Need help with Cap man

I met this cap man a month ago...it was extreme chemistry from the start. Sparks were flying. He pursued me really hard. Unfortunately we became intimate after knowing each other only a short time. It seemed to be the usual no phone call for a couple of weeks even though I had left several messages. He called after two weeks but left no message. Last night I saw him at a nightclub where he first pursued me. He was quite cold and distant to me and seemed to be interested in a few other women. The last time we were together he indicated he doesn't do casual and that he really enjoyed being with me and that this would work. Well, I sure didn't get that feeling last night. He looked like a real player. He did tell me that son had been in a recent accident and his grandson had been hurt and that he was working a lot of hours. I just couldn't stand to see him dancing with other women and he had the opportunity to be with me. I left after a while. The only conversation we really had was when I asked him to dance and said that I hoped our last encounter did not ruin the opportunity to get to know each other. I told him I was patient but I needed to know if I was still in the game. Frankly I'm not sure he answered that question. What do you think? Was this a case of him pursuing then catching and now leaving? I just find it so hard to think of him as a player. I just never got that feeling from. We are both in our 50's. He was married for almost 20 years and then another one (rebound as he calls it) for 5. I was married 36 years. I really thought I met my soul mate. We so connected and now it's so cold. Any advise or insight would be helpful.

MsScorpio

i honestly dont think hes ready to settle...hes already been married for 20 years and now hes a free man....its gonna be hard to get a hold on him

dward417,

Thank you. He's actually been married twice. Once for 20 years and the 2nd time for 5 years. I do know he's somewhat scared to make any commitments and I'm really ok with that but I certainly wanted a chance to get to know him better. My conversations with him did not indicate he was into one night stands, unless of course he was not telling me the truth. I guess that's what I really do need to know. I really don't like the thought of being played. Being a scorpio I can usually sense red flags and I honestly can say I haven't got any.
I would love to hear from others and some Cap men if you are out there.

MsScorpio

yeah, i dont think hes that crazy about being with you right now. If i really enjoyed being with someone new i wouldnt let weeks go by without saying anything. Maybe the last thing on his mind is getting into another relationship no matter how good it seems. We caps dont like to forced into any situation. He will know where to find you and if not than go find someone that really cares. You just have to go with the flow and dont fight the current because you will lose everytime.

Capguy111,

Thank you so much for responding. I value your opinion. Help me here, are Caps into one night stands and are players?

MsScorpio

I would assume most caps are players because they see so many choices out there. Why stay with one girl when there are so many to choose from. I guess you have to find the right girl to put you in check. Arent all guys int one night stands? I love sex with no strings attached. There are so many fish out there so try to snap out of his spell.

Thanks Capguy111. I must admit your response has me somewhat confused as most of what I've read seems to indicate cappy's are somewhat reserved and don't usually have casual sex and take things of that nature pretty seriously. However, I guess guys will be guys. At any rate I really appreciate the perspective of a cap man.

MsScorpio

I think it depends on the person but from what I know a Cappy is fully capable of having casual sex if they are rebounding, hurt, or sexually frustrated. It takes alot for us to committ and we have to be in the proper mindset for that to happen. If he's under alot of stress, romance is gonna be the last thing on his mind. Cappies also love challenges so someone that is willing to get intimate too soon can be a turnoff. I prefer if the person shows restraint and discrimination in their sexual choices. Typically, we like to move very very slow when it comes to building a foundation for a possible relationship. Just like Scorpios, we also test you.

What answer did he give you when you asked him if he wants to continue getting to know you?

If he was cold and distant, that's not a good sign. If you can convince him that you don't sleep around and you really felt a connection with him and hoped to continue it, maybe he'll give it a chance. But if he isn't looking to committ, there's nothing you can say to change his mind. We're not big on leaving messages neither and alot of us aren't phone people but I will always call back the person within 2 weeks.

Playing hard to get could work in your situation if he's still interested. I would refrain from contacting him until he contacts you.

Do you know his birthdate? If you know his Moon, Venus, Mars and Ascendant that could tell you alot. If he has a heavy dose of Aquarius or Sagittarius in him, he'll be hard to lock down. In additon, he would prefer a lite, friendship first and then if that works, he could develop feelings for you and warm up to you.

