Should She have waited for me?

Hey everybody! I got this personal dillema which may not belong to this board but I reaaly want to get some feedback from my capricorn brothers and sisters! So please don't remove it!

You nasty ass Virgos can chime in too🙂 LOL!

I got this long distance relationship mess here🙂

I met this girl online and we hit it off. She is in different neighboring country. Not crazy love or anything, but mutual interest and feelings that we like each other.

Long story short, we decided to meet up in the couple of month. I was gonna come and see her. But week later she told me that she slept with her ex bf couple of times, but that it was only physical and she has no feelings for him. She says she doesn't think it's wrong what she did. She says it's absolutely normal. Well, regardless, that got me mad and I told her that in this case I wasn't coming.

Was I right to be mad at her?

Now I know we were not in the relationship or even in love and we were only gonna meet each other and see what happens. If we liked each other and take it step further it's all right, if not it's all right too. And if we didn't then she is free to do whatever she wants, but until then I think she should of had a little more decency and respect for a person who is taking a trouble and coming to see her from a different country to visit her and wait just a little bit and not to sleep with the other guy. I mean I'm not coming to just try and have sex! For the money I would have spent on the trip I could just get hookers.

So who do you think is right in this situation? Do you think that was all right on her part to do what she did, or I overreacting? Thank You for your feedback!

Posted by Shaks
Its none of your business who she chooses to fuck as long as you two are not EXCLUSIVE. Your expectations become even more ludicrous when you consider you two havent even met face to face and from what Ive noticed, it often happens that people who "meet" online get disappointed about one another right after the first face to face meeting, way too much idealization, way too many false hopes and expectations involved.

What do you mean it's non of my business— She was the one who invited me over! Put yourself in my shoes, you getting ready to come and see a person and meanwhile she is screwing someone else. What does that tell you? That she doesn't give two shits, that's what! If we were just talking online like friends then yeah she can do whatever, but if I coming to see her, well that gets a little bit more serious.

Analysing stuff is not your strong suit Shaks. Oh and BTW later on she admitted that it was wrong of her and if that happened to her she wouldn't like it either.

Oh yeah I also didn't ask your opinion about my expectations. I realise that first face to face meeting might be a dissapointment, BUT BEFORE THAT IT SHOULD BE ALL NICE AND ROMANTIC. It's stupid to be all negative and expect worse beforehand.

Posted by sb
You're both overreacting.

How's that? If I come over and we don't get it on it's cool, but couldn't she just wait for a month? You can't have it both ways you know. Waiting for one guy while screwing the other. Yeah nice arrangement. To me that's messed up!

Posted by Shaks
"but couldn't she just wait for a month?"

Thats YOUR condition, not hers. You have absolutely no right or saying, or even knowing into her own libido as long as there is nothing concrete between you two, how hard is that to understand?

So all right, if you were in my shoes and girl says she's sleeping with someone like right now, while she's waiting for you to show up you will be cool with that—

Posted by Shaks
It doesnt matter if Im cool with that or not, because first of all I'd try to understand her decisions rather than shoving my own opinion of those decisions down her throat.

What's there to understand? You invite some one over, and it's not like 15 min drive you know. It's a commitment. So you can curb your libido and show some respect to a person who is taking all the trouble.

If your girlfriend slept on you, you prolly will be advocating her too. You lack basic selfesteem. Yeah.

Posted by sb
Well personally, I think she should have kept the fact that she was screwing around to herself if she thinks it's none of your business.

You need to meet first and then have expectations.

Yeah she said the same thing! But she is honest and doesn't like to lie. I think people should always be honest. In any circumstances. I effin hate liars.

It's not about expectations it's about basic consideration, decency and respect for another human being's feelings. It's not that hard to comprehend.

Posted by sb
Question is : Are YOU screwing someone right now that she knows about?

No I'm not. That's the damn point! I'm not a hypocrite.

But you know what? That's a great idea. Since you all are such little advocates and saying it's not a big deal then I'm gonna go ahead and have intercourse with someone else! Yeah! And then I will go ahead and tell HER about it. See how will she react.

