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Posted by earlorg16I'm also Aries rising cancer moon and cap sun... lol
Sigh. I met a wonderful capricorn woman. She's everything I'd ever want in a partner. After hitting it off at a comedy club, she invited me back to her place. We snuggled all night. She didn't want to rush things, I was okay with just holding her in my arms and feelings my fingers between mine. I end up seeing her two days later, meeting with her, her roomie and her sister at a NoDAPL protest. We protested together, I saw her strength, integrity and character shine through.
But I also saw an old partner there, one that just decided to ghost me after we had dated for a month. She didn't say a word to me, and avoided all eye contact. The cap noticed and asked what was going on. I was honest and told her whats up, and the cap told me she hates people who do that sorta shit. She was real AF. We connected even more. She told me she didn't want me to go but that her sister and her needed to talk about stuff. I drove them home and during the ride, I asked if we could go on a date together. She started blushing, her roomie and sister heard, and it got real quiet in the car. Her sister liked me a lot and I saw her crossing her fingers in my rearview mirror. The Cap agreed to it, and stated, how's Friday? When she left my car, her sis begged me to stay but I told her they needed their sister time. The cap kissed me and wished me goodnight.
Today is Thursday. Donald Trump won the election. She's been actively protesting, posting things on social media and the like. I texted her Wednesday to see how she was doing and she said she was devastated and asked how I was. I told her that I'd be here for her through it all. No response. I texted today and no response. I don't think Friday is gonna happen anymore. She likes my posts still, but doesn't answer when I tried to call or my texts.
Caps, should I move on or hang in there and be patient? She claims she hates ghosting and doesn't do it, yet, here we are. Just for the record, she's an Aries rising, Cancer moon, Cap Sun, Pisces Venus.


Posted by earlorg16
She actually responded to me late last night and I think friendzoned me. She's been in abusive relationships in the past so shes extra guarded emotionally due to it.
The vibe I got from the message was that she wants to be friends first and develop a foundation before potentially investing any time and emotion into it, rather than just a flat out friendzoning. She wants to collaborate musically with me still, continue to hang out and the like and I feel if it was the type of friendzoning that was strictly platonic, she wouldn't even bother with hanging out at all.
We'll see how it goes I suppose, but does this sound like a situation worth investing in now?



Posted by earlorg16I think it's funny that your cap is a musician. Mine is too!
Thanks for all the help @earthyleo and @capri-sun. Really to everyone. We'll see where it goes! She's most certainly worth the wait but hopefully it gets there. The challenge is not getting too invested emotionally and if we play music together, holy hell is that gonna be tough. But, I'll do my best to stay composed and positive for her. Thanks again! 🙂

Posted by EarthyLeoThey're quite good at it! It's what drew me to her immediately. A beautiful soul, and a talented musician.Posted by earlorg16I think it's funny that your cap is a musician. Mine is too!
Thanks for all the help @earthyleo and @capri-sun. Really to everyone. We'll see where it goes! She's most certainly worth the wait but hopefully it gets there. The challenge is not getting too invested emotionally and if we play music together, holy hell is that gonna be tough. But, I'll do my best to stay composed and positive for her. Thanks again! 🙂click to expand

Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
seriously give her a little time then call her on her tricks.


Posted by earlorg16definitely
She actually responded to me late last night and I think friendzoned me. She's been in abusive relationships in the past so shes extra guarded emotionally due to it.
The vibe I got from the message was that she wants to be friends first and develop a foundation before potentially investing any time and emotion into it, rather than just a flat out friendzoning. She wants to collaborate musically with me still, continue to hang out and the like and I feel if it was the type of friendzoning that was strictly platonic, she wouldn't even bother with hanging out at all.
We'll see how it goes I suppose, but does this sound like a situation worth investing in now?