Capricorns are shy about expressing emotions and we find it easier to be passive, but if we feel like we're losing you, we'll step up and put forth more effort. So if he doesn't want to lose you, he'd show you more interest.

I really hope it works out. Scorpio/Capricorn couples can be a soulmate match. My boyfriend is a Scorpio and he's everything I need. He helps me feel safe and secure to express my emotions and brings out my passionate, sensitive side. I give him security and devotion. Its a great match so don't give up on Caps because of this guy. Good Luck!
Tell us what happens.

CapAngel,

I am so confused with his behavior. He pursued me so hard it was unbelievable. I think we both felt the connection and electricity when we touched. Just starring into each others eyes was so soulful. At least this is how I felt. The night we were together he was saying all the right things. I actually believed him. I would hate to think I was played for a fool. My emotions are so real and I don't play games. When I saw him 2 weeks later at the club was when he was so cold and distant. He is under a great deal of stress and that night he told me his son had been in an accident and his grandson has an emergency trip to the hospital. I just didn't like his behavior that night and I saw a totally different person. The happy fun person I met was not there. Instead I saw a man who appeared to be picking up women in the bar by buying them drinks and in essence ignoring me. That was truly hurtful. It really left me feeling not too good about the whole situation. His birthday is January 10th and I think the year is 1955. Does this give you any insight into his chart?

I think he knows I'm not a person to sleep around. He made that comment early on. I do believe he recognized I might be a cut above some of the other women he's used to. He did tell me I intimidated him. He indicated he had seen me before but was afraid of rejection and that's why he waited so long before he ever approached me. By the way he bought me a drink when I first met him. This must be his way of connecting with women and assure himself of not being rejected. Damn do I feel sleezy as I talk about this. My Scorpio emtions always get in the way.

I plan to go back to the club next week. It's not going to be easy.I believe my game plan will just be to ignore him and see if he makes the first move. Thanks for reponding and I really appreciate all the insight. I've never had a guy touch me like this. I really felt I met the one. Time will certainly tell.

MsScorpio

my virgo girl friend met a cap guy and he was into her day one, gave money, time and alot of energy to that relationship but no he wasn't the most faithful guy on the planet but neither was she, they were inseparable though, of course they were much younger but it was a tumultous relationship.

I concur with everyone here, if he was ready for you he wouldn't hold back with getting to know you, I'm sure he felt the connection as you speak of but he might not be ready to get into another long/short term relationship, plus he sounds wounded, 2 divorces and he's hitting the club, doesn't sound like he's looking for a girlfriend, he might have decided to stay away from you because he knows he would fall into his old relationship patterns with you and doesn't want to explore that road at this time.

I personally would try to forget him and do your thang, let him come to you...you don't want to waste time an emotionally wounded guy...to much drama

This is so weird after three years of missing a cap-man and coming to this forum to hear everyone's advise. It cracks me up that most all stories are all the same? What is it about these men that grabs out attention after we were going through life just fine? My story is long one and after three years you could imagine that I'm pretty much tired of talking about him and the situation!! HA HA!! However I find this man to be the most confusing of them all? He asked me to move on and I have / am (still dating Pisces after a year) but still he consumes me (I'm here reading) we have not spoken on the phone in over a year I have called his cell and he does not answer I will occasionally send him a text message and we will respond then all of a sudden he's gone again! He will ask me questions and I will respond. He once asked me where's ?your boyfriend? I took that as a jealous response to a question I asked him!! Got all excited thinking we were going somewhere! ha ha ha NOT!!

I agree with capguy111 cap men will sleep with woman all kids really! I have seen three of the girls that he's been ?with? and if the number does not shock you then the difference in women would! Its like he's a kid in a candy Store and I'm pretty sure he knows that he could get what he wants!! I read that same crap ohh they ?caps? don't sleep around!! Um really cause all the ones I have met want booty commitment or not and most the time not! I have read that they are slooooow in going into relationships um not true cause as soon as he found what he ?thought? he wanted he laid it on thick!

