To call or not to call?? Help please!

I have known a 34-yr-old Capi for a few months and we went out a few times and always have a great time and conversation, but then he'd disappear for weeks. The last time he disappeared was 2 months and he suddenly contacted me again recently. We started talking again and last week, went out and was intimate for the first time. I thought everything was great until he tells me the next morning that he likes me, but that there is also another girl he likes. He still considers himself single since this girl is usually out of the country 2/3 of the time. I was devastated but think I covered it up pretty well, but did leave his place fairly quickly. I haven't heard from him since and it has been about 4 days. I know this is stupid but he is the first guy I've really liked in a long time.

First question is, am I just a convenient sub for when the other girl is not around, or is there a chance that I can win him over? He's know her for a couple years already. Second question, the no calling, does that mean he just doesn't like me enough? Third question, should I call or txt him? He does have my jacket...

Thanks so much for your advice/feedback =)

SimplyMe,

These are all valid questions. He actually called today and we chatted. I think how I felt was a knee-jerk reaction to sleeping with him. While he is a fantastic guy and I'm extremely attracted to him, I am really concerned with his lack of passion and disbelief in love. For him there is no magic and love is merely an emotion that we are taught to believe in to encourage procreation.

I believe that I still need to get to know him more. The Leo in me would normally not tolerate someone who has expressed interest n anyone but myself but in reality that is what most people do. I am also still seeing other people as well. I think as long as I don't sleep with him again I will not get too emtionally involved =)