You trying to be a decent person in this effed up world but you can't win even if you try! So be it! I will be uncaring, coniving A hole just like she is. If you can't win join them. Right?

Posted by Shaks

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It doesnt matter if Im cool with that or not, because first of all I'd try to understand her decisions rather than shoving my own opinion of those decisions down her throat.

It's a commitment. So you can curb your libido and show some respect to a person who is taking all the trouble.

We're back on the same damn thing, what you mentioned above is again YOUR condition, and you dont seem to be able to grasp that at this point where there is absolutely no concrete relationship between you two, YOUR conditions have zero value to her, and rightfully so. Do not fool yourself, so far all you two have built up is an ONLINE relationship (probably with a few phone convo's here and there), I may remind you that online=internet= world of make-believe.

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You right about one thing, my condition have zero value to her, in other words she doesn't care about it all coz she's not the one to go through all the trouble, thus I better stay away from the person like that. I think.

As for online relationship well it CAN turn into something bigger, it did before, so why crap on it since the begining? You can make it into something good if you take care to embrace it, instead of just effin it right up like she did. And that's the simple concept that you just don't get. Screwing is not everything.

No, I don't need sympathy because I know I'm right and that's the big picture to me. I just wanted to see if others will aknowledge that too. The girl did BTW. But you Shaks seem just trying to piss me off. And you fail. Because guess what?

After she told me, I said that we were done, but after that she still contacted me twice and still wants me to come. So instead of being a little womany pushover that you are Shaks, better take a lesson on how to mind fawk, guiltrip and manipulate people. And that is exactly why we Capricorns achieve great things at whatever we do, because we know how to make people play under our rules and accept our way of things. Chew on that little smart ass Virgo boy!

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Posted by yeah!
But you know what? That's a great idea. Since you all are such little advocates and saying it's not a big deal then I'm gonna go ahead and have intercourse with someone else! Yeah! And then I will go ahead and tell HER about it. See how will she react.

You trying to be a decent person in this effed up world but you can't win even if you try! So be it! I will be uncaring, coniving A hole just like she is. If you can't win join them. Right?

No you don't have to. You just have to realize that you both have different standards and............move on.

Let it go and move on. Life's too short as it is. 😄

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That's right, I showed her that I was a bigger person than she is! With better standarts. And I did moved on coz I showed her, I didn't need her and her crap........but she didn't move on...

if she's not your gf and you two haven't already established that it's an exclusive relationship then it really doesn't matter that she did. like everyone said she shouldn't of shared and the way i see it, she probably only apologized because she still wants you to come by not because she thinks what she did was wrong... also i don't think you should be getting so defensive when you did ask if you were the one overreacting or not.

Yeah!,

I want to agree with you first because..

As a man you are having to measure up to recent recent actions by another man. Men may not always know how "big" a womans "hole" is. Yes I mean this both ways.

If her partners dont know she is looking for love online with you then how will you be confident, unless you patrol her. But that wont bring confidence. Too much doubt there. How much or how many has she done while talking to you, for real.

I wanna know if you and her connect or do you just spit game back and forth. This is kind of deciding what role she can fit. But if you want her for the "one big keeper" right now, then you should (in my humble opinion) lower your expectations for just now.

Her telling you was pretty significant. If she does like sex a lot then youre in the ballgame. I might tell her straight up that hey, I'll pay half for you to get a test. Things check out, then u know? Besides that all my female friends are great and I love'em all effin every one of'em. Once they get to know u its like some of the best shite. U could get either or so I dont think all is lost. Youre in the ballgame though. Just play it cool, keep a halfguard, and show her how you strangle adversity quick. Get that respect then show her what youre workin with. I say be a leader from the start. Your slate is good so go ahead and make her yours in whatever way you both agree to🙂 This is only my opinion not a psycho-analytical eval.

I am assuming you really like this girl since youre talking about commitment and all out honesty. Im just guessing but commitment and honesty are two values which can make situations well worth your pull.


But the other posts I believe (in my humble opinion) are right about this being a venting kind of thread--no offense. Just because of both of the admittances on her part.

