VDay roll call

Hey... let's all log in AFTER tomorrow w/ what transpires with your Cap. on VDay!

Not a competition, by any means, just to give us all a comparison of our respective BEASTS! LOL ; )

Got an excellent prezzy over the weekend from the cappy! Very thoughtful and fits perfectly into what I am doing....so I guess he DID know when Vday was!! LOL. I got him something but might need to upgrade? any thoughts? If a man buys you an expensive present should you spent the same amount OR it a thoughtful cheaper present just as good? I think so, plus I will make him a nice dinner and.....lingere?

Oh, yes, great idea... I just read an article on that (VDay gifts for guys) and that was one recommended- dinner/lingerie.
And just not to ask him to help clean up / do dishes, bc. that'd ruin it.


(I started this thread for you all, bc. I can accurately predict I will have nada to report for me, which is fine and expected bc. there's
no relationship there as far as I'm concerned.)

I'll let you all know what happens. But I doubt that anything will.

I KNOW nothing will happen for me... 😉 but its o.k. I will keep you posted on my day though!!

hey you girls can be my VALENTINES

love, GEG

It's just A DAY so no sweating, ladies. It's the longterm/ ending that matters...

I almost feel guilty...Mr cappy is also going to take my car to get the oil changed...must be love ladies, must be love! sign....I hope that your cappies get their Siht together and finally realize what lovely ladies you all are!!!!!! I will spend the evening sending positive thoughts to all of them!!!!

Please do so, WTML, bc. his azz is falling into the recesses of my mind, since joining up for fun on match.com!! I have a new project revolving around this Cappie! [me] hehe

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!

same to you all...no plans for me tonight, just saying "Happy Tuesday" i will talk to my kids, who I LOVE and LOVE me, and someone in work just heard on the radio that today is the busiest day for florists(to be expected) AND this is funny, private investigators!! so...that just goes to show, we're not alone in all this "looking for love in all the wrong places" stuff, that really made me laugh. I may get together with a couple friends tonight OR if too tired after work, might just crash in bed, put on some kind've absolutely positively NON-romantic movie and read a book. It really is just another day, if you love someone you don't need a special day to show it.
I hope everyone has a really great Tuesday...Mcshaker, hang in there, my thoughts are with you

Hi girls,
I'm sitting here today feeling all sorry for myself because my relationship ended a little over a week ago and I really thought I was going to have a Valentine for the first time in 8 years. I also heard something on the radio this morning and I'm not sure it's a good thing or if it's just plain disturbing. They said that 50% of men between the ages of 40 and 65 are either divorced or never married. In some ways that's depressing but in other ways that gives me hope that I will actually meet someone again :-)

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY 😉

gslove,

I'm sorry to hear about your Valentine. I guess there was no way it could have been avoided? Sometimes breakups around holidays are common. I've heard guys say that they break up so that don't have buy presents, or they break up after so they can get presents. But who needs those guys, and I'm not saying that is the case with you.

As far as your comment about men, I didn't hear that broadcast, but I was telling my friends that recently. I'm finding that to be true. If you are looking for a man over forty and single, your chances are good of finding him and vice versa.

well my day did not started well and the way im seeing it will not end well , i wonder is bad when your single but is even worst when your involved and the day does not go the way you expect it to be.
Damn capricorns!!!! (when they are good is great when they are not is the worst)

I know what you mean Virgo1881 and yes you are right. It's worse when you are with someone and nothing is done. I was with a man for 5 years and every birthday and every Christmas and every Valentine's day was a complete dissapointment with him. I knew it wasn't right but my friends would tell me that's the way men are to make me feel better and I put up with it for years. My last guy used to shower me with gifts which made me feel so good, but we just broke up because he can't get past his last bad relationship and is too fearful to move on. It's always something. I know if we were still together today that he would have done something very special which really makes me very sad.

Pathfinder,
Where are all of these single men—?

the thing i hate the most is when you have your hopes up , you think is going to be great and nope you get dissapointed like I am right now... but I do have to say if I dont hear from my cappy today is over I am done with the mix messages and games...

the thing i hate the most is when you have your hopes up , you think is going to be great and nope you get dissapointed like I am right now... but I do have to say if I dont hear from my cappy today is over I am done with the mix messages and games...

