Mind Game (Page 2)

Greeneyedgem...I was really bad last night. I broke down and called. I was sitting there thinking to myself that after five days there's got to be something wrong. I called him like a friend would call someone. He picked up of course. He said he was with a couple of his girlfriends and a guy and I told him that we could talk later, but I was calling him because I was contemplating never speaking to him again. I said it with a smile in my voice. I like to play with him. He said, "now why would you want to do something like that?" I said, "well I don't, but I feel like I should. You're a punk. You totally flaked." Mind you the entire time I'm very calm and not mad at all when I say these things. He said, "I know. I know. I'm being an asshole. I'm so sorry. I've had a lot going on in my life right now. It's no excuse, but atleast I'm being honest in telling you that I am being lazy about everything and stupid. But here we go again...talking when I'm not sober. Isn't this not what you wanted?" I just said, "yeah" because I didn't want to ruin his evening. He asked me what I was doing tomorrow because he had the day off. I said I was working from 11 to 7. So he said that he would call me at 7:30 pm. I said, "okaaay...I won't expect you." He laughed and said, "No...I have ADD and I do forget things a lot...still not an excuse, but I'll set my alarm for that time." The entire time I'm thinking in my head...if his ADD is that bad he needs help. haha. If you like someone you don't do that. But then again...everyone handles things differently...and I have to remember that book Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus. Men are logical and we are emotional. So that was it. What do you think? I totally broke our bet. But I'm proud of you! See you seem like you've got yours pegged already...mine's being an idiot right now. I don't think he's going to call either and that's the sad part. If he doesn't this time...I'm taking it as a hint. Otherwise I'm going to look like an idiot myself.

o.k. here is my take on it.. First of all its o.k. that you broke down and called its hard and I have done it before as well...lol. But let me tell you each time it gets easier. I think its great that you joked with him and that you were in good spirits. I think he will call, if he does not call dont fret just go another couple days without calling then give him another call. These men are weird and I for one feel like yes they like their space but the also like to feel wanted (i know you have read that capricorns need lots of compliments)I think thats its o.k. to call if we dont over step the bounderies. You are not and never be an idiot so dont even say that. If you really feel it in your gut, your body, and your mind that he could be the one then I would just go with the flow as hard as that is for us gems who want what we want when we want it! lol As far as his A.D.D. Do all capricorns have that? lol I just say that cause Brian will say o sorry I lost track of time or I was real busy at work or I spaced out. What I think happens is these caps get so involed in what they are doing and getting it done that they loose track of everything else (they can stay very focused especially at work.) and instead of calling and getting nagged at they avoid it all together. "smart men"! j/k

As far as having Brian pegged I can only wish! He called yesterday that one time that I missed the call, I left a message and he never called me back?hmm So what did I do... I called this a.m. he did not answer I left another message so we will see? I just feel if I take things slow give him his space, handle my situation, and just be there when he does call he will see that I do care and want him in my life. I am so sure of him that even after all my friends have said get over him hes NOT INTO YOU i have hung on. I can feel it when he holds me I can see when he looks at me... I just think hes scared im 28 and have two kids... Being with me will change his world...does he really want that? Maybe thats what the hold up is? I dont know but its frustrating...lol

I would say go with your gut,not your hurt feelings! hang in there kiddo if you think its worth it! Thats the only reason im still here.

these are things that Brian has said to me.

"Girls can Never figure me out"

"Good things come to those who waite"

"You have nothing to worry about"

hmmmmm what is your take on this.......CAPRICORN!! lol

You're so optimistic greeneyedgem. Thank you for your supportive words sweety. haha. I do feel like I'm crazy sometimes. I've definetely mellowed out since we talked though. He's just being young and stupid. I also think that listening to other people's pessimistic views can sometimes make us even more hurt and crazy...so I've decided not to talk to those people about it anymore and make it an issue between he and I. Sometimes when you get negative people involved it causes havoc. As far as Brian's words to you...I think he prides himself in women not being able to figure him out. And I think when he says the good things come to those who wait it means exactly that he wants you to be patient and not rush things. We have to take what they say at face value. They're really honest and that means everything they say is the TRUTH. haha. He's said some choice things to me as well, but I'm waiting for ACTION! haha. I'll keep you posted.

ya its the action that kills us!! Do we know anything about actions in capricorns? lol! I know they say cappies are honest but i have aslo read that some are liars? yikes! I mean he told me that he messed around with another girl...but was quick to say that was over and that she was cooky. And he told me about his roomate having this mad crush on him. But then there was My birthday, the paying for eveything, the dancing, the little kisses the I LOVE YOU he sang into my ear!! ahhhh can I have some of those freaking crazy pills!! Ill just keep on going like always! ya keep me posted!