Yeah! I feel yah budd. You really like this girl so understandably you are a little upset she had sex with another dude. I know what that's like, but here is the cold truth she isn't your gf so she is not obligated to you. The fact she likes you is a good start, but this is not a relationship until it becomes one.

Everyone here is telling what's right and you are not listening to them. I think if you come across as possessive you will lose this girl before it starts.

Think man what you got to gain before you throw away a potential romance.

Good luck.

Posted by Crazy4cappy
I'm not a capricorn but I have been adopted on here - hello my people 😄

Lets fast forward to the future and explore the possible scenario that you two hit it off and become a couple.
Long distance relationships are hard enough (I know I've been in one) without 100% trust, just like any relatationship really. Would I contemplate the idea of a future with someone that is still having sex with the ex? Uh-no.
Lets be honest here. When you have sex with an ex it is hot because all that passion comes out. There are still some feelings there. They haven't set boundaries. Also if you have a LDR and you both feel you have found the one. One of you will have to move and leave your country, family, friends, work etc. A lot of people *think* they can do this but when it comes crunch time, heartbreak ensues.

My advice is don't pursue this. Find someone local or at least in your own country.

Yes you are C4C!! You are practiculy one of us now. 😉

Posted by machiavelli bull
Hey Y.She behaved like a pig.If she wanted to sleep with someone else she shouldnt start anything with you,not to mention invite you over.Write her off and sleep with someone else and tell her about it haha.We will see if she will be so "understanding".Or better idea-invite her over,and the day before her flight tell her that "Uhm sorry but you know me and my ex-girl had sex yday-sorrrrrrry"hahahaha.Yes that would be nice.And then you can relax.

Finally, somebody who gets it. It's not that complicated really. I think age has to do with being wiser.

Of course, technically we are not the couple and she doesn't own me anyhting. But from moral grounds stand point I'm right 100% and what she did was dicked up. You don't strike a romance with someone and then trying to take it step further and at the same time proceed to wipe your ass with someone's feelings. That's just wrong.

But I guess noone here doesn't see anything wrong with this picture and to the contrary think lying is the best strategy. Yeah, all right. No wonder we live in the idiotic, messed up times where everybody cheating on each other and sleeping around left and right and we get all the results like divorces, emotionally hurt kids, etc... No wonder there are so many suicides, drug addicts, people taking prozac and seeing shrinks. It's like people stopped seeing good and bad, stopped taking responsibility for their own actions and just do what they feel like.

Well guess what? People wiil never find their ideal true love and yes eventually you will get bored because love and good feelings don't last. So that means you're gonna go around looking for excitment your whole life? Nope, you will fail in the end coz sooner or later you will get old and people won't be interested in you no longer, so you will be stuck dying alone. It's all about comitment and sacrifice.

Well I dunno what to think now. Here is an update:

After she told me about ex we broke off for a while, but then got back to it (her initiative), and I was gonna come to see her for real, like in august (It was all her idea BTW), we talked on the phone and she asked if I was coming soon and I should come in august. But tonight I come home from work all tired and sheet and I get the message from her saying that I shouldn't come there just to see her coz that's like a promise on her part and it won't be fair to me or her. So I wrote her that she dosn't need to worry and I won't be coming then, just as she wishes.

What the hell is was that all about—? I thought she found someone locally, but she says she didn't. Who does she think I am? Some kinda monster who wants to rape her? If I wanted sex I woullda just get prostitutes and save myself a trouble. I didn't see this trip as sex mission or marriage mission or something serious, but rather as romantic adventure with potential. Sure I could find someone localy to waste all this trip money on, but I liked the girl, she is smart and funny. Coz you know sometime in life you should do crazy things like that!

So stupid. And funniest thing I had this weird feeling something was gonna happen today. My sixth sense rarely fails me. And initially I had my doubts and reservation too coz she is a tricky person. I guess my instincts were right on the money then🙂

Well I'm not gonna be upset. To hell with this LDR garbage, too much hassle. It's stupid and it doesn't work. I will just find someone locally. Her loss🙂

Posted by cappygolightly
You can't commit to someone who you have never met and who is a different country.

