yamilette7410
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Lunch With Cap Ex Today
^okay, thank you. Sorry if it seems like I'm asking the same question over and over 😢
^he keeps up with my Snapchat, was aware I went out of town and saw family lately.
I told him when we were together over conversation that I was going to wear the same dress from another family event to be silly, and he asked if I did that. I told him I didn't, showed him a selfie of me in my dress and he said that he remembered seeing it.
I am meeting someone new today in about an hour, so I'm not making it seem like I'm waiting, or at least I hope it doesn't seem that way.
I told him when we were together over conversation that I was going to wear the same dress from another family event to be silly, and he asked if I did that. I told him I didn't, showed him a selfie of me in my dress and he said that he remembered seeing it.
I am meeting someone new today in about an hour, so I'm not making it seem like I'm waiting, or at least I hope it doesn't seem that way.
Posted by yamilette7410Caps easily remain friends with exes...for the most part. Especially if the person didn't make them look foolish or was of help to them in the relationship.
Hello Caps!
I'm making a continuation of my last post about clean breaks with Capricorn male exes.
As we continued to "keep in touch" over social media and following him accidentally requesting to join the Facebook group I admin for my pre-med program, I decided to ask him if he wanted to get lunch. We had a great lunch and caught up and it was nice. He told me at the end that we should have lunch again sometime soon. it was nice to get my favorite strong and long hug again.
I am somewhat confused as suddenly the Cap has the time for me that he claimed he would not have when I broke up with him, and this may mirror the answer given previously that he swindled me into splitting with him and it was never about time. Again, this may also reflect the previous answer given to me that the chance for friendship between us is good because the split was amicable. As a Scorpio who is all or nothing, this gray area is very confusing. Are the intentions here for friends only? I'm hoping this doesn't read that this is difficult for me, but god forbid I move on to another guy if he has intentions besides being friends. I was under the impression that Caps were all-or-nothing as well and didn't maintain ose friendships with exes, correct me if I'm wrong please.
^thanks for the input. Maybe the all-or-nothing thing I'm thinking of is in terms of a bad breakup or drawn-out relationship. I just remembered reading that Caps weren't friends with exes...they just looked forward and didn't maintain contact with their exes, but I think it was if there was bad blood involved.
Imo we are not all or nothing unless things ended horribly Id think. If I felt good enough about someone to invite them into my life then I obviously liked that person as a person, and that doesn't change unless the person change and become a jerk.
its all or nothing with me. i dont need or have any exes around, i dont need any dead weight.
Yam try not to read too much into it or you're going to be confused. Stick with the facts.
I urge you to be optimistically cautious b/c now that you're not HIS girlfriend he may not feel the pressure he felt whilst dating you and is being a lot more available which can be confusing.
On the upside this new found interest of his can be plus and yet at some turning point which is usually when the woman wants clarity and begins to show her hand by displaying her feelings and expectations he'll pull back and give the illusion that he does not have time.
My take is he does not have time for a woman that needs him to fall into the boyfriend role b/c that would mean he'd be obligated so as long as you're friendly and have very few expectations he'll make time.
He's not ready or he'd have remained in a real relationship with you.
I suggest you open up to dating other men as you're feeling this out with him and no you do not need to broadcast and telegraph your intentions/choice to move on afterall he took you for granted by letting you go which means he could not fully appreciate you when he truly had all of you to himself.
You're single and should be out there dating or at the least be open to other options other than him. Don't get your hopes up too high. He let you go easily and he'll most likely do it again.
I urge you to be optimistically cautious b/c now that you're not HIS girlfriend he may not feel the pressure he felt whilst dating you and is being a lot more available which can be confusing.
On the upside this new found interest of his can be plus and yet at some turning point which is usually when the woman wants clarity and begins to show her hand by displaying her feelings and expectations he'll pull back and give the illusion that he does not have time.
My take is he does not have time for a woman that needs him to fall into the boyfriend role b/c that would mean he'd be obligated so as long as you're friendly and have very few expectations he'll make time.
He's not ready or he'd have remained in a real relationship with you.
I suggest you open up to dating other men as you're feeling this out with him and no you do not need to broadcast and telegraph your intentions/choice to move on afterall he took you for granted by letting you go which means he could not fully appreciate you when he truly had all of you to himself.
You're single and should be out there dating or at the least be open to other options other than him. Don't get your hopes up too high. He let you go easily and he'll most likely do it again.
Posted by cheekyfaerieThis was the second time I had to go to a big family event, and I mentioned I would wear the same dress to be silly. He remembered that I said that, and then asked if I had indeed done that. I said no, showed him a picture I posted on Snapchat of the dress I did wear, and he said he remembered seeing it.Posted by yamilette7410Remembered seeing the pic or remembered the dress from when you were dating?
^he keeps up with my Snapchat, was aware I went out of town and saw family lately.
