twin personality while being intimate?

The gemini i am seeing has said that he likes his partner to be 'dominant' in bed. From what i understood that means that in general, he likes it when someone else takes control and it doesn't excite him to be dominant over others.

BUT, there have been instances in our sex life where I see the exact opposite? he tells me he prefers to be submissive, yet there have been instances (I was fully consenting) where I was not in control at all or sober, and he seemed to really enjoy it.

Is this a trait for gemini suns? does he have an opposite personality etc that he doesn't really wanna tell me about?

It just means he doesn't really know what he wants.

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Posted by Ram416
It just means he doesn't really know what he wants.

It means we know what we want on that day lol

I switch being submissive to being dominant... Fuck I do it alternately... Depends

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You're a switch. OP said the partner likes being submissive but shows the opposite. So either he is a switch or he really doesn't know what he wants.

Posted by surferpisces
yet there have been instances (I was fully consenting) where I was not in control at all or sober, and he seemed to really enjoy it.

OP, could you provide an example of the above? Because it could well be that, as a submissive, he's testing your boundaries and wanting you to assert yourself.

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yet there have been instances (I was fully consenting) where I was not in control at all or sober, and he seemed to really enjoy it.

OP, could you provide an example of the above? Because it could well be that, as a submissive, he's testing your boundaries and wanting you to assert yourself.

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Example: please note I was still consenting! I was really high the other night and we were in bed. I initiated the sex, but as we went on I was getting more and more high to the point where I was having lots of trouble remembering minutes before and I was body stoned. I was really out of it and almost about to fall asleep, so I was just following his ideas while he had full control of my body. We did this for hours and he loved it.

I haven't claimed any fetishes that i do or dont have haha, but what we did i definitely enjoyed as well. I am mostly fine with it.

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What drug are you using?

grass

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yet there have been instances (I was fully consenting) where I was not in control at all or sober, and he seemed to really enjoy it.

OP, could you provide an example of the above? Because it could well be that, as a submissive, he's testing your boundaries and wanting you to assert yourself.

Example: please note I was still consenting! I was really high the other night and we were in bed. I initiated the sex, but as we went on I was getting more and more high to the point where I was having lots of trouble remembering minutes before and I was body stoned. I was really out of it and almost about to fall asleep, so I was just following his ideas while he had full control of my body. We did this for hours and he loved it.

Are you sure he´s aware how high you were, that you weren´t really there?

But following his ideas isn´t the same as being dominant. If you´re almost passed out, surely you´re not gonna provide any good ideas. So he wanted to have sex and had to be the one with the ideas. No?

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Yes, I told him I was really really high and couldn't remember anything. What you said was right, but isn't having sex with someone while the other is almost asleep laying on the bed somewhat dominant. T

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It just means he doesn't really know what he wants.

It means we know what we want on that day lol

I switch being submissive to being dominant... Fuck I do it alternately... Depends

You're a switch. OP said the partner likes being submissive but shows the opposite. So either he is a switch or he really doesn't know what he wants.

You picked out the tinniest detail in her post. She said that at the end. You completely missed the point.

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Missed what point? I was agreeing with her.

My point was that what might be the case for her may not be the case for the OP'S situation. Regardless of sun sign.

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yet there have been instances (I was fully consenting) where I was not in control at all or sober, and he seemed to really enjoy it.

OP, could you provide an example of the above? Because it could well be that, as a submissive, he's testing your boundaries and wanting you to assert yourself.

Example: please note I was still consenting! I was really high the other night and we were in bed. I initiated the sex, but as we went on I was getting more and more high to the point where I was having lots of trouble remembering minutes before and I was body stoned. I was really out of it and almost about to fall asleep, so I was just following his ideas while he had full control of my body. We did this for hours and he loved it.

Are you sure he´s aware how high you were, that you weren´t really there?

But following his ideas isn´t the same as being dominant. If you´re almost passed out, surely you´re not gonna provide any good ideas. So he wanted to have sex and had to be the one with the ideas. No?

Yes, I told him I was really really high and couldn't remember anything. What you said was right, but isn't having sex with someone while the other is almost asleep laying on the bed somewhat dominant. T

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Nope.

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yet there have been instances (I was fully consenting) where I was not in control at all or sober, and he seemed to really enjoy it.

OP, could you provide an example of the above? Because it could well be that, as a submissive, he's testing your boundaries and wanting you to assert yourself.

Example: please note I was still consenting! I was really high the other night and we were in bed. I initiated the sex, but as we went on I was getting more and more high to the point where I was having lots of trouble remembering minutes before and I was body stoned. I was really out of it and almost about to fall asleep, so I was just following his ideas while he had full control of my body. We did this for hours and he loved it.

Are you sure he´s aware how high you were, that you weren´t really there?

But following his ideas isn´t the same as being dominant. If you´re almost passed out, surely you´re not gonna provide any good ideas. So he wanted to have sex and had to be the one with the ideas. No?

Yes, I told him I was really really high and couldn't remember anything. What you said was right, but isn't having sex with someone while the other is almost asleep laying on the bed somewhat dominant. T

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How do you know sex happened?

Maybe he curled up next to you and snored while you were out?

I can relate to this post. I am the Gemini and over the weekend I slept with a Pisces. We were both stoned (grass) and she had had some wine...we were in bed and she gave me various cues she wanted to be closer to me. She kept saying she was cold and liked to snuggle etc. Anyway she was falling asleep and I kissed her, she reciprocated and jumped ontop of me.

Anyway she then became submissive and she was super sleepy and tired but let me have her body and be in control. We had sex and then snuggled and fell asleep...

Her Mars is in Capricorn and mine is in Cancer. I don't sleep on first dates but kissing her just turned me on incredibly and one thing led to another... she seemed to enjoy me being in control even though she was falling asleep and super stoned. I like to be both dominant and submissive but with her, she makes me want to be dominant.

I can also switch between both.

Him telling you he wants you to be dominant was his low key way of asking you to ride

Posted by surferpisces
I haven't claimed any fetishes that i do or dont have haha, but what we did i definitely enjoyed as well. I am mostly fine with it.

Mostly? Why only mostly??