stop thinking of him! Yes, he does annoy me like hell at times, but he's also really sweet (lol, even earlier, when we'd fight and there wouldn't be much communication, this raw hulk smash has to drink to find the guts to ask me, "wassup"!).

I guess you're right! Thanks for being honest. I guess I'd better stay away from all reserved men who give me awkward smiles in future! 🙂

Roses are red,

And Violets are blue,

Angels come from heaven

And so did you. Lol

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Lol, Caplock! Stop doing that to me! Haha!

Thanks, Leowww! That was really helpful. Yes, you're right about the closure. I'll try to focus on other important things.

Posted by InLoveWithLife
Hey, Leowww, it's just that I'm not able to forget him so easily, I guess. I remember how sweet and romantic he was the few times we met personally. I find myself going back to recollecting the first time we kissed and how passionate he was. Phew! To be honest, I don't even know what it is that I'm going through myself! A few friends tell me, "just try to avoid all contact with him and you'll get over it" but I fall for good poetry and find it too difficult to not check his blog. Silly, I know. His poems only add to the confusion!

That's me as a Leo. I look for subliminal signs I don't know why. I have a problem with fantasizing! But I'm in love with a Cap now and trying to break it off, and my first love was a Cap, I always attract Cap men, it's something about them but honey in 2017 and beyond I just can't anymore. It's just too damn draining, and I'm probably too emotional for them. Not clingy but I need to hear things sometimes for example. There's definitely an unexplained chemistry, a magnet that draws us to them and them to us but it can be trying, and ultimately leaves me thinking would all this be worth it in the end? You know with a Cap you'll be waiting for all eternity and even then still be waiting if you get my drift ?