Oh My God, Get On That Horse, Capricorn.

I've been dating a Capricorn male for two and a half years. I'd like to call it a relationship but I can't. It's been like a a one-sided control session with a manipulative, game playing teenager instead. It's been rocky alright. I can't say I've helped with some of my decisions (joining singles sites online out of sheer frustration) several times, when Lord Capricorn has put everything under the sun first, instead of our relationship. In hindsight I should've simply met someone else and laughed at his claims that with me, he thought he had 'found someone for life.'

Do I sound bitter. I suppose I do. I feel like I wasted two years with this fellow. Perhaps when he discovered I was joining singles sites he felt exactly the same way. Who wouldn't.

He's hung in there as much as I have. Moreso, given I've always been the one to want to end it and he's been insistent on keeping it up and running.

Until last week when he said he needed some space. That he didn't think I wanted the relationship. Not really. And that he wasn't sure he did either. Now I believe this means "I want to look around and be free to do so, and have you available if I don't find anything better". Oh-oh. Yet within a week he started acting as though I'd imagined him saying this to me and the same old pattern starts again where I start to think perhaps he will start putting me first this time. Big mistake.

I found out by good old google that there is a big horseracing event coming up this weekend. In a town he is going to be in this weekend. He told me he was going to be in that town this weekend but not WHY. I believe he suddenly needed his 'space' when he realised it probably wouldn't go down too well with me at this stage, that he would rather attend a horse race (he knows I can't attend, I have commitments) than put some actual non self involved time into showing me he really isn't that selfish teenager who can't miss out on anything, that made me join singles sites online, hoping he would grow up.

He's selfish and I want to be in a healthy, happy relationship with a man. I'm not even going to tell him it's over. There seems little point in flogging a dead ummm horse.

I suppose my question to this message board is "would you bother confronting this man, asking why he is going somewhere and not telling you the real reason?' He always goes to this town for work, and OK he has told me he is going, just not that he is actually going on a weekend this time because he wants to attend a horse race!.

The Lord's birthday is 26th December1961.

Amethyst, do you need the town he is in now or the town he was born in? He is living in Ballarat now but was born in Warracknabeal, Victoria, Australia.

HEY, my Venus is Sag! And I love like there is no tomorrow (again, and again, and again) 😛

Posted by ellessque
yeah, but where is the controlling aspect coming from?

lol @ diva.

Caps are pretty bossy...not to mention Leo moons like to organize the people in their lives.

I'm a Leo moon, and I can be pretty bossy -ring leader type.
I don't mean to be...it's coming from a good place, I take on the responsible mother role when my friends are acting like jackasses

& she's a Sag I think.

A very watery Sag...or a Cancer

He has the same Moon and Venus as my Cap. 2 years here ... same situation ... I live my life in black and white, and I love it that way ... he brought grey along ... and confussion isn't such a great feeling

If I were you I'd just ignore it, you said it's over, so why bother asking him about why he didnt tell you those stuff? ... it doesn't reflect that it's really over.

Let him be ... if he comes back .. show him the two cards ... he either pick friendship or relationship ... no more in between ... I am in this process right now ... and to be honest ... you can't really lose someone you never had

Oops, I've been avoiding even thinking or speaking about anything to do with him and have only just read your question.

I'm a Cancer of course 🙂

Things really got worse. He didn't follow through on his 'wanting space' at all. He demanded to look through my mobile phone. Yeah okay no big deal I had nothing to hide. I requested to see his mobile phone bill. He said he had no problems with that and then didn't follow through on it. His 'story' was that saying you had no problem with it and saying he had told me he would show it to me were two different things.

I know Capricorns detest their privacy being invaded but I suppose at the end of the day and at the end of the relationship I wanted to know for certain if this man had been lining up his next rabbit and being a 'phone man' I knew anything would show on his bill.

When he didn't produce I sent the text I should've sent a long time ago: "F* You".

I haven't heard anything since. I don't think I will.

I have no idea what I am going to say if he rocks up at my home with the phone bill and it's innocent as innocent as he claims. "I wanna see your credit card statement I guess" 🙂

I don't know if I'm right but I think after two and a half years he should have no problem showing me a bill he said he had no problem with showing me.

I don't know if I'm imagining it but I think at times I can hear him trying to figure out what to do (during the times I think he's guilty) or him saying "F* $ % " You when he produces the bill.

Oh gosh this is torture...

im a leo moon and im only bossy cause when im not the people around never get things done nor does anything i need handled ever taken care of. its better i takeover and handle things than have them say they will and endup not following through. i just endup being an asshole and not trusting them again.........if he didnt show the phone bill after stating he'd do it. that pretty much tells you everything

It's meant to sound silly! An absurd ending to an absurd relationship and not meant to be taken seriously.

I may have cursed myself though - I haven't typed about it in awhile and the same day I did, I saw he tried to ring me 3 times.

I'm now thinking "make mine a Taurean next".

Now, I see the importantce of someone using logic and rationale when a Cap is with a water sign. Lol. If not, things can get realy crazy and dramamtic real quick. Gotta have logic and a level head to reel things out of that "crazy/drama" zone. Lol.