My take is ya I still care about him and he will always have this place in my heart, but I cant sit around and wait for his @ $ $ (butt) to figure out if I'm better then all the other ?pieces of candy?. I have a lot to offer and well the man that I'm with right now knows the situation (my feelings for the cap) and has said that one day he would love to shake his hand and buy him a drink and thank him for putting me back!! And that my ladies, is a man that you need to look for! I sometimes ask myself do I hang on to him more because I cant have him, why cant I tie this one man down? I know I love him but there has to be something keeping me holding on to nothing!!

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My suggestion don't hang on to everything he told you? people tell you lots of stuff and don't mean it! (Sometimes they do sometimes they don't) But move forward with your life! See what makes you happy and go with it you only live once you have to enjoy what you have been given now!! Other wise three years later you will still be coming back to the place checking in on caps (like me) reading your same story from another poor soul who has no clue what she's in for with this ?cap ? man?. I would never say stop loving him if in fact you do!! But just know everything happens for a reason and if was meant to be it will be, but you cant sit around and wait for it or stop being who you want to be for him!!
Good Luck!!

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GreenEyedGemini

somtimes good sex will give you mixed signals..i guess some caps will say anything to get the drawers

Well put GEG....Well Put.

There is life after a Capricorn.

MSScorpio,
It sounds like the stuff I been thru with guys that disappeared after sex. So I'm thinking he is not interested in anything serious and is just enjoying his bachelor status. Since he's not keeping in touch, it seems he doesn't want things to go further. Such a shame because it sounds like he lost a good woman! I'm sure he'll be kicking himself later when he's finally ready to settle down.

Your test sounds like a solid plan to see what his actions will be. Ignoring him is a good idea. Don't be the first to say HI, just enjoy yourself and dance the night away. Don't even think about him too much because that might ruin your night out. Play hard to get.

I am also sensitive like you so after being played so many times, I am now the ultimate challenge. I am very hard to get. I put my Scorpio thru so many tests and pushed him away so much in the beginning, and to my surprise he loved the challenge and persisted. I know Earth signs love challenges and woman that are hard to get (but not impossible to get, especially since we can be shy and afraid of rejection). So the more a man has to work to "get" you, the more he'll appreciate you because he invested alot of effort and won't let that go easily. Sucks but I find it to be a good way of weeding out the players.

I copied the below from http://astrology3d.com
His birth chart interpretation (not 100% detailed since birth time and birth place is unknown):

Sun Capricorn 19.49
Moon Leo 20.00
Mercury Capricorn 29.47
Venus Sagittarius 3.54
Mars Pisces 26.52
Jupiter Cancer 25.34 R
Saturn Scorpio 19.10
Uranus Cancer 25.54 R
Neptune Libra 28.08
Pluto Leo 26.21 R
Lilith Scorpio 23.22
Asc node Capricorn 5.39

Moon in Leo

Warm, loving, and generous in your affections, you inspire tremendous devotion and loyalty in your loved ones. This is good, since you would never settle for anything less! You want to be adored and worshipped like the king or queen that you feel you are, and it is difficult for anyone to resist the warmth and attention you lavish on those you care about. You have a great deal of pride and need to be recognized and appreciated. The way to really hurt your feelings is to ignore you. You are genuine, sincere, and have a strong sense of personal integrity. You hate emotional games and dishonesty.

Sun Quincunx Moon

There is an ongoing, subtle conflict within you, between your conscious attitudes and aspirations, and your deeper emotional and subconscious beliefs, needs, and feelings. This creates considerable inner stress and sometimes paralyzing indecision, mostly due to the fact that you may be trying to follow a path that is at odds with your subconscious desires. Chronic tightness or tension in your body may well be a signal that you are denying or suppressing the messages from your subconscious or emotional self.

Ideally, you will learn to accept the two quite different aspects of yourself and to express both of them. If you cannot do this, you're apt to attract many people into your life who reflect your denied or repressed qualities, and who seem to make your life difficult. (Read Chapter 4's description of your moon sign and compare it to the above interpretation of your sun sign in order to get a better picture of the duality described here.)
Sun Conjunct Mercury

You tend to see things from your perspective only and to be rather subjective. You also enjoy talking and expressing your views but you don't always listen as well. You have a clear mind, a love of learning and new experiences, and need constant mental stimulation and activity

