Jkats
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So i've left the Cap guy alone, but.....
I remember some of your story, but what was his last reaction to you again?
Posted by GreenteaWe had great conversation the first couple of times, laughing, him sharing stuff with me about his family and personal life, but I ended our second convo with the suggestion of maybe hanging out one day. He said neither yes or no. Idk if I scared him off, or he was taken aback by my forwardness. —?
I remember some of your story, but what was his last reaction to you again?
Posted by Jkats...and you know for fact he's single?Posted by GreenteaWe had great conversation the first couple of times, laughing, him sharing stuff with me about his family and personal life, but I ended our second convo with the suggestion of maybe hanging out one day. He said neither yes or no. Idk if I scared him off, or he was taken aback by my forwardness. —?
I remember some of your story, but what was his last reaction to you again?
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Some guys just like to chat, or flirt, even from a distance.
I have guys trying to talk to me too, or looky loos staring.
It's like something to look forward to, knowing you'll probably be there maybe.
Again, are you sure he's single?
Bcuz if he is, he'd probably interact with you more, take the staring to the next level. From what I remember from your story there's a lot of staring going on with you two.
Posted by ForeverlovemeGotcha. I just keep on questioning his frame of mind because my last guy (Cancer), he liked me, but I had to initiate. But I guess since i've put it out there and he's not biting, I have my answer.
It's hard to tell. The couple caps guys i knew, initiated.
I can be caught looking at someone multiple times if they're in my line of vision. Could just be eye candy too, just because I'm looking doesn't mean I want you. (Sounds weird I'm sure)
Cardinal energy initiates. Yes he could be shy, if he really wanted you he'd get over himself & man up.
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Posted by GreenteaLol yes he's single, I asked him point blank.Posted by Jkats...and you know for fact he's single?Posted by GreenteaWe had great conversation the first couple of times, laughing, him sharing stuff with me about his family and personal life, but I ended our second convo with the suggestion of maybe hanging out one day. He said neither yes or no. Idk if I scared him off, or he was taken aback by my forwardness. —?
I remember some of your story, but what was his last reaction to you again?
Some guys just like to chat, or flirt, even from a distance.
I have guys trying to talk to me too, or looky loos staring.
It's like something to look forward to, knowing you'll probably be there maybe.
Again, are you sure he's single?
Bcuz if he is, he'd probably interact with you more, take the staring to the next level. From what I remember from your story there's a lot of staring going on with you two.
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And with my last guy (Cancer), we stared at each other constantly at the gym, but neither of us would approach one another. I finally made first contact with him by friend requesting him on Facebook because he "liked" a comment I left on one of my friend's statuses. Typical Cancerian behavior. But with him, once I made the first move, he latched onto me quickly, so I guess since this Cap guy isn't making any, he's not into me?
I've just read that Cap guys are shy, and won't try and chase you if they don't think that you're interested in them. Maybe my sudden coldness has sent him the wrong impression.
Posted by Arielle83He is, I asked him.
Maybe he's not single.
He's friendly.
And definitely friendly with the guys (he's not gay), but i've only seen him talk to one other chick, and it was because she approached him like I had.
Posted by JkatsPosted by GreenteaLol yes he's single, I asked him point blank.Posted by Jkats...and you know for fact he's single?Posted by GreenteaWe had great conversation the first couple of times, laughing, him sharing stuff with me about his family and personal life, but I ended our second convo with the suggestion of maybe hanging out one day. He said neither yes or no. Idk if I scared him off, or he was taken aback by my forwardness. —?
I remember some of your story, but what was his last reaction to you again?
Some guys just like to chat, or flirt, even from a distance.
I have guys trying to talk to me too, or looky loos staring.
It's like something to look forward to, knowing you'll probably be there maybe.
Again, are you sure he's single?
Bcuz if he is, he'd probably interact with you more, take the staring to the next level. From what I remember from your story there's a lot of staring going on with you two.
