StrawberryJam
joined February 05, 2017
  • Hey ladies, just an update, he texted me and it turns out he has been very busy (he did explain what he was doing) and he also mistaken my friend as my new date. That's why he posted that song as his status... He also asked me why didn't I take initiative? I explained cos I was the last person who texted. He apologized and said he didn't mean to make me feel neglected. everything is fine
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    Don't you find it weird and suspucious, that the guy so quickly talked about your future? He doesn't know you.
    Says more about you, that you believe it. No disrespect. I once believed in sweet talk too.


    Hmmm. This is very tricky. I wouldnt believe immediately myself. I need proof. But you know my experience with my bf is the same. One week of talking and he told me he will fly to see me. I was like— yeah right. Sure. After a month he flew to me. We had our first date. In a committed rs on the 3rd day of his trip. After a month I flew to him and stayed with him for a month. In between those months that we havent seen each other he has mentioned me being the one for him. Him wanting marriage with me etc. hes a gemini moon. I am still with him til now. And people will think we are going fast but its the air sign pace 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    I think what she needs is for him to prove his intentions.


    That's a very nice story. And I think you are spot on in saying what she needs. She knows this as well. Did your boyfriend also ask about your housing situation and if you own a house? I'm thinking she mentioned that, because she also is feeling something shady but don't want to believe it.
    Seems like he kept trying to make something happen very quickly, but she were wise and said not so fast, so he is getting out of the situation, probably so he can try this on another woman. He is working.


    Actually my boyfriend did ask me about that. And i asked him back. Thing is I live in Asia and you know, many Asians tend to date white men for money. He is Australian. So i felt that he was making sure i was not gonna live off him like other asian women. Few weeks ago, we exchanged excel sheets with our financial situation in it so I know exactly how much debt he is in and he knows how much money I saved.

    Its case to case basis but i do think that if she feels she cannot trust, she should go with her intuition. I didnt have a bad feeling about mine and until now, we never ask either for money nor do we require each other to buy presents etc. but then i do know some who took advantage of other people. Sad sad reality.


    Makes sense why he asked you. So She should find the login reason as to why he ask her about this stuff. Many african men for example cheat european and american women, just like you say asian women cheat white men. Not all goes without saying, but still.
    But think she has made up her mind now based on her feelings, and so that is it.


    I think you have made up your mind about how I feel etc, because my respond was not what you were expecting? anway that's the reason he asked about my property situation since whittygem also asked about it.

    Later on we talked about it, he was just thinking how much I have to give up to move to his country.


    Actually your answer was pretty much what I expected😊
    I'm out.


    LOL didn't you say you weren't gonna comment awhile ago? yet you were here comment after comment


    I will respond to other posters that directly speaks to me. For sure. "Comment after comment" is just a little bit of an exaggeration, don't you think? I don't know you and trying to unload or get a rise out of some internet stranger is not my style . I'm sorry you will have to find somebody else for that.
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    see here you are commenting.. bye!
  • Posted by starlord
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    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
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    Posted by starlord
    Don't you find it weird and suspucious, that the guy so quickly talked about your future? He doesn't know you.
    Says more about you, that you believe it. No disrespect. I once believed in sweet talk too.


    Hmmm. This is very tricky. I wouldnt believe immediately myself. I need proof. But you know my experience with my bf is the same. One week of talking and he told me he will fly to see me. I was like— yeah right. Sure. After a month he flew to me. We had our first date. In a committed rs on the 3rd day of his trip. After a month I flew to him and stayed with him for a month. In between those months that we havent seen each other he has mentioned me being the one for him. Him wanting marriage with me etc. hes a gemini moon. I am still with him til now. And people will think we are going fast but its the air sign pace 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    I think what she needs is for him to prove his intentions.


    That's a very nice story. And I think you are spot on in saying what she needs. She knows this as well. Did your boyfriend also ask about your housing situation and if you own a house? I'm thinking she mentioned that, because she also is feeling something shady but don't want to believe it.
    Seems like he kept trying to make something happen very quickly, but she were wise and said not so fast, so he is getting out of the situation, probably so he can try this on another woman. He is working.


