Need help/input about my Cappy guy

Dear All, I just joined this forum as I would really need help with this guy and I've seen that there are Cappies around here. Any kind of comment and opinion would be appreciated.

I try to tell my story as short as possible. (thank you for reading)

I'm 29, he is 30. I've known him for 15 years, we went for 8 years to the same elementary school class. As it comes, from 7th grade I was in love with him and he was in love with me. I knew he liked me, he didn't know i liked him.

We had one half weird attempt to date around the age of 16, but timing was never right, so nothing came out of it.
We have not seen each other for a long time (years), had no contact, as after elementary school i moved away from my hometown.
He got a gf and I got a bf like almost completely parallel the same time (both lasted like 5 years). A bit more than a year ago I broke up with my bf and like half year ago he broke up with his gf.

We've seen each other, after a long time, last summer on a festival his family is organizing. He sent me a msg. through friends that if I'd like to go, I'm his guest. I went and we had a long nice chat.

After summer I started to meet up with some elementary school ex-classmates and he is one of them.

Each time we partied together, he was hanging on me. He was kind and caring, he was hugging me all the time. Every time in front of everyone, he acknowledged how much in love he was with me, that I was the most beautiful girl, but that I always went with older guys and that he would have never dared to initiate anything.

One he said: "i still like her (meaning me), but she wrote me off a long time ago." i didnt even know what to say... and i didnt wanna talk about it in front of everyone. so after going home i sent him a textmsg. telling that i would not wanna talk about it there, but that he is wrong, cause i never wrote him off, in the contrary, life is just complex (as he stated it before too), but i wanted him to know the truth.

So we started exchanging textmsgs. (a Cappy on an other forum encouraged me to initiate) and i went so far as state to him that he is important to me.

Problem is, I am leaving the country for half year to work abroad. He knew that all along. So last Friday i went home and let him know that this is my goodbye weekend. He came to see me while i was hanging with friends. We had fun, drank, laughed, played darts.

The end of the night he insisted on walking me home. On the way, once he just stopped me, started to hold me and told me that I am very important for him and that I can't imagine how long he has been waiting for me, for 15 years and that I am his only real love.
So we stood there like half an hour hugging and kissing and he kept repeating how much he loves to be with me.
Then he asked: ??_And what is gonna happen to us now— And I told him that it is a tough question and that i will go away, but that i come back and if he wants, he waits for me, that i would like to be with him.

He wrote me quotes (in textmsgs) like ??besides me nothing matters to him?? and stuff like that.

I really like him, but I am so insecure. He did say he will wait for me to return, that it will be awsome when I'm back, we will do great stuff.

But since I have not seen him??_ he is totally silent. No call, no textmsg., nothing at all??_ is that normal?

How serious can I take him and all he said? Cause generally I believe Cappies don't play around and he seems so genuine! Still, I had very bad experience before with other guys and I am afraid.
So I am shifting between being all enthusiastic about him / pushing the whole feeling away. I am afraid that i will keep a dream in my heart for long months and when I come back??_ it comes out he did not wait for me.

What do you guys think? (Thanks for your replies in advance)

Hello All! Thank you very much for the responses.

ellessque>> i know it is too much to ASK him to wait for me, hence i did not. He told me he would, and i told him he does not need to promise me anything. i just wanted to get a bit of a picture about Capricorns, cause for example i know about myself that i would wait for someone who is important for me. But i do not have any experience with Capricorns.

Otherwise, since we are not together (yet), waiting for me does not mean for me that now he should stay away from all flirts and stuff. Right now he is a free person and he does whatever he wants. I just hope that we will have a chance once i return. :-)

AeGiCap>> thank you for your input. what you told is very important for me and thank you for it. I do not expect him to now sit around for months and sink into the thought of me and stuff. I do want him to lead his life as he wants until i'm not here. I just hope that if he made all this fuzz, if he told all those things, he does mean them and there is a chance for us once i am back. I respect you for being able to not dwell on things... i am just in the learning phase regarding that.

