Whats life like with a cappy

We've all heard how to approach them, what they are like blah blah..whats it actually like being in a relationship with a cap? Apart from the fact they will be always be there for u..how are they emotionally?..do they joke around or are they serious, doom and gloom?

capman,

U r for sure about that one. My (ex) cappy could see right thru me. He knew when I was lying to him when I did. So therefore, I really couldn't ever lie to him. It was crazy!

I am in a very good relationship with a cap, my advice: being open and loving, loyal, caring, fun, outgoing, don't play games, don't push them, wait long enough and they will come to you. Sometimes they act like grouchies but its a defense mechanism, they really do like you...

WTML,

Just lookin at what u posted and it got me thinking. How does a person really know if the cap does like them? Because he could be totally into the person or not into the person at all and still treat em kind of the same way just because of the way they are. So how would u really know?

Just pondering.

lol, well i tell you, my best friend is a cap. hahaahahah if he was a girl i will marry her, but hes not... anyways...you never know if they are interested in you, even though you are interested in and maybe they are interested in you, because they hide it like no one can hide things... the best way to find out is find out who his best friend is... and ask his bestest friend... he only trust few, like mom dad few, hard to make them trust ppl and tell them how he feels, but they tell their bestest friend all their sercets... and therefore you will know if he likes you or not... but then again... even if they like you, they wont do anything about it, b/c they are successful at everything... but one thing they do lack is relationship.. i mean i been best friend to him for like 10years, we just start to open up to each other for like the past year or so... so if you got 10 years to burn, then go for it. but normally cap-man like to go for stuff they cant have... for that being say. they are very confusing ppl, b/c they dont reject anyone... i guess if your good looking and funny and willing to push in, they will accept you too.

What worries me the most, is we are always referring to them as My ex cappy..ex being the operative word..maybe I am digging too deep but would anyone care to share the reason for split..is it lack of emotion, lack of opening up. Why are they so het up about not trusting..you have to place your trust in the person u love. What are they so afraid of letting go? Their self esteem, control, looking less of a man?..People who are like this are usually insecure..what are the reasons? there are always reasons behind someones actions..My cappy (well not yet) has open contempt for family members, he said to me that he feels comfortable talking to me and he tells me things he doesn't tell others..is that just a plot for me to open up?..I am generally quite open to him but I also suffer the same problem of being quite secretive..only because he is not mine yet..but not about emotions..I am openly compassionate..if he can see right through me (which I doubt very much) he must know that I do like him..we are both very good at mind games..Its not just scorpio that can manipulate, I think these guys do it too..but they do it in a very subtle sweet manner which I can pick up on..They have major control issues..they do like to control..some of his friends (female) are of a naive, sweet nature, and are very easy for him to control..I on the other hand am not an easy case..They have this ability to make you feel guilty about what you said so you go running back to them to apologise and therefore he wins again..and for me that is known as control.

Please enlighten me further. I certainly don't have 10 years to burn, he knows that I intend to get married next year or within a few years and he knows that I really want children..I am 28, and he is 31..He has also asked me questions on how I perceive a marriage..he also asked me once what my reaction would be if we were going out on a night out and he didn't like what i was wearing..so I replied, well it depends on how you say it..if you say "take that off, i don't like it" i won't do it because its all about how you say things..and if he said it like that, it would imply that he is controlling..but i also said to him which is the gods honest truth, that marriage is about compromise..whatever makes both of you happy is what should happen..I know he liked my answer..the reason for the split from his last girlfriend of 3 years was the fact that she turned around and said, I wear what i bloody well like to wear, you can't tell me what to do..

And another thing..(sorry for the rant) why do you guys love putting people down..does it make you feel better? my one, during a heated debate on tuesday (last time i spoke to him out of choice cos he really p*ssed me off) said "well no offence, but your not exactly well read or worldly"...I am so sorry but that is something you don't say to a scorpio and get away with..I don't care what my feelings towards him are, that hurt like a punch and it will take me a while to get over..he has to apologise..he tried to correct a bit later on saying "neither am I"..but too late..damage already done..I see myself is a well-rounded person..a little knowledge about everything but my intuition is the prized asset..nobody gets one over on me because i see things coming..correct me if I am wrong but that is a nasty thing to say to someone..maybe he felt threatened and thats why he said it..

