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@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him


if it wasn't for 10 years in age difference I'd be worried right now that we think about same person lol


I hope not, cos the one I went out with is NOT a catch. I definitely hope yours is better

he's got flaws I'll say it like that lol but I like him, has good potential too for better improvements but this one is much younger so can't be same person anyway lol but it really has a lot of similarities...anyway you're right there is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of his background plus many Arabic man are quite handsome or at least i saw those mostly lol


All the best with that girl, just my 2 cents make sure you are ok with him for who he is now, and not to bet on his potential. it can lead to heart break.

will see what happens with that still, for now it's not looking really good and unless it's their famous pullback it's pretty much over...even if it isn't that i'm not sure how much i'm comfortable with being together with someone who tends to disappear and knowing myself I'll rather go away than cope with that bs...
damn we wrote so much about that guy here, i think no other thread has this many pages about any of them lol and he turned out just a weirdo by default lol


I dunno your guy but it doesn't sound good to me, but do take your time to get to know him and know yourself, know your limit and don't be afraid to walk away if he can't give you what you want in a healthy relationship.

haha yea we talked a lot about this weirdo. Its a good chat with guys though, I enjoyed it. Hope everything learnt something out of it, I did as I'm intrigued by psychology and the triggers that make ppl do certain things.



well it started of with him rushing in too fast and as it couldn't go like that he started slowing down and eventually disappeared. I did my part to reassure him I'm being serious, if he doesn't get it yet or maybe doesn't want it then there is nothing more for me to do there. There's plenty of fish in the water as they say... and my lures are good looking lol
I like psychology a lot too, maybe that's why we ended up discussing those guys a lot lol


If he was rushing in too fast I see it as a red flag base on my own experience. I suspect he could be a commitment phobe, which I hope I am wrong for your sake.

Since you are also into psychology I highly recommend you to read this book - Man who can't love from Steven A. Carter


Considering I was in a relationship and he knew that I'd say he was rushing in fast. He literally said "I just want you to leave him" and "You deserve better" meanwhile we just started talking, how can he know that? I could be actually a bad person and my ex a very good one(it wasn't that ofc and he was right but how could he possibly know that?!). Anyway at start I took it as flirting only cause well it's online and not to be taken too seriously when you talk to people like that but he kept showing me he is serious and kinda got offended if I'm not taking him in that way so I changed my mind in that way.
Overall commitment phobe might be right actually. Considering he's single for a while, this all thing that happened with us I no longer think he's that serious. I think he wants to be but can't. Only thing I can tell so far is he doesn't want to lose me completely but can't commit to anything either so moving on from this, wherever life takes us so be it
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You're right he didn't know you or him, sounded like he wants to "win" by making you leave someone else for his ego. Then when he has you he is now back paddling.

You don't have to answer anyone here, just write down 5 things you like about this cap, not looks or money, then 5 things you don't like about him. Then 5 things you want in a healthy relationship and 5 deal breaker, then you know the answer to whether he is worth further investing
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@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him


if it wasn't for 10 years in age difference I'd be worried right now that we think about same person lol


I hope not, cos the one I went out with is NOT a catch. I definitely hope yours is better

he's got flaws I'll say it like that lol but I like him, has good potential too for better improvements but this one is much younger so can't be same person anyway lol but it really has a lot of similarities...anyway you're right there is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of his background plus many Arabic man are quite handsome or at least i saw those mostly lol


All the best with that girl, just my 2 cents make sure you are ok with him for who he is now, and not to bet on his potential. it can lead to heart break.

will see what happens with that still, for now it's not looking really good and unless it's their famous pullback it's pretty much over...even if it isn't that i'm not sure how much i'm comfortable with being together with someone who tends to disappear and knowing myself I'll rather go away than cope with that bs...
damn we wrote so much about that guy here, i think no other thread has this many pages about any of them lol and he turned out just a weirdo by default lol


I dunno your guy but it doesn't sound good to me, but do take your time to get to know him and know yourself, know your limit and don't be afraid to walk away if he can't give you what you want in a healthy relationship.

