Need a Cap. Roadmap Interpreter! (for Cap. male)

Whewww I recently met a Cap male through an online dating site. I'm a Cancer. He took me to the "highest of highes" in seconds flat, LOL. We have TONS of things in common........and a few not so common (I'm not a cook - he's loves it, etc.). The things we have in common are incredible and I truely think we could be a force to be reckoned with if we ever got together as a couple. We have literally texted for hours at a time and he was very open, expressive, and filled with spur of the moment humor, which I love. We hit it off so well in fact that several times he threw in the "will you marry me" phrase, but via text. Initially because of schedules (we don't live very close to one another)we couldn't get together on a few days and when I had time avilable he didn't respond, then it seemed like it was his way or the highway when we did make a plan. Anyway, he was sending me tons of hilarious texts all the way up until we left to meet, even told me he was in a "silly" mood. When I arrived to meet him for the first time, he got up and hugged me, then we went to sit down. We hit it off and talked for almost 2 hrs, but none of the lighthearted silliness or talk of our commonalities like we had via text & phone. When we left, he hugged me goodbye, then told me to let him know what I thought.....didn't even walk me to my car, left me at the sidewalk. I texted him I had fun, he texted back & scolded me for texting & driving which I wasn't, I was at a red light. When I got home I texted him to let him know I'd send him an email which I did with a few positive thoughts from the meeting & told him to let me know what he thought........4 days and NOTHING yet. —? I will say, I was 5 minutes late for the date because the weather was horrible and people were driving like turtles! Could that have turned him off? He'd seen pictures of me prior, so I'm not sure it was my looks.....I'm cluless.

Have a few questions in case he resurfaces:
1.) Is this normal behavior in the beginning - to be be in communication for days, then nothing after a face to face meeting or if he liked me would he have at least had some response by now?
2.) His ad says he's looking for something very serious. Would he still act like a typical Cap. anyway?
3.) How long should I wait to send a lighthearted text or invite?
4.) How do Cap. men like their women to dress? I read basic stuff, but if you could elaborate that would be great!

Thanks.

Posted by CancerCusp
.....didn't even walk me to my car, left me at the sidewalk. I texted him I had fun, he texted back & scolded me for texting & driving which I wasn't, I was at a red light. When I got home I texted him to let him know I'd send him an email which I did with a few positive thoughts from the meeting & told him to let me know what he thought........4 days and NOTHING yet. —? I will say, I was 5 minutes late for the date because the weather was horrible and people were driving like turtles! Could that have turned him off? He'd seen pictures of me prior, so I'm not sure it was my looks.....I'm cluless.

Have a few questions in case he resurfaces:
1.) Is this normal behavior in the beginning - to be be in communication for days, then nothing after a face to face meeting or if he liked me would he have at least had some response by now?
2.) His ad says he's looking for something very serious. Would he still act like a typical Cap. anyway?
3.) How long should I wait to send a lighthearted text or invite?
4.) How do Cap. men like their women to dress? I read basic stuff, but if you could elaborate that would be great!

Thanks.

Well that wasn't very gentleman of him to walk you to your car...that would have irked the sh*t out of me. UGH! He cares if ur texting while driving but won't check to see if u make it to your car without getting sliced by someone waiting/lurking around or in your car? SMH.. Caps can def be controlling..it IS their way or the highway..usually for the best..LOL@ the scolding..yes Caps can be very "My way or the highway"..Some even fall into the "know it all Father figure" in a relationship..but they usually look out for the interest of both you and themselves..unless he has alot of LEO placements...As for looks.. I hope your looks matched your pics to a T and not one pound more! They'd notice that.

How to dress?? Think J. Crew/Banana Republic..Clean lines, polished, and WELL put together. They like women to look traditionally feminine..they're not too crazy about "androgynous" looks for women.

IF his moon is in LEO..you WILL be shopping more often than not, because they love their women to be kept UP with the latest fashion style s with Clothes, Hair, make-up..etc.

(Edited version of previous post)

ugh.. *TO NOT walk you...

Be careful, I'm just warning you, you can reject or accept that warning but any man faking a future with you by future talking ie marriage via text, taking you to highs and lows is not a novice online and can't be taken seriously, any man taking you to highs and lows is most likely dealing with some sort of mental illness or control issues, has a PHD in mindfucking (one or all of the above).

The unevolved Cap males can be very very charming and appear very very open (in the beginning), this could be his way of getting to know all of your flaws so he can use them as an excuse when he's being an unevolved jack ass, the easiest way to pick a person apart passively is to make it seem as if everything is okay, you can tell me anything, you see it as forming a connection/bond, he see an opportunity to control you through using your issues/habits/weaknesses to devalue you as a person, he's already doing it with how he's controlling the communication between the both of you, it's starting already--subtly.

I'm giving you the DARKSIDE of it, others may give you a more lighter scenerio but I've helped women with the same circumstances as yours, EXACT CAP BEHAVIOR, it's quite familiar to me, everything in me says run but inevitably you'll figure out what's best for you in the end.

My suggestion is stop text messaging him, let him do his part, the sign that he's not seriously looking is how some Cap men SCALE BACK significantly with communication, that's a sure sign he's attempting to control everything to diminish your expectations down to a minimum and yet still have you as an option, instead of him saying I'm not interested, some caps can be notorious for stringing a good available woman along, it's not personal, its an ego control thing.

My advice would be to get you a more balanced, normal, emotionally/mentally healthy Cap, you'll be so much better off but if you must go on his Bipolar roller coaster then you might want to see your doctor to get a script for Lorazepam.

Men that are serious don't blow you off nor do they ignore you, if this is your only option you're in trouble.

well said Tiki -- great advice

Lastly if you have a Cap with the notorious emotionally unavailable Aquarius in Venus placement, please just jump off the cliff now, far less painful (figuratively speaking).

Not walking me to my car would have been a deal breaker for me. Just saying...

I wouldn't message him. You did your part. The I had fun text and the e-mail as he asked. Now, let him come to you.

OH, the title of this thread was really cute, by the way... lol @ roadmap! Creative!

Posted by notJTG1984
Sorry if that makes no sense, drinking coffee, brain is working.

Made complete sense, explained it perfectly.

I agree with truecap on the dealbreaker.

Capricorn aside...

He should have walked you to your car. That's what a gentleman does.

He should, at least, acknowledge your response about the date even if he is still pondering his response. That's just courtesy.

Tread cautiously...

^^^ She's right.

I say listen to Tiki and run now, later will be more difficult, personal experience.