Mind Game

I haven't heard from him for several days now - I am finding it hard to ignore him. He said he is going to call me on last Wed about get-together on Fri, but did not hear from him. So I left a message. He was out of town over the weekend. Now that weekend is over...gosh, how can I just *ignore* him? If I keep contact him (email or phone call), they say I won't get his attention...I seriously want to move on but find it difficult to do that too. I feel like I am stuck😢

Peachcow - did you go out with any of the other guys you mentioned?

Yes - but I am not really interested in the guys I saw over the weekend although they are nice, I am just not attracted to them. I am going to see one guy this Friday, which I am excited about since I like him a lot as *friend*. I have another one who is coming back from his biz trip...but when my heart in someone, my tendency to want to be with him and not so interested in other guys even though those two could be good prospects...I am finding it hard to be open-minded for those new guys, I guess.

Oh, this new guy I saw on last Friday is a cap. He seemed interested in me (took me to a dinner, etc) and said he'd call on the weekend to see if we can get together. Guess what? he hasn't called me...it is a cap thing....

I met him at the beginning of May so about a month. The first impression I had was - stay away from him! By the time I saw him second time (we talked on the phone almost everyday until we met the second time), there was very strong attraction - I felt it from both sides. I tried to think all the reasons not to like him - but haven't been successful at it. It really seems he called me when I was not paying attention to him. My feeling has been growing day by day when I am not seeing him and it is to the point that I want to tell him my feelings but not sure if it is a good idea.

Peachcow...maybe try calling him and joke with him a little. Don't sound serious, but joke and say..."hey stranger; haven't heard from you in a while. how are things?" Make it casual and then go from there. He'll probably tell you that he's been so busy and yada yada because they tend to have a very focused mind. If there is a lot going on in their lives they won't put the ladies first. They like to fix the bigger issues so that they can concentrate on you. This is just what I've noticed from mine. If you truely like him though...there's no harm in telling him just that. You just don't want to seem too desperate. I think they prefer less complicated women who are laid back and honest. It makes life a lot easier. So just be straight with him and don't fret about the things that he does too much. Usually when I start to analyze the situation and my inner beast starts telling me to just can him there he comes right back around the corner. And they always have a really good explanation. I'm learning slowly. haha. Anyway...I hope that gives you a little more comfort. 🙂

An example is that I really thought that mine didn't like me anymore because he was getting so stand offish. Well I ended up confronting him on it in a very calm manner. He ended up telling me that he's been wanting to talk to me for so long, but that he hasn't had the chance to be alone with me because we're always around my brother. He admitted that he's uncomfortable with the fact that he likes me and my brother is one of his best friends. But that he really liked me and had been wanting to hold me for the longest time. Well now my brother is okay with all of it and it's out in the open. We both agreed that because we had just gotten out of serious relationships that we should just go with the flow and not jump right into something just yet. Now we're on the same page and he respects me so much more for having talked to him. Underneath all of that goat exterior they are very romantic I think and they scare themselves quite frequently about things we wouldn't think that they do. Okay...I'm done preaching. hehe.

Hi gemgem, yeah, I want to be honest with him about my feelings for him. I am looking for the right timing though since a week ago or so he told me that we don't know each other well enough to be serious yet. I agree with him. But at the same time, it probably doesn't hurt to let him know how I feel about him. I don't want to rush into a relationship, neither. I have no clue where those strong feelings are coming from...this is the first time after my ex I am having this much feeling. I got to find a way to tell him without sounding too corny.

Since I emailed him today saying hi. I will wait until tomorrow to call him?