haha yea we talked a lot about this weirdo. Its a good chat with guys though, I enjoyed it. Hope everything learnt something out of it, I did as I'm intrigued by psychology and the triggers that make ppl do certain things.



well it started of with him rushing in too fast and as it couldn't go like that he started slowing down and eventually disappeared. I did my part to reassure him I'm being serious, if he doesn't get it yet or maybe doesn't want it then there is nothing more for me to do there. There's plenty of fish in the water as they say... and my lures are good looking lol
I like psychology a lot too, maybe that's why we ended up discussing those guys a lot lol
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If he was rushing in too fast I see it as a red flag base on my own experience. I suspect he could be a commitment phobe, which I hope I am wrong for your sake.

Since you are also into psychology I highly recommend you to read this book - Man who can't love from Steven A. Carter
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@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him


if it wasn't for 10 years in age difference I'd be worried right now that we think about same person lol


I hope not, cos the one I went out with is NOT a catch. I definitely hope yours is better

he's got flaws I'll say it like that lol but I like him, has good potential too for better improvements but this one is much younger so can't be same person anyway lol but it really has a lot of similarities...anyway you're right there is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of his background plus many Arabic man are quite handsome or at least i saw those mostly lol


All the best with that girl, just my 2 cents make sure you are ok with him for who he is now, and not to bet on his potential. it can lead to heart break.

will see what happens with that still, for now it's not looking really good and unless it's their famous pullback it's pretty much over...even if it isn't that i'm not sure how much i'm comfortable with being together with someone who tends to disappear and knowing myself I'll rather go away than cope with that bs...
damn we wrote so much about that guy here, i think no other thread has this many pages about any of them lol and he turned out just a weirdo by default lol
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I dunno your guy but it doesn't sound good to me, but do take your time to get to know him and know yourself, know your limit and don't be afraid to walk away if he can't give you what you want in a healthy relationship.

haha yea we talked a lot about this weirdo. Its a good chat with guys though, I enjoyed it. Hope everything learnt something out of it, I did as I'm intrigued by psychology and the triggers that make ppl do certain things.

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@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him


if it wasn't for 10 years in age difference I'd be worried right now that we think about same person lol


I hope not, cos the one I went out with is NOT a catch. I definitely hope yours is better

he's got flaws I'll say it like that lol but I like him, has good potential too for better improvements but this one is much younger so can't be same person anyway lol but it really has a lot of similarities...anyway you're right there is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of his background plus many Arabic man are quite handsome or at least i saw those mostly lol
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All the best with that girl, just my 2 cents make sure you are ok with him for who he is now, and not to bet on his potential. it can lead to heart break.
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@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him


if it wasn't for 10 years in age difference I'd be worried right now that we think about same person lol
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I hope not, cos the one I went out with is NOT a catch. I definitely hope yours is better
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^ That's how I felt on first date, but thought I would give him another chance with open mind to get to know him better.I think he doesn't put any effort to develop relationship with himself either .

It's all about his work and road rage LOL
@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him
@Malak It was more than just speeding, The way he cut corner and overtake ppl was as if he has lots of pent up frustration. Its Ok about not bad mouthing your ex, but you could at least make it brief about why didn't it work. As he asked me the same question as well...

His parents are only 20 mins away. He said he is lookign for someone with good family value but doesn't seem like he has good relationship with his own. Also telling me he is not a smoker but he already smoked twice tonight. First date he said only between drinks.

Basically no men should behaved the way he did tonight, he was not engaging, weird and absent. Unless something is up, not interested or he is just effed up. Either way it's not good.

My experience was awful tonight, I did not have fun, so not again.
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He picked me up and took me to dinner, I was so scared with the way he drives, the way he accelerate and overtook other was really aggressive. Even on empty street when he felt like turning to the street he would speed it up and did a really rough turn. He also space out a lot telling me hes just thinking about work.