For a miser month you can commit to a person who is coming SPECIFICALLY to meet with you. Unless your ex is Brad Pitt, then yeah I would have understood. If we don't get it on then she's free to do what she wants that same day. I don't care. And I'm not venting or looking for sympathy here, coz I don't feel hurt anymore. I'm just shocked that so many of you don't see anything wrong with what she did.

At work I told this to other co-workers and at first they were all like, yeah dude she doesn't owe you, but afterwards they agreed with me! Hell even SHE admitted that it was WRONG OF HER!!!!!! After I asked to put herself in my position. She said she wouldn't like it either.

I get what you saying, and it makes sense, but I do it because it is normal for a person to want to prove his or her point. I'm not saying everybody has to agree but I'm an argumentative person, that's all.

Posted by sagigoat
"Who does she think I am? Some kinda monster who wants to rape her?"

how would she know? try not to get offended but there are many psychos luring for whatever on the internet. if you reacted to her so angrily and moody like you have showed us here i wouldn't say it's not possible that you may have scared her in the wrong way.

Yeah well it's a gamble on both parts. How should I know she is not a psycho or a trick— If I overeacted, well at least I'm not some fake and I don't hide my emotions like a true psychopath would. If I was a real maniac then I would play all sweet just to get to her. I on the other hand broke things off first and said I was done. What does that tell you? Yeah I don't hide my emotios coz I'm an honest person and not some fake ass phony.

You need to learn psychology a little better before you give me a judgement.

I don't care what "many" think. I don't think I'm an "unpleasant" or "psycho". Most people that know me well love me. I'm only unpleasant to fakes, liars and hipocrites. I don't judge people by their behaviour or looks but rather by their actions. What you do is shallow and superficial.

At work I told this to other co-workers and at first they were all like, yeah dude she doesn't owe you, but afterwards they agreed with me! Hell even SHE admitted that it was WRONG OF HER!!!!!!

calm down, btw your co-workers are idiots.




No, You are an idiot

bla bla bla. You were the one calling my angry and moody and implied I was a pscycho. There is nothing wrong with being argumentative, BTW.

I don't like to play word games as in "who called who what" either so fair well.

Yep she should have waited but she didnt so you need to get on with your own life...she's is not worth your time quite simple really! Move on and take it as a lesson in life...Her lose!

Posted by Shaks
If I were you I'd be rather grateful towards people who bother reading about my problems and take the time to give you a sensible take on things.

Well your take on things is not sensible but downright idiotic and makes no sense, thus I'm arguing.

Posted by sweethearts
Yep she should have waited but she didnt so you need to get on with your own life...she's is not worth your time quite simple really! Move on and take it as a lesson in life...Her lose!

There you go. Short, simple, makes sense. Learn how to be normal and sensetive Shaks.

You nasty ass Virgos can chime in too LOL!

Laughing my ass off xD!!!!!


lol, I had to spell it out HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

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Why is it that men always get into fights with each other on here? Its like and all out bitch feast.

Calm down gentlemen, geeez, chill out already!

She says she doesn't think it's wrong what she did. She says it's absolutely normal.

Really? Is that what she thinks?

Reeeeaaaallllyyy? Umm, whats her sign yeah!? Depending on her sign will help me determine her level of intelligence LOL!!!! I know its wrong but please tell me.

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Posted by yeah!
But you know what? That's a great idea. Since you all are such little advocates and saying it's not a big deal then I'm gonna go ahead and have intercourse with someone else! Yeah! And then I will go ahead and tell HER about it. See how will she react.

You trying to be a decent person in this effed up world but you can't win even if you try! So be it! I will be uncaring, coniving A hole just like she is. If you can't win join them. Right?

No you don't have to. You just have to realize that you both have different standards and............move on.

Let it go and move on. Life's too short as it is. 😄

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This I agree with.

I just can't believe she thought it was okay to sleep with her ex while still 'technically' being with you. I mean, that would have pissed me off too. And that fact that she thought it was okay—— :O Screw standards, I'd call her an idiot to her face *scuffs*

Posted by SuperCap
Yeah!,

I want to agree with you first because..

