what is love?

Hi everyone,

I just joined recently because i've been stuck in an emotional rut regarding my relationship with my ex-cappy. I think i really need some outside opinions and for people to tell me straight up what they think-i can't seem to look at it from an outside point of view and i think that's why i'm stuck with all these mixed feelings..

First off, i'm a pisces and he's a capricorn. we dated for a year and broke up about..5 months ago. He broke up with me saying he couldn't be who I needed and that was he too busy right now for a relationship. I was heartbroken of course..also thought it was such bullcrap. I think i would know myself what i needed/wanted more than he would! but i was so drained at that time that i let it go and didn't contact him for about 3 weeks. It got very hard not talking to him and finally i sent him an email-extending a hand in friendship sort of thing.

oh boy. ok i'm so sorry to anyone reading this-i just don't know where to start/end/continue my story i'm starting to confuse myself...

basically we have been in periods of talking and no talking during those 5 months and finally recently we have talked about being friends, because as he says he doesn't want me to hate him and he values our friendship. he is also seeing another girl-which hurt a lot to find out- and right now i am just trying to show him that i am willing to be friends w him but i do not know what to say.

i'm just very confused by my feelings..i know a part of me does want him back because for me, he felt like the one that i could spend the rest of my life with-so this friendship thing might be hard. but at the same time-not talking to him feels even worse. i also have feelings of hate for him-that he has done this to me, not on purpose i know, but that he has caused me so much pain-and is that normal? can i love someone but at the same time want to kick them?? i guess i'm also just wondering..is this love. what is love? big question i know. but i feel a strange, bond with him, that even though we're broken up i still feel like we will end up getting together down the line..a year..2 years..i don't know but i sense it, like maybe it's not the right time for us and that's all.i don't know if i'm just a crazy pisces or if that intuition is right. either way i can't seen to reach a decision on what steps to take..i want to move on, find someone new (which has been really fucking hard it's ridiculously depressing) to take my mind and time off this,

focus on myself, and maintain a friendship with him-but my mind and heart aren't in sync.

i guess i'm doubting my feelings right now. how can love be this hard? i know i love him. but then these..troubles and heartaches make no sense. it shouldn't be this hard. am i being idealistic?

oh my gooooood my brains gonna explode i sound like a dang idiot.

focus on myself, and maintain a friendship with him-but my mind and heart aren't in sync.

i guess i'm doubting my feelings right now. how can love be this hard? i know i love him. but then these..troubles and heartaches make no sense. it shouldn't be this hard. am i being idealistic?

oh my gooooood my brains gonna explode i sound like a dang idiot.

wow it sounds like I could have written this.... 😢 i am a pisces, in love with a capricorn who is doing nothing but confusing me.

Hang in there, I know its hard.. right now I'm trying to figure out how to be friends with him. Because I just couldn't see mine out of my life either.

but i feel a strange, bond with him, that even though we're broken up i still feel like we will end up getting together down the line..a year..2 years..i don't know but i sense it, like maybe it's not the right time for us and that's all.i don't know if i'm just a crazy pisces or if that intuition is right.

and I feel this too... completely. :/

maybe we are just crazy pisces?!? haha... just kidding. 😛

@kstarks

i'm not sure what my other signs are..how do i find out? and why do you suspect me to be a venus in aqua?

@dreamingpisces

really?! it's a feeling i can't explain and for that reason-i feel like i'm crazy! there's no way to explain it..it just feels like, ok we're done now. but at some point in life-we're going to end up together again and hopefully that'll be our forever time..but obvs i don't know this for a FACT so it's like-why is my stupid heart deep down waiting around for this guy. what was the situation with your cappy if i may ask?

baby don't hurt me! don't hurt me, no more!

heh. had to do it.

I know a Cap with Aqua venus. No thanks! Been down that road and it got real stupid real quick! Anyway, why do you wanna be his friend right now? Maybe he'll deserve your friendship later on but he pretty much dumped you for some other chick. He wanted to play. Obviously! it's only been 5 months and he's with someone else after telling you he "didn't have time for a relationship". What a crock! He sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. So, he likes this new flavor right now but he keeps you around in case that flavor goes sour.

I don't know what you should do but, if it were me, I would be kinda pissed at his antics. I can see right through that bullshit. I know that I deserve to be treated better than that by a friend. You should feel that you deserve better too.

i knew this is exactly what i needed. and to find out about his venus in aqua. everything makes a lot of SENSE. he extended his hand in friendship, in words at least. and i reciprocated. he hasn't really said anything back but i'm trying not to care. he wants this friendship-he can show it with actions and make the moves..i'm trying to put him in the friend zone mentally from now on or better yet i can hopefully remove him from my thoughts COMPLETELY. i have to admit tho that a part of me stillllll wants him..but i do deserve better. if we were ever to be back together i hope i remember and unless he's changed to be right for me i won't take him out of the friend zone...

so ANNOYING. i thought caps were steady and committed but i never even thought about his other signs-it seems so contradictory to be a cap and have a venus in aqua!! arghhhhhhhh

thank you everyone this has really helped =)

btw this is his chart..anything else that i should know?

Sun Capricorn 4.50
Moon Aries 17.43
Mercury Sagittarius 20.43
Venus Aquarius 5.30
Mars Virgo 13.03
Jupiter Virgo 10.15 R
Saturn Virgo 26.55
Uranus Scorpio 23.49
Neptune Sagittarius 20.46
Pluto Libra 21.33
Lilith Virgo 18.58
Asc node Virgo 0.46

Posted by dblfisch
@dreamingpisces

really?! it's a feeling i can't explain and for that reason-i feel like i'm crazy! there's no way to explain it..it just feels like, ok we're done now. but at some point in life-we're going to end up together again and hopefully that'll be our forever time..but obvs i don't know this for a FACT so it's like-why is my stupid heart deep down waiting around for this guy. what was the situation with your cappy if i may ask?

the situation with my cappy is basically this... I've known him for 3 years, and when I first met him it was through work and when I first saw him it seriously was love at first sight/lust at first sight whatever you want to call it but I felt this very very strong connection to him... At the moment he was taken (by another coworker) so I kind of kept my distance.
Then I ended up dating his cousin.
and that ended very badly... but he was always there for me, and knew what kind of person his cousin was and encouraged me to break up with him.
But by the time I was broken up with his cousin he already had another gf
So its really been crazy between us... whenever one of us is available the other isn't. Times never on our side.
he is having sex with me and its nothing official.
But i'm sick of this, and I don't think that he will ever see me as girlfriend material anytime soon so i'm letting him go. :/ maybe we'll work in the future... or maybe we won't but definitely not right now. He talks to me about other girls and I just can't handle it.

LOL! thats hillarious... and totally random, thanks for making me laugh 🙂