So ... It's Like That ,Hmm?

Recently, I just realized that some man have two types of women:

A) the women they have sexual involvement with. These women are more than likely reliable enough to be available when they need to "re-leave tension" and to have a good time with. There is also some emotional feelings here (it's really heard for me to believe a man can continue having sex with a woman or women ... along with going to parties with her or them and posing in photographs with her or them WITHOUT having some emotional bond ... if you do alot of stuff with them there just has to be something there in a man's heart for the women ... I would think) If he's an honest "player", he doesn't make any real commitment. He gives the "enjoy me for the moment" type of attitude. He tries to creep, but doesn't feel he has anything to hid.

B) The woman (usually just one) that they may have both an emotional and spiritual connection ... but here's the kicker ... they don't necessary have to have a sexual relationship with them. They just want them there for "moral" support. The man keeps her in hiding for fear that the women he's sleeping around with may learn of her. He also puts serious demands so she doesn't have to time for anyone else -- this keeps him from making a commitment while "still having his cake and eating it too (pound for pound if you catch my drift😉). The women of this type is often classified as the "good girl" and she has to uphold standrads that HE HIMSELF WOULD NOT. He also keeps watch over her by calling her and asking her to go out with him or to do him a favor ... WHILE PARKED IN HER DRIVEWAY ... but he is nice enough to wait until she get ready 🙂

Okay, these are the two types from my prospective

Recently I found out that I fit into one of those types -- guess which one ... it's after the letter A in the alphabat. If you all guessed B ... BINGO!!! I read something during with a male friend of mine (we all know who that is) that I really shouldn't have but now I understand a whole alot, but subconsciously I already knew it, like why he was absent for three weeks ... hope I'm making sense here. It's hard to be rational when you are slightly upset. Being the female that being seeked for emotional and spiritual support just doesn't make me feel too good... I feel like I've been put on a damn shelve .....

cappiesweetie~ do elaborate... are you involved w/ a scorpio guy, is it? don't think it was another cap. in any event, what was read and what did you learn to explain the disappearances? he's off doing type A women during that time?

Well......Women have the same thing.....Some women have men on the side they can vent too or connect emotionally but do not attract them physically and then have the man that they are physical with but may not give them what they need emotionally. Life is wonderful.

But I don't think that CSweetie is saying that he/they are not attracted to (B) ? I was just thinking about this and "8th & Ocean" show which I've been watching... haha The Teddy/Britt/Heide triangle... Heide is girl (A) and Britt is (B); Teddy is attracted to Britt but knows she is serious and that he can't just have a fling w/ her, and he just wants fun right now, so he's going for Heide.

Yea, someone that watches too! haha I thought I might take some criticism for my analogy there... and in considering my age and that I watch that show... well, I'd expect a little ribbing! You can just see how into him she (Britt) is, on last night's episode! She was staring at him across the dinner table and then had to leave the after-party and go home bc. she couldn't take it. She's cuter-than-cute. Heide has issues, and isn't going to be tied down and Teddy's subconsciously senses that, so she's "safe" for him to pursue because he won't have to commit to her. What you think, SB? You watch "Real World" too? Ooh, let's throw in a little of astrology so we don't get this thread deported? Britt is probably a cancer or pisces; Heide's an aries or libra; and Teddy is...perhaps a cap., maybe a sag.?

Capgirl, sorry about the vagueness. He's a cancer (June 21)

Wow, it's funny that you compare the situation with 8th & Ocean ... many similarities, but I do not have enough confidence in my own appearance -- I'm just average, nothing to brag about.

Hi sb, I just came from class, have to go to work, but I can still chat for a ew minuites

I have heard the same thing too, haha I just nver thought I would be one of those girls that fell into one of those two types, women A or woman B(this can also be plural). I did listen to the advice that you and Brahn gave me, but I also did some investagating that let me FARTHER KNOW that you both were absoluate right about everything. However, I do believe that I shouldn't have read what I discovered, but since I did I see more clearly. SEEK-AND-YOU-SHALL-FIND ... boy did I ever ...

Oh, SB, you poser! I thought you watched the show! Now, I feel really silly. LOL I know what you're saying... Most people will say the guy just doesn't want a relationship "WITH YOU" but I think there are plenty of guys out there who just don't want to get serious and have the expectations and pressure and possibilities of screwing up bigtime in LIFE. Sometimes, if it's too "real" or too right, if they're not ready, it doesn't matter.

Cappiesweetie... I still didn't understand what you learned from this letter/email and all that.