    Actually my boyfriend did ask me about that. And i asked him back. Thing is I live in Asia and you know, many Asians tend to date white men for money. He is Australian. So i felt that he was making sure i was not gonna live off him like other asian women. Few weeks ago, we exchanged excel sheets with our financial situation in it so I know exactly how much debt he is in and he knows how much money I saved.

    Its case to case basis but i do think that if she feels she cannot trust, she should go with her intuition. I didnt have a bad feeling about mine and until now, we never ask either for money nor do we require each other to buy presents etc. but then i do know some who took advantage of other people. Sad sad reality.


    Makes sense why he asked you. So She should find the login reason as to why he ask her about this stuff. Many african men for example cheat european and american women, just like you say asian women cheat white men. Not all goes without saying, but still.
    But think she has made up her mind now based on her feelings, and so that is it.


    I think you have made up your mind about how I feel etc, because my respond was not what you were expecting? anway that's the reason he asked about my property situation since whittygem also asked about it.

    Later on we talked about it, he was just thinking how much I have to give up to move to his country.


    Actually your answer was pretty much what I expected😊
    I'm out.
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    LOL didn't you say you weren't gonna comment awhile ago? yet you were here comment after comment
  • Posted by starlord
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Don't you find it weird and suspucious, that the guy so quickly talked about your future? He doesn't know you.
    Says more about you, that you believe it. No disrespect. I once believed in sweet talk too.


    Hmmm. This is very tricky. I wouldnt believe immediately myself. I need proof. But you know my experience with my bf is the same. One week of talking and he told me he will fly to see me. I was like— yeah right. Sure. After a month he flew to me. We had our first date. In a committed rs on the 3rd day of his trip. After a month I flew to him and stayed with him for a month. In between those months that we havent seen each other he has mentioned me being the one for him. Him wanting marriage with me etc. hes a gemini moon. I am still with him til now. And people will think we are going fast but its the air sign pace 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    I think what she needs is for him to prove his intentions.


    That's a very nice story. And I think you are spot on in saying what she needs. She knows this as well. Did your boyfriend also ask about your housing situation and if you own a house? I'm thinking she mentioned that, because she also is feeling something shady but don't want to believe it.
    Seems like he kept trying to make something happen very quickly, but she were wise and said not so fast, so he is getting out of the situation, probably so he can try this on another woman. He is working.


    Actually my boyfriend did ask me about that. And i asked him back. Thing is I live in Asia and you know, many Asians tend to date white men for money. He is Australian. So i felt that he was making sure i was not gonna live off him like other asian women. Few weeks ago, we exchanged excel sheets with our financial situation in it so I know exactly how much debt he is in and he knows how much money I saved.

    Its case to case basis but i do think that if she feels she cannot trust, she should go with her intuition. I didnt have a bad feeling about mine and until now, we never ask either for money nor do we require each other to buy presents etc. but then i do know some who took advantage of other people. Sad sad reality.


    Makes sense why he asked you. So She should find the login reason as to why he ask her about this stuff. Many african men for example cheat european and american women, just like you say asian women cheat white men. Not all goes without saying, but still.
    But think she has made up her mind now based on her feelings, and so that is it.
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    I think you have made up your mind about how I feel etc, because my respond was not what you were expecting? anway that's the reason he asked about my property situation since whittygem also asked about it.

    Later on we talked about it, he was just thinking how much I have to give up to move to his country.
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by StrawberryJam
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    Posted by starlord
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Don't you find it weird and suspucious, that the guy so quickly talked about your future? He doesn't know you.
    Says more about you, that you believe it. No disrespect. I once believed in sweet talk too.


