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Posted by sagigoat
OH SWEETIE!

many of us worried about you wondering whether you are well! i'm glad to see you well πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚


but i'm sorry to hear about your meanie roomate 😒. i can only wish he gets better or you get rid of him 😐. what's his sun sign?




Hi Sagi πŸ™‚ Yes, I'm fine thank you ^_^. how are youβ€”

My roommate ... well, hahaha in all honesty, he's a Saggie-Capricorn cusp ... just like me :O I can't believe it. At first, you know I thought he as just a Saggie until recently I found out he was on the cusp. Actually, he told me lol.

The difference between us is our charts -- His moon is in Capricorn and mine is in Aquarius. Any other time, I'm fine with cap moons but this one is mean!!! oh my goodess. He put on this sweetie-pie image for like four years with me. Now I'm living with him and he's like a rattlesnake.
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Posted by Rays Heart
Oh my! I don't even remember saying that. πŸ˜‰ Haha but I'm sure it would have been a personal opinion. I can't really be around people that are too mean and negative, the Capricorn mooners I've met, I really don't like in that sense. How can the sun be so holy and the moon so evil?



EXACTLY!!! My goodness.

This dude has no feelings for no one else but himself -- the only reason I know this is because I'm living with him. Thats totally not the image he protrays.
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Posted by sagigoat
i'm going take some pratical short ones in the summer (more like professional training outside of school) but mainly just to sharpen my skills in some software in creating better results

yep it's not easy to do much in summer i plan to have plenty of fun too lol




I plan on taking a skill sharpening course in the 2nd session of summer too, but right now I'm taking biology.
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Posted by sagigoat
well sweetie make sure you enjoy the summer too πŸ™‚ get more sun and do outdoors and stuff... June should be good for us cappies so i'm sure your situation with your meanie roomate should get better one way or the other soon




Put my having fun this summer it dropping some much needed weight. I'm determined and I have motivation now. I have to climb stairs ... alot of stairs now. Its no fun when you are too heavy. Thats for sure
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Posted by sagigoat
he is mad with you bc you put a lock on your door? what's his problem? i'd have a lock on everything even when i live alone lol



He's thinks I don't trust him or whatever. And thats not the case at all. He has way too many girls that he sleeps ith and I don't want them in my stuff. Just because he tells them not to go in my room doesn't mean that they will listen.
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Posted by Rays Heart
" Thats what I said! lol, I think he's mad with me because I put a lock on my door "

haha well have to be safe. What's his problem? lol



Beats me ... he thinks its all about him but its not. It has nothing to do with him really. Its those girls. Last night, I know he won't tell me but after I heard part of the convo, I figured it out. He had one girl over to cook for him and he wanted to sleep with her ... I guess he didn't tell her that he had a female roommate. So after she cooked, she said she was going to leave but come back, she never came back that night and he was pissed.


He way over-sexed. Honestly, its kinda gross really lol
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Posted by sagigoat
dxp was down until now i guess :/... guess you guys went night night


well fwiw yes JD i like the bear lol


wow sweetie this guy is not a decent person yes i agree very much you should get rid of him at all cost keep such a person at a distance you never know what other indecent stuff he is capable of which may cause you harm. it's better careful than sorry.

it tells a lot about a person in how a person treats the opposite sex. lock your door and keep all your info as inaccessible as you can from him. he would probably agree it's better for him to have a guy roomate so his preys wouldn't bail. leverage that to push him move. win-win.



Yeah, I tried to reply and I couldn't lol. I was tired anyway so I went to bed.

This morning, I woke up cleaning and trying to get my stuff into storage because my roomie has a thing about "stuff" being in the livingroom. He's been nagging the heck out of me about it so I tried to finish going through it all. It was difficult since I just moved in like alittle over 48 hours ago lol.


Now the thing about the lock ... my god, this was a mistake, maybe I should told him first ... I don't know.
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Posted by Rays Heart
Okay, DXP was down I thought it was something wrong with my PC. I was looking for my warranty and the box, so I could send it right back.

CS, I don't know how you can live with such guy. You shouldn't trust him and his friends. I can't really tolerate people who live disorganized lives. It's just me though but be safe.



Honestly, if I didn't need a roomie, I wouldn't have moved in with him. Plus, he protrayed such an innocent image for like freaking 4 years :O He hid his well I think you. I mean, just about every night I've been there -- which hasn't been long lol -- he's had a girl over, yeah a girl ... like, not the same one :/ Its not my business at all but ... the dude is almost 30 years old ... I mean seriously, what is he trying to prove here.

