What 2 do?

Hello everyone, I need some advice...I've been talking to a cappy man for about 2 months now.. I really like him and I think he likes me he even introduced me to his parents. but we don't talk as much as I'd like..and we have talked about this and he said he didn't know if I felt the same way and that he didn't want to bother me..I told how I felt and he called everyday for 4 days after that..then one day he called and I missed the call and he told me to call him when I get the msg which I did and he didn't answer, call back 2x more times and left a msg and I haven't heard from him since...it's been a week now...what's up with that...should I call or just leave it alone...Confused.

Don't worry about it, my Cappy was the same way, they play hard to get alot. Its because they prefer moving slowly and some aren't generally used to either being the center of attention, or being adored very much.
I'd wait, its what I did with my Capricorn boyfriend and we still got together regardless of his 'social disabilities'. (as I like to call them) But if you do manage to talk to him, start a light, casual conversation before asking any questions. Lol, otherwise I don't see anything very wrong.

Thanks for you input Motsureru...It makes me feel a little better...so you said I should wait for him to call? I want him to know I like him but I don't want him to know he's got me wrapped around his finger, so I'm trying to stay strong ...don't I don't want to be a hard ass and miss out on a great thing....How long did you have to go through this with your cappy man? Gosh this is draining...LOL

Well we never really went through this, since in reality he was wrapped around MY finger, but he pretended not to be and always ignored me or turned me down.
But I'm a naturally annoying person and one day I told him: "I'll meet you at the theater at 8pm tonight, later!" And just walked away, that was our first date because I pretty much trapped him there, lol.

But here I'd say, yes, you should wait, unless it goes on for too long, then try and take control of the situation and try making plans. But just pretend your friends instead of lovers to make him feel more comfortable, eh? Maybe you should just go to his house for a surprise visit or something, and bring a gift! 😛 I dunno why but MY Cappy likes flowers, he's a total sucker for him and when you give him a rose or something he swoons. Easy. LOL, but thats my Cappy not yours so...

Yeah, just wait a bit more, if nothing happens then just dive in there and see what the results are. If the result is bad you can heal it with time and an apology so, you got nothing to lose!

mot do how long did it take for your cap to trust you?

Oh, well...Uh...can't say it was easy. 😆 But putting up with his mood swings really did make him get used to me.

I think (and this is just my guess not his) that it took MONTHS, maybe even longer, but thats just my Cappy in general, and he was a tough cookie I'll tell you that much. (I loves him anyway)

Besides, I found the challenge of getting him more encouraging than discouraging. 😛

Why do you ask by the way?

well ive been dealing with a cap and he acts same way..but just when i think that we are over and done...he pops up...and then its like im so glad to see him. We never argue...he is so sweet. I think I like the challenged too. its crazy...but i think we all need a little challenged..you think?

LOVE the challenge. I relish it. 😛 Can't STAND shallow men anyways so MEH! XO

God, when I see random men going up to girls, or random men hitting on me, it makes me wanna beat the tar out of them! VIOLENCE!

Sorry I'm somewhat hyper but my mother keeps buying me and my Cappy chocolates and he keeps giving me his! Then I'll eat it and I keep getting hyper...And yeah...lol. 🙂 Mmm...Chocolate.

ok mot im feeling u...

its like you are cap-tivated

Omg, you think I'm crazy! 😕 That hurts...No, lol, jk jk, I was always the weird one. 😛 I was also the evil, violent, and very emotional one. I'm having mood swings now heehee. XP

And are you saying I'm Capricorn obsessed? >: (

Yes...the wonderful world of chocolate...and with easter coming up I will have ALL THE CHOCOLATE IN THE WORLD! ...well, maybe not but I'll have chocolate at least. Life is good. 🙂

Oh...but I have a stummy ache. thats not good, nope. 😢

A surprise visit?! Oh no, that's not cool. She only been dating him for 2 months so making a surprise visit would seem obsessive. My Scorpio did that to me within the 1st month and I freaked out & scolded him. I told him I wasn't gonna open the door but he tricked me into it by saying he was really thirsty and wanted something to drink before he leaves (I felt sorry for him too since he felt rejected). Funny thing is a few hours before he came over I had a strong gut feeling that he was gonna stop by. Space is a good thing especially when just getting to know each other. Unless exclusivity is agreed upon, give him some space and date others (just in case it doesn't work out between ya'll).