also
if i have nothing to worry about what the hell is he out messing around with other girls for? I aksed if he slept with her he said no to both the girl and his roomate! and when I met him he had not been intiment with anyone in a long time! like months. I read somewhere that sex and love go hand & hand with cappies? I wonder how true that is? We have only been intiment one time a few months ago. and we controlled ourselves the first two months. So I figured that was good. He has also only been with a few people. Soooo who knows....hmmmmm crazy crazy

It's a toss up. I know for a fact mine has been messing around. I'm okay with it as long as I don't hear details. He never tells me that stuff, but I know he goes out with other girls. I mean when we first got physical he was dating someone...but they were "FRIENDS." And I know that he doesn't want girlfriends right now. He just doesn't want to rush things, but at the same time...he knows he's being stupid. That's why I think it's okay for us to date others as well because they are. You know? If he says you have nothing to worry about then he's probably not lying, however...if you know that he's messing around then you do have cause to worry. I would definetely ask him. I mean...what if you do get physical with him and you don't know where he's been? Yucky. haha. I honestly have no idea how many people mine is seeing, but I know he has a lot of girl "friends." That doesn't neccessarily mean that he's messing around with them. And then I have to think to myself he did say that I was the only girl so far that he could see being his girlfriend. Just think of the positive things he's said. Just continue to be the one girl that he really wants. I'm sure you know what I mean. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't date though. Date, but don't give him details if he asks. Just minimal stuff. Like..."I went out with so and so tonight and it was fun, but I don't want to talk about them..how r you? 🙂 You know what I mean?

Well this day couldn't get any worse...he hasn't called when he said he would, which we both knew was going to happen, my parent's split up today and it's my birthday, and now my dad's in the hospital because he freaked out so bad that he's having heart problems. I seriously don't think things could get any worse. Why does life do this? I don't get it. Is God trying to tell me something that I'm missing? What have I done wrong really? Men are becoming such a disappointment in my life right now. Or maybe that's emotion talking.

well first let me start by saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY!Im sorry you have to be going through this on your birthday. Im also sorry to hear about your mom and dad thats really to bad I hope that you father is o.k. sometimes when stuff like this happens it really does affect the heart... you can actually feel the pain! As far as "the idiot" ya just let it ride. Mine has not called eaither and i left two messages on his voice mail. And i did the unthinkable I talked to my stepmom and my bestfriend and they both gave me the "negative input" they said he makes you more sad than happy. Why waist your time? He does not call you and when he does you take that little bit and run with it. I know what they are saying and maybe im in denial...but what do you do? I have always had a boyfriend then I got married they are like you need to be alone to find yourself make yourself happy. I agree but its hard. I think I will try harder to back away from Brain. After you mentioned the book men are from mars and women are from venus I pulled mine out and read the chapter on men are like rubberbands. To try to make light of the situation...It did not work. lol go figure I think I will just have to take this one step at a time and follow your advice and just keep this issue between him and I and this board of course...lol Ill come here to vent. Im not calling him. I dont care how bad it hurts eats me up. I need to do this for myself.

As far as life... I think its God and I think he does this to us to make us stronger and to learn how to get through certain situations. You have done nothing wrong its just your time to learn something new God will not throw at you something he does not feel you can handle. You will get through this and when you do you will understand why. sucks doesnt it...lol

I hope things get better for you tonight...p.s. does he know that it is your Birthday? Today is my sisters birthday she is three.

talk to you soon~

🙂 Okay...so he did call just now. I was grinning from ear to ear and I didn't pick up until the last ring. I had to gloat a little. I knew he wouldn't be on time because he's probably at the river. It's way too sunny for him to not be. So...I answered and he was at the river. He said he was on his way home and would call me when he got there. We'll see if he does. Anyways...that made my day. He doesn't know it's my birthday, but I'll definetely say something about it. I needed something to make me happy because all of this other disaster was making me insane today. He said he was just honestly not a phone person and he doesn't like em'. I can respect that, but he still should call me. 😉 We'll see what happens.

I do agree with you on the God thing. He is definetely teaching me patience and independence from people. I have always needed the stimulation of other people and now it's like he's throwing me into the dark pit. I have to maintain balance in order to survive. hehe. God has strange powers doesn't he? hmmmm. Your family members are right. This is a test of you being alone without that male energy. You DO need to embrace your female energy and try to do things to keep your mind off of him a little. Like going out with friends or working out or hangin' with your kids. I know that's easier said than done because us gems obsess sometimes. But it really is what it is and I thought about it. The busier you are; the more he'll be around. And he's not going anywhere or he would've already. So just keep your wits about you.

As far as Brian...just another day in the abyss. He'll call. He's just being a typical goat and a bratty one at that. They're aweful unless you're around them 24/7 as a friend.

Big hugs.