    Hmmm. This is very tricky. I wouldnt believe immediately myself. I need proof. But you know my experience with my bf is the same. One week of talking and he told me he will fly to see me. I was like— yeah right. Sure. After a month he flew to me. We had our first date. In a committed rs on the 3rd day of his trip. After a month I flew to him and stayed with him for a month. In between those months that we havent seen each other he has mentioned me being the one for him. Him wanting marriage with me etc. hes a gemini moon. I am still with him til now. And people will think we are going fast but its the air sign pace 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    I think what she needs is for him to prove his intentions.


    That's a very nice story. And I think you are spot on in saying what she needs. She knows this as well. Did your boyfriend also ask about your housing situation and if you own a house? I'm thinking she mentioned that, because she also is feeling something shady but don't want to believe it.
    Seems like he kept trying to make something happen very quickly, but she were wise and said not so fast, so he is getting out of the situation, probably so he can try this on another woman. He is working.


    Actually my boyfriend did ask me about that. And i asked him back. Thing is I live in Asia and you know, many Asians tend to date white men for money. He is Australian. So i felt that he was making sure i was not gonna live off him like other asian women. Few weeks ago, we exchanged excel sheets with our financial situation in it so I know exactly how much debt he is in and he knows how much money I saved.

    Its case to case basis but i do think that if she feels she cannot trust, she should go with her intuition. I didnt have a bad feeling about mine and until now, we never ask either for money nor do we require each other to buy presents etc. but then i do know some who took advantage of other people. Sad sad reality.


    That's just the sterotype. Chinese women are rich. Not all, but most are afluent
    Yes exactly! But so many horror stories about Asian women online that i think it kinda freaked him out in the beginning. So he was being careful and I was happy to assure him because i wasnt hiding any underlying motive. I was looking for a serious rs. A husband. smile


    I dunno your bf so I can't really comment on that. However it's fair to ask if someone has a job or any bad habit. I would ask any one this question not just a particular race. I jsut don't like the fact that he made you feel like you need to prove yourself because of your heritage. you could have said White men has a reputation of being sex tourist in some part of Asia. just saying ..
    Oh dont worry! I did that to him too 😂😂😂😂😂 dating history, how many times has he been in asia. Has he ever dated an asian. Why does he want an asian girlfriend. Stuff like that. I did give him the same medicine. 😂
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    haha atta girl
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by StrawberryJam
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Don't you find it weird and suspucious, that the guy so quickly talked about your future? He doesn't know you.
    Says more about you, that you believe it. No disrespect. I once believed in sweet talk too.


    Hmmm. This is very tricky. I wouldnt believe immediately myself. I need proof. But you know my experience with my bf is the same. One week of talking and he told me he will fly to see me. I was like— yeah right. Sure. After a month he flew to me. We had our first date. In a committed rs on the 3rd day of his trip. After a month I flew to him and stayed with him for a month. In between those months that we havent seen each other he has mentioned me being the one for him. Him wanting marriage with me etc. hes a gemini moon. I am still with him til now. And people will think we are going fast but its the air sign pace 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    I think what she needs is for him to prove his intentions.


    That's a very nice story. And I think you are spot on in saying what she needs. She knows this as well. Did your boyfriend also ask about your housing situation and if you own a house? I'm thinking she mentioned that, because she also is feeling something shady but don't want to believe it.
    Seems like he kept trying to make something happen very quickly, but she were wise and said not so fast, so he is getting out of the situation, probably so he can try this on another woman. He is working.


    Actually my boyfriend did ask me about that. And i asked him back. Thing is I live in Asia and you know, many Asians tend to date white men for money. He is Australian. So i felt that he was making sure i was not gonna live off him like other asian women. Few weeks ago, we exchanged excel sheets with our financial situation in it so I know exactly how much debt he is in and he knows how much money I saved.

    Its case to case basis but i do think that if she feels she cannot trust, she should go with her intuition. I didnt have a bad feeling about mine and until now, we never ask either for money nor do we require each other to buy presents etc. but then i do know some who took advantage of other people. Sad sad reality.


