Sag Woman/Cap Man

Started seeing cap a few months ago. Originally thought it was just going to be a summer fling. I felt it was turning into something more and naturally I caught feelings. He never talks about his feelings unless I bring it up, and I wasn't sure what we were, FWB, etc. , so I felt the best thing to do was look at it as casual and date others. So I went out with a male friend and he found out. He was pretty upset. He said it wasn't that I went out with another guy, but that he felt I wasn't keeping it real with him. He said if I'm going to be doing my thing, he'll do his as well (which I already had assumed he was talking to other females anyway).

Confused, I finally had the talk with him about where we are. He said that he has feelings for me, but that it's too early to put a title on anything. He said he wants to go with the flow and see how things go. We both agreed that we would talk to others, just as long as we were honest with each other about whats going on.

Sometimes when we talk or are together, he'll ask if I went on a date that day/week and even sometimes I feel like he keeps tabs on me or maybe that's his way of making small talk. We talk everyday (he often always initiates contact), sometimes all throughout the day, we go out every week, and it seems like we've gotten closer.

Is this typical of a cap--even having been intimate, spending time and having feelings for someone, do they still want to take their time to get into a relationship?

I'm all for going with the flow, but I'm not sure if I can continue this flow for long, if he's unsure.

I liked a cap guy. He seemed like someone who would take things slow. I think thats a good thing. Everyones different though.

He said he liked you so he's sure of that. Capricorn's are very slow moving, if they are taking initiative they like you, so just enjoy it for now 🙂

He likes you, he's just being cautious. Be patient and consistent and the shields will come off.

Thank you for all your responses! He always talks about wanting to be with someone who is his best friend. When we had the talk, after he found out I went out with another guy,he told me he was talking to two women, mostly through text messages and I know he has a lot of female friends.

I dated a Cap years ago. He was the complete opposite though, cold and everything was always about him. But he was a womanizer as well...strung me along. I hate to generalize, but I can't help but wonder if he wants to go with the flow just to play the field.

That ^^.

Just tell him someone asked you out and you turned them down because you're not interested in seeing anyone else. See what he says.

That's a good way to approach it without having the oh-so-uncomfortable pressurized "talk".

I love Sags by the way. Their can-do spirit and positive energy and easy laughs are good for me. Sags are good for us capricorns.

After the outing incident, he said he didn't mind if go out with others and weigh my options(ouch).

And I so dread the "oh-so-uncomfortable pressurized "talk"" because I hate putting myself out there. The good thing about him though is whenever I'm feeling some kind of way and I might not necessarily want to talk about it, he's always open to talk about it. Our last talk he said that he's just a go with the flow kind of guy and that this keeps coming up, so he asked if I was interested in being his girlfriend, is that why I'm asking. I shut down after that. He told me that he was trying to have a serious conversation, so we continued to talk but I avoided that question.

Since he wants to go with the flow, should I really cut myself off from others?

I appreciate all of your feedback. He always gives me the impression that he wants to take his time, but I guess I need to step up and "dive in".

He will respect directness. Just don't rush him, though.

Posted by truecap
He will respect directness. Just don't rush him, though.

🙂 I will definitely take your advice. Today was the first time, in a while that he's told me he misses me and wants to see me, and we were just with each other over the weekend. I won't rock the boat, but if he asks me about my dates, I'll tell him that he's the only one I'm interested in seeing.