Sun Semisquare Venus
You are loving and well-loved by others, and have a strong need for kindness, friendship, and affection. Your artistic and creative powers are also well developed and you do everything in a harmonious, gracious, pleasing manner. Aesthetics are very important to you. Your personal appearance and attractiveness are also very important to you

Sun Opposite Jupiter
You aim high, dream big dreams, and have a tremendous sense of what is possible for you to achieve. Overconfidence, grandiosity, lack of humility, and/or extreme discontent in modest circumstances may be your faults. Generally, however, your great expectations and enterprising spirit lead to success. Business, especially when there is an element of risk and speculation, suits you well

Sun Sextile Saturn
You have a healthy amount of self-control and self-discipline. You also radiate a rather responsible, trustworthy, solid feeling about yourself which will win you the confidence of others, especially your superiors.

Sun Opposite Uranus
If you are following your true nature, your life is apt to be unconventional, unusual, controversial, full of insecurity and excitement. You cannot and will not be forced into some pre-set mold, and you find it difficult to conform. Your offbeat interests and tastes lead you into ventures that others may consider too "far-out" or experimental. You have a very creative, inventive streak.

Moon Square Saturn
You often feel that you must do something or be something other than what you are in order to receive approval and acceptance from others. You are very sensitive to criticism and easily feel left out or neglected, and though you may appear cool or distant, you actually care very much about being included. Because you are so sensitive, it may seem easier for you to withdraw into a shell rather than risk the emotional bumps and bruises that can occur when you let others really know you in an intimate, personal way. Your reserve and caution make establishing a close emotional rapport with others difficult for you, and you become very attached to the few people you consider "real friends". You can gain inner security and strength through periods of solitude if you view them as times to nourish yourself and develop your own interests, rather than as times of loneliness.

Moon Conjunct Pluto

Your emotions are very intense, but often hidden. Like a volcano, one minute you seem quite peaceful and the next you are exploding with great force and unexpected fury. The intensity of your reactions often surprises even you. You have tremendous zeal and tend to be an emotional fanatic about things you care about. Your feelings and desires can be so compelling that you do things against your better judgement and reason. You can also be very manipulative, in a subtle way. Your personal relationships are deeply emotional, passionate, and often stormy and painful as well.

Thank you all for your input. Clearly it seems I was duped and I'm willing to accept that and hope I can learn from it. I really feel like I've been given a second chance at life after a failed 36 years of marriage and I have no intention of wasting any more time on someone not deserving. I don't play games and I take love very seriously. I guess I wanted this so badly I couldn't see the forest for the trees. I am ever so grateful I found this forum because you have helped me see what I couldn't see. I am so disappointed because I really felt a connection I've never felt before but I don't want a roller coaster ride at this stage of my life.

CapAngel, thank you for the natal chart. It all sounds so much like this Cappy....but, I don't want to go there. I feel I have so much too offer and it just shouldn't be so much work and pain.

Thank you all again for your input and responding. It has really helped guide me and point me in the right direction which doesn't appear to be this Cappy.

MsScorpio

WaterBearingTwinGoat,

I sure wish I had a clear cut answer for you because it isn't what I had planned my whole life. I think that over time we all change and that change doesn't always coincide with your partner. Upon retirement (50 years old) we found we were just not in love with one another while we still loved one another. Very big difference. We no longer communicated and had lost respect for one another due to many things. With no communication and no respect you lose trust. Those are 3 ingredients that are essential for any relationship. It didn't just happen overnight, it evolved. We were not meeting each others needs in this case and being a Scorpio it took it's toll on me to the point of risking my mental health. That's when I knew I had to leave. I am happy to say we are still friends. I guess my gut would say we were never really compatiable and tried to make the best of it because neither of us wanted to fail. That's why it's so important for me not to waste time on something that's going no where. I'm optimist that I will meet a wonderful man to compliment my life. I thought I had done that but damn was I mistaken. Not too worry, I'll pick up the pieces and try again.