Good for you Virgo1881. I got rid of my selfish man and I've never regreted it. I REALLY thought I was in love with him and would never get over it. I'm sooooo over it.

I hate the damn games, i like you but let me not call you for a week, be my valentine but i havent heard from him in 3 days and today not even a text to even confirm if we are still doing something tonight, im sure he is going to stand me up , and Im not even going to call him Im not lowering myself if he doesnt want to call me fine he would not hear from me...
I am so mad great valentines day

I get involved in a lot of singles events in my city. And most of those events have a website for people who really want to meet people, but don't want to appear like they do -- if THAT makes any sense. Also, you can always try the online route. I haven't tried online dating. I guess I'm more comfortable with meeting men in person.

Ok, in the beginning there were more younger men (20s early 30s) than women coming out to these events, so I would meet them and they are alot of fun and can be more mature than the older guys (if THAT makes sense). But they want kids, and I'm done with that. Anyway, after the website was put up, the 40-somethings came out in full force!! So, to answer your question, that's where I've found that statement from your radio broadcast to be hold some truth.

Virgo1881,

Please don't let your emotions carry you away. Why are you so sure he will stand you up? I'm sorry you didn't like my suggestion to call him and gently remind him of how you are looking forward to your evening with him. I did that with my cappy once when we made a date and I didn't hear from him until I called him the "day of". He had not forgotten, he was hoping I hadn't since he hadn't heard from ME either, and we went out.

Well girls, I've decided I'm not going to sit around and feel sorry for myself today. I am going to put on a happy face and do something really bold. I'm going to go out to a restaurant/bar that I have went to with my girlfriends before and almost always met someone. I'm going all alone and I'm going to sit at the bar and have dinner and a glass of wine. At least you know that any man sitting there will also be single and hoping to meet someone. I will just use the excuse that my office is across the street and I was hungry if anyone asks me why I'm alone. Some people might think that is a pathetic thing for me to do on Valetine's day to go out by myself, but I know if I have the right attitude and confidence I will have an excellent time and maybe even meet someone new. Men always go out by themselves. Why shouldn't we?

I agree with Pathfinder Virgo. Thinking the worst has a way of manifesting it into being real. He feels the pressure and tension from you know matter how hard you try to hide it and maybe he feels like no matter what he does it won't be enough so why bother. Don't forget that Valentine's day is the most stressful day of the year for a lot of men and we don't make it any easier. I have the feeling that there are a whole lot of other issues besides he isn't doing anything for Valentine's day which is why I suggested that you might want to end it. I don't think you're instincts are wrong. Just maybe pointed in the wrong direction.

Pathfinder,
I understand your idea and I would of done it if I had not text him yesterday to say hello and he did not answer me, I dont know if i should do it still (call him or text him even though he did not reply yesterday—

Virgo, I vote that you don't call him. I think you are doing the right thing. Just try to think positive thoughts.

its funny though cause he has no clue of when i get mad , when he does upset me and he calls back i dont show it, and i talk to him as rational as i can, I am good at not letting people see when im mad the thing is he always thinks is nothing wrong oh i was busy at work, like i should always undertand I would if he just communicate

Virgo, I used to be the same way, mostly because I never wanted a guy to think that he has affected me in any way. My pride was always in the way until I realized I wasn't that even though I still had my pride I wasn't getting what I wanted. I have found that it's not healthy to do that. You will just end up blowing up at him and that can never be good. I think you just need to tell him in a very calm way that you are very dissapointed that neither one of you has made any effort for Valentine's day and maybe we should talk about why that is or something like that. If you approach it like it's a problem that both of you have and you are not accusing or blaming him then maybe he will open up and tell you what is going on. Be prepared that you might not like what you hear though. For your own sanity though it's better to know than to just pretend like nothing is wrong.

LADIES!! Please don't get bent out of shape about Valentine's Day. If it helps, I have been without a Valentine for 8 years. I'm a very attracted woman and most people are truly shocked when I tell them I'm single. I laugh. I've just picked the wrong people. (LOL!!).

I have been dating Cap men for 5 of those years, so what does that tell you. The Cap I dated for 5 years has never bought me anything on that day. Honestly, I just got my first Christmas gift from him. Oh and I got a birthday gift the first year I was with him. Other than that I got an occasional dinner or he would pay for a 5K race but other than that I got nothing. Cap men can be so freakin stingy, ESPECIALLY if they have been scorned. Mines was divorced (15 years) and he still hasn't recovered. I watched this man lose everything and I was there by his side and once he got back on his feet POOF! he was gone, dating other women and doing his dirt. I finally walked away, but the man his blowing up my phone allthe time and I don't respond.