Posted by earlorg16dam dude, she does need some space for sure - just stay busy yourself and be available to her when she needs you and soon hopefully things will change in her life for better and you will be a large part of that - she sounds worth it ...Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
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Posted by tctaYeah she is. I'm just a sprinter rather than a marathoner. I'll be there for her for sure and just gotta keep myself busy. Thanks for the advice! 🙂Posted by earlorg16dam dude, she does need some space for sure - just stay busy yourself and be available to her when she needs you and soon hopefully things will change in her life for better and you will be a large part of that - she sounds worth it ...Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
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Posted by earlorg16what do you mean a sprinter rather than a marathoner ? you want to see if this can go the distance don't you ? that takes time ...Posted by tctaYeah she is. I'm just a sprinter rather than a marathoner. I'll be there for her for sure and just gotta keep myself busy. Thanks for the advice! 🙂Posted by earlorg16dam dude, she does need some space for sure - just stay busy yourself and be available to her when she needs you and soon hopefully things will change in her life for better and you will be a large part of that - she sounds worth it ...Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
seriously give her a little time then call her on her tricks.click to expand

Posted by tctaYeah that I tend to move quickly and have to learn to pace myself instead. A flaw of mine for sure that I'm trying to fix.Posted by earlorg16what do you mean a sprinter rather than a marathoner ? you want to see if this can go the distance don't you ? that takes time ...Posted by tctaYeah she is. I'm just a sprinter rather than a marathoner. I'll be there for her for sure and just gotta keep myself busy. Thanks for the advice! 🙂Posted by earlorg16dam dude, she does need some space for sure - just stay busy yourself and be available to her when she needs you and soon hopefully things will change in her life for better and you will be a large part of that - she sounds worth it ...Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
seriously give her a little time then call her on her tricks.
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Posted by earlorg16we've all been there and a lot of us have gotten stuck there for a very long time - try it different and see what you think ...Posted by tctaYeah that I tend to move quickly and have to learn to pace myself instead. A flaw of mine for sure that I'm trying to fix.Posted by earlorg16what do you mean a sprinter rather than a marathoner ? you want to see if this can go the distance don't you ? that takes time ...Posted by tctaYeah she is. I'm just a sprinter rather than a marathoner. I'll be there for her for sure and just gotta keep myself busy. Thanks for the advice! 🙂Posted by earlorg16dam dude, she does need some space for sure - just stay busy yourself and be available to her when she needs you and soon hopefully things will change in her life for better and you will be a large part of that - she sounds worth it ...Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
seriously give her a little time then call her on her tricks.
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Posted by pinkbird03It's just fascinating because I've dealt with capricorns in the past and they usually open up to me very quickly, usually, on the first date. We'll get into all these deep convos, and be completely transparent immediately. We start dating pretty quickly and there's level of comfort that is extraordinary and unlike any other connection I've had. Usually it doesn't last due to other issues in their lives, but we still remain friends.
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.

Posted by earlorg16I've read that younger caps tend to move quickly. Older ones that are looking for the real deal take a lot longer.Posted by pinkbird03It's just fascinating because I've dealt with capricorns in the past and they usually open up to me very quickly, usually, on the first date. We'll get into all these deep convos, and be completely transparent immediately. We start dating pretty quickly and there's level of comfort that is extraordinary and unlike any other connection I've had. Usually it doesn't last due to other issues in their lives, but we still remain friends.
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.
It's not until recently that the more current capricorns I'm encountering are now taking it at a much slower pace, so I'm not used to it. But I think it'll be worth it at the end. It's just complicated because now there's a Leo that came back into my life that's showing interest and a Scorpio as well. It's tempting but also, I really like this Cap.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03I agree
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.

Posted by pinkbird03Interesting, as they've all been around the same age group. And to answer your question, ideally all 3 in one package 😉 but I'm not in a rush for marriage at the moment. I just want to not be single at the moment.Posted by earlorg16I've read that younger caps tend to move quickly. Older ones that are looking for the real deal take a lot longer.Posted by pinkbird03It's just fascinating because I've dealt with capricorns in the past and they usually open up to me very quickly, usually, on the first date. We'll get into all these deep convos, and be completely transparent immediately. We start dating pretty quickly and there's level of comfort that is extraordinary and unlike any other connection I've had. Usually it doesn't last due to other issues in their lives, but we still remain friends.
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.
It's not until recently that the more current capricorns I'm encountering are now taking it at a much slower pace, so I'm not used to it. But I think it'll be worth it at the end. It's just complicated because now there's a Leo that came back into my life that's showing interest and a Scorpio as well. It's tempting but also, I really like this Cap.
You have a lot of options. Why are you dating? For marriage, companionship, or sex?click to expand