He asked me the same questions again like when was my last bf. I asked him about him. He said last year but he has casual GF in between. I asked why things ended? he didin't want to answer he said too may reasons. this seems like a red flag.. if he can't talk about it means he is not over it.

During dinner he is really absent minded. he would reply work email or google work stuff. He seems to be numbing his emotional side with TV and work. Anyway He asked what will I be doing for xmas He said he is going away for a week. He doesn't want to see his parents, which appears that his relationship with his parents is pretty bad...

he said he hates crowds, used to got to bar but now he just prefer to stay at home. He even spent NYE alone at home last year...

He left me a few times, 1st time to "get something in the car" to smoke, then to wash his hands after shrimp, which is fair. Third time he went to buy heartburn tablet, 4th time he went to bathroom. I feel like he is totally absent Idk why he wants to see me.

When I went to wash my hands after my dinner I came out and he already paid and left, I looked up and he was waving at me from outside. Then he drove me home, he asked if I want to go to his to watch james bond movies. I shaked my head he said a bit late huh? I said mm yeah...

Then when we arrived he didn't try anything, he said he will talk to me soon. I said hope you feel better soon and good to see you. He said same enjoy your evening.

I honestly think this guy is emotionally unavailable. Other caps I know are not as absent as he is...
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I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

Lol sounds like he had some work stuff going on? It would be interesting to see what he meant by that comment. It seems he’s probably a bit overwhelmed with too much happening at once. Maybe in different parts of his life? I know they can be quite the overthinkers too!

Did you see him yet?


yes its work. I think he probably meant work in that comment, I just had to poke fun of it LOL

Not yet, I'm too busy planning for my weekend, I have a feeling he will be selfish and call me on a Saturday night, as he has no social life. he doesn't even consider other ppl are out, he thinks ppl are there to take his calls whenever he likes


Lol probably. It’s not the way he thinks about. I’m free, I wonder if she is?

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ah I see lol. we will see what happens
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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

Lol sounds like he had some work stuff going on? It would be interesting to see what he meant by that comment. It seems he’s probably a bit overwhelmed with too much happening at once. Maybe in different parts of his life? I know they can be quite the overthinkers too!

Did you see him yet?
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yes its work. I think he probably meant work in that comment, I just had to poke fun of it LOL

Not yet, I'm too busy planning for my weekend, I have a feeling he will be selfish and call me on a Saturday night, as he has no social life. he doesn't even consider other ppl are out, he thinks ppl are there to take his calls whenever he likes
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I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL


he sound just like "mine" like they're the same person lol which ofc isn't possible but it's simply like they have a scheme how they talk...anyway maybe you're more patient than me and willing to tolerate that more and have a plus of at least being able to see him lol I decided to distance myself from this one, just don't have time for all that and those excuses really annoy me. I'll quote you here words from another Cap male about them just for reference lol : Idk, we are on one way good, on one way little bit crazy , cold, psychopath...
P.S head been everywhere...trust me it's his top one lol only thing it means is he's overthinking things about everything as usual...
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Well we only met once so I'm not as invested as you emotionally, if he doesn't see me I have other things to do. His reason seems legit and on first date he showed me the project he is on now and how he was expecting an international call on Saturday night just showed how intense it is. So really the only thing I can do now is enjoy my life and be open minded to get to know him. As I don't really know him after just one date.
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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL


Maybe he's got a lot on his mind...could be entirely work related though.
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he did apologize and his reason seems legit. see what happens
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I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL
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Regardless of the chart I think its more important to see if a man can keep his words. Base on our last convo we are aiming to meet tomorrow and will touch base the day before. Haven't heard from him today. This is already looking bad IMO


He called in mean time maybe? They so awkward for whatever reason about that I really don't know sometimes wtf with them...I remember one time I mentioned this, mine used to skip any tricky questions or anything too revealing to answer at so I told him to not think that he gets me over that talking about something else instead and that i don't notice he skips replies to what he said I should know he's not ignoring me...???Wtf lol? I didn't think he's ignoring me, I think he simply avoids what doesn't fit him to reply at...but like I said they're just awkward in so many ways...
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what sort of tricky question? confirming time and place isn't that tricky though? LOL
@RooSagicorn @malak