I just beleive with Cap men, they have to trust you. Because they do have very big hearts, it's just that they do for the wrong people and get burned in the process. So if you don't hear from him, don't get mad just flip the script and disappear for a few days. I GUARANTEE it will drive him nuts!

I'm now dating a new Cap, more emotional that the last Cap. He was Mr. Giving when we first met, then I started to play games and then the realtionship got all mess-up and went down hill from there. This was almost a year ago. Now he's back and showering me with love and affection. I love it. I am able to deal with him because My love for God is stronger than my feelings for him. I'm learning to love people how they want to e loved, not how I want to love them. There is a difference.

Last week I got a dozen roses from my Cap out of the blue. Last night I got a card. The card was enough for me becasue they already have issues with expressing themselves. So the card said enough for me. And ladies that is a HUGE improvement from a year ago. Typically, Taurus' don't need material gifts to be happy. We just want to know that you love us and that you are in our corner. I'm learning to be very independent of my Cap.

To give you an example of flipping the script. last Thurs, My cap texted me to ask me if I had band rehearsal. I said no. Now what he didn't ask me was if I had PLANS. So later that night I wished him a good night and that I was going out for the evening. He texted me back and had a major "TUDE". Saying he was coming over. I said No. You didn't ask me if I had plans, You ASSUMED (TYPICAL with a Cap) that I was going to be at home.

Do you know this man did not talk to me for 5 days after this?? Spoiled BRAT! So yesterday I called him and acted as if I didn't care. I charmed his pants off and he was at my house last night. BEGGING to see me. He even admitted he was UPSET about not being able to see me. BRATS!!! And had the audacity to admit he was spoiled!!

All I am saying is to try to live in the moment. You all can tell me till the sky turns purple, that you are going to leave them alone, YEAH RIGHT! But WE ALL KNOW that they know how to put on the charm. Be honest with yourself (LOL!!) I'm guilty as charged!

I think a lot of these Caps are frustrated at the moment. Money issues for a lot of them. But give them a chance and dont' shut them out. You just know where you stand in the situation. You have a right to be pissed. I don't know if I'm going to even hear from my Cap today. At this point I have no expectations. I'm taking what I can get.

I texted all my friends and wished themm happy V-day! I got some very nice responses and surprises. So why not call those who are worse off than you are and wish them love and happiness. Remember there is always someone out there worse off than you. I have married friends that are miserable!

I hope t

Taurus36,

Truly, I'm not stressing today and this may sound corny, but I'm concentrating more today on sharing love than receiving it. However, I believe that when you give, it's given to you, so therefore it's a win-win situation.

You go girl!!

virgo1881, i say don't call, i'm the women on here who has given up the starry eyed fantasies, esp about these guys. I don't know i just keep thinking would i do that to someone? even just a friend of mine? if we had made plans to go to dinner or something , valentines or not, and then just not call like i never even said anything? hell no...sometimes i make tentative plans with someone that i can't keep, BUT I ALWAYS CALL out of common courtesy to explain why i can't do it. so why do we give these guys so much leeway and undue permission to act like boorish asses and it's ok———?? cause they're capricorns, and they're just like that? would you treat someone that way? as i said i'm getting very cynical but it just is starting to seem more and more absurd that we let/allow/ encourage them to act this way. I've said it before...why should they change—?? when women keep allowing them to walk all over them, and they get ALL the benefits, why should they change— no reason to, they don't need to

I soooo agree with you , I am done a bit sad but done , so I dont think about it im going shopping lol thats a good past time. and yea Im not calling him I mean that shows how little he cares and respects I dont need that

Hey Virgo,

What are you going to do if he calls you at the last minute and says Are you ready to go?? Do you go or don't you? I have had that happen before. One time a guy called me and asked me out for a date the week before but then did not call me until 5:30 on the night we were supposed to go out. When I told him that I wasn't ready for a date because he hadn't called to confirm he acted very hurt and said "When I make a date I make a date and I don't cancel" He said he couldn't believe that I wasn't ready and thought that I was trying to cancel the date so I went like a dumba**. We then made another date for the next week and this time I got ready and expected him to call and the jerk never called. Damn, why can't I just be a lesbian :-)

well i was right he did stood me up but he cancel he called and told me he couldnt make it he has a test on thrusday and he needs to prepare for that, he said he was sorry he didnt called me he was BUSY, i think he noticed i was mad. I told him i talk to him some other time and hung up...