Sometimes I think he's trying to test me. He did end up calling me back last night. He said that he had something very important to tell me and it may explain why he's been so wierd lately and distant. He said that I should've told him that it was my birthday too because he would've taken the day off to hang with me. I was like...oh that's sweet. I said, "well because you never call so I wouldn't have a chance." He said, "I know. I've been a jerk, but I want to tell you face to face why. I don't want a lot of people to know and it's going to effect me for like 10 years." So of course I tried guessing a million things and then I finally landed on it. Turns out he's been insecure about a dui. He said that it's probably a sign that he needs to get his shit together and start focusing on the future. I agreed with him and then the conversation just flowed. I told him that no matter what I was still going to like him. I told him I still thought he was a good person and just because he got something like that doesn't mean that I'm going to judge him. He said, "I love you for that." That was so sweet. Sometimes I thin he's holding back a bit though on all of his feelings because he told me that just because we got physical too soon didn't mean that he thought any less of me and that he had nothing but the upmost respect for me. He also said that it was just so comfortable having sex with me because it was like we were in our own little world where no one exsisted except us. Then he talked about his girl "friend" and how it was her birthday yesterday and he would've called off the day for me as well had he known. He said that he was thinking of dating her, but she found someone else and he was okay with it. I don't know why he tells me these things. He said he didn't want to tell me about her and that's also why he wasn't being as receptive. And of course it's still awkward around my brother. He's thinking of moving out with him still. I mean...what does this make me to him? Friends with benefits? I don't get it. I didn't get to finish that part of the conversation, but he did say too that he was a little embarassed about the dui because he knew he couldn't have a relationship. He said, "How am I supposed to have a relationship if I can't even take a girl out to dinner or something? I can only drive to and from work. I won't have enough money because I'm paying so much of it to the state." I felt so bad for him, but the entire time I was thinking...who was he worried about taking out? Then he said that it's the first time he's been okay with being single and not being in a relationship...he said he wants to be, but not at the same time. He's never been able to have so many female friends at once because his ex was a really jealous girl. So anyways...I don't know what to think. What do you think?

He did say..."I think it's good that we are attracted to eachother, yet we can still be friends." He said that was a good thing. Is this that slow process their always talking about? 😢

gemgem,
well it has been over a week since I've seen my cappy, he knew I had Sat free to be with him and on thursday said he now plans with friends coming in from Philadelphia guess I wasn't allowed to be a part of that! Really made me pissed off, now here it is Wed and haven't talked to him except through text what's up with that, He says in the text let me call you in a few mins never called me I finally went to bed. Haven't heard a word yet from him today (wed). I'm getting to the point of my give a damn is broken. Cappy men all the seem the same they are never ready for a relationship or even just dating in general, I could see if was just a month that his realtionship ended but it's been 3 years.!! It's been final for about 1 year. I could just kick his ass! I'm so sick of this crap, but I want the freak and it makes me mad at myself. Now I have been also going out with the cancer guy, now he wants a relationship he's already for it but I don't know if I want one that serious, even with the cappy I want to see him and be with him but I don't need to be his girlfriend yet I'm just sick if the mind games, no calls, no shows business. The cancer guy likes me a lot we've gone out 4 times and he's really into me, Cancers fall quick just like pisces but maybe even faster than pisces anyone know?? This cancer wants me to only see him and he's dead serious kind of freaks me out.
Back to the Cappy I have no idea what to think anymore I bet he doesn't call me until fri nite and I will have plans with someone else. Then he'll be all upset and complain how he hasn't seem me and was really looking forward to it and how much he misses me and oh don't I want him and I must be bored with him now. This is the game he plays. Does yours do this Gemgem—

Oh girls we are so sore today...I feel you both. Trust me...regardless if he calls or not I still don't get the validation that I would get from any other guy. They say the sweetest things to keep your tongue hanging out and then they're gone. Mine has a legit reason now, but I told him to never think that he can't talk to me about things that are bothering him or anything in general. Waterbaby...what is holding yours back? Does he have any GOOD excuses? That's my biggest thing. Excuses are such cop outs and I would rather here insecurities than that. Mine does not call me either. He's very scared about rushing things and he's my brother's really good friend. So there are obstacles. However...cancers will never be afraid to take an emotional risk if they truely feel love for someone. Capricorns will back off sooooo far, even if you're the girl of their dreams. This is what I've come to find. But you really have to find what's holding him back. If he doesn't reciprocate then I would just date around and not bother with him. He'll notice you're not calling and start calling you more.