That sounds like a good idea. I feel the same way. I didn't know I was going to feel this way about someone so quickly, but as corny as I may sound right now usually I pray to God every time that I fall out of a relationship. I pray that the next guy will have different qualities from what I've learned in other relationships. This time he showed up really quick and I know that I could fall very easily. I think I just need to learn to take it slow because in my last relationship we went a little too fast. This is a lesson. So maybe you're learning something here. haha. Patience. Yuck. Don't you hate it? You can tell him without getting corny. I would tell him just what you told me. That you want to take things slow, but that you really like him and you didn't know that you'd like someone this soon. Honesty is key. And that doesn't sound too corny. It's real. 🙂

gemgem, I just called him and talked with him...could not help it. He answered the phone and said "I know your voice" We talked for a while - asked him how his trip was...first thing he said was that he did not meet a girl😉 I love how he is up-front about things. And he told things he did with his buddy. Then he apologized not responding to my messages🙂 that he was just sooo busy with his work. He said he is not looking for other girls because he made a connection with a wonderful woman (referring me off course)! No I did not say what I was going to say because I did not find timing and he had to go back to his work. We planned to meet on Thursday to go to a movie. I hope I will find the chance then.

Must be the mindless playing games again

How long/far these cappie have to play games? Is there an end to it?

I'm curious to find that out as well. I mean it's probably completely logical to them, but I'm definetely feeling it more and more with this one each time I want to give up he comes right back something so sweet. It's addicting isn't it? haha.

This is what I think or more like guess at this point. They need time to be sure about the person they choose; they are cautious people, you know. Many of us don't necessary express it but the cappie are honest people and they don't want to lead people on. Until the point that they are committed to a person, they will repeat the "come & go" and if the person they are considering went through all of his ups & downs, it proves something to him...not sure if it is true, but by observing my cap girlfriends, they are not most stable people (they have clear ups & downs) and that is part of it too that they come and go, I think...

Yeah you're probably right. My best girlfriend is a capricorn and she is very up and down. She pretty much told me that a capricorn would be good for me because it will teach me to have patience. haha. And to go slowly. It turns me on more when a guy is mature like that and tells me exactly what he's doing or what's on his mind rather than leading me on. So I guess a capricorn would be great for me. It's funny. This psychic lady came up to me at my work and it was the strangest encounter. She told me all of this stuff about myself that only I knew and she said that regardless of what astral charts will say I'm supposed to be with a capricorn. No matter how many men I go through I will end up with a capricorn. Strange huh? I thought it was.

gemgem, my last relationship (or tried to have one) after my divorce moved way too quickly as well (gosh do we share some karmic connection?😉) And I think my cap is good for me since I do need to be more careful and need patience to let things develop before getting into something deeper. It is a lesson as you said.

I appreciate your comments and advice🙂

gemgem,
I am going throught the same thing with the Cappy I am seing he says how much he wants to see me then I don't hear from him the rest of the night, then it happens again, but do I give up? no I keeping giving him chances for some reason I am drawn to him and I can't get enough but I feel kind of mad at him and he knows but some how he seems to get me to change my mind and feel almost bad about it, Mind games he does like to play, I was telling my fellow fish about this one and they have given me some good advice, But I will continue this mad game for a bit yet then this fish will become a man eater and blow this cappy out of the water. LOL I can only take so much of the mind games.
Waterbaby

a mind less capricorn has no end it is the never ending game. kind of sick hu

Yeah waterbaby...just know that PATIENCE is key here. Unfortunately I have none...so I think this may be a test from God for me to sloooow the hell down. I do tend to rush things in all events of my life. The last relationship went capoot on me because I did that...so maybe I'm supposed to take this one even slower in order for something to happen and WORK. Know what I mean? Same goes for any of us I'm sure. There's a lesson to be learned in everything that happens. I talked with my best girlfriend who is a capricorn and she knows every detail in and out. She told me he's definetely just scared and it's not of hurting me it's of him hurting himself. He's not emotionally ready and if that's the case then he could ultimately hurt the relationship. She also said he needs to grow some balls and get on the band wagon before someone else takes my sweet ass away! hahaha. I love her! Just hang in there girls. It's annoying as hell I know.
OJ...why the mind games? If you say all of these wonderful things are said then what gives? I mean what if someone else comes along and takes away MAYBE the one girl that you really cared about and wanted something with? 😉

Happened a long time ago, your God did it, so nothing left to fight for, just keep going till it all ends.