And with my last guy (Cancer), we stared at each other constantly at the gym, but neither of us would approach one another. I finally made first contact with him by friend requesting him on Facebook because he "liked" a comment I left on one of my friend's statuses. Typical Cancerian behavior. But with him, once I made the first move, he latched onto me quickly, so I guess since this Cap guy isn't making any, he's not into me?
I've just read that Cap guys are shy, and won't try and chase you if they don't think that you're interested in them. Maybe my sudden coldness has sent him the wrong impression.
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Say if you're not going talk to me, then why all the staring. Then smile and keep walking. Call him out somehow.
Or say, since you keep staring at me I thought I'd come over, say hi and ask if you can spot me..
Posted by ForeverlovemeI'd go with the second and third thing you mentioned. He did tell me that his schedule is crazy busy, so he probably doesn't want a relationship at this point in time.
Yeah, don't take it personal...there really are unlimited scenarios at this point.
He could be still feeling you out
Might have a busy schedule
Might not want anything serious & doesn't want to take you along for a ride
Idk. I can only speak from the female aspect.
What's your sign?
It's all good, I just don't like the awkwardness that ensues when we see each other at the gym now lol!
And I am a Virgo.
I remember a long time ago, I went to this gym, and I had a little crush on a guy there. I know he had a crush on me too, he would stare at me and he would always look for me, amd made sure to pass by me when I was on a machine.
He was there with his friend one day, and he purposefully waited at the right moment to pass by me to make sure I was looking, I looked at his friend after and his friend just smiled bcuz he knew that I knew it was planned and he timed that shit perfectly.
It was comical. But even then I was too shy to male the first move to talk to him. We can be so bad at that stuff. He was probably frustrated, hence the performance he made. Damn, he was so handsome too. I think of he would've called me out, and made me face him, I would've taken the mask off.
Nevermind domt call him out like that, just say hi the next time you catch him staring. I just thought about how it would make me feel if he would've said something like that to me, unless he was nice and charming about it.
He was there with his friend one day, and he purposefully waited at the right moment to pass by me to make sure I was looking, I looked at his friend after and his friend just smiled bcuz he knew that I knew it was planned and he timed that shit perfectly.
It was comical. But even then I was too shy to male the first move to talk to him. We can be so bad at that stuff. He was probably frustrated, hence the performance he made. Damn, he was so handsome too. I think of he would've called me out, and made me face him, I would've taken the mask off.
Nevermind domt call him out like that, just say hi the next time you catch him staring. I just thought about how it would make me feel if he would've said something like that to me, unless he was nice and charming about it.
Ok. I'm not a Cap, but I am human so I'll comment anyway LOL
SO there's something I don't get (didn't read the background ) just based on the OP...
If I met someone somewhere and spoke with him/her one time in a friendly way, out of courtesy, I would naturally say hello and maybe even a how've you been? If we met somewhere thereafter.
So why do you feel weird? Even if he's not interested in dating you (IF that's the case), there's no reason not to acknowledge him if you cross paths?
SO there's something I don't get (didn't read the background ) just based on the OP...
If I met someone somewhere and spoke with him/her one time in a friendly way, out of courtesy, I would naturally say hello and maybe even a how've you been? If we met somewhere thereafter.
So why do you feel weird? Even if he's not interested in dating you (IF that's the case), there's no reason not to acknowledge him if you cross paths?
Well my chart is dominated by capricorn so here's my opinion.
I don't like to make the first move unless I'm absolutely sure there is "something there" that the other person may feel the same way. I think we're too practical to make ourselves look foolish by throwing our emotions at you. Especially when there is a chance they won't be returned. Capricorn is a lot like taurus if you ask me. We're slow movers because we like to go through everything with a fine tooth comb. We look at relationships almost like investments. We want to be sure the person is right for us. I've liked some women for years and not said a word or acted on it because of circumstances. We wouldn't do anything to embarrass ourselves or the other person. You know a capricorn likes you when they spend time with you in whatever form that may be, because they value their time. Even their free time.