    That's just the sterotype. Chinese women are rich. Not all, but most are afluent
    Yes exactly! But so many horror stories about Asian women online that i think it kinda freaked him out in the beginning. So he was being careful and I was happy to assure him because i wasnt hiding any underlying motive. I was looking for a serious rs. A husband. smile
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    I dunno your bf so I can't really comment on that. However it's fair to ask if someone has a job or any bad habit. I would ask any one this question not just a particular race. I jsut don't like the fact that he made you feel like you need to prove yourself because of your heritage. you could have said White men has a reputation of being sex tourist in some part of Asia. just saying ..
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by starlord
    Don't you find it weird and suspucious, that the guy so quickly talked about your future? He doesn't know you.
    Says more about you, that you believe it. No disrespect. I once believed in sweet talk too.


    Hmmm. This is very tricky. I wouldnt believe immediately myself. I need proof. But you know my experience with my bf is the same. One week of talking and he told me he will fly to see me. I was like— yeah right. Sure. After a month he flew to me. We had our first date. In a committed rs on the 3rd day of his trip. After a month I flew to him and stayed with him for a month. In between those months that we havent seen each other he has mentioned me being the one for him. Him wanting marriage with me etc. hes a gemini moon. I am still with him til now. And people will think we are going fast but its the air sign pace 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    I think what she needs is for him to prove his intentions.


    That's a very nice story. And I think you are spot on in saying what she needs. She knows this as well. Did your boyfriend also ask about your housing situation and if you own a house? I'm thinking she mentioned that, because she also is feeling something shady but don't want to believe it.
    Seems like he kept trying to make something happen very quickly, but she were wise and said not so fast, so he is getting out of the situation, probably so he can try this on another woman. He is working.


    Actually my boyfriend did ask me about that. And i asked him back. Thing is I live in Asia and you know, many Asians tend to date white men for money. He is Australian. So i felt that he was making sure i was not gonna live off him like other asian women. Few weeks ago, we exchanged excel sheets with our financial situation in it so I know exactly how much debt he is in and he knows how much money I saved.

    Its case to case basis but i do think that if she feels she cannot trust, she should go with her intuition. I didnt have a bad feeling about mine and until now, we never ask either for money nor do we require each other to buy presents etc. but then i do know some who took advantage of other people. Sad sad reality.
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    That's just the sterotype. Chinese women are rich. Not all, but most are affluent. In fact the Australian property market is dominated by Chinese. The property bubble never popped because of them.
  • I dated Pisces it was awful. He lied and cheated on me, then always knows when to text me everytime I broke up with an ex.

    He lied even after we broke up so I cut all contacts and he would haunt my IG to view and like stuff, then he messaged me on IG a few times but I never opened those messages.

    He then messaged me on FB (i unfriended him ages ago) I dind't open and he finally unfollowed me.
  • Feels like he is playing mind games.. he has this song "no contest" from Tinashe on his story...

    For those who don't know this song, here are some of the lyrics..

    I'm still talking to his guy friend (we all met as friends first) and he also saw me posting stories of my guy friends. He posted story of his female friends too so I didn't think it was a problem..

    "Hardly ever speaking, it's been weeks, now where the time go?
    I've been incognito and I blame it on the timezone (timezone, timezone)
    No one likes a shady nigga, shady niggas fall back (fall back)
    But, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt if you want that (oh)"

    "Boy stop playing up your game
    Only me in your lane"
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    I've only just noticed he unliked the pics he liked this morning... I thought this had happened before but I didn't pay much attention.. WTF!? Is this him acting out for attention?


    It's not for attention. He is getting out of the situation.
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    I'm talking about a recent pic, I just posted he liked then unlike I'm not saying he unliked old pic... It's a pattern he has
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    I've only just noticed he unliked the pics he liked this morning... I thought this had happened before but I didn't pay much attention.. WTF!? Is this him acting out for attention?