I'm sorry Virgo, If I were you I would go over to his house and see who he is taking out for Valentine's day, because his actions are sounding very suspicious.

oh don't bother going to his house...why put yourself through that humiliation...flip the script say goodbye...he's not worth it

My (ex) Cappy got me something for V-Day and I guessed everything in the book and he won't tell me and I have to wait until the weekend after this coming up one to get it. But what are good V-Day gifts for men? Any suggestions?

Well... you did say you were surprised he suggested a VDay date, Virgo1881, right? But that is weird- a test on Thurs. and it's Tues. night. If you aren't too far into this guy, I'd consider punting him, or launching, as they say. I'm starting to come around to APW's line of thinking these days... OMG??!! LOL

Ladies, I've been on match.com for 2 days now, signed up for the first time, and it's a major ego-booster, time filler. I have no time to worry or think about the #1 AHole, bc. I'm busy checking out these various guys sending me "winks" and emails. It's too fun! I said I'd never do the online dating, but I'm getting a real kick out of it so far-- A guy w/ degrees from Stanford and Yale is interested... and when that's out there as a possibility, makes me wonder why I'd waste more time on a game-playing little boy like the Cap.!

Anyway- for those of you at the end of your rope, who've felt powerless and obsessive for way too long now, it's an option to consider.

Girls, I guess we just need to turn into a bitches to get the attention of a man. My guy that just broke up with me broke up because he can't get over a his ex girlfriend who made him give up all of his friends, wouldn't let him travel on business, got mad at him for not buying her brat son a car and stole everything he owned when she left including his car, passport, and and his financial papers. He can't get over her. He even said that he compares me to her. He told me when we first started dating that he loves that I'm so sane and so normal and I told him to be careful that he might get bored by normal after having so much drama in his life. He said no way. It's such a curse to always be right.

As for Match.com. I'm on there. Have been for years off and on and have never met anyone that I had chemistry with. I have been out with lots of one dates from that site. I do know people that have met somebody that way though so I don't give up, but I am starting to get a little jaded with the whole dating scene on the whole. Hahaha!! Does anybody want to join my Valentine's Pity Party—??

Hahaha!! How corny they turned the b word into cookiemonsters.

hey girls!! I LOVE YOU AND IM PRAYING FOR YOU ALL!!!

just another HAPPY VALENTINES WISH~~

GSLOVE~ dont have a pitty party homey we are way to good for that!!

wanna hear a funny story? I got off work early today so i could go helpin my lil girls class room valentines/b-day party ( her b-day was yesterday and there was no school) anyhoo the party ened early so I though instead of going back to work Ill run arouns and get soemthing done...as i was driving I saw all these men with these huge bouqet of balloons (I love balloons)these men had the biggest smile on their faces it was soo sweet they were so proud!! Then I had to go to COSTCO and OMG the mass amout of ment that were there picking out the perfect bouqet of flowers was so amazing they were really into... he he he I could have gotten sad as I was like the only female getting six 40 lbs bags of salt pellets.... but you know what I didnt I though wow what lucky women and I know that someday when Its Gods time I will have someone special!!! Its o.k. love yourself be happy with you and and enjoy your time alone cause like someone close to me said you never know whats around the corner and you may NEVER get your alone time back 😉 I miss my baby more than ever its been 44 day's but I can tell you one thing... he may have not called or surprised me but i can bet a million dollars I have crossed his mind today..more than just once!!! And thats enough for me 🙂

well IM off to get ready for dinner with my girlfriend, we are both single so we made eahcother our valentines!!! he he he he

try to have a goodevening ladies and tomorrow will be here in no time!!


love always
Brandy

that should have said honey!!! not homey miss spelled...but you can be that to if you like! ; )

GEG~~ what the heck you need 240 pounds of salt for in Cali—

Happy VDay, doll!! Your attitude amazes me and that's meant in a very good way. : )