Greeneyedgem...you seem out of sorts today. haha. I'm so sorry. I don't think that you're making excuses for him. I just think you're trying to understand. I do the same thing and all of my friends are like..."stop making excuses for him. he's just being a dip shiot." I always look at them and say, "you guys...they're not excuses. I really don't see him purposely doing something like this. I'm really trying to understand what's going on instead of being selfish." But that's also where we get hurt because we're too reliable and available. Brian is probably looking at the situation right now as fragile. He wants to make sure that everything is final with you and your divorce. In the meantime he's going to have fun and meet people. If you two are not WITH eachother then he has the right to date other girls as well. I know that's a hard thing to swallow, but me and my cap talked about that last night. We both admitted that it's hard because if you see them dating other people then you get a little jealous, but you need to be sure that that's who you want. Plus you are getting divorced...there's the possibility that he may feel you attaching yourself to him out of comfort. Just make sure you're not being too clingy. Just be there. You know what I mean? I know that there are things that mine wants to say to me, but hasn't because he doesn't want to rush it, but then he says sweet things like what I said earlier about us being the only two people and no one else exsisted. I mean who talks like that?!!! haha. It's annoyingly sweet.

Yeah it's difficult for sure. There's not much you can do to control the situation though unless you cut it off, but we don't want to do that do we? hehe. Just be patient...remember that. We have to keep telling eachother that. I mean what am I to think of our conversation last night. Was it good or was it bad? Or was it nothing? All the underlying things that he says...am I his friend with benefits girl? That would suck. "I only have the upmost respect for you...the upmost." He said it just like that. hahaha. I wish he would say something to my brother about it and then my brother would come and tell me like highschool stuff. hahahahaha. Childish me.

well the cappy texted me again, no call of course and wanted me to get him shirt from the concert I was going to, Yeah right like I did that. I'm just to the point now where I need to make a choice, I can't keep waiting for this guy to turn around, He is really sweet but so secretive and I feel like I don't know what he wants from me. At this point friends w/benefits would work but hell when I don't see him for 2 weeks where are the benefits?? I need to direct myself away from him and just stop calling him and see what happens, maybe he'll wake up if he does not hear from me. I'm such the sucker I fall for these men who want to play mind games I know Pisces can do it too but not as bad, I've kept guys hanging on a string but not this bad. Now I have this cancer guy who is sweet treats me so great and I just can't jump into it maybe due to the cappy clouding my mind, I swear when i say I'm drawn to him it's almost like I feel him thinking about me and I just end up at his house. I want him more each time but I feel I am only hurting myself and I might give up a good thing with the cancer guy. I'm a damn mess with men right now.

Yeah waterbaby...it's a matter of being straight with them I've noticed. Ask him flat out what you want to know. If he can't respond then tell him you're out of there. I've just come to the conclusion that it's okay for me and my cap to just go with the flow. We are so comfortable being physical with eachother and at the same time we really like eachother and are friends. The lesson here is...can you date around and still like someone a whole hell of a lot? I can...but it's hard. Girls are emotional; men are logical. They want to taste all the flavors at the candy store and then when they find that piece of candy they just can't live without they invest in it more. Just be the sweeter piece that he dreams about! hahahaha. I have strange metaphor for everything. What I want to know is...when a guy says "love you" in a sentence...does he really mean it? Is that what he really means, but he's using it in a casual sentence to mask it from being serious? He says that stuff a lot. He looked me right in the eyes one time and said, "I love you." But it was like in a way to where you say it like "I love that you think that way." One of those. And then the other night on the phone he said, "I love you for that." Does he really feel this way and he's afraid to rush it or something? I don't know..I'm analyzing too much, but I want to know.

Well...GEG...that makes me sad. I can't imagine how that hurt? Actually I can imagine how much that hurt. Because you two didn't have a label it's not entirely all bad, but because he lied and it's his roommate...not okay. I mean yeah the psychic has a little bit of a point, however, I don't think he deserves one ounce of sympathy from you. You deserve to be treated like a princess now. It's true that you shouldn't listen to your friends all of the time because it creates negative energy, but you should take into account their harsh words. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Give him the benefit of being your friend, but DO NOT...I repeat...DO NOT...let him have you physically. He's on suspension. If he thinks that he can go right back into your arms then he's sorely mistaken. You need to tell him that that incident has made you realize that he's not ready for a woman and you two should be friends. It SHOULD make him work harder, but I can't gurantee anything. And if he doesn't then tell him to kick rocks. BIIIIG HUGS!

LOL...AM....Your straight to the point....gotta love that

Atlantic Myst has some very strong points. I would listen to her. He doesn't deserve to breath the same air as you after all of that GEG. If I found out mine was lying to me about something like that...I would sever the ties real quick.

No disrespect intended but all of you are asking for trouble. What kind of relationship is it when he disappears, don't call when he say he will, find time to spend with everybody else except you, only communicate with you when he is drunk or consuming alcohol, and you basically do most of the calling. Seems to me like desparation.

I feel for greeneye because it is a terrible situation and I would not wish that on any one. But none of you really know what these men are doing when they disappear for days and weeks at a time. You have no clue who he is doing when you are not around.