I'm sorry CapGirl 😢 Forgive me, I'm being vague because what I discovered didn't shock me but it's difficult to put into words and it's even harder to talk about. It's alot of baggage (with him that is), believe me ... I'm a capricorn who happens to be to darn emotional for my own good (I'll be alright though 😉. I will difinately let you know what the deal is in more detail after I get off from work ... I should be able to deal with it better tonight. I hope you'll be up around 8:30pm ....

CSweetie...oh sure, I will check back tonite. Hope you don't think I'm being nosey. I would just like some insight into the male mind on this issue. I feel like I've been B categoried myself with this Cap. guy, which is not the norm for me but I prefer it and don't mind it... Normally, I just go with what I want in the moment and tend to use most guys who are interested in me as 'boy toys' not expecting much, but with him, I played it "right" from the start. He seemed to be fencing me in to that B group from the beginning so I took heed and went along with the "good girl" role. Weird... We're from the same backgrounds- city/state and religion- and I sensed something special from the start so didn't just blow it off for a one-nighter. But anyway... chat back later.

SB~ Britt does have that earthly appearance and downtoearth personality, perhaps a Cap. but maybe a Virgo since she is a virgin... LOL

Britt is an Aquarius. There is one Cap though, it is Vinci. I would marry Britt in a heartbeat. She is beautiful and a good girl. My kind of girl. Love her huge blue eyes! That guy is a moron for picking the other girl. For more info on the cat members go to the Irene Marie website.

Okay CapGirl ... here's part of the story.

To make a insanely long story short. I assumed he goes out with these women because I saw him in a picture with one of them he told me about. It was her, an older man and him posing (he had a drink in his hand so I assumed he was at a party ... I'm not for sure) He has no idea that i've seen the picture -- she sent it to him. Their are other things that I've discovered also that has made me question many things ... I'll get into that later. He calls these women "his female friends" that he has sex with ... I don't know if anytings change (Cancers are moody) but he told me that their there with he needs to ... have a good time with (that sound soooo wrong doesn't it. I'm a girl and I take offense to that statement) Anyway, the same woman I saw him in picture with, he wrote a sexual poem to ... yes I read it and thought it was disrespect -- I couldn't believe he would write something like that ... the poem was basically about how much he desired her body and how he enjoyed having sex with her.... honestly, no joke. However, he loved it, she was estatic! However, the poem had no substance at all ... at least when Shakespeare wrote about sex, he used some tact ... he showed no respect for her at all, or maybe that's was a "confession of love" in his own way. I have no idea ....

Brahn thank you for you response, I guess it's sort of cool that a real life experience can beceome a good topic -- thanks. Feel down can be a good thing.

What you've said has made plentiy of sense to me ... wow you're good with analzing. He (the cancer guy) was hurt hurt in a previous relationship (3 years ago) before he met me. This is why he feels that he cannot be in a committed relationship with any women right now. However, recently he told me that he wished he met me 3 years ago instead of getting involved with the woman who hurt him -- I have no idea why he would say those things to me ... hahaha he prebably told the other three women I know about the same thing. He holds me at such high standards, but he won't put the same on them, they can go while and crazy and be willing to do anyting, but I'm kept on a shelf, away from everything and to be "taken down" at his will ... that's not fair, it really DOES NOT feel too good. I know it sounds really silly using that as a metapor, but due to what has happen in the last 24 hours, I have a right to say this ... trust me, I've learned alot in a short time period.

lol sb,

In a way I am uneasily content because I all that "sexual responsiblity" with someone who isn't committed to me. But I feel horrible because of how he views the other women ... if he's telling me the whole truth. These women are older than me and they enjoy hearing stuff like that ... I would think a 16 old would get gitty over something like that. I would quote the poem, but I won't out of fear that he may discover this website. I just don't know what he wants from me and I really need to find a way to get him to tell me. Since I know the stuff I know now, I don't think I can be the way I use to be with him anymore ... I feel changed. I honestly don't believe he cares about me ... because if he did why woul he write a poem like that to the other woman? The most astonounding thing is that he has no idea that I know the stuff I know. Whatever about him being intuitive .......

Yes sb, I know, I know ... you've told me. I'm working on 😉 It just takes time to break emotional bonds. He was my FIRST in a few aspects of my life, so that's why it was so hard break that damn no good bond. Plus ,there's something else that has distibuted me but I'm debating on what I should do about it ... should I help or should i walk away, I trying to decide because either one could be bad.

Brahn,

If I break this cycle of deception (as I like to call it) Wouldn't it create more trouble? They are towards who find "happiness in turmoil". These people are really missed up in my opinion but they are still among us. Being a type B female only has some benefits if there aren't any mind games to deal with. I want to break that cycle and and burn it, but how can I establish communication with someone who communicates "sideways"? I'll never be able to break anything until I get the "ring leader" set straight! But in a nice way, because if he runsoff that's no good either.