    It's not for attention. He is getting out of the situation.
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    I'm talking about a recent pic, I just posted he liked then unlike I'm not saying he unliked old pic... It's a pattern he has
  • I've only just noticed he unliked the pics he liked this morning... I thought this had happened before but I didn't pay much attention.. WTF!? Is this him acting out for attention?
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    There are several red flags here.... one being that you mention that he seems to be frequently involved with women from other countries in the past. How he was sexually focused. You shouldn't think much of him saying that he will move there right now.. us gemini, sometimes the mouth works faster than the brain. I would be cautious of him asking about your finances for now. And then him backing off...

    This guy was having fun, he liked you and enjoyed your company, and he wanted to keep it going to see what happened. Its probably in your personality, but you were too serious and cautious and it made him back off. He just wanted to kind of go with the flow. And you should have checked him and called him out on the claiming a relationship thing.

    I am an american gemini woman living in the US with a European gemini man living in Europe. I went through a weird phase where I didn't know where we stood, or rather I rejected every idea of us being together because its unrealistic... and I did like him and what I needed from him was to make the next move to see what we were gonna do... and he did end up flying me to Europe and we've been together since. I needed that committal step from him in order to see things in a more serious light. It has been a ridiculously difficult journey and no, I do not really recommend this.

    If you want this to go anywhere, I would suggest that he comes to you for a visit to thing how things go... You would see how serious he truly is about you if you were to insist that he invest in a trip to go to where you are. Don't waste your money and time on him, until you know better where he stands.

    Guys have zero problem with you spending money to go see them, getting their dick wet with no effort on their part, and then you going away back to your country. Fun times and good sex... then you're out of sight and out of mind. Don't put yourself in that situation.


    We had lots of fun traveling and there was definitely a connection. After I was gone he told me within our first convo he can see himself spending his life with me, it's just not fair that we are so far away. He pointed out those things are what I can see as well. However I told him to take it slow as I want him to like me not the fantasy version of me.

    I agree, better for him to come to me or we meet each other half way. Even though I was tempted to visit his country as I do love traveling to places I've never been to.

    For now he is not texting me, all he does is viewing my IG stories and liking pics. I hope he is just conflicted about what he was telling me regarding wanting to go for it, but also not sure if he should disturb my very good life in my country... Hopefully this is not some malicious power play from his side...

    I would like to ask him to visit me instead.. not sure how to go from here according to our current situation.


    No I definitely don't think that he is being malicious... sometimes I believe that we can come off that way because we can move on quickly and it seemed like we never cared, but generally I do not think gemini is a malicious sign imo.

    I don't think he would tell you those things if he didn't mean them, and always keep in mind that the long distance thing is too much effort and too expensive to be just about sex... sex is cheap.

    I don't know why he stops communicating with you though ... which is not a very good sign for us. Gemini men, in my experiences, obsessively communicate with women they are into. Did you mention what his moon and venus are in?

    This is all going to boil down to chemistry... and if you have strong enough chemistry to keep it alive. That seems to be the hardest part about long distance connections.

    I am not a person who likes to sit around and not know what to expect from a guy or not know where I stand with him though. I don't torture myself with such things.... One thing that I would do, if I were in your situation, is straight up ask him where you stand and what he wants, I would ask for complete transparency and honesty.
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    Never thought of Gems as a malicious sign, was talking about the behavior of stopped communicating yet always quick to view stories and like photos. it's mixed messages to the max.

    He used to communicate with me obsessively. it just suddenly cool down after I agree to visit him in Aug. Reality probably kicks in and scared him.

    I'm with you here, I would never travel just for sex, the money spent could be used for investment. He asked me how many men have I been with I told him a low number as I rather be celibate than dating / sleeping around just for the sake of it. He said he is the same, he told me this is not just about sex as he is not the type that date just to pass time. He felt connected with me on intellectual and emotional level and he wants me sexually, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.

    Long distance is very challenging especially when you are getting to know someone. Text could be missed in the middle of convo etc. The last convo we had he communicated his conflicts and fear about things might not work out and he would ended up wasting my money and time to visit. I told him I have the same fear but I don't want to let it restrict me, I want to keep getting to know him if this is also what he wants. He said yes I do. Then he went cold again, even colder than last time.