Thanks Bittertaurus..They are similar to Scorpios but Scorpios are quite fun to be around..we are balls of energy where with cappies, it feels like doldrum..they are funny, give them that..they wear a million masks..each day you see a new cappie emerge..

An insight from the cappy men would be good..

Yes it would missmorals. They are really funny. They are funny in a cute sort of way. Everytime my cap would be funny it'd just make me want to hug him or something. I dated a scorpio for almost 4 yrs. I didn't have any problems w/him. He was a blast, but then started gettting too over controlling of me and I just had to let him go. I needed the space.

Mycap, I had a beautiful relationship with a scorpio male for 2 years..circumstances didn't allow us to be together but we loved each other immensely..Cappy on the other hand is intriguing but I hate the way he's cautious about everything..the amount of times I have to tell him to just relax and take a risk once in a while..he does say to me "your an arsy bitch but generally an alright chick"..He is funny I have to admit but most of the times I don't laugh at his jokes which really irritates him..he says "gosh i am too funny" and I am like "if you say so hun"..lol..Like the other day, he gave me a nickname and started a conversation on msn with that nickname..i just replied LMAO cos i thought it was quite funny..and he goes "why LMAO"..So i replied "because it was funny, but forgive me for laughing" but now for the past week or so I have noticed that he uses that nickname..lol..bless him!..we aren't talking at the moment..his fault..he can apologise..I am ignoring him at the moment..its funny..we both log onto msn but don't talk to each other..lol..

why are u guys ignoring each other?

My cappy would say that he is too funny also.

Mycap..during a heated debate about common theories, he said "no offence, but your hardly well read or worldly"..so I replied "how dare you say that" and later on in the conversation which was practically non-existent from my side he said "neither am I"..blah blah..he had no right to say that..I am an all-round person and have knowledge about most things..my intuition being a prized asset..also I think imagination is important..not just knowledge..whatever the case maybe, that comment of his hurt like hell and because of that I decided to cut him off until he apologises..last time we spoke was Tuesday..today is saturday, longest we've ever gone without talking in the last 4 and half months.he still hasn't apologised..most of the times we get over saying stupid things to each other but not this time..i think it was outrageous of him to say that.

sometimes we caps can have foot in mouth syndrome and i would think its really rare that a cap not apologize for something like your situation, missmorals. what an ape. but rather than giving the silent treatment, id just say "hey... you're an ape for what you said. it hurt." i dunno, maybe thats not your m.o. (i know a few scorpios, i know how your pride works 😉, but i think not speaking gets people nowhere fast, even if he was the offender and you the offendee. take pride in being the bigger person with the morals 🙂

im a cap female and wish i could give some insight on what goes on in a capguy's head. I know a few and I know that they too have immense pride and are very sensitive. Seems to me like they are very good at not showing their real feelings for someone say in a post break up situation. I dont want to give any false hopes or anything, cuz what do I really know, but yeah... from what i've known and heard, i think generally life is a b*tch if your trying to figure out a capman you just broke up with.

cookiemonster? laugh! dxp editing is huh-larious

Thanks Creepypants..that was valuable insight..I did take pride in being the bigger person and contacted him, told him exactly why i hadn't spoken to him and if i had left it to him then I probably would've never spoken to him and I don't like to leave friends on a bad note..he was p*ssed at me for another reason cos i swore at him continuously..and I was annoyed for another reason..we have sorted it out but i have also learnt a lot in that week of non-communication. He teaches me the logical side of things whereas I teach him the emotional..we are talking again but my feelings for him have evaporated..no longer attached to him..not until I think he's worthy of a relationship of that sort..which I am glad about..As everyone says, live your life as if you've never met him which I did anyway but even moreso now...I am glad we opened communication again.

to get along with a cap just keep the whisky flowing and the mouth shut.

Finally, some sound advice from James Tate! My Cap.'s drink of choice is Seagram's and he prefers women who aren't always yacking! (I can't stand women like that either, so we get along well on that issue.)

Seagram must be a dam canadian. Give me a good Islay scotch.

He doesn't drink unfortunately!...Wish he did..maybe I can spike his drink..lol