We are slow movers though. I can be working on a project and not even the closest people to me will know about it, until it's complete. You're best bet with a capricorn is to show consistency. Be graceful to though, express interest but don't act like you do that with eveyone. We're very skeptical and wanna be sure your feelings are sincere. I feel like capricorn are masters at hiding their true emotions. You might be surprised, he might be crazy about you but wants to make sure you're the right person to travel down that path with. Like i said we like to feel special. I really think cap is like taurus. Once you have them they'll change and give you it all.
I don't like to make the first move unless I'm absolutely sure there is "something there" that the other person may feel the same way. I think we're too practical to make ourselves look foolish by throwing our emotions at you. Especially when there is a chance they won't be returned. Capricorn is a lot like taurus if you ask me. We're slow movers because we like to go through everything with a fine tooth comb. We look at relationships almost like investments. We want to be sure the person is right for us. I've liked some women for years and not said a word or acted on it because of circumstances. We wouldn't do anything to embarrass ourselves or the other person. You know a capricorn likes you when they spend time with you in whatever form that may be, because they value their time. Even their free time.
We are slow movers though. I can be working on a project and not even the closest people to me will know about it, until it's complete. You're best bet with a capricorn is to show consistency. Be graceful to though, express interest but don't act like you do that with eveyone. We're very skeptical and wanna be sure your feelings are sincere. I feel like capricorn are masters at hiding their true emotions. You might be surprised, he might be crazy about you but wants to make sure you're the right person to travel down that path with. Like i said we like to feel special. I really think cap is like taurus. Once you have them they'll change and give you it all.
Posted by GreenteaAwwww, a chance missed for sure, but perhaps you two will cross paths again one day! I on the other hand am not shy hahaha.
I remember a long time ago, I went to this gym, and I had a little crush on a guy there. I know he had a crush on me too, he would stare at me and he would always look for me, amd made sure to pass by me when I was on a machine.
He was there with his friend one day, and he purposefully waited at the right moment to pass by me to make sure I was looking, I looked at his friend after and his friend just smiled bcuz he knew that I knew it was planned and he timed that shit perfectly.
It was comical. But even then I was too shy to male the first move to talk to him. We can be so bad at that stuff. He was probably frustrated, hence the performance he made. Damn, he was so handsome too. I think of he would've called me out, and made me face him, I would've taken the mask off.
Nevermind domt call him out like that, just say hi the next time you catch him staring. I just thought about how it would make me feel if he would've said something like that to me, unless he was nice and charming about it.
Lol, and I wasn't gonna call him out like that since idk how he would take it. Plus me acknowledging that he's staring at me, would point out that i've been staring at him. 😛
Posted by ForeverlovemeYes I should say hi again just to ease the tension. But why I don't get is why he hasn't said hello to me?!
Female perspective I'm not making the 1st move. Once communication has been established & I know a guy is interested (ie you asking to hang) i have no problem asking a guy to hang out at that point...
Maybe just say hi to him at least in passing or just wave, I wouldn't make anymore attempts at getting him to hang out. Could just be scheduling & he might approach when he has more time available.
Then again we have a hard time with words & verbal communication at times lol
I can see how this has become awkward now 😄
Are you a Virgo or Cap?
Posted by SpiceNSugarYou make a good point! My reasoning behind my backing off is, the third time I said hello to him, he only gave a small wave and what seemed to be a forced half smile. That to me signalled disinterest.
Ok. I'm not a Cap, but I am human so I'll comment anyway LOL
SO there's something I don't get (didn't read the background ) just based on the OP...
If I met someone somewhere and spoke with him/her one time in a friendly way, out of courtesy, I would naturally say hello and maybe even a how've you been? If we met somewhere thereafter.
So why do you feel weird? Even if he's not interested in dating you (IF that's the case), there's no reason not to acknowledge him if you cross paths?
Posted by ParisianCappyLmao, I do them just fine! But he is a personal trainer, so perhaps he is?! 😄
he's checking how you are doing your squat
Posted by PancakeFaceI appreciate your insight, awesome!
Well my chart is dominated by capricorn so here's my opinion.