Hey guys! My cap is acting just as being described 😢 I saw him last night and the mixed signals just kill me. I sent him an email this morning letting him know how I feel about him. I found it?s difficult to do it in person since he has this barrier around him make it inaccessible. Plus I am not use to pursue a guy, so it makes harder. I am not expecting to hear a response from him, but hope that we can talk when next time we see each other. At least now he knows how I feel?yeah, without patience, there will be no chance with any cap, it seems. I haven?t figured out what it is that I am so drawn to him (only thing that explains is that horoscope?it is amazing how many aspects are going for us), but I think it is worth my patience.

I think that they see things as black and white peachcow...so it's an endless battle. Just like OJ said. hehe. Yeah...I'm just going to have to keep myself busy so I don't think about his penetrating eyes 24/7. It's like he looks right through me. haha. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

I also think that they go through an interviewing process. It's like if they like you more then they act more standoffish...what is that? I don't get it. Too bad there aren't more male capricorns to bounce off of on this message board.

This is what I think...if they like you more then they keep the distance...they don't want their emotion to take over. I read somewhere about self-control...they want to make a sound decision and do not totally trust the emotional thing. Once they are committed, they say, the cappies are very loyal and devoted partner.

Yep you're right peach. I read that too. That's what I was going to tell you about today. We went out last night with my brother AS USUAL. Our friend just got a new house with a couple other people and we wanted to go have some drinks and what not. Well...we partied all night and my brother stayed. My capricorn and I had to work today so I had to drive him back to his car. Well he was hammered and we were walking and talking. I told him straight out that I had been trying to act like I didn't like him and was trying not to call because I was afraid of liking him and he said that he was doing the same thing to me. He then proceeded to tell me again that his head wasn't in the right place to have a relationship and that it would be doomed if he even tried. So I asked him if he would be jealous then if I started dating other guys. He said, "no." And so I said..."oh okay. well then you couldn't like me that much to be okay with me dating other guys." He then said, "well I guess I would be a little jealous yes, but is that really what you want?" I told him no. He asked me why I liked him so much if he wasn't giving me the kind of attention that I needed. I told him because of the things that you say to me, the way that you are with me when we're alone among other things. I told him that there were times when I wanted to never call, but I don't like to ignore my feelings entirely. He told me that he wouldn't like that very much and that he really hadn't met anyone that he could see as girlfriend material except for me. That confused the hell out of me. So we drove home and he couldn't drive drunk so we slept next to eachother. I started to joke around and said I should just erase his number because he never calls and what's the point. He kept grabbing me and kissing me and saying 'no, don't do that' and then passing out. I'm not sure what to think here peach. I know that was long winded, but does anyone know what the hell is going on? My heart is really ouchy today...could be the come down from partying and then not getting what I want. But it hurts...😢

gemgem
hey thanks for the advice I guess the game continues he said 2 days ago that right now we are kind of friends with benefits he's not ready for a relationship yet, well I'm cool with that I also just got out of a long term relationship, But then he must have texted me 10 times on Saturday saying he needs to see me, I must be seeing another guy, just so many messages about us and wanting to be with me, I don't get this man I really like him but he's going to lose me playing these games. He won't even let his X know that we hang out she's dating his X best friend she left him for the guy 3 years ago. I can put up with a lot but this is bringing me down, My Cappy better get his butt on the Band Wagon before I kick his butt Off, I want to know what direction we are taking but I can't wait forever!! One day at a time is cool with me I can go with the flow but then he better stop making plans and breaking them or the no call no show crap. This is the 1st cappy I have been with, so maybe I need to adjust a little too.
Thanks again
Waterbaby

I wonder how long this friends with benefits thing lasts. I almost feel used and he told me not to feel that way. Well I do in a way because he never calls. I actually went as far as erasing his number last night. So I really can't call him now. He'll be wondering if I fell off the face of this earth.