Oh capgirl, don't be so upset you're maybe coming around to my way of thinking, really i think it's a good thing, I mean, damn! why are we stressing ourselves so much over men who treat us like dogs? throw a little bone now and then and then we go obediantly into a corner and curl up until they call us because they feel like playing? I decided on my way home from work that it really is a good thing that hell! i will NOT let anyone treat me that way again, whatever the sign is, it's self esteem ladies...it's a good thing...i mean think about it, look at virgo1881 who got called at the last minute because most likely he had to decide who he'd go out with tonight..and it wasn't her..go back for more?? why? sometimes i just feel like what are we doing? are we in some miss america beauty pageant thing having to prove we're the best to these guys? and i'll say it again, as long as we keep playing their game and come arunning everytime they decide to want us, they're not going to get some miraculous revelation that "wow she really is special" all they're thinking is, "hey i think i'm horny tonight, i'll call whoever and she'll come running" it's degrading ladies, we're NOT cattle, we're pretty sexy desirable women, (and I'll speak for myself) attracts men who abuse the "Nice" me...no more, the only people who get the nice me are the ones who deserve it, i am giving and loving and caring and i may as well give that to people who will appreciate it instead of abusing it. and yes, i think i'm finally pissed off enough to change.

APW, I guess somewhere along the way you really loved the guy, that is why you put up with so much. I don't think we should feel stupid or inferior b/c we did what we did for love. You know now he didn't deserve it, but at the time you must have felt he did. Your love was powerful enough to endure the pain and hurt and it now can carry you on to better days. The next time you will not cast your pearls before swine.

APW~ I do agree to stop letting them draw us back in at their leisure, etc. (I liked the curl up in corner analogy- very good). But the thing is that when you "walk" and ignore them or turn them down, I'm starting to think that you really have to be doing it for GOOD. Because these types are not changing, and they will trick you all over again. Or they'll TRY to draw you in again, bc. they're still intrigued/attracted bc. you are showing strength, self-respect, but when you give them even a crack of an opening so that you can see what will happen, they show that they still haven't changed. Well, this has been my experience anyway w/ mine. I don't run to him, sleep w/ him, but HAVE still talked to him after he's disappeared for weeks. Yet, it still goes nowhere, unless I suppose i WERE to say at 10 pm at night when we're chatting, "hey, come over!" NOT. I've tested him and put out a decent "several hours in advance" invitation (oooo- scarey, planning ahead?!), and he failed. Didn't call all weekend and still all week hasn't called.

Taurus36
I am also very careful how i say "no" to these guys...one time he texted me that he was coming over to watch the base ball game and I said.."I have plans" well, he disappeared and I had to force him to come over...he was so hurt....but he was wrong and bratty to assume I had no plans! Funny but I call mine a brat right to his face, I also tell him he is self-centered and spoiled and a control freak, When he messes up I tell him straight to his face, and guess what? He has gotten better....I think some of us are afraid of letting these guys know who we feel because we are insecure BUT ladies these guys appreciate straight talk because they can't do it themselves...

MyCap, this guy seems to be manipulating and controlling. If he is in law enforcement, he is professionally trained to "read" people. I have a few male friends (a Libra and a Scorpio) who are detectives and they know how to diffuse and incite emotions in people. Your cappy is by training, and perhaps by nature [male cap], suspicious at most. He does not trust easily, and he may test you until the cows come home. You seem to be too innocent and naive right now to handle him. You let your guard down too often. I do not believe that a capricorn man could resist using whatever was at his disposal as method to control. I could be wrong, or perhaps I'm being negative, but if "untrained" cappys use head games, why wouldn't someone with "skills" use them?

You are right to leave him be. There's nothing wrong that. Do not feel defeated or forsaken. You are choosing your battles, and right now, it may be wise to just back up to regroup/recover so you can come back stronger.

HELLO, ladies gosh gone for an hour and the dxp blows up!! lol...slow down ladies took me 20 some mint. to catch up!!! You are all wonderful women dont ever forget it!!!


Capgirl~ LOL you are sooo funny... I had to get it for my water softner.... the tank was empty...


well I have not herd anything from my baby goat and guess what!!! I STILL LOVE HIM!! he he he !!

But i have to go make a comment check my email and then go light some candles and take a hot hot bubble bath.... put my jammies on and wait for my darling Valentines to be dropped off by their daddy

you ladies have a wonderful evening

p.s. happy valentines!!!!


love always GEG