MsScorpio

MSScorpio,
Capricorn men are really good men. I have been with a capricorn man for 10.5 years. I have been with him from the first day we met. Not one day apart. We'll when his mom was dying he stayed at her house. But I don't think that It matters if you gave sex up the first night. If he wants to pursue you he will. Give him some time. Be cool and be a tad bit fiesty when he steps again. Don't be so easy to give yourself to him. He likes for you to earn and respect his work. And he wants to earn you as a prize. He wants the very best out of you. I don't think being single has anything to do with it either. My capricorn was just getting over a 2 year relationship when I first met him. He was HER lost. Yes it will be hard work to get him to come around. But he will test you seriously. I have also dated another cap in the past. He played BIG games with me. And I let HIM. I slept with him the first night I met him. He used me to the fullest, however, in time he did hang around and started having what he calls "feelings" for me. And even in a relationship with a capricorn male. They are cold hearted people anyway. No harm just his nature. He doesn't intentionally mean to be like that. That's just HIM. Unaffectionate, determined, controlling, power ridden. But in time he WILL give you any and everything you want. Just stay on top of his game. Don't let him think that he has got you completely, even if he knows that he does.

Krobe03,

Capricorns have feelings. We are not cold-hearted, just aloof. Its for self-protection. Deep down inside we are sensitive, but that's a secret (sorry fellow caps for spilling the beans lol) We are typically uneasy with verbally expressing emotions and excessive displays of affection. But everyone is different. I used to be unaffectionate but I am more affectionate and loving now. I am verbally expressive with my Scorpio because he makes me feel comfortable enough and loved enough to express myself. If the man has some water signs in his moon, venus, mars or rising, it will make a difference. His upbringing will make a difference too if his parents were affectionate and validated his feelings.

Krobe03 & CapAngel,

Thanks for your words of encouragement. I know Capricorns have feeling because was father was one, brother and daughter are all cappy's. My father was so tough on the exterior and a puppy on the inside. A wonderful all around man. My brother is very unhappy, moody, unpredictable and has just about every bad trait. My daughter seems to be pretty balanced but I do understand there is a difference in the men and women of the same sign. As CapAngel pointed out your upbringing and environment can and does play such a large role in your life. This was why I wanted to get to know him better. I think our circumstances will prevent that as well. He travels throughout the state 7 days a week and may be in my city once or twice every couple of weeks. Very difficult to have any kind of relationship with that schedule. I believe his permanent residence is about 3 hours away. He has just delved himself into work and leaves little time for play. At this point I'm over the initial hurt and will go about my life as usual. We didn't know each other long enough to carry the torch for very long. You are so right, if he wants me he knows where to find me.

Krobe03 congratulations on your long extended relationship. Sounds like you got a very good Cappy and are doing every right. And of course I know CapAngel got a good Scorpio...I can spot those right away! LOL

bittertaurus,

Are you currently involved with a Cappy? Your moniker suggests that you have had an unhappy relationship. What has been your experience with a Cappy?

I am moving forward and appreciate everyone's comments. They seem to all be the same...go on with your life. That is what I intend to do at this time. I'll take it one step at a time.

MsScorpio

UPDATE....

I just spoke to my girlfriends who went to the club Thursday night. My cappy friend was there and they said he look miserable. He was alone, didn't appear to be drinking and was not buying drinks for the ladies or talking with any. They never saw him dance. Seems he left early.....I'm glad I was unable to go. Perhaps he was wondering where I was and what I was doing. I will be going this Thursday so wish me luck that I can just ignore him and dance and show I'm having a great time.

MsScorpio

"See what makes you happy and go with it you only live once you have to enjoy what you have been given now!! Other wise three years later you will still be coming back to the place checking in on caps (like me) reading your same story from another poor soul who has no clue what she's in for with this ?cap ? man?. I would never say stop loving him if in fact you do!! But just know everything happens for a reason and if was meant to be it will be, but you cant sit around and wait for it or stop being who you want to be for him!!"

So true Greeneyedgemini!!! It's as if you read my mind. I stand exactly in the same place as you right now, and it is no picnic. But at the same time, i feel so gratful to have experienced this love with "my" Cappy .. however brief it was. It has changed me deeply and for the better i think. Now the problem lies in the question - "will we ever find eachother again when the moment is right?" Only time will tell. Until then, i live my to the fullest!