Posted by ugMercuryMindI'm so sorry for your loss! It's been brutal this year yeah. I lost a friend too earlier in the year. :\Posted by earlorg16Posted by ugMercuryMindTurns out the reason for her disappearance, was because of the election and also due to her friend taking her own life. She's lost 2 friends this year alone due to suicide. I mean, she's pretty much had the worst week so I can see why she needed some space. We've been talking again, all I can do is be there for her at this point and not push anything. 2016 has been a pretty brutal year. :\
seriously give her a little time then call her on her tricks.
I lost a great friend in febuary also. It's a bad year.
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Posted by earlorg16To go with that, I forgot to mention, she's rarely been in monogamous relationships and has usually been in open relationships. Though she claims she does this to guard her due to abusive monogamous relationships in the past.Posted by pinkbird03Interesting, as they've all been around the same age group. And to answer your question, ideally all 3 in one package 😉 but I'm not in a rush for marriage at the moment. I just want to not be single at the moment.Posted by earlorg16I've read that younger caps tend to move quickly. Older ones that are looking for the real deal take a lot longer.Posted by pinkbird03It's just fascinating because I've dealt with capricorns in the past and they usually open up to me very quickly, usually, on the first date. We'll get into all these deep convos, and be completely transparent immediately. We start dating pretty quickly and there's level of comfort that is extraordinary and unlike any other connection I've had. Usually it doesn't last due to other issues in their lives, but we still remain friends.
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.
It's not until recently that the more current capricorns I'm encountering are now taking it at a much slower pace, so I'm not used to it. But I think it'll be worth it at the end. It's just complicated because now there's a Leo that came back into my life that's showing interest and a Scorpio as well. It's tempting but also, I really like this Cap.
You have a lot of options. Why are you dating? For marriage, companionship, or sex?
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Posted by earlorg16How old were they?Posted by pinkbird03Interesting, as they've all been around the same age group. And to answer your question, ideally all 3 in one package 😉 but I'm not in a rush for marriage at the moment. I just want to not be single at the moment.Posted by earlorg16I've read that younger caps tend to move quickly. Older ones that are looking for the real deal take a lot longer.Posted by pinkbird03It's just fascinating because I've dealt with capricorns in the past and they usually open up to me very quickly, usually, on the first date. We'll get into all these deep convos, and be completely transparent immediately. We start dating pretty quickly and there's level of comfort that is extraordinary and unlike any other connection I've had. Usually it doesn't last due to other issues in their lives, but we still remain friends.
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.
It's not until recently that the more current capricorns I'm encountering are now taking it at a much slower pace, so I'm not used to it. But I think it'll be worth it at the end. It's just complicated because now there's a Leo that came back into my life that's showing interest and a Scorpio as well. It's tempting but also, I really like this Cap.
You have a lot of options. Why are you dating? For marriage, companionship, or sex?
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Posted by earlorg16Believe her.Posted by earlorg16To go with that, I forgot to mention, she's rarely been in monogamous relationships and has usually been in open relationships. Though she claims she does this to guard her due to abusive monogamous relationships in the past.Posted by pinkbird03Interesting, as they've all been around the same age group. And to answer your question, ideally all 3 in one package 😉 but I'm not in a rush for marriage at the moment. I just want to not be single at the moment.Posted by earlorg16I've read that younger caps tend to move quickly. Older ones that are looking for the real deal take a lot longer.Posted by pinkbird03It's just fascinating because I've dealt with capricorns in the past and they usually open up to me very quickly, usually, on the first date. We'll get into all these deep convos, and be completely transparent immediately. We start dating pretty quickly and there's level of comfort that is extraordinary and unlike any other connection I've had. Usually it doesn't last due to other issues in their lives, but we still remain friends.
@caplocksaid once told me that Capricorns are a lot like onions. They have many many layers and you have to keep pealing them off to get to know this person.
It took me 6 months to really discover a totally new side, one that is openly emotional and completely sensitive.
So when others say be patient, they mean for several months. They don't share their feelings until they feel absolutely comfortable.
It's not until recently that the more current capricorns I'm encountering are now taking it at a much slower pace, so I'm not used to it. But I think it'll be worth it at the end. It's just complicated because now there's a Leo that came back into my life that's showing interest and a Scorpio as well. It's tempting but also, I really like this Cap.
You have a lot of options. Why are you dating? For marriage, companionship, or sex?
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Posted by earlorg16Ohh the guy I'm talking to is 36. I don't know whats considered young for Capricorns. Maybe when they aren't settled down yet and financially secure
@pinkbird03 around mid 20's