As a man you are having to measure up to recent recent actions by another man. Men may not always know how "big" a womans "hole" is. Yes I mean this both ways.

If her partners dont know she is looking for love online with you then how will you be confident, unless you patrol her. But that wont bring confidence. Too much doubt there. How much or how many has she done while talking to you, for real.

I wanna know if you and her connect or do you just spit game back and forth. This is kind of deciding what role she can fit. But if you want her for the "one big keeper" right now, then you should (in my humble opinion) lower your expectations for just now.

Her telling you was pretty significant. If she does like sex a lot then youre in the ballgame. I might tell her straight up that hey, I'll pay half for you to get a test. Things check out, then u know? Besides that all my female friends are great and I love'em all effin every one of'em. Once they get to know u its like some of the best shite. U could get either or so I dont think all is lost. Youre in the ballgame though. Just play it cool, keep a halfguard, and show her how you strangle adversity quick. Get that respect then show her what youre workin with. I say be a leader from the start. Your slate is good so go ahead and make her yours in whatever way you both agree to🙂 This is only my opinion not a psycho-analytical eval.

I am assuming you really like this girl since youre talking about commitment and all out honesty. Im just guessing but commitment and honesty are two values which can make situations well worth your pull.


But the other posts I believe (in my humble opinion) are right about this being a venting kind of thread--no offense. Just because of both of the admittances on her part.

OMG, SuperCap, I agree with everything you have said 😄! I totally see things this way. I guess thats why I'm not too hard on the guy about liking a girl he's never met.

Posted by eric11
Yeah! I feel yah budd. You really like this girl so understandably you are a little upset she had sex with another dude. I know what that's like, but here is the cold truth she isn't your gf so she is not obligated to you. The fact she likes you is a good start, but this is not a relationship until it becomes one.

Everyone here is telling what's right and you are not listening to them. I think if you come across as possessive you will lose this girl before it starts.

Think man what you got to gain before you throw away a potential romance.

Good luck.

I agree, if you come off as too clingly, you will lose her ... and then what? I'm sure you don't want that to happen.

Although I do think its alittle odd that she thinks it normal to sleep with he ex and have no feelings for him at all. I mean, its different to still be friends with the guy but to be boning him?

........... I don't know about that ....

Posted by Shaks
Its called being horny 😉

lol!!!

I'm aware of that Shaka ^_^. Trust me, with all the little whores my roommate brings over -- especially the ones with kids -- I know what some women would do just to get relive lol!!!!!


*turns nose up at them all*

Posted by Shaks
hahaha, cappies..😛 just because you can deny your libido better than other signs, doesnt mean others are just weak😛

lol!!! Its actually what it means. Self-control builds character. Yes it does 😄!

Posted by Shaks
😛 well in that case I have the character of The Terminator now since Ive managed to control mine for a MONTH now! 😄 I cant believe its been already a month since my cappy went to Argentina..just one more month...one more month ..............................Grrrrrrrrrrr

Yes, sugar-pie 😄 Just one more month. Please hold out, don't do anything. Because once she gets here, can you imagine the love-making that will unfold? 😉

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Posted by Shaks
If I were you I'd be rather grateful towards people who bother reading about my problems and take the time to give you a sensible take on things.

Well your take on things is not sensible but downright idiotic and makes no sense, thus I'm arguing.

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Actually guy his position is downright sensible. You are the only one in your camp whom thinks his position doesn't make any sense.

Posted by yeah!
I don't care what "many" think. I don't think I'm an "unpleasant" or "psycho". Most people that know me well love me. I'm only unpleasant to fakes, liars and hipocrites. I don't judge people by their behaviour or looks but rather by their actions. What you do is shallow and superficial.

"Most peole who know you will love you"? Lol. If this ain't tooting your own horn I don't know what is.

Okay well I will judge you by your actions then.