Why would a man commit when you are already giving it up (sex)? And basically, he can have you whenever you want because you will answer the phone every time he calls. A MAN KNOWS WHEN YOU ARE EAGERED TO TALK AND SEE HIM. HE WILL SEE HOW FAR YOU WILL BEND.

My suggestion to each of you and all those out there obsession about these cappy men is to start looking at reality and how he is acting, and what you are getting out of it. Waiting on a divorce to become finalized or you are his friend's sister is not an excuse. Psychics will tell you anything and it is a way of keeping you STUCK!!!

ALL OF YOU DESERVE GOOD MEN, DON'T WASTE TIME JUST WAITING ON A MAN BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU THINK THE RELATIONSHIP WILL BE LIKE. DON'T EXPECT THEM TO CHANGE, THE WAY HE IS NOW IS THE WAY HE WILL BE 30 YEARS FROM NOW.

Ms Cappie's got a point. And I fully agree. If you can't be okay with eachother seeing other people then you're not going to be okay knowing who he's had sex with. Bottom line. I've just come to the comfort of knowing that I'm on his mind and if we want to date others we will. We both are in need of some dating. If we don't we'll never know if it's right. But my fellow green eyed gem 😉 I wish you luck hon and send you big hugs. Exactly what Atlantic Myst said, "F#@! em'."

And honestly...all people are different in relationships. It's all in being on the same page with that person...you don't neccessarily need to drop people out of your life complete. In your situation GEG...he did something pretty nasty and the fact that he did it to a family member doesn't say much for him.

I've retired girls...sorry. I just feel like I've reached some clarity and if I keep dwelling then nothing will ever be figured out. I'm just going to go with the flow and concentrate on my career and still have fun dating people. I will always love my cap, but I'm just happy that he can be in my life at all because we have an understanding now. Patience is a virtue. GEG you'll find your casanova I know it. Just stop letting idiots cloud your thoughts. He's a piece of caca. I wish you the best. I may be back, but I'm definetely taking a very long vacation from dxpnet. HUGS! 🙂

I would not forgive him either, he knew what he was doing no one made him do it so what kind of person is he?? Here you are willing to be everything to him and screws some chic! I would end it before he breaks your heart. I have ended it all with the Cappy, Fri was his last chance and he blew it so It wasn't easy but I can't do this anymore I'm done. I told him I missed him asked him if he was mad at me, please call me and if I didn't hear from him I would not bother with him any more. well he has never called since so F him, I feel like being really upset but what can I do we were only friends with Benefits, and we were going to see where that took us. I guess nowhere. So I am going to give this Cancer sweetie a chance.

greeneyedgemini,
I posted last that the Cappy guy had not called me he just sent me a text message saying I'm crazy. He's the weirdo who goes into hiding for days. I am done with cappy men for awhile. I feel bad because i really liked him and I wanted something more from him down the road but It's not happening. Plus he kept a huge secret about himself from me and it's something I was blown away by, so he's a big liar too.
I really hate feeling like this but what are we suppose to do about these men and their games and lies?? this fish is moving on.....

I made a sign!! lol

I was going to post it up in his neighborhood!! put it on all the cars on his street! But the sweetest revenge i think is to walk away and not say a word.

~imgaine this~

it has two pictures of him on the top

it says:

lost dog

Breed: lying son of a biotch

Answers to: Brian Andersen

Like to: Keep it in the famiy
(f*cks his cousin's girlfriend)

Last seen: F*cking "dirty crack whore named Jenna" (Brians words)

If found: please kick him in his tiny balls and send him to the pound!!!


its freaking hysterical if you want me to send it to your email send me a private message with your email! I will be more than happy to send it so you could enjoy a good laugh!

hey there myst, greeneyed, gemgem and waterbaby. im a cappy male! (yes! finally eh)
i my self do get confused with my fealings towards people. i remember back in the day when i was inlove with a aries from school. we were just seeing each other and she didn't want a serious rrelationship so soon. (it never worked out in the end anyway but i still do see her on occasion haha at her work) Durring my little love escapade i came across a girl who was showing all the signs of being interested. we talked over the phone lots and hung out a couple times at her place and mine. she put highlights in my hair haha! anyway i was so confused with my feelings. there was an aries girl i have been interested in for ages and this new girl who was interested in me. that sentence right there doesnt really explain the confusion i had but ya... i DID play stupid games with the new girl. she was like "why dont we just go out and see what happins". I on the other hand was interested in the aries girl more for some reason even tho i didnt have a chance at that time. (later on after we got to know each other better, me and the aries girl became good friends with benifits)so i kept on playin stupid games with the new girl. she was such a sweet girl, i wish i wasnt such a bastard to her. i know i screwed up my chance to have a girlfriend. (im single right now and have been for too long)

anyways... i think capps sometimes dont even know whats better for them even tho they think they know everything sometimes.
like u said myst: "what goes around comes around" and they will definitly learn something themselves.

sigh... my love life is a rollar coaster... i have a great taurus girl "friend" who supports me verry much but is not willing to commit. all i can do is be patient and keep on my search for an amazing girl. lol im actually a cappy that knows what he wants. yet i still like the buffer time before dating. i have to definitly get to know a girl before being comfortable with them.

