Silence is Golden

Stop trying to make him talk. You're probably coming off as desperate because of that, without realizing it.

It is also what level you want him to talk on
He may not be able to get down to some levels.
I know its hard for me to go to the pub and come off with (Hay Dude howbout that game last night oh man one nil.)
Also what kind of talking are you asking him to partake of is it How do you like my new lipstick or dealing with physical properties and composition of something in a particular system.
You see its hard for some of use to interact with some people.
We tend to keep to ourself at parties.
I know sometimes after being in a room with several different types of people I ask myself why didn't you interact.
The answer is most times I heard nothing worth commenting on.
This is my problem not the people I am with.
Different interest.

I find an excuse to walk away.
Have you noticed that most of the other signs talk on and on an most of the conversation is about them.
In most cases it all goes back to them and what they want what they need.
This blows my mind the last person I want to talk about is me.
I don't like talking about people I would rather talk about ideas .
Even when the conversations are about ideas it get back to how the ideas relate to them. Or how it effects there life.
I find nothing in my life boring but I find nothing exciting enough to talk about.

Me, me, me ...but enough about me! ...let's talk about ME! ...this is the way to deal with a Cappy guy...I've always had a nice conversation with him about his daughters, his dreams, his cars, his invoices ...when I tried to talk about mine he had to do something else than listening to me...but he was asking sometimes what's cooking up in my life lately, of course without waiting an answer.

im pretty talkitive about interesting subjects...just not myself. or others. like james said...ideas. theories. perspectives. and after a few drinks...im pretty crazy....

i think aquas make this wold interesting...seeing as most my friends or people i work with are aquas...its odd. i discover one aqua. have an aqua gf. then i have aqua coworkers. wth....

I clam up when I am interested romantically in someone.
We also have to trust and feel comfortable to open up.
Hang in there, it will come but it can time and patience.

And neither one of us like talking on the phone. I reffering to face to face conversations

Forgot about this thread.



OX..I'm sorry, I understand you now. I know exactly what you're talking about too, ESP with this:

"He asks things about me .. That's What he does if he talks, he just want the details of what I did, where I am going, who I am going with, when I try to ask him the same thing he keeps it to a word or two, which is annoying, the only time he blabbed about himself was few times when I was mad at him, and he would just talk about anything. But the conversation doesn't have to be about him or me or people, sometimes he asks for my opinion on something, and I'd tell him, and he would be like 'yeah' (like u) .. "




He kills me with the 'yeahs' too lol


That's the beauty of it though, is it not? The mystery is fascinating. If he divulged all, it wouldn't be the same.


My Cap friend isn't too big on discussing himself either. He'd much rather talk about me, but I don't probe him. I can tell it makes him uncomfortable so I don't do it. I think that eases him. I just enjoy him how he is and I think the fact that I'm not exuding any silent pressure keeps him comfortable. Even if you don't realize it, the fact that you want more can be felt by him...your energy..it can make him clam up.

I've learned a lot about him by talking about things and ideas...which he loves and I love. If he enjoys talking about something, he will share things about himself that are relevant to the topic somehow.

We've spent so many nights talking from the evening to early dawn the next morning, and while I may not have been told very personal details about him, I felt very close to him because of what our minds shared.

Caps are strange and beautiful. Appreciate them for who they are. Don't ever try changing them.

BOBBY D great actor I to love the guy also in a manly sort of way. Also Robert Duvaul spelled wrong I am sure.

Ask about career goals and life ambitions
Ask about his family and his family's goals and life ambitions
Talk about life but on a deeper spiritual level
Caps can't be bothered with trivial things--talking just to talk. it has to have more meaning to it.

I also heard mercury dictates communication too so look into that

Posted by jules69
I clam up when I am interested romantically in someone.
We also have to trust and feel comfortable to open up.
Hang in there, it will come but it can time and patience.

exactly this comment was going through my mind. I turn the same if romantically interested, and I think, the same has been happening to my CAP man.