Regardless of the chart I think its more important to see if a man can keep his words. Base on our last convo we are aiming to meet tomorrow and will touch base the day before. Haven't heard from him today. This is already looking bad IMO
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That's the main problem I think, we're too far away for any physical contact and it would take a lot for us to be together actually, but being a Sag nothing is impossible for me and since nothing ties me down I wouldn't have a problem making a huge change in my life if we get along well to make it work. I'm just not sure he knows that and I can't be the one saying such things cause simply it sounds too pushy to me. I rather let him make first moves regarding that point. But what if he thinks same way like - "How can I possibly ask her would she move to be with me?" But being a rational earth sign I'm not sure does he even think I'd consider making a change for him and that it could be actually done if we put effort in it. It's just hard with texting and calls only like you said but we have no other option. I'm thinking on actually visiting him soon just to see how we click on face to face and well cause I want to meet him lol but I really don't know what after that and I tend to have a need to know a lot in future how things will go lol
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Well visiting might tell you a lot, but then again it could start something you might be better off letting go. Who knows? I say go with your gut. We Sags are always so hopeful & Caps so pessimistic. It’s a good balance if it’s handled right. But also good for us to remember they see things differently than us.

Like chart says we often rely on our guts and luckily for us are rarely wrong lol that's exactly what I'm thinking, he's probably pessimistic to his max about it and having lots of doubts but not telling me and on the other side I'm very optimistic and have solutions for many problems but am not saying it either lol actually I think Caps and Sags can really balance each other quite well if they both accept some compromises. Knowing myself I won't be able to let go until I see him or we stop communicating lol in a way I'm starting to plan on that trip but am still being cautious cause he's not around as he used to be and will have to see how things will go later on
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just jumping in and say I don't think chart is always reliable though. As This cap is a homebody and socially awkward but his chart says he is a social butterfly.

Best way to get to know yours is really through your interaction and if his action matches his words
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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.






I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.



I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL


Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.




haha I'm not denying I think too much I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.


Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD


I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.
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Dayyuuumm girl!!! you look barely 23!!
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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.



he called last night at 7:30pm but I was out, I messaged him to say I will call back next day I did but he dind't answer. He called back at 2:30pm he sounded a bit nervous. I asked how was his day he told me he was working in the morning and then he had nothign else and will go out for a bite, he would like me to join him if Im free. i have other plans so I can't but I made the point that I would love to and told him why I can't join. He asked how am I placing during the week. I told him which day am I free, he said let's aim for that day and we touch base the day before.

Then i asked what he did last night as I was curious why he phoned me at 7:30pm He told me he went to see his brother for work stuff then he didn't do anything, just watched some sport and then sleep. I guess he was trying to see me last minute as well..

Caps are into planning right? this doesn't sound very capricorn to me with these last minute invite... also I think last minute is more for relationship.. not for someone you barely know... ?


It sounds more like he's usually quite busy and whenever he has some time to relax, he wants to spend it with you.
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its possible but the late notice is more for real couple. Not ideal for someone you just met. Anyway will see what happens.

Plannign is always good as I have a life too, him asking last minute is runnign the risk of us not able to met.
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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.






I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.



I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL


Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.




haha I'm not denying I think too much I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Success in love and work are very different things if he's good looking plus successful you'd expect a lot of women to be chasing him and some do have that actually but not all of them. Guess it depends on other aspects of one as well. Some may have completely different signs in their chart so it can be a lot more than one's sign into analyzing their character
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I think he is attractive but not over the top attractive, my gay friends are like yeah I will go for it. Since he has gay guys approval I guess we can say he is good looking.

His chart says he should be a big player lol Cap Sun, Aries Moon, Aqua Mercury, Sag Venus and Gemini Mars. However he is the biggest homebody unless he is travelling overseas