There's jealousy but this is crazy

What do you all think?

Cap is jealous of a singer --and an actor --ON TV to boot.

He keeps bringing them up almost like they are the competition. Any chance he can get, he puts them down LOL, it's just weird!!

My hair is already curly, do tell 🙂

Posted by LoversInLove3
I find jealousy and possessiveness attractive, as long as it's not abusive of course. Moral of the story: I would think that is cute...but I would also make fun of him in a pretty brusque way about it, just for the hell of it.

I might just go on and tell him in subtle ways how many more I find attractive, why the hell not? LOL

Posted by kalin
oh, my cap roommate is super jealous about eveyone and everything... including her own mom.
her mom is drop-dead gorgerous though. her mom looked like a movie star when she was younger...

Jealous of her mom because she's beautiful? I would be so proud.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
My hair is already curly, do tell 🙂

Aww, I really can't- he'd be mortified if he found out that I shared them online. Suffice it to say that his behavior would strike most people as thoroughly un-Cap-like. But in talking to my Cap male friends, there seemed to be a tacit understanding of his sweet lunacy. Their attitude about it all was, "He must've really loved you..."

Love thaws them out, does away with their reserve and self-protective mechanisms, but it also seems to unhinge them a bit.


Is it turning into a problem? It doesn't come off that way, but sometimes it's difficult to decipher tone over the computer.

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No it's not turning into a problem but I find it odd is all. Insecure?

Posted by LoversInLove3
I find jealousy and possessiveness attractive, as long as it's not abusive of course. Moral of the story: I would think that is cute...but I would also make fun of him in a pretty brusque way about it, just for the hell of it.

Me too, a little doesn't hurt, it's actually exciting.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
My hair is already curly, do tell 🙂

Aww, I really can't- he'd be mortified if he found out that I shared them online. Suffice it to say that his behavior would strike most people as thoroughly un-Cap-like. But in talking to my Cap male friends, there seemed to be a tacit understanding of his sweet lunacy. Their attitude about it all was, "He must've really loved you..."

Love thaws them out, does away with their reserve and self-protective mechanisms, but it also seems to unhinge them a bit.


Is it turning into a problem? It doesn't come off that way, but sometimes it's difficult to decipher tone over the computer.

No it's not turning into a problem but I find it odd is all. Insecure?

It's odd, but whose heebie jeebies aren't?

Is he insecure? Probably. But who isn't? As long as it's a not a problem, then you're golden. But still, I think you should tease him as a gentle way to keep the jealousy in check, just in case.

There are those who use this kind of thing as foreplay, too. Something to keep in mind.

Is that you in the photo?

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Hell no, I am much better looking 😛

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Posted by LoversInLove3
I find jealousy and possessiveness attractive, as long as it's not abusive of course. Moral of the story: I would think that is cute...but I would also make fun of him in a pretty brusque way about it, just for the hell of it.

I might just go on and tell him in subtle ways how many more I find attractive, why the hell not? LOL

As a Cap, I don't think I'd find it flattering if my partner made subtle suggestions of finding other people attractive. Beyond everything we are drawn to security like moth to a flame. If anything I think this would be a good opportunity to compliment him on ways that he is better...but of course in very subtle ways.Also, as a Cap, I'd be jealous of celebrities, not because of my insecurity but actually because of confidence in a sense that I don't think celebrities are in a different bracket than I; they are not untouchable. No, I'd measure them same way as anyone walking down the street. 🙂

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being jealous of celebrities is wayyyyy too much jealousy. My husband is confident enough to show me which celebrities he thinks are beautiful and while I dont really care for many, I'll comment on, yeah she's pretty ect. But, beyond that, if you just sense security in yourself, inner confidence in a relationship between two people, those things shouldn't bother you.

He should (men in general)already deeply sense how much you care for them, if he's already feeling a sense of something not right...then maybe check yourself. Are you flirting with other people? Is the conversation with other people friendly or overtly friendly? There IS a difference. You can talk to other people as if you're talking to your mother in law, or doctor/physician about your ailment or the neighbor about how's their dog, ect. But if you're doing something more than that, then check yourself.

* forget to add, thats hoping that people who are in relationships aren't going overboard with the celebrity fantasising. 😕

you read so many stories of celebs having stalkers and such that they have a lot of problems (and i'm not talking about paparazzi people)

Gumshoe, I am glad I made you laugh... why did you change your mind about Cap men?

Yeah, I don't know if that's cute LOL it's not like I say very much about the actor or singer. Just saying I liked that movie, that actor was great is enough from what I see. And as for the singer, just going to watch a show will make him question if I like him? I've never come across this before so I was just wondering.

I had a ex boyfriend (VIRGO) who was insanely jealous. I couldn't even laugh at someone's joke (well he had to be remotely cute) that he would wonder if I LIKED the guy. That was a huge red flag but only realized it much later.

idk if it's necessarily sign issue (although I have noticed Caps get quite jealous at things I wouldn't expect sometimes). My 2nd girlfriend was an aquarius and very insecure and at a bookstore one time I mentioned how hot Kat Von D was and how she is one of my ideal types... I didn't notice it but my friends noticed she got an insecure look on her face and clung to my arm/hand like she was actually there and I was hitting on her.... my friends thought it was hilarious.

From what I gather, this Cap of whom you speak is something of an ongoing saga, on whom I lack the vast majority of the backstory. From your brief comments here, it sounds more like an inferiority complex than jealousy.

Posted by StoicGoat
From what I gather, this Cap of whom you speak is something of an ongoing saga, on whom I lack the vast majority of the backstory. From your brief comments here, it sounds more like an inferiority complex than jealousy.

It's a useless situation, the heart's still in it but the mind knows better...

LOl @ the comments.
My husband is WAY too freaking honest. BRUTAL. I love it though. 🙂

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Posted by StoicGoat
From what I gather, this Cap of whom you speak is something of an ongoing saga, on whom I lack the vast majority of the backstory. From your brief comments here, it sounds more like an inferiority complex than jealousy.

It's a useless situation, the heart's still in it but the mind knows better...

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If it's useless, why do you persist?

R24 -- EMOTIONS don't make SENSE -- so true.

StoicGoat -- It's a process, it doesn't happen overnight! it's not that simple to turn IT off. I will say though I am on the right track and I am feeling good about it. 🙂