I don't like to make the first move unless I'm absolutely sure there is "something there" that the other person may feel the same way. I think we're too practical to make ourselves look foolish by throwing our emotions at you. Especially when there is a chance they won't be returned. Capricorn is a lot like taurus if you ask me. We're slow movers because we like to go through everything with a fine tooth comb. We look at relationships almost like investments. We want to be sure the person is right for us. I've liked some women for years and not said a word or acted on it because of circumstances. We wouldn't do anything to embarrass ourselves or the other person. You know a capricorn likes you when they spend time with you in whatever form that may be, because they value their time. Even their free time.
We are slow movers though. I can be working on a project and not even the closest people to me will know about it, until it's complete. You're best bet with a capricorn is to show consistency. Be graceful to though, express interest but don't act like you do that with eveyone. We're very skeptical and wanna be sure your feelings are sincere. I feel like capricorn are masters at hiding their true emotions. You might be surprised, he might be crazy about you but wants to make sure you're the right person to travel down that path with. Like i said we like to feel special. I really think cap is like taurus. Once you have them they'll change and give you it all.
However, there's no feelings to be had, we hardly know each other. I know his Facebook and IG, so I can tell that he's a very down to earth, nice, driven, family oriented man, but I think he's either not interested in me personally because I am so much older than he is and have kids, or because he's too focused on accomplishing his goals to invest in a relationship right now.
I know that I should get over my awkwardness towards him and say hello, but I guess i'm just tired of always being the one to do the chasing.
Posted by cheekyfaerieOh my ego is definitely not bruised lol! I get passed over by many guys, and I honestly know that i'm attractive (not being conceited), but I don't let it bother me. I'm just confused as to why he showed disinterest (the third time I saw him, he only gave me a small half wave and a seemingly forced smile), yet I catch him looking at me constantly when we happen to be at the gym at the same time. Weird mixed signals if you ask me.Posted by SpiceNSugarRight?! The only way this would be weird is if they had gone out and had a crappy date or had awkward sex or whatever.
Ok. I'm not a Cap, but I am human so I'll comment anyway LOL
SO there's something I don't get (didn't read the background ) just based on the OP...
If I met someone somewhere and spoke with him/her one time in a friendly way, out of courtesy, I would naturally say hello and maybe even a how've you been? If we met somewhere thereafter.
So why do you feel weird? Even if he's not interested in dating you (IF that's the case), there's no reason not to acknowledge him if you cross paths?
(To OP) As it is, it just sounds like your ego got bruised and you overcorrected your forwardness by pulling away completely and thereby *making* it awkward. Of course, I also didn't read the background so...
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Jkats take a break from the gym for a few weeks to get your energy straight, you're building up awkward energy by noticing him noticing you which can cause a man to stall because men do feel our female energy and if it's off he will not budge because the energy can feel like you're nagging him, nudging him.
If female energy has even a whiff of desperate energy then he just won't budge. Also stop going behind him online, when you covertly follow him around online you are BUILDING up a relationship that doesn't exist.
The reason the energy is off is because you are way too mentally and emotionally involved with a man that hasn't demonstrated he's interested in you enough just (yet).
You've done your part. He notice you and now it's up to him to either go there or not go there. So now it's time to shift your energy onto yourself or onto another attractive guy in the gym.
Also be CONSISTENT, try not to make up stories in your head that he's not interested because people do have lots going on in their individual adult lives which can make a man appear disinterested. He had a bad day so why not let that go instead of constantly wondering why he seemed disinterested the third time you saw him.
It's important that you not get all up in your feelings about his behavior, his aloofness has absolutely nothing to do with you, he hardly know you so whatever vibe he's giving off would have nothing to do with you.
Just be you. Be happy. Always show the best side of yourself and be consistently being your best self which is enough to lure a man your way. You appear to have an issue with rejection or what seems like rejection.
You have to be able to deal with your feelings without sending out the wrong kind of energy to a man. The moment you felt a slight of disinterest from him you turned cold and that can tell a man A LOT about you.
Men see this behavior (turn cold) hundreds of thousands of times from women so they immediately know drama when they see it because they've experienced it enough to know that they don't want to go there.