Sherob,

I sure don't want to be hanging around 3 years and still checking this forum talking about the Cappy man that I can't have or longer want. Since I'm new to this forum what has been your experience with a Cappy? I certainly can't say I love this Cappy but he sure put a hex on me of sorts. I don't recall ever having the feelings I experienced with him. I was so comfortable with him and he appeared to be as well. Such contradictory behavior has me very confused. Only time will tell. But, I won't waste much of that before moving on completely. Life is way to short to waste on something that isn't happening. I'm not 25 anymore and don't want to waste another day. Good luck to you. Are you in a realtionship at this time?

MsScorpio

MsScorpio,

I met this Cappy quite unexpectedly and i certainly wasn't looking. It was a connection, unlike anything i have ever had before ... the romantic novel, where our eyes met from across a crowded room ... corny, i know, but that is exactly how it happened. Our geographical positioning, as well as, current life situations, keep us apart. If things were different, we know we would be together. Actually, there is a part of me that believes deep down, we will be together someday.

Sherob,
krobe 03, If you feel it was real, it probably was, just have some patience.

Sherob,

That is exactly how it happened with me. I was happily going along in my life when this Cappy showed and pursued the hell out of me. My gosh it was so intense and like nothing I had ever experienced. But then, after being intimate things seemed to change....funny thing is, my Scorpio instincts don't seem to sense any red flags. This is truly what has me perplexed. My intuition is usually right on and this time it does not sense any danger signs. I truly sense this is a man who is confused and may be afraid of a commitment but it doesn't have anything to do with me. While that disappoints me to a degree I am willing to accept that. I am just not sure I want to spend the next few years on this forum trying to figure out this Cappy. I truly thought and still do that I met my soul mate. Still hoping but will not waste my time waiting......

MsScorpio

MsScorpio,
Hi krobe,
I want to help U understand that you are going to HAVE to be patient. Capricorns are the most sucessful, determined, slow moving people in the world. They just don't move fast. I can tell you what has helped for me. U might be in a position where this may not benefit you, but it helped ME. These men are not affectionate, creatures. NO I don't men that they don't have feelings. I don't mean to say it like that. They just don't require alot of attention that some other males do. When you have time to think about HIM it hurts U. I worked two jobs and went to school full-time. I did homework, went to clinicals, earned my degree. If I needed to take some time off to be with him I did. He didn't mind much about me not being in his life all the time. It just doesn't bother him if you have other things going on. As long as I came home at night. He was perfectly FINE. I mean sometimes we would only sleep together at night for a couple of hours and either I would have to get up and go, or he would. But, he was still a good MAN. I have never had to worry about another woman, EVER. JUST BE PATIENT. He's not a man who is pressed because you are not around him. That doesn't mean that he doesn't like you. He may be a little disappointed that you didn't keep him desired more, instead of giving in to that "connection". But truthfully, I don't think its a big deal.

I'm glad your friends were there at the club to watch him. I am definitely looking forward to seeing what happens on Thursday if he sees you.

Sherob,

Gosh your ?meeting of the cap? mirrors my meeting with mine!! I have only one question when your eyes met from across the room did you feel the world stop for just that moment, and the only ones there were you two? And when the first conversation took place?was it like you had known each other forever? When he looked you in your eyes did you feel that he was the only one that could see into your soul?

This is just too freaking weird that all our stories are the same, yet we all, well most of are sitting here thinking they are the ONE? What I want to know is how patient do you have to be? I have sent him text messages the last three years random ones, Birthday wishes and Holidays to let him know he's on my mind. He will respond at times but most the time not!! Everyone around me tells me he's an @ $ $ and to forget about him? Yet none of them felt the energy that I felt with? he's the only man that when he looked at me or even walked past me I could feel the connection and his energy told me he loved me. We had conversations and when we did he always left me thinking about things ?Good things come to those who wait? And we needed to set our foundation so that we can build a solid relationship?? What man says that? He actually described it using concrete? Saying when you poor concrete you need to be patient and let it dry evenly so that when you build the house it does not sink or form cracks? WTF? Ha ha then two weeks later he was gone!! Told me he didn't love me and didn't feel the same about me that I did about him?! I honestly felt that maybe he was just too young and scared of the feelings that he had for me. But here it is 1.5 years later and he's not back!! How long do you have to patient? Did I and do I have it all wrong? I have been seeing someone else for a year, but its not the same and my cap still consumes me! Don't get me wrong I have a life in fact its GOD, MY CHILDREN, my family, health & my job! But still I feel like something is missing is that something is him! ; )

