what is it like to date us?

im curious.

These are more of rhetorical questions, but...
Do we make your lives stressful? Easy?
Are you able to express yourselves?
Do you feel free?Smothered?Caged?
Are you bored?
Do we inspire?
Do we limit?
Do you feel its all about us? We make it all about you?
Do/did you feel loved?
etc etc.

Im just curious about what it feels like for you to be with us.

One of my biggest insecurities would be my partner being unhappy. Or not knowing he's unhappy because he's busy trying to make me happy.

I guess this post is inspired by the cappy on youtube. She shares a lot of her personal life with her husband in her videos. Of course, their life looks close to perfect but things are rarely ever what they appear to be, so I just thought this would be a good oppt. for us to hear others out, and for others to share.

"But.....you asked....lol"

And Im now about to delete this thread. You just made me regret that I did lol, jk.

Thats interesting you basically had four different experiences of the same. Im thinking you treated these ladies well, possibly better than theyve ever been treated. I think if some of us that are emotionally damaged/unevolved/immature or just spoiled think reciprocating will affect whats done for us. It can be learned, very early on for us, the less we give, the more we seem to get. The way to keep a good thing is to basically abuse it...not intentionally as in premeditated, but behavior that literally becomes 2nd nature.

Its really weird with Virgos too. Although Ive never dated one, my sister is a Virgo and I was definitely not the nicest big sis growing up, but even now, she responds best to me if Im at my worst with her and vice versa in a way. If a Cap isnt mature it can be very easy to try to control our good thing by keeping or putting them in invisible shackles. Again, 2nd nature behavior. I hope one day you meet a decent Cap lady. Id like to think there was "something" good or a little potential which makes it so frustrating and disappointing. I know how that goes.

Posted by 25thDecan
And at any rate...it was a bullette who broke my heart the worst. LOL

I know this, which makes it all the more puzzling that we are so disliked lol. Im guessing you atleast knew where she stood with you?! If so, I understand that.

Anyway, I agree that there is so much in this life we'll never be able to control. *gets sick at the thought*

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

Lmao!!! I saw what you posted.

It actually sounds familiar.*cringes*

Believe it or not, I think many are absolutely unaware of this and how it comes across. The best thing to do, right before leaving lol, is mirroring to show us.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
I cannot beleive you did this

Did what?

msmarilyn, you cannot be serious. I created the thread for people to share their experiences and he did just that. You can chill. wth—

@88NNPisces, what makes you open to trying another cap?

@Libra, so Im assuming you would say you're happy? The communication and emotion are your only minor complaints?

Posted by CluelessCancer
My experience with a Cap woman: Extremely negative, said some very insensitive comments, although I am a sensitive soul, my shell is hard core enough to handle criticism, yet not when it comes left field and out of nowhere...very passive aggressive. I just basically got real cold on her real fast and immediately removed myself from her presence. I am trying to work things out with her right now, because it's easy to just cut people out of your life, and not understand them...so i prefer to understand...

Cap men: Pessimistic, negative, and boring (stuck in the mud types). Now on the positives, extremely intelligent, refined, hilarious (my brother is a cap one of the funniest people in the world).

I did date a cap for two years and he was awesome as a boyfriend, although quiet boring. I dumped him after meeting a more exciting and interesting LEO...that was when i was young..now I WANT BORING and dependable...

So you dated the Cap woman?

Thank you scorched. Cap+Taurus...aww *sniffs*

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Posted by lnana04
Thank you scorched. Cap+Taurus...aww *sniffs*

if he hadn't been a man i would have definitely married him. that whole being gay thing is the only thing that ultimately got in the way. i have nothing but nice things to say about him and all the other capricorns i've had in my life. compatible isn't a strong enough word to describe that connection.

i'd love to meet a female cap. they seem super rare to me though. i almost never meet them. 😢

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Aww. Well Im glad that you've had good experiences so far. Hopefully you'll run into a nice cappy lady one day!

i studied joel peter witkin in art school. his photography is so unique. a strange blend of of the macabre and tranquility. i had to do a black and white series mimicking his work... whew. i used my little sister as one of my subjects. bad idea. my prof loved it but i couldnt even look at it.

very nice avi indeed gumshoe

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Posted by CreepyPants
i studied joel peter witkin in art school. his photography is so unique. a strange blend of of the macabre and tranquility. i had to do a black and white series mimicking his work... whew. i used my little sister as one of my subjects. bad idea. my prof loved it but i couldnt even look at it.