Wish I could be of more help waterbaby, but now I feel very very confused. He tells me all of these things like he would want me as a girlfriend and what not and then he's gone.

A life of seeing cappies ? a full of sweetness and confusion. Gals, I am going though the same kind of thing. Gemgem, I can just feel your pain. My cappy and I look like staying as friends for a while as he is not ready for a relationship right now. I think it is good since even we try now I think it is doomed to fail since I don?t know if I am completely over my divorce yet. It is very hard for me because when you like someone so much, you want to spend as much time as you can, and call up and talk whenever, right? I cannot do that with him right now, which is a painful thing. But then, I tried to have a relationship last summer with a cancer boy (gosh he was in intense guy!) well he was ready and I wasn?t. I was not aware how much I was not ready. It lasted three months and ended painfully. I think my cappy is wise enough to know when the time is not right.

What I feel from him is that he really likes me but I can see he is not letting that feeling come first. To me he is taking it that seriously. You must have read it somewhere; cappies takes relationship and love *very* seriously. Sometimes, they have their emotion leak regardless of their self-control?they are human, they cannot perfectly hide it when they like someone. That is what we see when they are nice and affectionate and then we catch it. Then they go back to their reserved self. I am starting to think this is the cause of a *mind game*. I can clearly see my cappy needs some time to work on himself ? and he says so too. It is hard but if I want this to be a lasting relationship, I will need to wait for both of us to be really ready to be together. That is what I see. I don?t know what is going to happen to us but I sure am glad to know him since he is indeed a wonderful soul.

Gemgem
Well I went over to see him on Sunday night, and there is also this cancer that calls me and wants to go out, but for now I am really trying with this Cappy and the friends with Benefits thing isn't going to cut it forever, How about I fell asleep while watching a movie and he read all my text messages and then said nothing about it when I left but waited until Monday night at 12am and sent me 4 text messages about the messages that the cancer guy sent me!! Oh I feel that was invading my privacy what about U?? since he is not my boyfriend?? he said he can promise nothing so what am I suppose to do? Now he has made me feel so Bad that he even said maybe I am playing games it isn't like I wanted him to know that I'm talking to the cancer guy we just talk and he has no reason to be jealous I'm not his chic he said we are friends I'm going mad crazy with this Cappy but am I giving up? Nope there is something there and I want to know what it is and I'm going to keep seeing him. what is wrong with me?? I know that I can only wait so long should I give him a Year??

I feel like a major cry baby on here today I'm just stressed out over this.
Waterbaby

Peach and Greeneyedgem I agree with both of you on this. I actually talked to my mom's friend last night and she is a spiritual counselor. She told me that from what I had told her...I really needed to take the intitiative and talk to him. I realized that I really haven't put my foot down nicely to him. So last night I talked to him on the phone and he said that he really wanted to talk to me face to face about all of it on a sober level. So we're supposed to talk tonight after I get off of work. I'm kind of nervous, but not at the same time. I know what I want and I'm going to tell him. I already know that we're pretty much on the same level from what was said last night, but there's some things that I need to clear up for ME. Just little things. Waterbaby...I'm so sorry that you're going through that tug of war. You just need to tell him that he is definetely someone that you really like, but he needs to respect your privacy. If he plans to be friends so he says then he needs to act like it. I wouldn't bite his head off, but I'd definetely ask him how he sees you as a friend if he's doing such things. Know what I mean? That's just not fair to you. You're allowed to have other "friends."