I personally am not a phone person and will go months without calling friends. I will occassionally email or text but I always respond promptly unless I'm moody (which could take up to 2 wks). Guys have complained in the past that it seems I'm not interested because I don't call. I will make an effort but then I go back to not calling because using the phone is uncomfortable and unnatural for me. I prefer face-face communication so if I call its usually only to make plans or a quick hello (so that they know I'm alive). All this usually stops when I'm in love because then I would need to hear from my beau on a regular basis and I'll call if they slack off.

Since you made a big effort to call him back and left messages - don't call him, let him call you. He may be under stress or not in the mood to talk. If he really likes you, he'll eventually call so that he don't lose you. We tend to be passive sometimes and can easily be passive-aggressive. Keep things light-hearted and give him reassurance when he needs it. Do you know his moon sign, venus, mars and birth chart?

I re-read your post.
This could also be a test to see how much you really like him since we are big on watching actions instead of words. Its not fair but we want to see if you are easy to scare away. We do play hard to get. Its hard to tell if we are rejecting you or testing you so if he says he likes you and backed it up with actions, then maybe he likes being pursued. Gosh, I don't know how you ladies put up with Capricorn's unpredictable actions. I know I am very hard to get and its just an armor, self-protection against rejection.

I guess wait a bit and if he doesn't call, contact him and see if he's still interested. I'm direct so I'd ask if he was interested and what his intentions are. If you haven't slept with him yet, hold out for as long as you can (long enough until you know without a doubt that he likes and cares for you and wants a committment). We like challenges and if we feel you're easy to get, then the challenge is gone and you're dismissed. I'm thinking from the typical Earth guy point of view (I have many guy friends that give me insight). They appreciate you more when they have to work for it.

Hey, surprise visits always worked for me. Sure the person would be annoyed at first but if you have a gift and something they'll be interested in hearing to talk about then they be happy. 😄 Do that all the time with my family members and friends.

Like some random time on a Saturday when the working bums are asleep you come around knocking at their door! 😆 Although I personally think you should do that to friends and family only. Somebody your interested in or don't know too well...Surprise visits are better left for more appropriate times...heheh...

I always gave surprise visits to my Cappy which he'd be totally ticked at me for doing, but then I gives him a flower, peck on the cheek, and asks if he'd like me to make him some coffee and he happy. He can't help it. 😛

Though I suppose only 2 months IS a bit soon, I'd personally wait for a call or something. No point in getting a huge phone bill calling somebody who don't pick up!

And I'm not a phone person either, I find that when I'm on the phone there are LONG pauses. Unless I'm in a random mood and I'll start talking about how I'm trying to use the television remote with my feet or spraying my cats with perfume.

Sometimes I wonder if people just listen to me for their own mild amusement...Lol, sweet, I'm entertaining. XP