    His charts are Gemini Sun, Cancer Moon, Gemini Mercury, Gemini Venus, Pisces Mars, Taurus Rising
    I'm Virgo Sun, Aquarius moon, Virgo Mercury, Leo Venus, Leo Mars, Aquarius Rising.

    Not sure what our chart means to you?

  • Posted by ysa098
    Im dating this gem guy. We talked for like 2 weeks last year (october) then he just ghost me (for a month) and chats whenever he's free.

    He really confuse me (still does right now). He just doesnt want commitment yet because of his studies, work and family. He's 27 and im 21.

    But right now we see each other once or twice a week to talk and cuddle and he asks me how's my day (everyday). Is it a good sign?

    Gems are so confusing. We looked like a couple even though we arent.


    He ghosted you for a month!? did he come back with a good reason?

    From my own experience if a gem likes you he wouldn't have trouble to put a relationship label on.

    if you've been dating for like 4 months don't be afraid to ask for what you want. if he can't give that to you there are plenty of options out there.
  • Posted by nano
    There are several red flags here.... one being that you mention that he seems to be frequently involved with women from other countries in the past. How he was sexually focused. You shouldn't think much of him saying that he will move there right now.. us gemini, sometimes the mouth works faster than the brain. I would be cautious of him asking about your finances for now. And then him backing off...

    This guy was having fun, he liked you and enjoyed your company, and he wanted to keep it going to see what happened. Its probably in your personality, but you were too serious and cautious and it made him back off. He just wanted to kind of go with the flow. And you should have checked him and called him out on the claiming a relationship thing.

    I am an american gemini woman living in the US with a European gemini man living in Europe. I went through a weird phase where I didn't know where we stood, or rather I rejected every idea of us being together because its unrealistic... and I did like him and what I needed from him was to make the next move to see what we were gonna do... and he did end up flying me to Europe and we've been together since. I needed that committal step from him in order to see things in a more serious light. It has been a ridiculously difficult journey and no, I do not really recommend this.

    If you want this to go anywhere, I would suggest that he comes to you for a visit to thing how things go... You would see how serious he truly is about you if you were to insist that he invest in a trip to go to where you are. Don't waste your money and time on him, until you know better where he stands.

    Guys have zero problem with you spending money to go see them, getting their dick wet with no effort on their part, and then you going away back to your country. Fun times and good sex... then you're out of sight and out of mind. Don't put yourself in that situation.


    We had lots of fun traveling and there was definitely a connection. After I was gone he told me within our first convo he can see himself spending his life with me, it's just not fair that we are so far away. He pointed out those things are what I can see as well. However I told him to take it slow as I want him to like me not the fantasy version of me.

    I agree, better for him to come to me or we meet each other half way. Even though I was tempted to visit his country as I do love traveling to places I've never been to.

    For now he is not texting me, all he does is viewing my IG stories and liking pics. I hope he is just conflicted about what he was telling me regarding wanting to go for it, but also not sure if he should disturb my very good life in my country... Hopefully this is not some malicious power play from his side...

    I would like to ask him to visit me instead.. not sure how to go from here according to our current situation.
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    He’s not sure about you yet thats is my gut feeling.

    (Also... you kind of contradict yourself when you said you wanna take it slow but you did skype sex.)

    Do you guys talk about anythingelse than flirting through text?


    My question was probably a bit long to read at once, we do talk about deep stuff such as our fear, our past, our day to day life, our hobbies, books recommendation for each other.He also used to send me songs every morning and night that reminds him of me.


    I think this thread needs @Nano
    She could tell you how guys behave when they are serious or not in an ldr. She's a Gemini dating a Gemini...


    Yes @nano and maybe @señoritaLL coz she got a gemini man chasing her and sending her songs.


    Lmaooo he didnt send me songs! He sang me those songs. Omigod! He's worst than me. As a Gemini, I do used songs to express myself but he's more extreme. He's a Taurus moon tho'.

