Carolz
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Rebound Relationships
To help get over someone, I focus on the negativities of that relationship - the things I didn't like, the bad habits I no longer have to put up with, the times they were a jerk, how the long term would never work out, etc.
Rebound relationships can help...but you have to be careful with those. I mean it's not good to lead someone on.
Rebound relationships can help...but you have to be careful with those. I mean it's not good to lead someone on.
What about telling the person truth that you want a rebound relationship and nothing else?
I imagine anyone who would be okay with being your rebound isn't going to help your situation. Unless we're talking purely fwb. What kind of feelings would you expect someone to develop for you when you tell them "rebound and nothing else?". Might as well just stick to some good sex without having a fake-ish relationship.
Posted by CarolzI wouldn't. I'd just let them know that I'm also dating other people.
What about telling the person truth that you want a rebound relationship and nothing else?
You can also tell them "I'm not ready for a relationship right now". Straight up right from the get go. That's honest. That's being upfront. But how many threads do see where someone has TOLD them this and then they're all confused and complaining that someone disappeared on them when they got serious. Somehow, they forget that they were told straight out from the beginning that this person was available to date, but not available for a relationship. It's frustrating when you tell them that and they still act like you're the jerk.
But, really, it's not fair to the other person, if you know this is just a rebound and it's all it will ever be.
Posted by cheekyfaerieI agree with you. She should get over the past one before involving a new one.
Dollars to donuts she'll do that, fall hard and then get rejected cause she told ol' dude she didn't want serious. Truecap, I agree with most of what you have to say, but if she's still as ate up with this guy as she claims to be (a year later?!), she needs to work on herself.
Go out with friends, do a hobby, fuck... learn to dance!, just something that gets your head on straight before you put yourself in the position of making a huge mistake with another person.
Sexual relationships is not my requirement right now . I want to be emotionally supported . I agree with most of you here that I need to work on myself but my situation right now is that I cannot even give somebody that place he had in my heart so this relationship idea is just out of my ego . Deep inside I know I cannot even have a rebound or fake relationship .
Posted by CarolzThen why do you want to be emotionally supported in a romantic situation? Those are two way and not one way streets. Were you used in that way by your previous partner? If so, please find the nearest exit out of that vicious circle.
Sexual relationships is not my requirement right now . I want to be emotionally supported . I agree with most of you here that I need to work on myself but my situation right now is that I cannot even give somebody that place he had in my heart so this relationship idea is just out of my ego . Deep inside I know I cannot even have a rebound or fake relationship .
Posted by MsTeeq1974No I wasn't used . He broke up for his own reasons .Like being busy and stuff. I never told him that I want to patch up. Even now we are friends we know where this is going but we just don't confront . Since the breakup night haven't even talk about our relation till date .Posted by CarolzThen why do you want to be emotionally supported in a romantic situation? Those are two way and not one way streets. Were you used in that way by your previous partner? If so, please find the nearest exit out of that vicious circle.
Sexual relationships is not my requirement right now . I want to be emotionally supported . I agree with most of you here that I need to work on myself but my situation right now is that I cannot even give somebody that place he had in my heart so this relationship idea is just out of my ego . Deep inside I know I cannot even have a rebound or fake relationship .click to expand
Posted by CarolzFriends and family should be able to give you emotional support
Sexual relationships is not my requirement right now . I want to be emotionally supported . I agree with most of you here that I need to work on myself but my situation right now is that I cannot even give somebody that place he had in my heart so this relationship idea is just out of my ego . Deep inside I know I cannot even have a rebound or fake relationship .
Hi carolz can I ask if the person your trying to get over was the libra?
I was on and off with a Capricorn the last few years and I could tell this year he wanted to make it work but I was deeply hurt and no longer had it in me to stay with him so for the first time in a few years, I initiated the break up and changed my number, email address and everything. Not a moment goes by when I don't miss him and think of him but I just can't do it to myself anymore. Ours was a cap and libra relationship and if it's this libra your referring too, maybe he misses u too. I'm not saying go back but in case u wonder how he is feeling, he might be just as heartbroken as u?
I was on and off with a Capricorn the last few years and I could tell this year he wanted to make it work but I was deeply hurt and no longer had it in me to stay with him so for the first time in a few years, I initiated the break up and changed my number, email address and everything. Not a moment goes by when I don't miss him and think of him but I just can't do it to myself anymore. Ours was a cap and libra relationship and if it's this libra your referring too, maybe he misses u too. I'm not saying go back but in case u wonder how he is feeling, he might be just as heartbroken as u?
Posted by Venusinscorpio786Yes he is a Libra . He never actually want me to leave him . This is the reason we are still friends But yes of course we both have not much strength to speak up ourselves or talk about the relation
Hi carolz can I ask if the person your trying to get over was the libra?
I was on and off with a Capricorn the last few years and I could tell this year he wanted to make it work but I was deeply hurt and no longer had it in me to stay with him so for the first time in a few years, I initiated the break up and changed my number, email address and everything. Not a moment goes by when I don't miss him and think of him but I just can't do it to myself anymore. Ours was a cap and libra relationship and if it's this libra your referring too, maybe he misses u too. I'm not saying go back but in case u wonder how he is feeling, he might be just as heartbroken as u?
Posted by CarolzYeah similarly after so much, I lost the strength but I know if I kept in contact with him my feelings would keep activating and right now I'm trying to kill them off lol maybe since your both friends it's difficult for you to let go hence why u want a rebound. If u don't think it will work why not completely cut contact and allow time to heal. Rebounds don't work in my opinionPosted by Venusinscorpio786Yes he is a Libra . He never actually want me to leave him . This is the reason we are still friends But yes of course we both have not much strength to speak up ourselves or talk about the relation
Hi carolz can I ask if the person your trying to get over was the libra?
I was on and off with a Capricorn the last few years and I could tell this year he wanted to make it work but I was deeply hurt and no longer had it in me to stay with him so for the first time in a few years, I initiated the break up and changed my number, email address and everything. Not a moment goes by when I don't miss him and think of him but I just can't do it to myself anymore. Ours was a cap and libra relationship and if it's this libra your referring too, maybe he misses u too. I'm not saying go back but in case u wonder how he is feeling, he might be just as heartbroken as u?click to expand
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