Greeneyedgemini, the first night i met my cappy, the strangest thing happened. We were walking and talking, about personal things actually which i don't do with just anyone, and before i realized it we were holding hands. Neither one of us really realized it right away. It just felt so natural ... like we had known each other forever. And, yes, when our eyes met, i felt like no one else existed. From that point on, we bonded in a way that i have never felt with anyone. You know, everyone is with the belief that Cappy's are unemotional or they don't show their emotions, but i can't tell you, that that is not the case with mine. Emotionally, physically & intellectually we just click!

I do know that with Male Capricorns, they don't really settle into their feelings until later in life. Until then, they are suspicious and maybe a little insecure.

I don't know how long you/we should wait. Always remember, that sometimes when we meet someone ... anyone ... they enter into our lives to fill a purpose. It would be nice to think that everyone that we felt so strongly about, felt the same about us, but that is not always the case. Maybe us meeting "our" cappy's was to just open our eyes and hearts up to ourselves. I think the important thing is to learn from our experiences with our Cappy's and just move on. Be there for him, if you want to stay in contact with him, but don't put your life on hold for him. He wouldn't respect that.

Ooops! I meant to say "You know, everyone is with the belief that Cappy's are unemotional or they don't show their emotions, but i CAN tell you, that that is not the case with mine".

By the way, Greeneyegemini, i wasn't implying that you were putting your life on hold for your Cappy ... i don't think you are - i talking more in a general sense ... probably more for my benefit, since i am currently trying my best to look forward and not in the past. It's not always easy though, is it?

Oh my gosh, we do sound alike. These guys just mesmerize us. I think I am somewhat patient if I know there is something there to wait for. But without some sort of confirmation I'll move on. Life to way to precious to waste it on something that might never be. Way to much hurt for me to go through. Good luck to you both.

Sherob,
No worries!! I know I'm not putting my life on hold just moving forward and evolving as a Woman and mother... lol taking everything I hear see and learn in! If anything I have learned a lot with his "aloofness" is that spelled right ; ) I am learning how to be patient... with everything. His early disappearing acts taught me that I can be alone! And to enjoy the time he's away, doing the things I like to do! Sometimes we all need a breather.

I'm almost thirty still young but ready to be wise? If that makes any since?lol? I have never been alone EVER and I thinks its time.

Msscorpio,
As far as the confirmation and moving on. I almost feel that when he responds ever soo sporadically that is his way. I mean after all if didn't want me to text?he would not respond with a question. This may be his lil way of saying I care but I'm not there yet? I have no idea and since in my heart I feel like I need to be alone for a while I don't really feel as if I'm waiting I mean maybe I am? But not necessarily him (although he would be nice)
My mother and I had this conversation (she's in her 50's, much wiser then me) said why are you putting your life on hold for him and letting a good man go. I said Mom in my heart I don't feel I'm putting my life on hold I enjoy every moment with my children I love going to Church, I'm excited about going back to school to change my career to do something I want to. I do so many things that I enjoy doing I don't feel he is holding me back? I said why because I still love him? I cant help how my heart feels, and as far as the man I'm seeing right now, well I don't have that same feelings in my heart Its just going to happen its been a year. Why take him down a dead end road with me? But the best part even if it not with my CAP I have experienced a feeling I now know exists and there will be someone else! But in Gods time and until then? I will enjoy Loving my Children ; )

GEG

Hey you guys ... i wish you all the best as well.

As krobe03 said "if you feel it was real, then it probably was, just have some patience"

And while you/we are having patience, live life to the fullest!

GEG,

Sounds like you have a good plan in place. I do agree that you shouldn't take someone down the road if you don't actually have a plan for the future with him. I've always tried to live my life by putting myself in the other person's shoes. I think that has helped get we somewhat balanced. I do know that what you feel in your heart is real and it's very difficult to change. Sometimes circumstances will help you make that change. Keep on doing what you're doing and enjoy your family. Hopefully before too long things will work in your favor. Good luck.

MsScorpio

Ms SCorpio,
Did you go to the club? See him? Anything happen?