Yeah you do need to be honest about how you feel, but it's all in the way that you say it. Just don't say anything giving him an ultimatium or pressuring him. Just state your case and if he doesn't like it then you need to ask him how much he really cares. I mean look at how much you're going through just to keep him in your life. See me and mine are on the same level of not rushing things, but on the other hand I need to hear from him more often and that's all I'm going to say to him. You just have to talk with him face to face and make sure that you're both on the same page. If you're not then it's time to move on, unless you can handle him doing what he's currently doing. I really think it's an interviewing process for them. It sounds really selfish and wrong, but in real life we all do the interviewing process. It's just that they're more selective and it's ANNOYING. haha. The next time you get a chance with him talk, but don't drag it out and go over things a million times like us gems tend to do.

Hey Peachcow and everyone.... I just joined the board -- found it very interesting.

If you don't mind me asking, Peachcow what does your cappy do for a living? How busy is he really? Is he at all musically inclined (musician) -- I'm a cancer dealing with a semi-relationship/friendship patience thing with a cap who is busy and a musician & also told me to wait, date others and maybe we'll see what happens? I'm wondering if there is a connection between caps and musicians? Has anyone experienced that? I'm out in California where the guys are a bit different from elsewhere. Just curious, where's everyone from? I'm finding it exceedingly difficult to date this Cappy -- mostly because we're opposites -- complete opposites. Strong, strong attraction, however but he's completely unavailable and almost proud of it, but he was honest that he wasn't ready for a relationship, had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't sure when he'd be ready--but likes to keep people hanging on. Is this typical Cap behavior? Also, he's in his early 30's. How old are the caps you're dealing with? Do they get better with age?

Hey girls...well low and behold he flaked on me last night. I don't understand it. I mean you tell someone you really want to talk to them face to face and you say I'll call you tomorrow and then nothing. Not even a courtesy call. Come on! He'll have some wonderful excuse though right? I fell asleep, I was really busy after work...blahblahblah. I mean what the hell? It takes one phone call to tell me that you can't make it or that you want to do it another day. I'm so pissed off today I could scream. And I'm going to work so I have to be super nice and smile like a fake crazy person. He's definetely going to feel my rath. 😢 Totally frustrating. This is when someone pushes me over the edge. Desertzen if you have cancer in you then I would just be prepared to be puzzled. I'm a gem with cancer rising. This boy is working me to the bone. I've never been more confused and puzzled. Yes he looooves music and that's where we connected on the first meeting. We could sit and listen to music all night together and be happy. However with that comes all of their other emotional hang ups. So just really take it slow and don't rush into the physical because it makes it easier for them to string you along. What's happening to you is what's happening with mine. Same scenario as well. The only difference is that mine is not 30; he's younger which makes it worse. He said that the main thing that is still bothering him is that I'm his best friend's sister and that we both just got out of serious relationships. GA! haha I'm going crazy.

Hey girls,

Have you read a book called ?He is Just not That Into You? by Greg Behrendt? Two of my guy friends handed me the same exact book ? I had to laugh about it!😉 It gives a lot of good clues on when guys are not that interested in us. At the same time, I believe cappies have their own way of dealing with ?just out of serious relationship? stuff ? it is confusing but seriously if you gals are looking for a relationship right away, you might consider someone else since a cap will take his time.

I don?t see my cap is into music. He is a real estate broker ? established and successful. He told me exactly what is going on with his life so that he is not ready for a relationship at this point. There is no guessing. He asked me to keep him in my dating pool so that is what I am going to do. If we meant to be we will end up being together however time it takes. If not, we won?t.

The book says, ?the word ?busy? is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction? They say ?Don?t waste your pretty? I was just contacted by a guy who seems a nice guy and an airline pilot?he is clearly interested in me; I can tell from his enthusiasm?I know it will be hard for me (since I like my cappy very much) but am going to be open-minded for what possibility this could lead to.