FINALLY...a Capricorn male says something. LOL. Look at all of these crazy ladies oaf. We're nuts. haha. I wish I could crawl up inside of all of your capricorn heads and figure it out. Why the games? Why the romantic inuendo and then you're gone? haha. It's baffling. Mine is only able to show his feelings for me when he sees me, but we have to be alone. He is really uncomfortable with the fact that he's friends with my brother and likes me. Well now they're moving out together so I'm kind of screwed. He'll never get a backbone. So my motive right now is to make everything lighthearted when we're around my brother and be his friend so he losens up a little. That way if I'm friends with him then MAYBE he'll see that I'm the one he wants. I heard you have to have an aspect of you that is a Capricorn's friend in order for him to want more. And of course PATIENCE. Yuck. He did however say that he thinks it's a really good thing that we can be so attracted to eachother and still be friends. That's actually what I look for in a relationship.

greeneyed~ u see im not like ur cap... ive never f*cked around like that... it's hard to understand but from my experience i would say he knew the thing with the other girl he was boinking was not a real relationship. he wanted something genuine... much like i do. And about him saying it was all lies... i think THAT was a lie hehe he prolly said that to get the message clear i guess... his mind is made up... when capps get angrey they know of ways to make things worse.
i also dont get the never calling and dissapearing part too much... i've been keeping it cool and talkin to the girl "friend" i have crush on right now... we talk on the phone a couple times a week and i just love her cool, down to earth taurus self. both of our lives are quite busy right now but we seem to always fine sometime durring the week to hang out. every day i feel that shes the perfect one for me.... but i know we're never going to be in an intimate relationship... she just broke up with her bf a month ago and told me she wasnt ready for a relationship of being tied down... i dont want to loose her so i stay friends with her... if there was some love... some passion... lol some damn sex! everything would be perfect!

greeneyedgemini,
I sent you a private one with my email send me that sign u made! I also told u the cappy's dirty secret LOL

well well well, The Cappy has called again and has given me this huge sob story of why he hasn't called me and how much he misses me, well if he didn't blow all his $ $ $ he wouldn't be so depressed, He's college teacher makes a shit load of money but has done the most stupid things with it (Greeneyed I told U so u know) I just get take much more he wants me loan him 1700.00 dollars I can't I'm a single parent with my own bills to pay I can't worry about not being paid back. I would love to help him but I just know I'd give it too him and then he's be gone for 3 more weeks. That bastard how dare he he's blown me off for 3 weeks and now this.... I want to be there for him but I shouldn't because I'll get so wrapped up in his problems that I'll forget my own and then I'll be a big mess with more confusion in my life.
I need to stay a way from men for awhile they make me crazier than I am.
Cancer guy seem normal, but who knows he could be a freak too, I love men just not that Cappy he makes me MAD as hell. I need a big sign Greeneyed so u seem to be the pro start selling revenge signs on Ebay LOL I'll take 8 please

I was so mad when i wrote that excuse the typos

Waterbaby, me thinketh the time has come for you to go into "btich" mode and teach the "Mr. Cappy - I wanna your money" guy the lesson of his life.
This is what I would do to get my own back once and for all and walk away becoz even though you say he makes you crazy, angry etc., it's still coming through that he can sweet-talk you and you still have feelings for him in your posts.
So, you invite him over to yours - make it a nice romantic evening, let him "think" he is seducing you!!!! - when he talks about money, say...well maybe, maybe we'll see.....I'm open to persuasion!!!blah blah - we will talk about that later.....let him tell you all nice things YOU want to hear.....At the end of the nite you say, I've got something important I forgot to tell you - I've changed my mind about giving you a lend of that money, well minds are for changing!!:-).....shame you didn't follow through with the phone-calls etc. - absence make the heart grow fonder but presnece gets better results...and one of my results is I have a new guy - Mr. Cancer:-)who doesn't use me as a gravy-train like you.... Now, off you chu-chu into the nite and find your gravy from some other loser - don't bother to bother me again!!! Ciao!!

Believe me revenge is sweet..........no matter what people may say!!!

I'm sorry for your situaiton....but now you have the power.....so go use it.....