I wipe down the toilet all the time, you have no idea lol. I do it because I don't want any 'potential' diseases. He has way too many sexual partners for my taste so I don't want to take any chances.
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Posted by Archer
oh sweetie,

please tell a bit more abt this person... "mean' as you put it..

the guy I am dealing with,,, has a Sun in Capricorn plus Moon in Capricorn..
and he is kinda 'mean' ... so far it is more appearing like a bit of 'detachment' which my Venus in Aqua is fine with,, but I cant help feeling a totally 'um-Approachable" part of him..

please do tell more,, since living with a person without the rose-tinted goggles of romance,, can be very true of a description,,
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Hi Archer πŸ™‚ hahaha @ rose-tinted goggles. Actually, from what I see, from the women who seem to be in love with this guy, he sure has them fooled hahaha!!! My goodness, he has them fooled -- they have no idea. I think thats why he's so grumpy, to have to keep up such a front all the time can be tiring.

Well since you are a Saggie with an Aqua moon and I'm a Saggie-cappie with an Aqua moon, than we probably see things kinda sort of the same lol.

Well, with him its like, I don't know, he's very territorial or however you spell it lol. He also tends to be one-sided, like what applys to you doesn't really have to apply to him :/ And I'm like, now way! He's not very forgiving and he tends to be a bit self-important along with being selfish. Granted, this is a side of him I see because I'm living with him now ... others don't see this unless its clearly by accident. Part of the reason that he's doing this is because he is running from SO MANY demons that he does not want to face. Keeping himself cold will stop him from having to "feel anything". I see it, plus I've known him for a while to know that he's been hurt before and has hurt someone else he cared for before, that damaged him a bit ... now he's the womanizer.

God, it kills me how he turns the music up so I can't hear him and whatever girl he's with LOL, I can still hear it all ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
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Posted by sagigoat
i think directness can save lots of doubts and time sometimes.

archer, i'd just tell him directly in an unemotionally way (like you are discussing a 3rd party. dunno but i do that. if he gets emotional i'll change to be more personal if not i'd remain detached) that i find it interesting that he has a fan club like that and it's hard for me to believe that a fan club would sustain its own without proper encouragement. and see what he says. if he really cares how you feel he may explain until his face turns blue lol πŸ˜›.




I like directness to. Like tonight or tomorrow, whenever. I will tell my roomie that he's been acting like an asshole. So he needs to cut it out or I will move AGAIN within the next month. I'm not sure where I'll go ... but I can't deal with him.
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Posted by Ms.Pisces
Capricorn people can be pretty damn mean if they want to. Nothing can top the coldness of a Cap, who intends on freezing you out. They don't need many words to effectively get that point across. *Shivers*


"NO ONE writes so much to a man.. unless encouraged.."


Thats not always true, Archer, unless you consider a simple polite cooment, as encouragement. (Although don't doubt they secretly enjoy the ego boosts) You'd be suprised to see how women can and will completely throw themselves at men, especially on those networking sites.

I have a Cap friend who has a myspace for business purposes, and asked me to check it out for him. I was shocked to see how many women had apparently abandoned any sort of pride they might have had, once they signed onto that place. Of course, the curiousity in me made me click on their pages, πŸ˜› because, like you, I couldn't imagine women saying those things w/o some sort of encouragement from him...only to find that there was nothing more than polite comments from him, if there were any comments at all, for that matter..



lol, I agree we caps can be VERY mean. I have my moment -- so I'm told lol. But hey, I try to consider another feelings and I don't take my anger out on other people. My roomie does.
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Posted by cappygolightly
Sweetie this guy sounds like a nightmare. All this constant nitpicking etc. Not surprised you are fed up. I think with the lock it's a misunderstanding in that he maybe expected you to tell him, but I don't understand - does he own this place?



We both own it. We are both on the lease, well I was added to the lease. The nitpicking is pissing me off too. From crying out loud, he's almost as bad as my step-dad with all that shit :O

Nope, he and I have to talk. Just like we had a "house meeting" about the new door knob on my door, I have to talk to him about his attitude. If he won't talk to me, I swear, I'm out.
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Posted by Rays Heart
"Now the thing about the lock ... my god, this was a mistake, maybe I should told him first ... I don't know."

I don't see why it's a mistake. Why would a roommate even be concerned with that. That's like someone being mad at me for having an alarm system at my house. Off course, unless your lock is interfering with his plans.



What plans would he have β€” Thats my room, not his lol. He better keep his women on the other side of the hall, where his room is damn it.