I try to take it cool and have as much confidence that im worth enough for him.

thanks again! :-)

CapGal>> what you say is how i try to live my life for some time now. believing that things that are meant to be, will happen and if something does not happen, then it is supposed to be like that.

he is just such a constant reoccuring image in my life. 🙂 I mean 15 years is the half of my life... i wanna believe that it means something. :-)

QuietStOrm>> wow, Cancer moon, huh? 🙂 just had a half year long run with a Cancer guy, he devastated me, but also changed me profoundly.
LOL for the 'out of a romance novel'! I sometimes feel that too. weird thing is for example, that even when i had my exbf, whom i really loved, and i had no contact with the Cappy guy, havent heard about him at all... i still dreamt with him constantly. I always dreamt that we were together and i was happy with him.
these dreams always stirred me up, cause they made me think WTF is happening to me?

cause if you think about a person a lot, who is present in your life constantly, it is normal that you dream with him/her. But if a person is not at all present in your everyday life and you repeatedly dream about him and always the same thing... it is like some higher sign that you should be together. LOL

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anyways, since i'm new and i hope to stay around here, just a few introductory things.

as i told already i am 29 years old, live in Europe. Astrologically speaking:

Sun - Aquarius
Moon - Virgo
Rising - Virgo
Mercury - Aquarius
Venus - Capricorn
Mars - Libra

Cappy guy is:

Sun, Moon and Mercury - Capricorn
Venus - Sagittarius
Mars - Aquarius

thats all for now and thank you very much for the warm welcome! :-)

If he waited for 15 years whats six more months go for it.

CappyLuv30>> thanks for analyzing a bit. Honestly i know only basics but not deep enough about astrology. I thought we fit mostly cause even so that my sun sign is Aqua, i feel much more of a Virgo (due to my Moon and Rising). He is very Cappy-ish so we both have earth dominance.

hey everyone!

so i left my country some days ago and think of Cappy guy a lot. he was pretty silent the last week before i left, though he told me, he had a lot to do (working, also university and other extra job).
the night before i left, he sent me a long textmsg. how he envies me, even if i only came to work here, and that he thinks a lot of me and hopes all will be good with me.

what i wanna know, how regular contact should i keep with him? i ask this, cause i know i am in a way that if i want him, i 'wait' for him, i mean for the time i go home and we have chance to date, spend time together. and i will want it the same way in months and months of time, even if i don't hear a beep from him, cause i believe what he told me, that i am important. i don't need constant assurance from him.

but could he need it from me? or i just should let him live his life and let him contact me if he wants to?

I've been married to two Capricorn men (not at the same time though!) and just ended a two and a half year relationship with a third. Believe me, if they are interested in you, you will know. They will hunt you down. They will ring, text, or find a way to get to you wherever on the planet you may be.

PS Don't contact him.

I would like to know your opinion about whether Cappie males are tactical, tricky? Are they usually playing games? Testing you?

I think calculating is the right word to use.

Calculating? what do you exactly mean?

the thing is. i am away from my country, working abroad for half year. we kind of got entangled right before i left. we are not together, but he acknowledged he would like to be with me once im back at home.

he told me he is hoping we can at least keep in touch through internet. i told him, of course we can.

two weeks ago we finally chated the first time. he asked me when we chat next. i told him days when my work allows me to be around internet. he was not around any of those days and i got no msg or anything from him.

for days now, i see him on chat and i am on it too, visible mode. he is not initiating any talk and i just dont get it. i dont wanna be the one who initiates again... this is what i meant. he has to see that i am there, still he is not talking to me. and i was interested why that could be? i won't go into any cat-mouse game, i had enough of that with other guys before.

This is a sign with a calculating mind that does not rush into anything.

I think the thing that stood out most to me is that when you said when you are together, in the flesh he loves you!

There could be all sorts of reasons why he hasn't contacted you online. Personally I wouldn't accept any of them unless I knew for certain he was in a self induced coma and couldn't work a phone or keyboard.

I would continue to contact him, if not daily at least every chance I got. It will build his faith in what you guys could have.

Remember, you said:

Posted by Katie28
Then he asked: ??_And what is gonna happen to us now— And I told him that it is a tough question and that i will go away, but that i come back and if he wants, he waits for me, that i would like to be with him.

.... He did say he will wait for me to return, that it will be awsome when I'm back, we will do great stuff.

i know it is too much to ASK him to wait for me, hence i did not. He told me he would, and i told him he does not need to promise me anything.

Maybe he is just waiting for you to come back before he starts anything serious. Although it was out of your control, you were gone previously for 15 years. Depending how much he likes you, he may not be trying to get his hopes up and you don't return. Your reply to his response about waiting for you was a little misleading. You certainly didn't mean it, but you said it. Try not to say things you don't mean -- it could confuse him especially since he doesn't REALLY know you yet.

Stop being available to him and see what he does. Look for his patterns. They are there.