A x

waterbaby~

I will send you a private mes. reguarding your last post!! and you forgot to out your email in the pm!! lol

oaf~ when is your b-day and how old are you if I may ask? Also I wish you luck with your girl, give her time. Us girls go crazy for you cappies for some reason.... "suckers" j/k Im sure not all caps are a-holes! So do you think that he kept me around would it be fair to say that he kept me around for the "genuine relationship" then I pissed him off by catching him in his lies and shwoing up at his house!! lol

Hi gals & guys, amazing how many posts are made to this thread?I guess it is not just me dealing with Cappy?s game. Oaf ? I am so glad that you are appearing to this post?.I am a Taurus gal who has crush on a cap guy?I saw him this last Sunday and what I realize is he needs a friend right now since he is still recovering from his 5-yr dysfunctional relationship. As for myself, I got a divorce last year so not sure if I am ready to have a serious relationship right away. So timing-wise it is not too bad. But what I don?t understand is he seems to hide his emotions and feelings. I told him honestly how I felt about him, but it kind of freaked him out?I know chemistry is there and I know that chemistry doesn?t happen if one sided. All I know at this point is that I should be his friend and be patient. But I still am curious to know how he feels about me ? my gut feeling tells me that he has feeling for me?Oaf, how can I read the signs/signals from a cap guy? Also my cap tells me to keep dating and meeting other guys?although he says he is not seeing anyone but me right now. What is his intention? I think Taurus and Capricorn are made for each other ? he is my first cap but there is some deep understanding beyond words?your advice will be greatly appreciated. I?d be happy to provide mine from Taurus gal perspective.

greeneyedgemini~
i am 20 y/o and my bday is on January 12th.
and ya it really pissed him off that u found out. i dont think i can speek for him much more tho... he doesnt seem to be a good guy anyway.

peachcow~
well us capys are caucious so im guessing hes not showin his feeling right away because his last relationship ended in a devorce? hehe im not sure if being a cappy has much to do with his lack of showing emotion. i say dont pressure him to much or he'll freek out hehehe
as for reading our signals... hmmmm that is one hard question to answer. i actually like it more when my partner shows more signals so it's easier to make a move. And u right! this encounter with a taurus has made me beleive we are made for each other! i have never gotten along so well with another girl. it's just amazing how we can jus talk about anything so comfortably as if i've known her all my life.

Thanks, Oaf. I guess he shows his emotions (I can feel quite bit of anger and frustrations from him) but feelings. I can see he is very cautious. No pressure, or else he will freak out - yes, I got that one figured out. It is good to know that I can show signals😉 What kinds of signals are OK? I don?t want to pressure him so I try to make it subtle, but how much affection is not pressure? I guess I need to see his reaction to know this, huh? I am a Taurus so love giving/receiving affections, but how much can he handle coming from me?! I am going nuts ? all the guys who want to date me would be jealous of him😉. He has told me that he feels comfortable being with me. Also he told me that he does not date for dating sake and is attracted to me?so I guess there are things from him that indicate he is interested in me potentially more than being friends. Yeah, patience is the key.

Yeah GEG...they're definetely moving out together. I'm lucky we can still maintain a friendship I guess...but the likeing him part is still kind of annoying. I want to hang with him and we can't right now. It's aggrevating. I'll get over it.

Peachcow~ crazy seeing you again. I'm glad you two finally met. It was about time. 🙂 Sounds like he's going through the nursing of the wounds. I have the same questions for oaf about signs that they like you. I mean how do you know? I'm sure it's pretty easy to figure out with body language and if they just flat out tell you. I heard that if they distance themselves from you more...they probably like you more than you think and it's their way of not getting hurt. Not sure if that makes any sense, but in my case it may. Mine is very insecure and can't get past the fact that my brother is one of his good friends and roommates now.

Greeneyed~ I sent you my email I have no idea why I forgot my mind was on revenge signs at the time I guess LOL. You know I guess I just needed to see the light with the cappy and be smart and not let this man make a fool out of me, I was in the clouds and not thinking of myself only him now I am putting myself first and getting far away from that jackass! I am so glad I found this web site all of you have given great advice and much needed help! I have seen the light baby!! So I will be giving the cancer sweetie a chance and see how it goes too many men so little time LOL just kidding. Why is it as soon as you meet one guy and they want to be with you u end meeting 4 more sweeties and you want to give them all a try??

greeneyedgem,
OH that sign is perfect I showed all the guys at work what will happen to them if they lie and cheat boy they think we woman are mean only after they F**k us do we show our horns!! Yeah baby! I work with 5 men all day and I have seen it all it's kind of funny being the only chic here all day but it's good no cat fights. U are so pretty too thanks for the pic now I have an idea who I'm bitching with. Yeah I am gonna give them each a shot and see who is the best for me I don't want to ruin a good thing with the cancer he would be upset if he knew I was out with other guys, but I just got out of that 9 year bullsh*t with the Virgo then the Cappy turned out to be a freaking liar and weird O. Now I have this cancer that is head over heels man I want to be single now and just sample the buffet table LOL am I crazy or what? I don't mean I'll be having sex with a bunch of men just too make that clear. I just want to go out and have fun!!