Well, he said that me putting a lock on my door shows that I don't trust him and that I think he would steal from me and that TOTALLY not the case. It had nothing to do with him, it had everything to do with all those girls.
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But he was sooo mean later in the day, I didn't know why until we talked the next day. He said that he didn't want to go on being upset with me nor did he want things to be arkward. So thats when he said we needed to have a house meeting and he told me.


He wants me to put the original door knob back on. The excuse he's using now is that it doesn't match the other knobs :/
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Posted by Rays Heart
About his plans, I don't you'll have to ask him. I don't see why it's such a problem for him. It's not something you did to his room. It's something you did to yours. You put the lock on for a reason, you have intuitions and you followed them. Just tell him to think differently about the lock, if he can't then that's really his problem.




I have to see him tonight, after work ...

I hope he's in bed or not home yet lol
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Posted by sagigoat
"he said that me putting a lock on my door shows that I don't trust him and that I think he would steal from me and that TOTALLY not the case. It had nothing to do with him, it had everything to do with all those girls."

acutally sweetie i'd totally tell him straight as firm as he would ever hear without mercy that yes i do not trust him my trust has to be earned so do not give me that childish illogical line. show me black and white where in the lease contract that says i cannot replace my door lock otherwise end of discussion.

yep i'm tougher when meets BS.



Well, he says its not about that really ... he said that he would feel better I would have talked to him about it first. He feels as if I didn't respect him by doing that. Like I did it behind his back or something :/
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Posted by cappygolightly
Well if you are both equal what right has he to dictate terms? I thought he was making a fuss because it was his door. Is he worried a lock might breach the terms of the lease or be construed as damage?

But on the other hand there are always going to be teething problems when moving in with someone you have never lived with before. Men can be very territorial about a house. I houseshared with five guys once and most of them were really nice, but there was one guy (a virgo) who I really got on with but who also turned out to be the biggest whiney-assed, annoyingly nagging, nitpicky, double standard windbag that I have ever come across. I guess the fact that he got me drunkk the night before he knew I was getting back with my pisces ex and tried to seduce me did not help matters lol (I ended up throwing up and still swear he spiked my drink). But he had a habit of playing music really loudly in his room or taking over the kitchen with it while he did his three hour cooking chilli man thing. He would take over the lounge to watch programmes he liked on our shared tv. He would complain about me having a bath in the morning and waking him up with the sound of running water. He would put his speedskates in the oven (to apparently harden the leather up) & then moan at me for turning the heating up in winter, not considering how much of a waste baking skates must be. Given bills were included inthe rental I can only assume he wanted a moan.

However, we did have some really fun times in that house. The drunken ice cube fights, barbeques we had a resident Aussie), the cooking meals together, the nights out in the local pub by a lake, the "ghost" in the kitchen (really one of the guys who had a strange sense of humour doing ghostly moaning noises outside the extractor fan). He did also help me boiling water when my car froze up one year and when I did throw up that time he left a pint of water next to my bed and cleaned up the mess where I'd missed the loo!

So sweetie maybe you just need a chat with this guy to clear the air and set down some ground rules. Or maybe you need a less picky roomie.



So you've lived with men too! Okay, I don't feel too alone in this now lol
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I hope he's in bed or not home yet lol



Based on what youve said already, he probably is in bed but not alone....
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Well, here its about 8:24pm, its too early, he's probably sweet talking someone into coming over but not now, its not dark enough outside lol. He likes to keep his innocent-farm-boy thing going so he waits until late at night lol
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Posted by Rays Heart
"Well, he says its not about that really ... he said that he would feel better I would have talked to him about it first. He feels as if I didn't respect him by doing that."

I think he doesn't respect you by bringing all those girls in and out of the apartment like that. How's that?



πŸ™‚ @ Ray

Well, it does feel wierd ...

You know, the sex every night kind of thing, and I can hear it :/ He tries to block it with music but the girls are pretty loud lol.

Last night he had one over really late because he was really horny from not getting any early in the day. She had such a big mouth. After DXP went down last night, I went to bed because I got tired of hearing her lol
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Posted by ~devil's_the_name~
Sweety, how do you behave around him? like, did you treat him like an average guy, or were you very sweet to him?



Well, we've been friends for 4 years and I've always been sweet to him because he's always been sweet to me. Only after I put the lock on the door, things seem to change. Oh yeah, and because some of my stuff was in the livingroom, he seemed to be edgey about that but I can't fit everything in my room so I had to put somethings in the livingroom 😒

Last night, I asked him how he was doing after he walked in the door, he said, "I'll feel alot better once all this stuff is out of here." I work and I had school along with a very tough exam this week, plus I just moved in alittle over 48 hours ago ...
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