Greeneyedgem...he meant it when he said I love you. No guy I know says that when they don't mean it especially in your peticular situation. Mine said he loved me one night too and looked me right in the eyes when he said it....but did he mean it because we agreed on something and it was like one of those silly cosmic connections? or did he really mean it? Someone once told me that if the goes out of his way to show you he cares in front of people then he really does care. I mean the fact that mine gives me the best bear hugs and smells my hair just tickles me to death, but what's to happen with all of that if he doesn't call me? He is very very insecure however and I wish he wasn't because it makes a chase for me. 😢 Greeneyedgem...he loves you...it's just that the divorce isn't final and he probably is waiting for the right time. In the mean time just be there with him and be the nurturing type instead of the confused type. He may respond better to someone who seems stronger than him in certain cases. What do you think of my situation? I'm going insane. I just want him to hold me again....these games are insanity. It could be that scorpio rising he has.

Peachcow...I have heard of that many times, but I don't agree with it. I've had so many different scenarios in my life and they all ended up being different from that book. So don't believe all of it because everyone is going to be different. You're right that Capricorn's don't apply to that haha. I just can't read that stuff because it makes me more insane. I read a little bit of it and I was certain that a couple of guys weren't into me, but they honestly were and that's all I need. I'm happy that you and your capricorn have come to a solid ground though. I wish you the best.

Yeah you're probably right about mine. He's 23 years old. haha. And I'm soon to be 25 years old. It's just so frustrating. My mom went to wear he works today and was shopping and he helped her. She said just in his body language she could tell he's very insecure. He's constantly doing nervous things with his clothes and hair. I told her it's also probably because it's MY mom. You know? And he hasn't called me today. I'm so irritated. It's almost like he wants me to go away now. Has he heard of the courtesy call? Anyways...I think the reason why I hang on is because I have the cancer in me. Do you? And the thing with your Brian...it sounds really good actually. Maybe just don't call him at all and then when he calls you just don't be available. Start ignoring him the way he's doing to you. Start flaking. See if he picks up on it. That's what I think I'm going to do. It's just hard to play that game. But honestly...if mine doesn't get on the band wagon soon I'm going to start dating regardless. I think it's going to happen this weekend too because I'm GOING OUT! I think you should too. Maybe once he sees that you're always busy with other guys he'll get jealous. And if he gives you any guff for it you know you can put him in his place. That's ridiculous.

LOL. I know it's tough...and I agree with you. I think I'm in love too. I hate that. I get the same feelings you do when he calls. And you're probably right about him being embarassed around my mom and backing off. It's just so hurtful and they don't even know how it hurts. Yeah we'll both ignore them and see what happens. Not for a long time, but definetely be busy. I wish I could go to the beach! I live up in Northern Cal. So no beaches here; just lakes, which is still fun.

Oh and your chart sounds good to me. The fact that you have some capricorn in you is a major plus. I took this quiz on "what sign are you really?" I ended up being more of a taurus. I guess with the mix of air and water it made me more like a taurus. Interesting. You should go to www.alabe.com and click on the chart. Do a chart on yourself. It'll explain all of that to you.

Yes I'm glad that we have the same mind set as well. Yeah I hate that when they say oh I miss you I want to hug you...well then DO IT! hahah. You lucky girl you live near the beach. Well have fun cooking with your munchkins and we'll chat manana! Good luck hon!

I will STAND STRONG!! haha. I'll keep myself busy this weekend for sure.

I feel ya' though...I'm soooooo full of heartache today. I'll have to take my mind off of it somehow. You keep yourself strong too greeneyedgem! Have a great weekend and I'll keep you posted. 🙂

You too! I'll try. I'm sure that I will considering my brother is taking me out tonight. My brother knows the situation and told me to stop analyzing it so much and just preoccupy myself. But we all know this right? haha. Yeah some caps are different than others. My friend Jess is so boisterous, but my crush is really shy and only has occasional outbursts.