Oh my god, what the hell did you? o.O

I remember you had an avi that I LOVED - it looked like a 13th or 14th century woodcut. I count those woodcuts as some of my favorite things on earth. My deep love of the macabre I inherited from my mother, a Virgo.

And thank you.

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i staged it too... bound her up "gagged" her and put some costume pieces on her. we had a ball while doing it. it was hilarious, but the finished product was too much his dark style + my sweet lil sis. *shudders*

and yes! that was an illustration of Andras from a book on demonology. lol i think thats the one you're talking about, no?

...

what is going on in here? smh

Gum thanks for your post on your relationship with your Cap.

QS, Im not sure if youve heard about the 52 week saving challenge where you save $ 1(1st week)... $ 52(52nd week) and end up with $ 1300, but youvand your Cap can do it in reverse and use it for vacation money.

Posted by msmarilynmanson
You staged a photo creepy? hehe love it

lol yea... it was kind of fun getting in his head. but i didnt wanna go too far lol.. i scratched the negatives too.

@gumshoe, my sis thought they were cool. i hid the negatives from myself lol

3m, that's so awesome that he's close by to your fam. I'd totally go try to visit his studio if i were you 😛 why not?!

Inana, sorry this thread got way off subject! o.o

gumshoe... yea i was really drawn to that print. Andras is a weird blend of creatures

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Posted by lnana04
what is going on in here? smh

Gum thanks for your post on your relationship with your Cap.

QS, Im not sure if youve heard about the 52 week saving challenge where you save $ 1(1st week)... $ 52(52nd week) and end up with $ 1300, but youvand your Cap can do it in reverse and use it for vacation money.

That's real nice until one day you're crossing the street and get hit by a car and have to use hat money you saved for medical bills or worse a funeral.

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Either way, you'll have the money.

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Posted by lnana04
what is going on in here? smh

Gum thanks for your post on your relationship with your Cap.

QS, Im not sure if youve heard about the 52 week saving challenge where you save $ 1(1st week)... $ 52(52nd week) and end up with $ 1300, but youvand your Cap can do it in reverse and use it for vacation money.

My pleasure.

And I apologize for derailing your thread. Bad manners, I know, but I got swept up in talking about this stuff.

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No prob. I saw you all talk about this guy in another post. Why dont yall move it to the art forum? Im sure it can use a post or two.

Posted by QUlETstorm
No inana, please tell me more! Lol

He has not one but TWO savings account already but he won't dip into them for travel :-/

There's 52 weeks in a yr right?

1st week save $ 1.
2nd week save $ 2
3rd week save $ 3........52nd week save $ 52

By the end of the yr you will have $ 1300.

You can do your own, he can do his. The both of you can do it in reverse starting at 52, and you'll each have $ 1000 by June/July.

My Cap friend is doing this for his vacation.

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Posted by QUlETstorm
No inana, please tell me more! Lol

He has not one but TWO savings account already but he won't dip into them for travel :-/

There's 52 weeks in a yr right?

1st week save $ 1.
2nd week save $ 2
3rd week save $ 3........52nd week save $ 52

By the end of the yr you will have $ 1300.

You can do your own, he can do his. The both of you can do it in reverse starting at 52, and you'll each have $ 1000 by June/July.

My Cap friend is doing this for his vacation.

Bless you! I'm going to do this, I swear. Thank you.

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Your welcome!

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Posted by msmarilynmanson
I feel like someone took a knife and stabbed me right in the back.

That's a pretty bold statement, why would it be so personal? Has he expressed opposite to what he has said here in private? (No need to answer, PMs are just that...private) I really doubt he has.

He has always been explicitly clear about how he feels, and will not hold back. That's what you should respect...his opinion, not the one you want to create for him.

Yup. It's really not a secret that 25thdecan hates Cappy ladies. Gotta love him for being honest. And I secretly hold out hope that some one will get him to change his mind someday.

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I thought I was the only one lol.

mmm, I've been trying to tell him the same for years, dont bother..he will never listen 😛

NotJtg and Capmusic can yall please both stfu. My fish thats nearly on life support have more personlity than the two of you combined. Like wtf? Yall are so d $ mn irritating.

Mmm, you stfu too with all of that whining. Who are you?Seriously. I told you before this is not how *we* do it. I dont know what/who you are or where the h&ll you came from but just stop!!!

Absolutely no more threads for me. None.