Here it is: Your attitude is selfish, and immature. You pretend to be a "nice guy" towards women because you lack social skills to actually get a woman. Hence you put woman on a pedestal and throw your heart and actions before women who MAY NOT feel the same for you. When this woman disapointed your lofty expectations you lashed out at her and insinuated that she is a slut or a unfaithful horn bag. Yeah!, you are a real nice guy and a true Casanova but man o man why aren't the ladies just fighting tooth and nail to date you? I just don't get it. 🙂

"My standards are higher than hers". YOUR STANDARDS? Ah hum, so now you think are you God's gift to woman? lol. 🙂

People here are being generous by telling you the truth. Swallow your pride Champ and take their advise. So the next time, if there is a next time you won't fuck it up. 😉

Posted by cappygolightly
I would not feel committed to someone I had never met, no matter how perfect the vibe seems to be. You simply cannot tell what someone is like until you meet. So there is no reason to get attached to someone you talk to online or on the phone. What she did isn't nice but there was a reason she told you. She probably wanted to test your reaction. You reacted badly and she must have felt you showed some promise so she came back to try to see if it would work. But turns out something in the way you communicated with her gave her cold feet. It's possible she didn't even sleep with the guy.

Your co workers could probably see your reaction so didn't want to upset you.

What star sign was she?

Not sure why you are attacking everyone here for not giving you the cookie cut response you expect. If you ask caps for their views they will give their views, not cater to your views. If you want sycophantic sympathy try another board.

You say things much more diplomatically then I ever could. I hope the truth for him sinks in. Bye bye for now.

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Posted by yeah!
I don't care what "many" think. I don't think I'm an "unpleasant" or "psycho". Most people that know me well love me. I'm only unpleasant to fakes, liars and hipocrites. I don't judge people by their behaviour or looks but rather by their actions. What you do is shallow and superficial.

"Most peole who know you will love you"? Lol. If this ain't tooting your own horn I don't know what is.

Okay well I will judge you by your actions then.

Here it is: Your attitude is selfish, and immature. You pretend to be a "nice guy" towards women because you lack social skills to actually get a woman. Hence you put woman on a pedestal and throw your heart and actions before women who MAY NOT feel the same for you. When this woman disapointed your lofty expectations you lashed out at her and insinuated that she is a slut or a unfaithful horn bag. Yeah!, you are a real nice guy and a true Casanova but man o man why aren't the ladies just fighting tooth and nail to date you? I just don't get it. 🙂

"My standards are higher than hers". YOUR STANDARDS? Ah hum, so now you think are you God's gift to woman? lol. 🙂

People here are being generous by telling you the truth. Swallow your pride Champ and take their advise. So the next time, if there is a next time you won't fuck it up. 😉

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Ho ho ho Hold on a second! You talking bunch of unwarranted crap about me, but you don't even know me!

How do You know I pretend to be a nice guy, I'm selfish, immature, I lack social skils, I put woman on pedestal, and ladys don't fight over me? How do YOU know all that without knowing me— It's like if I called you retarded without knowing you.

You opinion only reflects Yourself eric, the womanless loser without any selfesteem who will take any crap just to get in someones pants. And no, that doesn't mean you have killer "social skills" it means you got zero respect for yourself. You're a type of guy whose wife always cheating on him.

I said it many times and I will repeat that again. SHE APPROACHED ME FIRST and she kept coming back every time I told her to bug off. SHE WAS THE ONE TO INSIST TO INVITE ME OVER!!! And all she had to do is to wait 1 month, yet she goes to sleep with her ex. Talking about selfish and imature.

As for me - woman always liked me an

...and approached me first. Even one pretty young married woman wanted to get with me but I said no.

And Yes I am a nice person, not a "nice guy" and I do have high standarts, pride, selfrespect and selfesteem. I'm just normal and it's not that crazy to expect that from others. And AFAIK it's her who efeed it up, not me. So my advise to you Eric is to not passing a judgement without knowing a person, you make yourself look stupid.

P.S. For the ones who were asking she is not 13, she is in her late twenties and her sign is a Libra.