How you react can tell him if you're going to bring drama (your feelings and emotions get hurt easily) into the equation and a lot of men don't want that kind of woman because she's a lot of work and if he's a busy man then he doesn't want MORE work.
Try not to get too caught up with a man's emotions because that WILL throw you off and make you come across as this up and down with his moods kind of woman and men tend to AVOID women that do this because it's associated with DRAMA, feelings that cause drama when there should be none.
So avoid getting caught up in your feelings type of drama by not associating what's going on with him with you because you're good enough, you're enough and you have plenty to offer and as long as you know that and be mindful of that then you can avoid making the assumption that a man's mood has something to do with you.
If female energy has even a whiff of desperate energy then he just won't budge. Also stop going behind him online, when you covertly follow him around online you are BUILDING up a relationship that doesn't exist.
The reason the energy is off is because you are way too mentally and emotionally involved with a man that hasn't demonstrated he's interested in you enough just (yet).
You've done your part. He notice you and now it's up to him to either go there or not go there. So now it's time to shift your energy onto yourself or onto another attractive guy in the gym.
Also be CONSISTENT, try not to make up stories in your head that he's not interested because people do have lots going on in their individual adult lives which can make a man appear disinterested. He had a bad day so why not let that go instead of constantly wondering why he seemed disinterested the third time you saw him.
It's important that you not get all up in your feelings about his behavior, his aloofness has absolutely nothing to do with you, he hardly know you so whatever vibe he's giving off would have nothing to do with you.
Just be you. Be happy. Always show the best side of yourself and be consistently being your best self which is enough to lure a man your way. You appear to have an issue with rejection or what seems like rejection.
You have to be able to deal with your feelings without sending out the wrong kind of energy to a man. The moment you felt a slight of disinterest from him you turned cold and that can tell a man A LOT about you.
Men see this behavior (turn cold) hundreds of thousands of times from women so they immediately know drama when they see it because they've experienced it enough to know that they don't want to go there.
How you react can tell him if you're going to bring drama (your feelings and emotions get hurt easily) into the equation and a lot of men don't want that kind of woman because she's a lot of work and if he's a busy man then he doesn't want MORE work.
Try not to get too caught up with a man's emotions because that WILL throw you off and make you come across as this up and down with his moods kind of woman and men tend to AVOID women that do this because it's associated with DRAMA, feelings that cause drama when there should be none.
So avoid getting caught up in your feelings type of drama by not associating what's going on with him with you because you're good enough, you're enough and you have plenty to offer and as long as you know that and be mindful of that then you can avoid making the assumption that a man's mood has something to do with you.
I would absolutely see where this goes - as in keep saying "Hi" and being friendly. Don't give any expectations. Assess his reaction, and eventually you'll have your answer. If he likes you, he will open up. I mean you aren't dating and you are just being friendly so don't lose something that "could" be 🙂
Posted by JkatsI wouldn't count it, that was years ago. But hey, weirder shit has happened, so maybe.Posted by GreenteaAwwww, a chance missed for sure, but perhaps you two will cross paths again one day! I on the other hand am not shy hahaha.
I remember a long time ago, I went to this gym, and I had a little crush on a guy there. I know he had a crush on me too, he would stare at me and he would always look for me, amd made sure to pass by me when I was on a machine.
He was there with his friend one day, and he purposefully waited at the right moment to pass by me to make sure I was looking, I looked at his friend after and his friend just smiled bcuz he knew that I knew it was planned and he timed that shit perfectly.
It was comical. But even then I was too shy to male the first move to talk to him. We can be so bad at that stuff. He was probably frustrated, hence the performance he made. Damn, he was so handsome too. I think of he would've called me out, and made me face him, I would've taken the mask off.
Nevermind domt call him out like that, just say hi the next time you catch him staring. I just thought about how it would make me feel if he would've said something like that to me, unless he was nice and charming about it.
Lol, and I wasn't gonna call him out like that since idk how he would take it. Plus me acknowledging that he's staring at me, would point out that i've been staring at him. 😛
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I hope you're not over thinking this whole situation, as Virgos tend to do. Keep expectatioms low, say hi, and see what happens. Good luck.
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