My most significant and longest relationship ever has been with a Cap/Sag cuspy, even though there's quite a few of her personality traits I never could get used to, I will never close myself down to the possibility of dating another cap. It's kinda foolish and childish to write off an entire sun sign.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
My most significant and longest relationship ever has been with a Cap/Sag cuspy, even though there's quite a few of her personality traits I never could get used to, I will never close myself down to the possibility of dating another cap. It's kinda foolish and childish to write off an entire sun sign.

Thanks for sharing Shaka! What was some of those personality traits?

Do you really feel you were happy in that relationship? Honestly, I even wondered about this when yall were together.

I like teasing Virgo girls, dont remember saying I would never date one, I did state however that in general they are not my favourites, that has nothing to do with hate or writing them off.

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
My most significant and longest relationship ever has been with a Cap/Sag cuspy, even though there's quite a few of her personality traits I never could get used to, I will never close myself down to the possibility of dating another cap. It's kinda foolish and childish to write off an entire sun sign.

Thanks for sharing Shaka! What was some of those personality traits?

Do you really feel you were happy in that relationship? Honestly, I even wondered about this when yall were together.

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🙂

I was happy for a big part of that relationship, however we both had massive individual changes that ultimately drove us apart. Probably the most encompassing trait of hers I could mention which I could never get used to, was her extremely serious approach towards life, which is great if you want to have a great career, but to me there is much more in life than building an incredible career, in fact what gives me most satisfaction in life is being able to have new experiences, regardless of whether they are good or bad, they always end up teaching me something new about myself or life, that to me is priceless. In the end I was basically repressing my fun/social/party beast/adventourous side in order to be in her good graces. Its probably a bit sad to say this, but Im a much happier person without her, although the irony is that the level of happiness I have achieved these days wouldnt have been possible without the lessons I learned from that relationship with her 🙂 So most of all Im thankful of what we had, rather than bitter about it. I have told her this several times and she seems a bit confused haha.

I read about 10% of 25th decan's posts, they were all too depressing and whiny for my liking.

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Posted by lnana04

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
My most significant and longest relationship ever has been with a Cap/Sag cuspy, even though there's quite a few of her personality traits I never could get used to, I will never close myself down to the possibility of dating another cap. It's kinda foolish and childish to write off an entire sun sign.

Thanks for sharing Shaka! What was some of those personality traits?

Do you really feel you were happy in that relationship? Honestly, I even wondered about this when yall were together.

🙂

I was happy for a big part of that relationship, however we both had massive individual changes that ultimately drove us apart. Probably the most encompassing trait of hers I could mention which I could never get used to, was her extremely serious approach towards life, which is great if you want to have a great career, but to me there is much more in life than building an incredible career, in fact what gives me most satisfaction in life is being able to have new experiences, regardless of whether they are good or bad, they always end up teaching me something new about myself or life, that to me is priceless. In the end I was basically repressing my fun/social/party beast/adventourous side in order to be in her good graces. Its probably a bit sad to say this, but Im a much happier person without her, although the irony is that the level of happiness I have achieved these days wouldnt have been possible without the lessons I learned from that relationship with her 🙂 So most of all Im thankful of what we had, rather than bitter about it. I have told her this several times and she seems a bit confused haha.

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Thanks for the honesty Shaka! I completely understand all of your post and where you are coming from. Im wondering what makes her confused about it lol.

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My most significant and longest relationship ever has been with a Cap/Sag cuspy, even though there's quite a few of her personality traits I never could get used to, I will never close myself down to the possibility of dating another cap. It's kinda foolish and childish to write off an entire sun sign.

Thanks for sharing Shaka! What was some of those personality traits?

Do you really feel you were happy in that relationship? Honestly, I even wondered about this when yall were together.

🙂

I was happy for a big part of that relationship, however we both had massive individual changes that ultimately drove us apart. Probably the most encompassing trait of hers I could mention which I could never get used to, was her extremely serious approach towards life, which is great if you want to have a great career, but to me there is much more in life than building an incredible career, in fact what gives me most satisfaction in life is being able to have new experiences, regardless of whether they are good or bad, they always end up teaching me something new about myself or life, that to me is priceless. In the end I was basically repressing my fun/social/party beast/adventourous side in order to be in her good graces. Its probably a bit sad to say this, but Im a much happier person without her, although the irony is that the level of happiness I have achieved these days wouldnt have been possible without the lessons I learned from that relationship with her 🙂 So most of all Im thankful of what we had, rather than bitter about it. I have told her this several times and she seems a bit confused haha.

Thanks for the honesty Shaka! I completely understand all of your post and where you are coming from. Im wondering what makes her confused about it lol.