I told him when we were together over conversation that I was going to wear the same dress from another family event to be silly, and he asked if I did that. I told him I didn't, showed him a selfie of me in my dress and he said that he remembered seeing it.
I am meeting someone new today in about an hour, so I'm not making it seem like I'm waiting, or at least I hope it doesn't seem that way.
Not making it seem like you're waiting or actually not waiting?
There are a few people that I would still creep their FBs long after it was done. Not because I was still interested, but from a morbid curiosity.
You're gonna be miserable as long as you continue to dissect every little thing he does. Be kind to yourself.click to expand
I don't want to give my Cap ex the impression that I'm waiting for him; hence I met up with a Leo male today. It went very well, because the Leo has a Pisces Moon and Cancer Venus. Otherwise the synastry is poopy. But that darn Venus Conjunct Pluto I keep finding...
Posted by lnana04This is the case with my ex and I, thank you for your input!
Imo we are not all or nothing unless things ended horribly Id think. If I felt good enough about someone to invite them into my life then I obviously liked that person as a person, and that doesn't change unless the person change and become a jerk.
Posted by KittenLaRougeSo then what do you think about my Cap ex choosing to remain friends with me?
its all or nothing with me. i dont need or have any exes around, i dont need any dead weight.
tiki33, I posted here for the logical feedback Caps always seem to have, so my mind doesn't run away from me. I mentioned in another post a while ago that the only reason we became exclusive was because I date a variety of men without commitment, and when I asked him how he dates, he said that he only dates/texts one girl at a time. I didn't want him to feel like I didn't care for him so I agreed to be exclusive with him. I wonder a lot what would have happened between us if I hadn't. I see what you mean though, no pressure to see me on a regular basis. I'm applying no pressure to this whatsoever, but I am unnerved as I prefer doors with my most recent exes closed before I move on and I'm about ready to do so. What keeps me "trapped", per say, is that I broke up with him when I didn't want to, as it wasn't about him or me but our schedules and circumstances. It was amicable, and unless things changed that quickly, we broke up still with feelings for each other. That's what makes this so difficult. We broke up because he felt he would be so busy that he wouldn't have time to date and texting isn't enough for a committed relationship IMHO. And now not only does he have time to see me, he has time to message me on Facebook as well and communicate with me via social media.
I understand what you mean about him not being ready, although that wasn't the impression I initially had of him. I am seeing other people but it hasn't been made obvious on social media. He hasn't asked, either. I saw a Leo man today and things went well.
I understand what you mean about him not being ready, although that wasn't the impression I initially had of him. I am seeing other people but it hasn't been made obvious on social media. He hasn't asked, either. I saw a Leo man today and things went well.
Posted by yamilette7410probably because he's a man. i'm way too emotional to have exes around, its my cancer moon. i am waaayyyy more emotional than the average cap. its all or nothing for me, seeing an ex would be too emotional for me and a pointless waste of time for me if there is no future, im a bit of a loner anyway, i dont need a bunch of friends. im cool with one ride or die. thats all i need.Posted by KittenLaRougeSo then what do you think about my Cap ex choosing to remain friends with me?
its all or nothing with me. i dont need or have any exes around, i dont need any dead weight.click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerieI'm trying really hard not to pick everything apart, but I want to avoid having to choose between two good guys if my Cap ex indeed wants to be more than friends again. I had not texted him after we had lunch or anything, not even to say I enjoyed it. He messaged me this evening telling me he took the MBTI and his personality type results. This was something we discussed in the psychology class we had together over the summer that I mentioned he should take back when we were still together and hadn't mentioned since that one time. When we covered the personality tests in class, I sent him some stuff about it (articles/graphics) on Facebook, and we didn't talk about it after that. It was very random of him to mention to me. But I can't help but feel like he's thinking about me/our relationship...talking about things now that he didn't talk to me about when we were together.Posted by yamilette7410Remembered seeing the pic or remembered the dress from when you were dating?
^he keeps up with my Snapchat, was aware I went out of town and saw family lately.
I told him when we were together over conversation that I was going to wear the same dress from another family event to be silly, and he asked if I did that. I told him I didn't, showed him a selfie of me in my dress and he said that he remembered seeing it.
I am meeting someone new today in about an hour, so I'm not making it seem like I'm waiting, or at least I hope it doesn't seem that way.
Not making it seem like you're waiting or actually not waiting?
There are a few people that I would still creep their FBs long after it was done. Not because I was still interested, but from a morbid curiosity.
You're gonna be miserable as long as you continue to dissect every little thing he does. Be kind to yourself.click to expand
It seems like your still very much interested in him...you invited him to lunch...why? He's an ex lol
Move on. Why are you wondering about someone who decided to end things with you!? When a man wants you, specifically when a cap wants you, nothing comes in his way....
Your being his friend is beneficial to him, not to you, as a woman always give your attention to a man who has a clear path for you...don't allow an ex to put you in a friend zone when you were initially a couple.
