What are we?

I have been seeing this capricorn man for about 4 months now, and he told me the other day we are not in a relationship technically and if we want to have sex with someone else we cant really get mad at each other, but on the other hand he told me he doesnt want to meet anyone and is not dating around, and to have sex with someone else is out of his mind. what game is he playing? i just dont understand....at same time he is very commited calling me everyday, chatting, making plans for us, talking about our future, etc.

I guess i have to give him more time, i read on this forum that capricorn men like to take things slowly...

I've been seeing a Capricorn for two years I really love him but I dont think he feels the same so if he doesnt make a move I will have to move on and I dont want to be good friends I wouldnt mind speaking hi and bye. I'm an Aquarius.

JenLove: Yes, for sure i thought he is not ready and doesnt want to have a relationship right now, because he is travelling, and we are meeting up again in 3 weeks. So i think if he want to fully commit to me then he want to be present.


Metoo: U are so right!! he was testing the waters and more or less make a statement or covering himself in case i found out he slept with someone (even when he told me it was not on his mind).

Last week i told to him i was not going to keep making future plans with him if he was dating around or interested in meeting other women... thats when he told me "im not interested in meeting anyone, either dating around".

It was my fault because at that time i was not clear enough with him and didnt tell him straight away that i was not going to keep up with this "unknown status". He at the same time doesnt want me to sleep with anyone or date, so he is sure i will be up and ready by the time he come back.

Is an awkard situation, but i always thought about being extra patient cause he is capricorn, and so do i!. and also i heard they are very loyal...

I am trying to avoid the "what are we" conversation but i cant keep feeling like this and wonder everyday what we are, plus im wasting time when i could be meeting someone else if thats the case.

he loves to manipulate me, cause he told me if he notice i was dating around he would think im doing it to make him jealous and it would turn out in something really unatractive.

after posting and listening to everyone and myself last night I told him how I felt, and he said that we shouldn't be so involved anymore we should just be mutual friends. But we was always friends I never asked for a relationship, but anyways now I know it would never go any further and he didnt care for me in that way. It's hurts but hey I didnt know I was going to fall in love. LESSON LEARNED

lovingme, when you share yourself with someone, emotionally and physically, there is a HUGE chance you will fall in love... keep that in mind next time around

aquapiscescusp, Yea now I know but I dont know about a next time I think I've giving all I can give this time what's left? And no I dont want to seem mad but I dont want to be friends with him at all no kinda of way, I feel embarrassed.

carla88, tell him what you want now and if he's not with it get out of there.

Posted by lovingme
aquapiscescusp, Yea now I know but I dont know about a next time I think I've giving all I can give this time what's left? And no I dont want to seem mad but I dont want to be friends with him at all no kinda of way, I feel embarrassed.

I understand, make a clean break... it will be hard at first but it will get better 🙂

Back to the original question - If he can stomach you having sex with someone else, he's not into you.

That said, I agree with MeToo. I think he's just feeling out where you are with this relationship and what your views are on it. Us caps normally aren't going to go out on a limb to get closer or take a risk of rejection, so he was curious to what you wanted and how serious you are with him.


*sigh*
(someone keeps derailing threads to themselves)

*walks off and whistles in the distance*

Posted by Metoo
LOL truecap fyi I love everything you have to say and ironically I just noticed much of our advice directly parallels eachothers point of view. If we lived in the same town we would probably be such great friends! xo 🙂

No doubt!!! We are very similar in thoughts aren't we?

Posted by noname
"he told me the other day we are not in a relationship technically and if we want to have sex with someone else we cant really get mad at each other"

"Really? (smiles) I feel so much better now thank you" should be your response

Usually that line is a death sentence for a relationship.
-just sayin'

He told me that phrase the other day, when i got jealous of him meeting a girl (he is travelling, hence is meeeting guys and girls all the time), but i got extra jelous that specific time and then he told me he was not dating around, and that he has feelings for me but TECHNICALLY we are not in a relationship we could have sex with other people BUT thats not on his mind...

I think he was just covering his ass to not feel bad with himself in case he has a one night stand.

Posted by Caplove

Posted by Carla86
He told me that phrase the other day, when i got jealous of him meeting a girl (he is travelling, hence is meeeting guys and girls all the time), but i got extra jelous that specific time and then he told me he was not dating around, and that he has feelings for me but TECHNICALLY we are not in a relationship we could have sex with other people BUT thats not on his mind...

I think he was just covering his ass to not feel bad with himself in case he has a one night stand.

Well, at least you know where you stand now and how he feels about you. Instead of making you feel at ease he decided to lay it down right there.

This guy is riding the fence like he's some kind of white knight. I'd just kick him off it and make a decision for him. I just think it's incredibly rude and wouldn't stand for it.

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Yep, i think he is not worry at all about me meeting other guy, mostly cause he thinks he got already got me. when i told to him that then eventually i would meet more people (aka guys) he told me that it would look like a desperate atempt of me to get his attention and get him jealous, and it was diferent for him meeting people (aka girls) cause he was travelling, and everything would be in a travelling context while if i meet a guy it would be 100 per cent a date.

as i said, he loves to manipulate me! i should kick his ass asap and find a guy who wants to commit.

i have the feeling he want to keep me cause didnt find anything better, but he is enjoying that feeling of freedom too before eventually some day settle down, maybe with me. i feel used.

Those two have some awesome advice!

Posted by starlover
I agree with the lady ^^^^^

If he felt desire and attraction to you, he wouldnt want you with another man ~ unless he is an Aqua 😄

I don't think even Aquas would be willing to stomach that.