cap hasnt called

whats up with....no call on valentines day...the last time i talk with was last friday...we were laughing and saying how much we love each other. Why hasnt he call?

i dont know...i feel maybe he doesnt want to be bothered

capgal....i cant do it. This guy has always call me several times a day and then all of a sudden no calls. I think he's just pulling one of those cap disappearing acts. I want to call so bad but Im thinking the worst...in any event...i miss him something awful

diary you should know we have that bad stubborn aries trait...

I think many of us spend our life trying to gain some kind of psycological advantage in the relationship which in the end amounts to nothing and which will damage the core of the relationship, somtimes irrevocably!


Wow I never thought about it like that...i really dont want to lose him but I dont want to call him and the worst happens. I am so sensitive and hate rejection. Although it is unusual for him not to call...(sigh!) I like talking with caps because you always say something that hits home.

Well guys I want to let you know I swallowed every inch of my pride and call him last night. No answer....I text him...no response. Which only made me feel worst! Maybe he's found someone else. I am so confused. I really love him. I mean if hes in trouble I want to be there for him. This silence treatment is killing me!

I met him november 06. If he is depressed(i am too) i would love to make him feel better. I want to be there but he wont let me. well I guess you are right...i'll leave him alone for a while..

yes...he has treated me so good....whenever i need him for anything he's there. he introduce me to all his friends and family as his lady. He always speaking of marriage family and travel...all the things that I want.. he tells me he loves me endlessly. He ask me the other day about buying a house together. I wouldnt even be worried about him if he wasnt all I wanted. He works hard everyday. So manly..so loving...so caring. I mean what can I say...hes all of that and then some. But I guess no one can be that perfect.

well i cant say he hasnt did the disappearing act on me before...he has. ..but he call me out the blue saying he has a communication problem. He also said maybe i could help him with his problem...at that time it didnt matter because i didnt feel deeply like i do now.

so lonely cap how are you and your guy doing?...I would love to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel

well guys thanks for the advice...i guess i'll have to wait this one out...i'll keep you posted

water...no one is saying that...i just believe you should keep some line of communication open with the one you love...period. Not by emails and texts....thats not of form of communication to me.

well i sent him a text asking how can you not call someone you love on valentines day...no response...then i sent him a text telling him i hope hes okay...i still love him and if he needs me for anything not to hesitate to call...still no response. I then attempt to call his cell several times..no answer. I am honestly starting to worry about him.

well it matters to me!

and to each its own...if you guys can accept the modern day tech then thats fine...im not knocking it...but it doesnt work for me.....

well...I'll wait

you think im being stubborn? wow i thought i was bending over backwards!

you know what?...i looked up cap and aries relationships...and it wasnt a very good analysis...the aries is too impatient for the the cap

some guys will avoid their girl when they feel they are in trouble. not that this is what he's doing, but it very well could be. it's tough, but understand that these low points are temporary and that you dont know what his situation is at the moment. of course you care and of course you want him to care back and i dont doubt that he does. i dont think you doubt it either. but dont 'attack' him for his love. show your love and affection with patience because you do care. let him know you hope things are ok and that you miss him, can't wait to hear from him and leave it at that. then have patience. patience never scared anybody... it shows lasting feelings and security. let him come around on his own time because then you know it's because he wanted to... his own actions prompted by his own feelings. genuine.

"you know what?...i looked up cap and aries relationships...and it wasnt a very good analysis...the aries is too impatient for the the cap"

must have been busy writing my post while this one went up, and it's kind of funny given how many times the word 'patience' comes up in my post. but ya... people can evolve beyond base instinct and couples can compromise.

well he did call....but i havent call him back..I am so mad at him that I dont think the conversation would be nice...I agree with deardiary...caps and aries dont mix in relationships...but my best friend happens to be a cap so you guys are great people. I was really feeling really bad but now Im not feeling anything at all.

trying to teach him a lesson...cant say im over and done because I know he can say the right words to make me want him even more.

it was not just vday...it was almost 2weeks when he normally calls everyday....come on should I let him get away with it? I dont think so. You cannot switch tactics on me like that.I was really hurt and now I need some time to heal. Maybe Im having a temper tantrum...i dont know.

I agree with Capgirl - we can only give so much in a relationship before hoping to get some feedback in return - gotta remember that most Caps struggle in life already - in life and relationships - that's how hard our ruling planet is on us - always making us feel responsible for something or another - it's nice to be given something every once in awhile too - appreciation - sincerity - we don't ask for it normally but we like to hear from others how they feel without us having to always ask for it - if you make us feel good we'll surely do our best to make you feel just as good if not even better - but nothing should ever be expected from us to do anything - that's the whole rep that us Caps get from most people - we do so much for people and then they expect us to do everything else for them - that's when our courtesy is known to be turned into abuse - I mean if you could visualize a goat in a field just minding their own business and someone comes up and starts kicking it around or something - that's exactly what I mean by people taking advantage of us - and watching it ya can't help but feel bad for this defenseless goat whom would probably otherwise wouldn't hurt a fly cause we're probably one of the least likely to rebel against something (of course we'll always get our revenge one way or another but it'll be when that person least expects it) but they probably just was hoping you would make the first move in this situation instead - I remember when I was w/ my Taurus ex - she was usually the one calling me - and the way she was I felt that I wanted to do things for her cause I cared about her so much - she just had that way about her - not acting like she was expecting me to do something for her but showed so much compassion otherwise in showing how much she cared about me that I wanted to do things for her - it's like a chain reaction with us Caps - if you show the affection every now and then - you'll surely get it back in return sooner or later - also I might add that Caps aren't really phone people - (@ least I'm not - I rarely even use the cell phone I have now) cause like with most earth signs - we keep our social lives far and few - but those we let in are the ones we care about the most - plus it may be too much affection that he may feel and needs to have some time to himself - I dunno how much time you both have been spending but we're not too fond of being smothered in a relationship (this is why Caps are so hard to love I guess 😛)

yes and even your taurus who seem to deal with your bull ended up being your ex. I feel like you are the problem and not the other person.

the thing is I am not the problem...at all. I explain the situation thoroughly and all you can come with is that Im blaming him? Oh please I really dont need your advice at all.

well guys cant seem to shake my cap...as soon as I think its over...he does something to make me think differently. We have the biggest communication problem...but I still want him

OK,
For the record.
I don't think the capricorn guy is really upset you didn't call him. They are not that petty. He can handle bigger challenges. I promise. I have been with a capricorn male for 10.5 years. I really never have gave him anything for valentines day. His heart is not that light. Trust me. He loves me. I love him. He is cold natured. I love him in a cold way. Yeah! he will take you and buy a house. Mines has let me pick out my house, in the suburbs with a pool in the backyard because I wanted it. But you better make sure your credit is as good as his. Because if its not, I hate it for you. They like to let me see how I can say this. Put the best shit out there, I mean the best of everything, and dangle you along as long as they can for you to earn what you are getting from them. You feel me. They feed you good as bait, and tag you along, but you better be on your very best behavior, or you better change your old ways, or they just really want the best out of you. That's all. They pull out your best potential, by putting the best of things in your face, and challenging you to keep up with the Jones. That's it. Period. But in reality, it really makes you be a more stable, faithful, reliable person in the long run. And that's what it will be in the long run. But once they have earned your trust, faith, they will give you from that cold ass heart- Anything you want, anything you need.

aw,

we really aren't that cold. rich, but not cold.