All caps keep ex's around, trust me your not the only ex he stays in touch with.
Move on. Why are you wondering about someone who decided to end things with you!? When a man wants you, specifically when a cap wants you, nothing comes in his way....
Your being his friend is beneficial to him, not to you, as a woman always give your attention to a man who has a clear path for you...don't allow an ex to put you in a friend zone when you were initially a couple.
All caps keep ex's around, trust me your not the only ex he stays in touch with.
why don't u just be straight forward and ask him direct questions "i thought you wouldn't have time to talk to me at all?"
i'm another emotional cap. the more i felt the quicker and complete i cut ex off. if i was hurt, he would be dead to me.
i'm another emotional cap. the more i felt the quicker and complete i cut ex off. if i was hurt, he would be dead to me.
i lingered to ease their pain when i hurt them though and because i felt bad about it. you should figure out whether this is the case for him.
i never keep people around because i can use them in some way. i'm not a user.
i never keep people around because i can use them in some way. i'm not a user.
+1 Balbair
"So then what do you think about my Cap ex choosing to remain friends with me?"
Because you are AVAILABLE and people/men in particular (some of them) hate losing a good woman in their cornerespecially if the woman is not someone they see themselves moving forward.
It's really hard to get out of the friendzone once a person downgrades the relationship to friends because now he's seeing you strictly as a friend and not someone he's going to move forward with to develop a future with.
"That's what makes this so difficult. We broke up because he felt he would be so busy that he wouldn't have time to date and texting isn't enough for a committed relationship IMHO."
We women get stuck a lot because we make excuses and although those excuses imparticularly yours is a valid excuse it's still an excuse. Men don't let go of a woman they love and see a future with. If he let you go it's not only about the time issue, it's also about him not feeling enough attraction for you on a romantic level.
Men don't want to lose a good woman not even as a friend and if he let you go it's because he wasn't really into it with you romantically now that doesn't mean he can't or won't sleep with you nor does it mean he won't go out with you and have some fun but he will not be your boyfriend again only because he's decided already that there is something off/missing which is why he let you go in the first place.
I suggest you either do as ICloud suggested or prepare yourself for the inevitable let down that will follow. You're feelings will be hurt when you realize he can only be available when he's not in a real relationship mainly a relationship with you.
You're looking for a distinct answer/sign that he's open to being your boyfriend again and you will not get that answer unless you at some approach him with the what are we doing speech, he's most likely going to say we're being friends.
If You wanna know if their is a chance to rekindle love again then you'll have to be the one who brings it up since that is what you truly want to come out of this thing with him. In the meantime continue on your journey and leave him as an open option until you meet the guy that wants to be your man and keep you all to himself.
"So then what do you think about my Cap ex choosing to remain friends with me?"
Because you are AVAILABLE and people/men in particular (some of them) hate losing a good woman in their cornerespecially if the woman is not someone they see themselves moving forward.
It's really hard to get out of the friendzone once a person downgrades the relationship to friends because now he's seeing you strictly as a friend and not someone he's going to move forward with to develop a future with.
"That's what makes this so difficult. We broke up because he felt he would be so busy that he wouldn't have time to date and texting isn't enough for a committed relationship IMHO."
We women get stuck a lot because we make excuses and although those excuses imparticularly yours is a valid excuse it's still an excuse. Men don't let go of a woman they love and see a future with. If he let you go it's not only about the time issue, it's also about him not feeling enough attraction for you on a romantic level.
Men don't want to lose a good woman not even as a friend and if he let you go it's because he wasn't really into it with you romantically now that doesn't mean he can't or won't sleep with you nor does it mean he won't go out with you and have some fun but he will not be your boyfriend again only because he's decided already that there is something off/missing which is why he let you go in the first place.
I suggest you either do as ICloud suggested or prepare yourself for the inevitable let down that will follow. You're feelings will be hurt when you realize he can only be available when he's not in a real relationship mainly a relationship with you.
You're looking for a distinct answer/sign that he's open to being your boyfriend again and you will not get that answer unless you at some approach him with the what are we doing speech, he's most likely going to say we're being friends.
If You wanna know if their is a chance to rekindle love again then you'll have to be the one who brings it up since that is what you truly want to come out of this thing with him. In the meantime continue on your journey and leave him as an open option until you meet the guy that wants to be your man and keep you all to himself.
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I am somewhat confused as suddenly the Cap has the time for me that he claimed he would not have when I broke up with him, and this may mirror the answer given previously that he swindled me into splitting with him and it was never about time. Again, this may also reflect the previous answer given to me that the chance for friendship between us is good because the split was amicable. As a Scorpio who is all or nothing, this gray area is very confusing. Are the intentions here for friends only? I'm hoping this doesn't read that this is difficult for me, but god forbid I move on to another guy if he has intentions besides being friends. I was under the impression that Caps were all-or-nothing as well and didn't maintain ose friendships with exes, correct me if I'm wrong please.