Oh man this is getting rough already and it's been four days!!!! I'm beginning to think that he just isn't into me anymore. What I do know though is that his friend who is a girl had her birthday yesterday, so maybe he was with her. That boils my blood. We're probably going to have a get together tonight. I'm wondering if my brother will invite him over or not. I don't know. If guys usually do this I take it as a hint that they are over it and not interested anymore, but with him he always shows back up with more sweet things to say. I almost want to just ignore him the next time that I see him or take him aside and tell him how it is because I really think that's messed up of him to tell me he's going to call me because he wants to talk face to face and then he flakes. And not one call to say sorry. My friend told me to stop going for the little boys and go for an older one. I don't know...been there done that...too too serious for me. I'll just go to work today and be a happy girl and then we'll party tonight and if he shows up I may actually just ignore him knowing me. I don't know...AAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! haha.

gemgem~
its been four days for me as well and bot do I want to call! I went to the movies today with barret and we had a good time and Im going out with my friend Mike tonight but I still can not get brian out of my head. I want so bad to call him and just be like hey whats up.....but I cant I have to be strong! Yea if i were you and i saw him tonight I would try to keep the distance although i know it would be hard...I would give him something to think about. like I wonder how come she has not come up to me...she has not called whats the deal? I dont know better said than done though huh...well I hope you have a good night keep me posted!

Yeah I'm totally just over it I think. Not one call. My brother told me this morning that he always flakes...he is a flake and he even flakes on him all of the time too. So I don't know...immaturity I guess. I'm just going on with my life and I'm going to date and now he'll be wondering why I'm not around or calling him like I used to. That'll be a smack in the face. I'm just done worrying and thinking about it. I'd rather keep myself busy because he's obviously not concerning himself with me and he may have someone else occupying his time for him. I'm too good for this. He can come to me. Sorry...I'm trying to stay strong and I can't if I'm constantly worried about him. But I hope that your weekend went well. Keep me posted. 🙂

I hear ya girl! I know how it feels. I still have not herd from Brian its been 5 days...nothing new for me though lol I have gone two full weeks of not hearing a word from him and in the end I folded and called. I too feel that someone has to be occupying his time but whenever I do hear from him he says Oh I'v just been busy with work or going to the lake, riding but who really knows? Then I feel like a complete ass! I wish I could just date but my heart is not into it...all I want is him. I think its great that you can just get passed it. I feel like I have alot of time invested in this twisted situation with him (5 months) and I feel like if i just turn away now I will loose him or the lesson that im learning now. I know this sounds crazy and at times I can be a cooky bird, but I went to the physcic and she said to be patient and give it time, I also had my cards read and it too said that I needed to be patient. I dont know... do you think I should pay to much attention to that or should I just say thats crap and leave it up to god?....cause in the end God will have the fianle say.

Today was a hard day, I picked up the phone at least three times and was going to call. I was even trying to justify why i should. But each time I was like noooooo you have a deal with gemgem!! lol Im staying strong.....shoot if anything I know i can at least waite another week then try to challenge myself to a third!! lol I told you I could be a cooky bird!! anyhoo hope you have a nice evening and hey even if you are over your cappy... please come back to visit its been nice talking to you. talk to you soon.

Oh I'll be here definetely. I'm not entirely over him...I think I'm just over the situation. It's consuming me and it's not healthy. I just figure if I keep myself occupied then I won't worry so much about it. Then the day that he finally does call the confusion will be on his end. Know what I mean? In response to the psychic thing...I do believe in all of that stuff to an extent. Depends on who I'm getting advice from. Do they know things about me that only I would know? That type of thing. This lady came up to me one day and knew things that only I knew. She also told me that I would end up with a cap regardless of how many men I went through. So in essence...maybe what I need to be doing is learning patience and maybe that patience will pay off. He could very well be going through some sort of frenzy because he just got out of his relationship. Who knows? Only God will determine it all in the end even if a psychic tells us what she thinks. I think that both of us are being strong and I think that they need a taste of their own medicine. And I am a little coo coo myself. hahaha 🙂

so we will see if he calls me back?