Let's Talk Love!

Just the other day at work, while I was pulling a late shift until 10pm on my 18th birthday, I was hit by a lightning bolt. It did not come from the sky, though, and there wasn't any damage done to the property where it should have totally cooked the ceiling. Instead it came from a female coworker. Now, I'd like to take this opportunity to ask what we here think of each other? While I was having a Monday the 13th birthday that felt as unlucky as a Friday, I learned that this coworker was also a Capricorn, and so I decided that I might try and start a relationship with her. How many fellow goatfish here have had a relationship with another Capricorn? How did it go? And, my biggest worry, how many of you have dated someone from college while still in highschool? She is almost exactly one year to the day older than I am, and she immediately commands the attention of every ounce of matter in me, whether it be tangible matter or not. I would sell my soul for one date with this girl.

On that note, I would say that while my thoughts often aren't of the most romantic nature, more inclined to analysis and hypothesis than anything, I still believe strongly in love. I also believe that it is harder to come by for some than others, because of peoples' natures. I am one of the more difficult types, but know that it will come and I will know, but most likely not for a long time. However, I have already thought that there are people that I could weather changes with and spend every day with for the rest of my life. I am not jumping to conclusions on the one Capricorn girl I just met, but rather inciting some more topics for discussion, since I know that even Capricorns are social creatures, being human. They just need to find time to realise this during frequent forgetful periods. How many of you, also, agree with the 1 in every 25 highschool couples that end up together married? What are your thoughts on that? And what are your thoughts on having a relationship with a girl a year older, at this formative and tumultuous time, and if I am to go on to college myself in early September, would you suggest a friendship, a close romantic relationship trying to make things last, or more of a fling without letting things get too serious? Patience on my part, or no? I would say yes, but I'm a Capricorn with a last schoolboy crush hoping and thinking it might be something more. What if it does get serious?

And, too, on a completely different note, what kinds of occupations have my fellow Capricorns been filling in the world? I have only the most unpracticable and outlandish ideas of potential futures in my head at the time, like writing, playing music, or becoming a sleeper sensation with NASA and leading manned missions to Mars as a psychologist.

Thanks in advance- I love reading what all of you have to say.

Josh, i have been thinking about your post. I can not answer your questions as i have been too busy daydreaming (!) but i would be disappointed if you became anything other than a screenwriter. Have you seen "Adaptation", starring Nicholas Cage and Meryl Streep? It really reminds me of you for some reason; it is such an outstanding film. The type of language you use in your posts is so similiar to the ideas and issues in the script. The film was directed by the same guy who did "Being John Malcavich". It is a quirky but classy production (I know those two usually don't go together, but they do in this case!). Go and see it, i am not kidding, you would love it (and also i need someone to have an intelligent conversation with about it, hehe).

Sorry for the invasion from a pisces into the capricorn board.

I think the likelihood that two people will have a lasting lifelong relationship that begins in high school is too low to even try it. People grow too much in these years and you're really lucky if you find someone you grow toward.

And don't be flustered because she's a year older than you. It just means that there's more chance she is more mature (though I find more often it's the other way around).

About the high school lasting relationship idea: it completely depends on the people. I must warn you however, my parents have repeatedly told my of the terrible out come of people getting married young. And since I live with them, I know the reality of what they say. Personally, I'm waiting off on the romance thing until college (partly because I'm one of those who can't find anybody to love...). But I'm always up for an intreguing affair... hehehe... (you may not want to take anything I say to seriously, it may cause brain damage).

What does the future hold— HMMM... Let me quote from my freinds, the muppets:
"Life's like a movie write your own ending, keep believing, keep pretending, we've done just what we set out to dooo!!! As do the Lovers! The dreamers! And you!!!!"

Personally I fit into all three catagories, so I know my future is going to be really exciting... Well, interesting at the very least...

I think you should go for the girl, no matter how it turns out. It'll be a fun interlude to life.

(by the way, I'm capricorn rising so I get to invade this message board too)

Another non-cappie invasion...apologies.

Josh, I would say that after reading your captivating and exciting post, you have no other choice but to at least ask her out for a date. You have to! Alright, phoenix_nazi has spoken. 🙂 My advice to you, is to go full force for it. It is undeniably easier for a college woman to be faithful and monogamous while dating a guy outside her school than for a guy to be faithful and monogamous while dating a woman outside his school (age shouldn't really matter here because there are only approximately twelve months between the two of you--not enough time to be in completely different stages of life, just slightly different, and that difference will become less and less and eventually non-existant once *you* are in college). So you already have that "security factor" that women in your position find hard to come by.

