It is wounds that leave no visible scars, saying things to be cruel and mean or even worse - subversive manipulation. If you find yourself being pulled away from family and friends who once meant a lot to you, find yourself giving up things for him such as hobbies, past-times, etc., then he is a controller and an abuser. These types of abusers are much more insiduous and dangerous than men who would just hit a woman. You must look at how your life has changed since you have been with him, have you ever changed anything - quit doing sonething you liked, quit hanging around with people you liked or loved - because you were afraid you were going to lose him? If someone loves you, truly loves you, they will love you for who you are and not want you to change, will try to keep you from changing because they love you for you. They will only help you change the things you want to change, such as if you want to lose weight or quit smoking or something like that. You should look up domestic abuse on the Internet and read about it. It is not always beating on someone - more of it in fact is mantal and emotional and the wounds and scars sometimes are much more long-lasting and much more dangerous than just being hit.