Posted by ugMercuryMindAre you a Capricorn? I must say it's very surprising to see new things about a person you thought you already knew well. It almost makes you feel special that they are letting you see this side of them that the hide from everyone else. For me, this all started this week actually.
And having her saying that and thinking about other things she said I could see her emotional thoughts in that and other things.

Posted by ugMercuryMindEverything seems so right. Like the kind of relationship most of us dream about!Posted by pinkbird03No.Posted by ugMercuryMindAre you a Capricorn? I must say it's very surprising to see new things about a person you thought you already knew well. It almost makes you feel special that they are letting you see this side of them that the hide from everyone else. For me, this all started this week actually.
And having her saying that and thinking about other things she said I could see her emotional thoughts in that and other things.
Well this cap girl is someone I wish I would have meet twenty years ago. I would have never had to look for another person at all. I wonder where she was back then and why I never knew her then. Like I know everything about her but just waiting on her to tell me her side in her own words. It is like she knows everything about me also but wants my words in detail.
I always felt like she made me feel special in ways no one else has. I do wonder some times if she felt the same as I hope she did. I don't feel like she ever really did not be truthful to me as she had her own way of letting me know at times she may have not told me the whole story. I believe her most biggest issue is trust but that could be said about me also.
What's funny is I liked her, for her....I actually got to love the person and not just her good looks. I don't see that happening with anyone else again or in the future even coming close to the level that she does. She also can be very good at challenging me at things to, which is like mind sex but with emotion feelings to long for day after. It,s very hard for someone to bring that level of awareness to and about me.
So for me it started kind of soon. She always has me feeling some kind of way, that's for sure, upside down, inside out, where we go nobody knows. I always want her in my corner and the otherside of the door.
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Posted by Capri-sunHaha, I think my venus in Aries and Gemini mars has an influence on my lack of patience. 😢Posted by earlorg16I don't understand how you lack patience. You're a Taurus lol.
This is going to be a long dragged out chase. We met yesterday and talked things out. Is she gonna be worth the wait? We'll find out! Gotta peel the layers of the onion so to speak right? I just don't think I'll have the patience for it but we'll see.
The Taurus guy I know will disappear for one time 6 months, the most recent time a year. He claims I touched his soul that's why he resurfaces after these extended periods.
Only you know what you can handle. If you feel incompatible, don't make the investment. Keep her as a platonic friend.
Seriously it could be awhile.click to expand
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But I also saw an old partner there, one that just decided to ghost me after we had dated for a month. She didn't say a word to me, and avoided all eye contact. The cap noticed and asked what was going on. I was honest and told her whats up, and the cap told me she hates people who do that sorta shit. She was real AF. We connected even more. She told me she didn't want me to go but that her sister and her needed to talk about stuff. I drove them home and during the ride, I asked if we could go on a date together. She started blushing, her roomie and sister heard, and it got real quiet in the car. Her sister liked me a lot and I saw her crossing her fingers in my rearview mirror. The Cap agreed to it, and stated, how's Friday? When she left my car, her sis begged me to stay but I told her they needed their sister time. The cap kissed me and wished me goodnight.
Today is Thursday. Donald Trump won the election. She's been actively protesting, posting things on social media and the like. I texted her Wednesday to see how she was doing and she said she was devastated and asked how I was. I told her that I'd be here for her through it all. No response. I texted today and no response. I don't think Friday is gonna happen anymore. She likes my posts still, but doesn't answer when I tried to call or my texts.
Caps, should I move on or hang in there and be patient? She claims she hates ghosting and doesn't do it, yet, here we are. Just for the record, she's an Aries rising, Cancer moon, Cap Sun, Pisces Venus.