need help for broken capricorn?

Hey guys,my friend is very much depressed due to a recent break up with his girlfriend which is nearly a 5 year relationship,need some astrological and practical advice regarding this problem cos he is suffering a lot and I wanna do something more than jus supporting ,by the way he has sag rising on sun and cap rising on moon and his girlfriend was cancer...

In my experience caps always throw themselves into work when they are wounded. why not help him put closure to it by removing all of her stuff from his direct view, you know like old pictures, jewelry, that shirt she bought him... distractions usually help the inner turmoil. was it a bad break up?

Posted by MoonyEYES88
In my experience caps always throw themselves into work when they are wounded. why not help him put closure to it by removing all of her stuff from his direct view, you know like old pictures, jewelry, that shirt she bought him... distractions usually help the inner turmoil. was it a bad break up?

I know someone who did that and he ended up stuffing his emotions away and then ended up being emotionally unavailable and lack the ability to connect with people more than surface level. Now he turns into substance to feel happy and he really want to settle down but the lack of ability to connect makes him keep looking for things that doesn't exist

I hope your cap friend will not ended up like this cap. Nothing wrong with using work as distraction just make sure not to use it as avoidance as an attempt to not feel any pain. It will have bigger consequences. As a friend you simply have to use empathy and presence to be there for him. I don't mean just physically presence. Actually being emotionally presence with him and you will know what to do.

Posted by MoonyEYES88

help him put closure to it by removing all of her stuff from his direct view, you know like old pictures, jewelry, that shirt she bought him...

Terrible advice !!!

You don't to a person's personal possessions and start deciding what they will keep or throw away. You must be a horrendous friend if you step over boundaries like that.

Capricorns thrive under pressure .. they are notorious for bouts of depression, for when they are broken is when they find their will to rise above.

for being a friend of 5 years .... you don't really get the Goat, eh?

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Posted by MoonyEYES88

help him put closure to it by removing all of her stuff from his direct view, you know like old pictures, jewelry, that shirt she bought him...

Terrible advice !!!

You don't to a person's personal possessions and start deciding what they will keep or throw away. You must be a horrendous friend if you step over boundaries like that.

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oh look whose back to stir the pot. I would expect nothing greater of you. No one said anything about throwing stuff away.... taking reminders out of direct view is part of the coping process. it is not healthy to keep reminding oneself through sentiments of what could have been.

Posted by MoonyEYES88

.... taking reminders out of direct view is part of the coping process. it is not healthy to keep reminding oneself through sentiments of what could have been.

It's not up to YOU to decide that. You cannot decide the coping process of another person.

YOU cannot decide what is healthy for anyone except you.



Let me guess ... that's too far above your ability to rationalize something so elementary.

Let him figure out. Stop butting in.

lol please consult all psychology resources and get back to me

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Posted by MoonyEYES88

.... taking reminders out of direct view is part of the coping process. it is not healthy to keep reminding oneself through sentiments of what could have been.

Let me guess ... that's too far above your ability to rationalize something so elementary.

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the concept is this : if someone is on a diet they dont typically have cupcakes and cookies out in front of them to test their will power, its the same principle. let me know if you need a better break down muffin

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Posted by MoonyEYES88

.... taking reminders out of direct view is part of the coping process. it is not healthy to keep reminding oneself through sentiments of what could have been.

Let me guess ... that's too far above your ability to rationalize something so elementary.

the concept is this : if someone is on a diet they dont typically have cupcakes and cookies out in front of them to test their will power, its the same principle. let me know if you need a better break down muffin

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YOU only know what YOU need. period !!!

You don't know what they need to test their will power.

You only know what YOU need.

Let me know if you need it be in simpler terms for you get it.

You must be a lousy friend, you have absolutely zero knowledge of right or wrong.