still after tha cap girl

hi all! i'm still chasing this cap girl. 😉
anyway, since my last post, things went to very positive (3 weeks ago) to very neutral (now).

she sent me the "i've been thinking" song. (look it up.)
then a few days later invited me to drinks with "you should join us now." so i went.
she was a little stand-offish the days following.
regardless of that, i reiterated my offer of a date from a month ago.
she didn't say no. but it "seems" (to me) that there was a miscommunication.
on the day before the date, she asked me what time we were meeting-up.
i was busy that day and told her that my plan was for the next day - which she was not available.

anyway, i truly value her friendship (which seems strained now).
so, i sent this to her immediately after:
"i have feelings for you but do not want that to get in the way of our friendship."

her reply was:
"i don't think anything will get in the way of us being friends."

thoughts appreciated.
thanks, guys!

What's your sun and moon sign?

I don't see anything wrong with her saying nothing can stand in the way of friendship 🙂

Posted by cappysweetie
What's your sun and moon sign?
I don't see anything wrong with her saying nothing can stand in the way of friendship 🙂

sun libra, moon cancer.

i know, right? its quite neutral.
but we've not talked like we used to - something's changed.
that's why i sent her that message. to let her know that i care about her.

Posted by CappyLuv30
I can only speak for myself...I am totally interested and then I am indifferent. Sometimes it's because feelings changed...Sometimes it's because I am pacing the relationship...Sometimes it's just life getting in the life...sometimes means other things like love take a back seat...Keep being her friend...BUT make sure she is still interested and not indirectly trying to push you away.

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i understand that feelings change. i've noticed it change from "keen" to non-interest and then recently (which was my post above) to "keen" and then non-interest.

when you say "friends first", how long do you mean? because we were that first. then i started to see some interest in her: insistence that i attend an invite, a link to a song, etc... but everytime i've asked her out, she'll say ok - but those dates never eventuate. then she'll invite me to something or do or say something that will show her interest again. it's been like that the last year or so.

i want to chat to her face-to-face to see what she real feels. she didn't decline my last invite. BUT she sent me a TXT "what time shall we see each other?" on the day before our actual date. i was busy that day so i couldn't see her. and she was busy the next day...and so i sent that TXT "...i don't want my feelings to get in the way of our friendship..."

i've asked her out again to a chat. i'm just waiting for her reply.
i really don't want to lose her friendship.
i don't know how else to communicate that.



thanks, guys!

Just know that Capricorns are very temperamental On/Off, Hot/Cold people. It's just our nature. There's no possible way we can give 100% or even 80% all of the time, and you can't force it.

She can probably go weeks or months without talking to you, but it doesn't mean she's mad or anything. She may just be having her "off" moments. Take that into consideration and think about if it's something you can deal with or not. As stated previously, life gets in the way and our moods switch...as we are on the opposite end of the spectrum of the so-called "moody" Cancer right? Two of the same.

Another thing. Libras are known to be a bit indecisive in nature. Capricorns usually don't like that. IMO you should have talked it over made it extremely clear the date and time you wanted to meet. For some reason, it seems it was up in the air causing her to ask, and set a time herself. I've read your previous posts about her and you can't say she's "all talk no action" when you were the one that initiated the flirting/interest and fell back assuming she would finish something you started. If you want her you are going to have to do at-least 95% of the work to get her. It's just how we are at times if someone else initiates that interest. Again, maybe you should take that into consideration in figuring out if you'd really want to date her.

I wish you luck!

@tg: i do really like her!



anyway, yes...nothing has really happened.
and, no...i wasn't indecisive with her. indecisiveness is the one libran trait that i don't have.
the date and time was as black and white as this text on screen.

i just realised that i never posted her actual reply to me:
it was: "...i don't think anything will get in the way of us being friends..."

that's an ok-to-go for me.
so, i try and set-up a date. a non-commital reply. so it didn't happen.
some days later, she invites me out. but i couldn't go, because i was busy.
so, i try to set-up another night (well in advance) with her and some friends. she was busy.
that's 3 weeks in 3 lines.

i guess she just wasn't into me.
i don't want to be "the guy who doesn't get it"
but i also don't want to be "the guy who didn't try".

hopefully, our friendship passes this test.
only time will tell.

anyway, thanks all!