Hi,
Im krobe, i've been with a capricorn male for 10.5 years and we still aren't married. These males move slow, slow, slow, slow, slow. They give you ALL the time you need to straighten yourself out to be what they call the PERFECT mate. When he wants to get married. I back off! I'm not ready yet! Oh yeah they love a challenge. It drives them crazy. NO MY CAPRICORN MALE IS NOT A PHONE PERSON. He calls me periodically on my cell phone. And I have been with him 10.5 years. But if your out and about and you expect to be gone longer than usual. You BETTER call. I love him. At first, I guess i'm not ashamed to say, that I had to show action. He let me move in with him, under the terms I helped with 1/2 of everything. But he did let me keep his car. Don't be easy going. Always challenge him. MAKE him FEEL as if he is EARNING YOU. He makes you earn every dam thing. After years of challenges,I can finally say,"I know that he loves me."I know it. It took us five years into the relationship to have a baby. He is very affectionate by nature, but he doesn't intentionally mean to be that way. ITS HIS NATURE! It will also offend you at times. Especially if your emotional. He will tell you to shut that cry baby shit up and take it like a woman. I mean cold hearted. Cold natured. No not mean, very loving, very loving. I don't know how to describe this nature. You will just have to experience it. BUT HE doesn't mean to be that way. Just except it.

krobe,
I meant very unaffectionate by nature. Very stern, very unaffectionate. But if you really look at it, its just to make you a stronger, better person.

"But if you really look at it, its just to make you a stronger, better person."

Yeah right. If you arent dead by that time after enduring all that cold hearted nonsense from your cap man 😢

krobe03,

"Im krobe, i've been with a capricorn male for 10.5 years and we still aren't married."

I know I am intruding into your personal space but where the hell do you think this relation is going towards. I mean if you really wanna get married to him, whats stopping you. I know cap men like challenges and all but these games will start to get annoying at some time or the other, right?

What to do?

DO nothing - hope and pray!

Motsureru,
"And I'm not a phone person either, I find that when I'm on the phone there are LONG pauses. Unless I'm in a random mood and I'll start talking about how I'm trying to use the television remote with my feet or spraying my cats with perfume."

LMAO 🙂

I guess it does matter who it is that's doing the surprise visit. Although I hate them, I sure didn't dump my Scorpio. I was just intrigued that I met a man whose tough on the outside but sensitive on the inside like me. He held me soooo tight and gave me a breathtaking kiss that I just couldn't resist. I was hooked.

krobe03,

I strongly disagree with you your rationalization that you can cheat in a relationship because you're not married. You mentioned the bible so I just had to comment. Bible days of relationships were different, 2 people were not supposed live together nor fornicate before marriage. The reason why the bible doesn't say you can't cheat on your mate is because it is a sin to have sex before marriage, and a sin to have sex if you're not married (a relationship is not marriage so this applies to it). Even sexual thoughts are a sin unless you're married.

If 2 people are in a relationship and agree that cheating is not tolerated and monogamy is expected (like the majority of relationships) then cheating is unacceptable! Cheating is a selfish, impulsive behavior that hurts loved ones. Alot of cheaters rationalize their behaviors so that they don't feel guilty.

Disclaimer: I don't know if you're in a monogamous relationship so I'm not calling you a cheater, No offense. And even if you were cheating, you're not my man so I am not pointing fingers.

amen to that capangel! I guess people cheat so much they are trying to justify it...Cheating hurts...if its real love you should only need each other.

krobe03,
I am not cheating, (NO IM NOT A CHEATER) there are more couples who are in a monogamous relationship NOW more than ever. Marriage rate is at a low 50% . 70% for black women. NO talking to other men is not cheating. Maybe emotionally, however, physically I have not had SEX with any of the other males I talk to. My capricorn male talks to other females. NO I honestly believe that he is not sleeping with THEM. He goes to work and comes straight HOME. SO do I. I go to work and come straight home. But I can't help it if alot of MEN are attracted to me. It doesn't mean that I have to sleep with them. I let them KNOW up front, no secrets that I have a man of 10.5 years. MEN don't care. It seems for some reason, they are curious to KNOW how can I keep a man around that long. I guess they want to know what my secret is or that if I can keep a man around that long than I must know what to DO. I can tell them to back off! Leave me alone, but that sometimes just doesn't happen the way I want it to. SO since these men insist. They get there feelings hurt when they eventually see, I'm not rushing to leave my man. That's not my fault. If you want a man to be attracted to YOU even MORE tell him you have a man. He will jump hoops to be the one for you.