How many of you, also, agree with the 1 in every 25 highschool couples that end up together married? What are your thoughts on that?

Well, I've never heard that statistic before, and as romantic and ideal and sweet as it sounds, don't forget that a little over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. So, I'm not a mathmatician at all, in fact I despise all math, but I'd say marriage is too much for you to be thinking about at this time in your life. You've got immediate, pressing needs to be fulfilled before signing a permanent contract (so to speak) should even be something to *consider*. One of those immediate pressing needs is pursuing with zeal your education (which, though you are brilliant, I would be very sad to see you drift away from that pursuit for any reason). You're also still quite young, you have a lot of life experience yet to cultivate, and I know I'm sounding old right now, but remember, I'm not much older than you, and you would not believe how many people you will meet and date and be interested in, in the time span of 3-4 years. It would blow your mind! It's so hard to see that right now, but trust me, even if you were to like, sit on your ass doing nothing and meeting no one for the next few years, you would STILL "grow" immensely in all ways as a person. You just have to live some more life in order to see.

In the meantime, go out with this girl, and don't worry about what label to put on it until you get a feel for her as "girlfriend" material (or "just friend" material). My advice is to try not to have a random fling, because believe it or not, it could haunt you later, or things could get really weird (especially because you work with her), or she could develop emotions from the encounter that you might not have, oh the list goes on. That doesn't mean that you can't, or that the world will end if you do...I just think it has the potential to sour one of you in some way, and that's never fun. These are all just my opinions and I hope I wasn't too dictatorial about them, but, I know what's best for you. lol, totally kidding. I hope wherever fate leads the two of you, the experience is a worthwhile one! (Now ASK HER OUT!) 🙂

Best wishes (and please update),
phoenix

Josh, where did you get that statistic about 1 and every 25 high school couples end up married? I told my friend this, and he automatically said it was wrong. He said that it was less than one percent (his health teacher told him). He had a break down of how many kids stayed together for all four years (not many), and then very few couples stayed together after the summer of their senior year. The percentages just kept getting lower and lower. He said that the couples that did get married usually ended up with one of the partners cheating... This to me sounds a lot more realistic than the 1 in 25 statistic... I don't know, I just thought I'd tell you the results of my research.

I'll apologise for my invasion of the non-cappie board too!

Hang on a minute, that was meant to be my 'non-cappie invasion of the cappie board'. Where is my head today?

I'm posting my opinion. Josh is dumb, and SOL. And my coworker is one of those very same marriage-minded youngsters I was just previously talking about. She's just nineteen, and she's already been engaged for quite some time now.

Hey, im in the same boat and rejection is never a good thing but at least you know now and you can now spend your time pursuing someone who is available. You know that saying (yeah, cliche cliche) "you never know until you try"? Well, you tried and that's it.

Hey josh, I'm single ;P

LoL. And aren't you a Pisces too, Morgan? In general, though, thank you for the support everyone. Playing the dating game was never my specialty, I was always just a tad too....aloof....for that.

No!!! I'm a Leo!!! BIG difference!!! Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide to do... I'm sure it will work out eventually.

Oh, and about the aloof thing, hey that's fine with me, I'm sick of the over emotionalness of the water signs I've been previously dating. I will NEVER date a Pisces AGAIN.

It just proves that anything is possible, however unlikely 😉

josh, i was very impressed by your writing and correctness of grammer and punctuation. you've given me hope for the future of this world, knowing that there are some articulate teenagers left among us. i, being a cap also (1/4), find your situation an ageless question. (being that i am quite a bit older then you) attraction for another human is, i think, a signal for us to know that there is something we can learn from the relationship, and that we can carry this forward in our lives. one must follow this signal, especially now, with the world in this unstable state. who knows how much time we have left here. love, is the answer. communication is the answer. understanding is the answer. respect should also play a big part in your decision. and by the way, don't rule out writing as your career. you just might have a future there.

Only because words are soothing,
Pleasing to the eye,
The pages' whiteness and
the letter's dark . . .
What is time?
What is tragedy?
What is love?
The little girl asks us
Who we are . . .
We answer in turn,
the page a numbered thing,
Like a calendar,
Counting, counting, down
To infinity,
To the lullaby that is forever
In a child's ears . . .
We speak the words.
The words here.
The words there.