Posted by cappygolightly
I would not feel committed to someone I had never met, no matter how perfect the vibe seems to be. You simply cannot tell what someone is like until you meet. So there is no reason to get attached to someone you talk to online or on the phone. What she did isn't nice but there was a reason she told you. She probably wanted to test your reaction. You reacted badly and she must have felt you showed some promise so she came back to try to see if it would work. But turns out something in the way you communicated with her gave her cold feet. It's possible she didn't even sleep with the guy.

Your co workers could probably see your reaction so didn't want to upset you.

What star sign was she?

Not sure why you are attacking everyone here for not giving you the cookie cut response you expect. If you ask caps for their views they will give their views, not cater to your views. If you want sycophantic sympathy try another board.

It's not a HUGE commitment to wait for one month and see what happens. She wanted to meet, me she might as well waited. That's not too much to ask. As for attacment, if there wasn't any then why she wanted me to come then— As for what's possible or not, well I duno, I can only take what she is telling me. And if she is lying well that's her own fault.

And I'm not attacking anyone! And I don't need sympathy, but I am also a cap which means I'm opinionated and stubborn🙂 LOL! I'm just trying to tell my take on the situation which is of course I'm naturally have predisposition to. So far it's me whose been attacked and called names.

"Ho ho ho Hold on a second! You talking bunch of unwarranted crap about me, but you don't even know me!"

You went on the war path because people were giving you their impute. What kind a guy ask what we think and lashes out at us for telling you what we think?

"How do You know I pretend to be a nice guy, I'm selfish, immature, I lack social skils, I put woman on pedestal, and ladys don't fight over me? How do YOU know all that without knowing me— It's like if I called you retarded without knowing you."

Call it an educated guess. I have met and delt with guys like you before.


"You opinion only reflects Yourself eric, the womanless loser without any selfesteem who will take any crap just to get in someones pants."

Why are you holding back? Tell me how you really feel. 😛

"And no, that doesn't mean you have killer "social skills" it means you got zero respect for yourself. You're a type of guy whose wife always cheating on him."

It's like...you know. 😉


"I said it many times and I will repeat that again. SHE APPROACHED ME FIRST and she kept coming back every time I told her to bug off. SHE WAS THE ONE TO INSIST TO INVITE ME OVER!!! And all she had to do is to wait 1 month, yet she goes to sleep with her ex. Talking about selfish and imature."

So if I get your story straight. She asked you to come over, but you said no. She kept insisting, so you told her to bug off. Then you told her to wait one month.

Hmmm, did it ever occure to you that she might have felt that you rejected her first? You see long distance relationship works if there is already a relationship established. BUT, you said in your first OP that you guys weren't dating yet. And you also said that you guys didn't even love each other yet, so, why then did you behave like a jealous bf?

What right did you have to expect her to wait for you and what right do you have to make her feel guilty about it?

Sorry dude I now side with the girl in this situation. The more you talk the more I think you overreacted.

"...and approached me first. Even one pretty young married woman wanted to get with me but I said no."

Would you like a pat on the back?

"And Yes I am a nice person, not a "nice guy" and I do have high standarts, pride, selfrespect and selfesteem. I'm just normal and it's not that crazy to expect that from others. And AFAIK it's her who efeed it up, not me. So my advise to you Eric is to not passing a judgement without knowing a person, you make yourself look stupid."

It doesn't make me look stupid to pass judgment on you because nobody here knows you. We only know your testimony and incase you haven't been reading most people aren't in agreement with you.

I think you screwed up because, your expectations and jealousy ended what might have been the start of a beautiful relationship.

BTW another thing you don't understand yet, this girl and her ex have history. You met this girl online and all of a sudden expected her to think of you as her boyfriend.

I think that's funny that you insinuate that this girl cheated on you when the fact still remains that you guys weren't actually going out.

"As for attacment, if there wasn't any then why she wanted me to come then— "

*facepalm*

Because she was in to you. She wanted to get to know you better in person. Being into someone doesn't mean you are attached.

Not sure why you are attacking everyone here for not giving you the cookie cut response you expect. If you ask caps for their views they will give their views, not cater to your views. If you want sycophantic sympathy try another board.

Now this is true 🙂