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She basically doesn't know if she should take those words as a compliment or as a rebuke haha, her mind is too logical and black/white to accept such gray area 😛 I dont blame her. I admire her qualities this type of mind gives her too.

@Shaka, I guess it is a bit different to hear that someone learned a lot from you but they are happier without you lol.

Posted by lnana04
@Shaka, I guess it is a bit different to hear that someone learned a lot from you but they are happier without you lol.

Haha well the opposite is true too, Im pretty sure she's happier without me too, Im just happy to know it was such a natural transition for both of us. Ultimately in every relationship you end up learning much more about yourself than you do about the other person, and thats why I always recommend people not to fear entering relationships, as it is probably the only way you can truly learn about the most fundamental parts of yourself.

Off to bed, good night kids, play nicely and I'll give you some candy tomorrow.

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Posted by lnana04
@Shaka, I guess it is a bit different to hear that someone learned a lot from you but they are happier without you lol.

Haha well the opposite is true too, Im pretty sure she's happier without me too, Im just happy to know it was such a natural transition for both of us. Ultimately in every relationship you end up learning much more about yourself than you do about the other person, and thats why I always recommend people not to fear entering relationships, as it is probably the only way you can truly learn about the most fundamental parts of yourself.

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I always said the two of you were mature! Thats a good way to look at relationships too.

the cap+gem again. unbelievable.

i dont think id date myself seriously. just for fun 😛

I feel like I wasted a lot of my time reading (no scanning) all the bullshit in this thread. Sorry, Inana. It was a very interesting idea and I appreciate the ones who responded seriously to your question. Kudo's to 25th Deacon for his honesty.

This is about the second thread I've read today that was horribly de-railed. Either stick to the topic, or create your own thread. IF you're going to talk art, create a thread. If you're going to argue over avatars, create a thread. If you're going to mouth off and argue, create a thread. Get my drift. I guaran-damn-tee I'm not the only one who gets irritated by it all.

A little smart assness and humor yes, if you're going to de-rail it, please think how fustrating and inconsiderate it is to the one who originally created the thread.

Geesh!!!!

*slowly steps off soap box*

In the words of Miss Venezuela..can you please repeat the question for the derailers? 😛

I am commenting on my current CAP relationship.
Do we make your lives stressful? Easy? easy, my cap mos def trys to make things easier.
Are you able to express yourselves? of course. I feel like she understands me pretty damn well. We are a damn good team.
Do you feel free?Smothered?Caged? light weight smothered, but I like it and need that every once & a while.
Are you bored? nope
Do we inspire? yea, she keeps me positive and motivated everyday
Do we limit? naw
Do you feel its all about us? We make it all about you? she put me on a pedestal pretty early in the relationship, because we knew each other prior and had a huge crush on each other.
Do/did you feel loved? loved and respected. Yes!

Thank you all for participating.

I find it extremely interesting that nearly all of you Scorps said we inspire, and you all were basically the only ones to say it.

For the paat two weeks or so Ive been frustrated trying to figure out whose voice is at the beginning of "F-in problem" with Asap and Drake(Scorpio). Two people have said Aaliyah(Capricorn). Drake produced the song, and not long ago was able to get hold of Aaliyahs unreleased material. He said a while ago she's the one that either inspired him to sing or come up with his melodies. Im guessing she'll still be able to inspire him with the unreleased material. He's mentioned Sade and Denzel too.

Im guessing you Scorps are one of the ones that either get or appreciate us.

I appreciate your post too Gum! You seem to get Caps too...really well, which shocks me in a way for an Aries. I think we have a lot in common with Aries, but sometimes things are lost in how we communicate. It seems like you had a good relationship with your Cap.

I hear mostly good things about Cap women and Aries men too, which is why I want one still lol.

I thought Inana said she didnt wish your trolling on this thread anymore 😛

I have a TON of Capricorn's in my life so I'm a bit biased.
I dated a goat-girl so based off that...

Do we make your lives stressful? Easy?
She didn't

Are you able to express yourselves?
Ummm I think so but I was 19 and dumb as hell

Do you feel free?Smothered?Caged?
Mmm none of the above in a strong manner. She was pretty chill

Are you bored?
She was alright!

Do we inspire?
In hindsight, no. She did not.

Do we limit?
She didn't

Do you feel its all about us? We make it all about you?
Actually yes. She was sweet but had a selfish streak

Do/did you feel loved?
Nah but it wasn't really that deep of a relationship

Keep in mind, I was 19 at the time. What the HELL did I know? lol

Posted by msmarilynmanson
Now that was insightful, back to the wrestling ring for you. Lmao jk jk

Haha

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