CapAngel,

Tonight's the big night. I am really so nervous. Wish me luck to keep my cool. That's the hardest part for me, being the emotional Scorpio that I am. I'll keep you posted. Thanks for thinking of me.

MsScorpio

make sure you look dang hott!! Good Luck and remeber calm, cool, and collected just like him! he he IM excited!!! But dont show him that ; )


geg

GEG,

Thanks for your support. I'm go to wear a very simple black dress that fits oh so nicely. It's not sexy but just fits real well. From what I've read, Cappy's are somewhat conservative outside the bedroom. I want to look very classy and HOT! hee hee. The way I see this playing out.....tonight will tell the whole story. He's either interested or I was a one night stand. Damn, I can't stand that thought. I sure thought we had more than that. At any rate, I'll keep you posted. Thanks again.

MsScorpio

Msscorp~
Please forgive me, but how long was it before you were intimate? I know that I had known mine for three months and when we finally did the next day he called but was short. Then I didn't here from him for a couple days? Weird I know..(I thought dang was I that bad?) But then he came back around.

Classy is Hot!! But please don't go into this thinking you are going to find out the ?story? (?tonight will tell the whole story. He's either interested or I was a one night stand?.) You see from my understanding these men are the most unpredictable men. You, will never be able to read him, they like to be mysterious! Don't read too much into anything. Just play it cool. There this song you need to hear it before you go out!! I will share with you the lyrics?.
Red High Heels
by Kellie Pickler
Chris Lindsey/Aimee Mayo/Kellie Pickler/Karen Rochelle


Baby, I got plans tonight
You don't know nothin' about
I been sittin' 'round way too long
Tryin' to figure you out
But you say that you'll call
And you don't
And I'm spinnin' my wheels
So I'm goin' out tonight
In my red high heels

I'm gonna call up that ol' boyfriend
Who says still has it bad for me
I'm gonna take him into town
Flaunt him around for everyone to see
Well, you say watch yourself, baby
Yeah, you know the deal
Nobody holds a candle to me
In my red high heels

Oh, you can watch me walk if you want to, want to
I bet you want me back now, don't you, don't you
I'm about to show you just how missin' me feels
In my red high heels

All those games you tried to play
Well, they ain't gonna work on me now
I put a barbed wire fence around my heart, baby
Just to keep you out
Boy, you thought I'd wait around forever
But baby, get real
I just kicked ya to the curb
In my red high heels

Oh, you can watch me walk if you want to, want to
I bet you want me back now, don't you, don't you
I'm about to show you just how missin' me feels
In my red high heels

Oh, you can watch me walk if you want to, want to
I bet you want me back now, don't you, don't you
I'm about to show you just how missin' me feels
In my red high heels



You need to confidence in yourself, cause I can guarantee that's what attracted him in the first place ; ) Good luck and play this song while your getting ready!!


GEG

GEG,

Love the song and I'll keep saying it over in my head. I'll do my best to be cool. I know it's important. Thanks for the tips.

Ms. Scorpio

Dear Scorpios,

I'm a cap boy courting a scorpio girl. It has been a long process and I made some mistakes with her in the past.

My current advice: Be really patient, its not that he isn't interested, he just is looking for the perfect moment/time....something. Whatever his is I don't know, but when he want to open up to you its going to be for keeps.

When my cap girl and I were having problems this is what she would say: " hey, I think we understand each other better than we think we do"......
I think that is true to an extent.

I'm currently having the same problem with my sweetie, we haven't "gone all the way" per se, but we have been emotionally intimate. I'm interested in pursuing something more with her, but she told me that she would like to have the *freedom* to sleep with other men. She hasn't slept with anyone as far as I know, but we spend time together frequently....but she always cuts it short. Perhaps she isn't ready as I am? Or is she not sure I won't hurt her?

whoops, I meant my scorpio girl..not cap girl

krobe03,
Capricorn men (well, maybe I better not classify all of them) are not mysterious. They are determined, strong, slow moving males. WE as women may call this games, his intentions are not for it to be a game, THEY just want to make sure they are making the right move before they get into something that they don't want to regret. See MSScorpio-that advice I gave works-lol!

I second that krobe03

I'd prefer not to be rejected, and want to avoid that if I can.