Sag Woman and her Cap guy....Help

Hi Everyone,

I'm brand new to the forum and am sooo excited to have found it. You guys rock when it comes to dissecting the characteristics of a Capricorn man. I've been dating my Cap now for 6 months and have experienced the whole pulling away, coming back trait of a Cap guy! I thought it was me until I started reading up about their personalities. Well my guy is great. He's smart, successful and a workaholic! Sounds familiar? But he is also super affectionate (even in public), a true gentleman and just a generally nice guy. When we are together I feel very special and he insists on paying for everything: meals, our mini vacas, even the ice-cream from the Mr. Softee truck.

We met on a very popular online dating site and after the fourth month of dating I pretty much stopped seeing other people. We rarely see each other during the week because of his work schedule but come the weekend we are together Friday night thru Monday morning. My friends all think this is strange but it works for us. Instead of 3 hours here and there during the week I get him for anywhere from 48- 72 hours straight. Besides my job takes up a lot of time and I have a lot of activities that I am involved with during the week so I don't mind.

So what's the issue? Well I found out that he's still actively logging onto the online dating site. What the hell is that all about? While we have not formally had the exclusivity conversation I just assumed (obviously an error on my part) that we were only seeing each other! The Sag in me wants to have a very blunt conversation with him this weekend about it but I know how these Caps are and don't want to scare him off as I am not pleasant when I'm upset! Having read up on their nature I decided that I would be patient with his slow moving ways because he was a great guy and totally worth it but this little factoid has thrown me for a loop.

Oh what to do?

hmm... this is just me but i've always been really blunt with my cap. i've got sag rising and a few other sag placements so maybe thats why. anyway, if it's something you want to address then i think you should instead of letting it eat at you, but i suggest doing it in a very calm and non accusatory way. i say this because he is spending his weekends until monday with you and that's a good thing, besides the other little things he does. i suggest just asking where you both are within the "relationship" and whether or not he considers it an exclusive one or not or if he wants it to be exclusive. i'm sure he'll be honest about it and if it happens to be something you don't necessarily like, then it's your responsibility to do what's good for you at that point in time.

SagDiva

I wouldn't take this seriously, although I understand how you feel.

I'm in those dating sites for years... you develop friendships in there or just log in like solving a puzzle, playing solitaire... or some other free time entertainment activity. Him logging into that site, should not give you warning signals. He is spending his WHOLE weekends with you and you are still in doubt?


May I suggest, DO NOT mention to him that you saw him logging in to that site. Not yet, at least... Give him his privacy. Don't make it look like you are checking out on him, you are not trusting him, or you want to control him.

I'd be annoyed myself if a guy would point out that he sees me logging in to places. I think I can say I know somewhat, of how a CAP man would feel if you pin point their private activity back at their face. You don't want to limit him. Sagittarius is a free spirit. You wouldn't want to be observed with distrust either...


Just relax... The more you leave him free like a bird, the more he will want to come back to you.

I hope I'm right. Please do correct me if I'm wrong cappies... 🙂

Thanks for the advice guys! I've spent the past 2 days calming myself down and think that I'm almost ready to see him tomorrow - one more kick-boxing class should do it. After giving this situation a lot of thought and reading FumRed's post I've decided not to bring up the "logging on" fact and or even asking where we are in this pseudo relationship. I think I will wait until the end of the summer, if we are still together, and which would put us at a solid 9 months of dating to ask the question - where are we taking this relationship?

This will 1: give him 3 months to step up to the plate himself to bring up the topic; (2) we will have 9 months behind us so that if I do need to bring up the conversation I won't come off as needy or trying to rush things and (3) I will feel better about walking away if he doesn't give me the answer I want to hear. To be quite honest I am not in the mind set or age bracket to casually date someone. I'd like to get married and have a bunch of kids over the next 5-6 years. I'm in my mid 30's and frankly have spent my 20's knowing what I want and don't want in a partner and may not be up to dating a slow moving Cap!