    They do get bored easily and I think he likes it because I'm always unavailable. Eh? Idk..haha


    Unavailable as in time poor? or emotionally? or geographically?


    Emotionally. As a Gemini, I sux with datings and rs. But not all of them have the same thing although I think they do. Haha!


    Out of curiosity how do 2 emotionally unavailable people form a solid relationship bond?


    We play Tom and Jerry. It's exciting ya know. LooooL


    haha do you guys switch roles? so when he runs you chase? or you let him run and come back?


    Tbh, I wasn't that into him. I was running away from him. I've met 2 Gems, one with Taurus another with Leo moon and I've been observing both of them.

    The more I run, the more they tends to chase. I do understand that not all Gems have had the same thing but so far that's how they both react which is the reason why I can never do air men. It's exciting but it doesn't last that long. Besides, I'd prefer to be the one chasing. Yes, I said it. I chase and I hate to be chased.

    It's crazy right? I know.Laughing


    I have aqua moon and rising, I can relate to why you like to chase haha.

    I normally like to chase, when I met this one it was mutual attraction and I dind'rt have to lift a finger. Until now after I agree I would go visit him, he is now freaking out and backing off.

    Have you ever had similar experience with this? like when they are backing off you still run?


    I am a Leo moon but I think it's more to my 9th house Aries venus that made me prefer to chase. This is why I like the bold men. The secretive and conservative type. The one that you have a hard time reading them.

    I don't really have too many experiences with datings but the most tough one ever was my ex sag with cap venus. And I kinda love it. Crazy right? But that's the past.

    I am searching for a man that's on the same page as me so the 'run away bride' is no longer on my list which is why I think only earth signs can provide me with that stability and consistency. If I don't find anyone like that, I am fine with being alone. Well oh well, I guess I am already too old for games and such. :/


    My venus is fire too lol Leo Venus and Mars. This gem guy has gem venus and pisces mars... I guess he has a lot of conflict, when i read his chart he said I got him to a tee.

    I wonder if Earth sign might come across as too boring for you at first? cos they are not likely to chase when you run, they will just assume you are not interested and respect your wish by leaving you alone. It's a completely different courtship dance with gem guys


    Yes. Maybe that's the thing. Earth signs do comes as too boring but ya know the stability and consistency yall provide is actually great. You're a Virgo aren't ya?
    yes I'm Virgo. You are right about our stability and consistency. We are interesting ppl with good sense of humour and lots going on in our life. However those who are used to dramatic partner would find it boring as we generally don't play mind games or act out, So it really depends on what you looking for


    Ahhh Virgo sounds eggcellent. I have hope for this combo. LoooL

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    haha we are Winking
    So if you find a Virgo guy I would say definitely give him a chance, just don't expect over the top courtship. Slow water run deep.
  • Posted by Gnu
    Don't know many Virgo libra cusps, but that's what stands out the most. You resemble another poster called strawberryjam. Almost same personality traits. Ask twenty questions. Not secure. She was on the Virgo side so there was some variation.


    haha and how secure are you Gnu? funny how you've been reading my post and never contributed anything positive except trash talking me
  • Posted by saggurl88
    Am I reading this correctly? Are you planning on paying for him to come out? he's asking you about all your finances and whether you own a house and it's paid off, then he's playing the pity card of him not wanting to be a burden and use you for your resources.

    Girl!!! smh. This sounds like he's looking to be taken care of. Yes there was a lot of sex talk but will that be enough while you are working and he's living off you?

    This has red flags all over it! He needs to pay his own way to come see you.


    Hun you are reading it incorrectly. There was no talk of anyone paying for anyone. read it again Tongue
  • Posted by m3h
    Posted by StrawberryJam
    spot on that's the defense, it's called the deactivation strategy. They do this as they crave closeness yet it translate into loss of independence to them.
    @m3h
    Honestly I'm still learning how to achieve a mutually satisfying bonding with this type of attachment style . Reading a new book about it now. I'm not sure whats the best way to go about it either.