What happened to oaf?

Yeah see...they come and go so quickly. haha. Just kidding.

hehe hey! im here!!

how many days has it been? have you girls been keepin count?
sheesh... hehehe

gemgem~ i do distance my self when i think things are not going so well... the thing with u ur cappy is that hes not comfortable seeing his best friends sister?
that is a wierd situation.... it would be worse is he messed things up and ur brother got angery at him and their friendship got messed up aswell... hehe those are the things i would be thinking about... but i dunno... ive never been in that situation so im not so sure...
sigh the signals...
there might not even be obvoius signals...
i would say if he's complementing you... hes thinking about you
i did that today to my taurus friend... i felt that little spark and added a sweet note... the thing is we're just friends and there's nothing official about our relationship exept that we're friends! haha makes it sort of fun... but it also makes me frustrated at home... when i think... im lonely in my bed... by my self...
hehe

oh ya signs... and signals... i would say the more i flirt the more obvoius it becomes... then when i notice that ive been noticed i simmer down...
hehe
i dunno... thinking about urself is so hard sometimes!

oh peachcow!~
show signs of your true self... and never fake it
i find women who are not fake sooo atractive.
if, at the moment, u feel like showing some affections, go for it. there is never too much affection aswell! hehe
if ur cappy is not too young, and knows how to take affections, then he should enjoy every bit of it... especially if he needs it... we need affection to feel good about ourselves... well i do atleast...
the little things make such a difference... especially after the night has ended and i recap how the night went.
now im sorry all these terms are not concrete either... like affection, "little things" and "true self"

i hope im helpin u all out !!

Yeah that helps oaf. 🙂 He told me that it did bother him a lot that my brother was his friend and roommate. The thing is...last night I went to see their new apartment and it's funny, but I was trying to act like I wasn't that interested in him. I mean like we were friends. He kept trying to talk to me after that because I was talking to his brother most of the time. Then throughout the night he would put his arm around me while he was talking with me, but only in front of his brother. I was really tired so I decided that I was ready to leave and he said, "don't leave yet. stay a while. are you sure you're okay to drive?" I said, that I had only had like two drinks and I was fine. So I grabbed my stuff and went to leave. He always hugs me before I leave somewhere. It's like his thing. He smells my hair when he does it and kisses my neck. I mean...what does that mean? I'm curious. Is it just as sweet that he does that than nothing else? Do caps do this as sweet little gestures? It's killing me that we can't just be together, but at the same time I know it's not healthy to be with someone just yet because he and I just got out of serious relationships not too long ago. I also saw that his ex is still trying to contact him. That made me back off a bit. I know that she's been acting psycho and saying that she wants to still remain friends with him, but sleep with him as well. It's ridiculous and he knows it. So we hugged goodnight and he said, "remember where we live. And stop by every now and then." I said, "maybe, I don't know." He said, "don't say that. atleast come by once a week." I laughed and said, "oh once a week. you've got this down to a science. i guess we'll have to see about that." And I started walking to my car. He said bye and I said bye. I was just kind of frustrated as to why he would continue conversation with an ex who has cheated on him. His brother reassured me that I was better and yada yada and that I was the one with the personality. What do you think oaf? I promised myself I wouldn't analyze, but when is it ever going to be okay for us to do anything without my brother being the obstacle.

I don't know..I think I just want him to take the upper hand and grow a back bone and take me! haha. His brother made a comment when we were out on the patio that if two people like eachother then why don't they do something about it because otherwise I might be gone. And he looked at both of us and said, "sorry guys. it's true." We both just looked at the ground and said, "there are obstacles."

Yeah screw him. He's being very juvenile. And if he tries to talk to anyone about you he obviously is trying to make himself look better by saying you're crazy because deep down he feels like a big penis head. haha.

well I went out with the cancer this weekend and we stopped at the store to get a few items and I ran into the Cappy, I could see he was upset that I was with the other guy but oh well I can't wait forever..... I was sure I'd get a mean text message but nothing so now he'll act like he's hurt even though I haven't seen him or heard from up until that point. I feel kind of bad but I know I shouldn't. I guess I'll see what happens.

Yeah waterbaby...don't feel bad. If he doesn't have the balls to take it further with you or even meet you half way then he's a fool. Let him be. You have fun with your cancer. Cancer's are more nurturing anyway for a watery soul. They like to be with the one that they love. 🙂 Good luck.

GEG...don't worry. Remember how old he is. If he is in fact a "lost dog" then he will eventually figure out what he wants and needs. He has to go through the motions..he's still young. You're gorgeous anyway sweety. You'll find someone who is going to treat you like a princess.