    Thanks for introducing me to the attachment type concept! This is something that I want to look into now.

    It's a bit challenging to understand why they translate a positive need into a sort of negative feedback...it's sounds like self-deprivation through self-regulation?

    Haven't had a chance to read https://www.psychalive.org/anxious-avoidant-attachment/ yet, but will try to later on. (nts) Hopefully it'll give insight on the best approach to your current situation.
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    Thanks I've seen that article, I'm always fascinated by psychology. If you have a chance to stop by your library have a read at "Attached" from Amir Lavine. It's ground breaking. Still haven't heard from him. He liked my new photo, and still view all stories. Hope he is not playing games...
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    He’s not sure about you yet thats is my gut feeling.

    (Also... you kind of contradict yourself when you said you wanna take it slow but you did skype sex.)

    Do you guys talk about anythingelse than flirting through text?


    My question was probably a bit long to read at once, we do talk about deep stuff such as our fear, our past, our day to day life, our hobbies, books recommendation for each other.He also used to send me songs every morning and night that reminds him of me.


    I think this thread needs @Nano
    She could tell you how guys behave when they are serious or not in an ldr. She's a Gemini dating a Gemini...


    Yes @nano and maybe @señoritaLL coz she got a gemini man chasing her and sending her songs.


    Lmaooo he didnt send me songs! He sang me those songs. Omigod! He's worst than me. As a Gemini, I do used songs to express myself but he's more extreme. He's a Taurus moon tho'.

    They do get bored easily and I think he likes it because I'm always unavailable. Eh? Idk..haha


    Unavailable as in time poor? or emotionally? or geographically?


    Emotionally. As a Gemini, I sux with datings and rs. But not all of them have the same thing although I think they do. Haha!


    Out of curiosity how do 2 emotionally unavailable people form a solid relationship bond?


    We play Tom and Jerry. It's exciting ya know. LooooL


    haha do you guys switch roles? so when he runs you chase? or you let him run and come back?


    Tbh, I wasn't that into him. I was running away from him. I've met 2 Gems, one with Taurus another with Leo moon and I've been observing both of them.

    The more I run, the more they tends to chase. I do understand that not all Gems have had the same thing but so far that's how they both react which is the reason why I can never do air men. It's exciting but it doesn't last that long. Besides, I'd prefer to be the one chasing. Yes, I said it. I chase and I hate to be chased.

    It's crazy right? I know.Laughing


    I have aqua moon and rising, I can relate to why you like to chase haha.

    I normally like to chase, when I met this one it was mutual attraction and I dind'rt have to lift a finger. Until now after I agree I would go visit him, he is now freaking out and backing off.

    Have you ever had similar experience with this? like when they are backing off you still run?


    I am a Leo moon but I think it's more to my 9th house Aries venus that made me prefer to chase. This is why I like the bold men. The secretive and conservative type. The one that you have a hard time reading them.

    I don't really have too many experiences with datings but the most tough one ever was my ex sag with cap venus. And I kinda love it. Crazy right? But that's the past.

    I am searching for a man that's on the same page as me so the 'run away bride' is no longer on my list which is why I think only earth signs can provide me with that stability and consistency. If I don't find anyone like that, I am fine with being alone. Well oh well, I guess I am already too old for games and such. :/


    My venus is fire too lol Leo Venus and Mars. This gem guy has gem venus and pisces mars... I guess he has a lot of conflict, when i read his chart he said I got him to a tee.

    I wonder if Earth sign might come across as too boring for you at first? cos they are not likely to chase when you run, they will just assume you are not interested and respect your wish by leaving you alone. It's a completely different courtship dance with gem guys


    Yes. Maybe that's the thing. Earth signs do comes as too boring but ya know the stability and consistency yall provide is actually great. You're a Virgo aren't ya?
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    yes I'm Virgo. You are right about our stability and consistency. We are interesting ppl with good sense of humour and lots going on in our life. However those who are used to dramatic partner would find it boring as we generally don't play mind games or act out, So it really depends on what you looking for