Gemini's Fear of Being Cheated On?

My best male friend is a gemini. We have been just friends for three years but recently our relationship has become physical.

I talk to him every day, we hang out every day, we work together and now there's sexual tension. He doesn't want to date me because hes afraid I might cheat on him/break his heart. I have a high sex drive and though i've never cheated...I may have inflicted a lot of emotional pain on my former ex's....not intentionally. I have very intense relationships and one person always ends up falling in love. Seeing this, he doesn't want to be another guy I chew up and spit out. He also sends me articles every morning about how i have all the qualities of a cheater.

He also has said to me repeatedly he wants an innocent girl. However, everytime he seeks an innocent girl out, he becomes bored quickly and blows her off for me.

He told me i have ruined dating for him because he compares every girl he meets to me.

I really like him, I don't want to let go of my best friend...is this insecuirty issue a gemini thing? And his inisistence on finding an innocent girl, seems like a weird thing for a gemini to go after..am I right?

His moon is in saggitarius and venus in cancer. My moon is in cancer and venus in capricorn.

Posted by bittercupcake
Dual personality trait means he battles with both. He can't make up his mind because part of him says he wants you while the other is being cautious. Gemini and Scorpio have an undeniable attraction but I see Geminis walking away hurt from a Scorpio. He wants you but he doesn't want you to dump him and break his heart. Don't get involved with him, id say.

Feel like scorpio's always end up walking away hurt cuz we invest the most lol.

"He doesn't want to date me because hes afraid I might cheat on him/break his heart. I have a high sex drive and though i've never cheated...I may have inflicted a lot of emotional pain on my former ex's....not intentionally. I have very intense relationships and one person always ends up falling in love. Seeing this, he doesn't want to be another guy I chew up and spit out. He also sends me articles every morning about how i have all the qualities of a cheater. "

Sounds like he's friend zoning you because he thinks you're too promiscuous for his tastes. For a lot of guys, loyalty and trust is very important. From what you've said he unfortunately does not like track record with the opposite sex. He doesn't see the point in getting involved with you because he's seen how things ended with the other guys in your life.

"I really like him, I don't want to let go of my best friend...is this insecurity issue a gemini thing? And his inisistence on finding an innocent girl, seems like a weird thing for a gemini to go after..am I right? "

Well just be his friend then. It doesn't sound like he's trying to push anything beyond friendship with you anyway. If friendship isn't what you want, then let him know. If he rejects you, then you have the choice to either stick around or back away.

I know a guy like this... same placements too

This guy didn't say directly about me he was afraid I would cheat on him... just that he was afraid of being hurt. Yes I think Cancer Venus is more sensitive but also you can tell when they really feel something for you. Bear hugs... intense eye contact, flirty banter, feelings slip out now and then.

Posted by Effervescent
He is way too open for a Gemini. We don't say these personal things so openly. Ever.

Depends on other placements but I'm seeing a Gem with Cancer Venus and he is the one bringing up feelings and relationship ? also has a Pisces Moon so... Sag moon is more detached in a way I think ??‍♀️

Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
I've never liked the concept of "pointing fingers". For example: "is this a Gemini thing?" To me, it sounds more like he is not convinced of your commitment. Your goal should be to find out how you can convince him that a relationship with him would not be a repeat of your former relationships.

I dated a Scorpio for 3 years. We were "best friends" prior too. When we dated, things were very different. It was intense, and shy of being perfect, but there were issues that eventually became too much for me to handle. I couldn't breathe in our relationship; and that's what Scorps and Gems tend to not work out; regardless of how much both love each other.

My ex needed to have attention 24/7. I couldn't go anywhere without her in some shape or form. Every friendship I had was questioned. Any girl I had direct or indirect contact with was questioned (some were flat our shat on if they even talked to me). I lost a lot of friends because of this. Eventually it became too much and I mentally broke down. I dug myself a hole, because of my Venus in Taurus, and stayed when I shouldn't have. It cost me an enormous amount of emotional pain that could have been avoided.

Her past relationships were the exact same. She would complain that they were abusive and never gave her enough time. Her track record wasn't good. Her ex prior to me was all about "sex". Every former relationship she had, friendship or not, ended poorly and I would eventually be dragged into it. There was non stop drama that surrounded her. Eventually she became unfaithful and flirted with many guys. I eventually had enough and broke things off. The aftermath was horrible. When a Scorpio ego is harmed, they ensure they would do anything, as low as it may be, in order to try and cripple you with every fear they learn you had. Now I have a protective order against her and some of her friends. I guess I get that last "laugh?"

Scorpios and Geminis are best left as friends. I suggest you stop fucking him and move on from any thought of a relationship. Your former lovers are an indication that your past is tainted and he doesn't want to get involved. You haven't proven to him your worth the risk.

I wouldn't date, let alone consider someone that has had many failed relationships. It's a clear red flag.

Ugh I thought about your comment for a while. I can see what happened with your relationship happening with mine. Its so unfortunate that on a superficial level, gemini & scorpio could be a perfect fit. But fundamentally both signs are so different. Gemini needs freedom and Scorpio needs security.

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Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
I've never liked the concept of "pointing fingers". For example: "is this a Gemini thing?" To me, it sounds more like he is not convinced of your commitment. Your goal should be to find out how you can convince him that a relationship with him would not be a repeat of your former relationships.

I dated a Scorpio for 3 years. We were "best friends" prior too. When we dated, things were very different. It was intense, and shy of being perfect, but there were issues that eventually became too much for me to handle. I couldn't breathe in our relationship; and that's what Scorps and Gems tend to not work out; regardless of how much both love each other.

My ex needed to have attention 24/7. I couldn't go anywhere without her in some shape or form. Every friendship I had was questioned. Any girl I had direct or indirect contact with was questioned (some were flat our shat on if they even talked to me). I lost a lot of friends because of this. Eventually it became too much and I mentally broke down. I dug myself a hole, because of my Venus in Taurus, and stayed when I shouldn't have. It cost me an enormous amount of emotional pain that could have been avoided.

Her past relationships were the exact same. She would complain that they were abusive and never gave her enough time. Her track record wasn't good. Her ex prior to me was all about "sex". Every former relationship she had, friendship or not, ended poorly and I would eventually be dragged into it. There was non stop drama that surrounded her. Eventually she became unfaithful and flirted with many guys. I eventually had enough and broke things off. The aftermath was horrible. When a Scorpio ego is harmed, they ensure they would do anything, as low as it may be, in order to try and cripple you with every fear they learn you had. Now I have a protective order against her and some of her friends. I guess I get that last "laugh?"

Scorpios and Geminis are best left as friends. I suggest you stop fucking him and move on from any thought of a relationship. Your former lovers are an indication that your past is tainted and he doesn't want to get involved. You haven't proven to him your worth the risk.

I wouldn't date, let alone consider someone that has had many failed relationships. It's a clear red flag.

Ugh I thought about your comment for a while. I can see what happened with your relationship happening with mine. Its so unfortunate that on a superficial level, gemini & scorpio could be a perfect fit. But fundamentally both signs are so different. Gemini needs freedom and Scorpio needs security.

Gemini and Scorpios are the worst match in the entire zodiac pairings

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Nah i feel as tho im gonna end up with a scorpio woman in the long run?

Gemini man scorpio woman is a better pairing than scorpio man and gemini woman

is there really such a thing as an innocent person these days

if I were you, I would lay down the law in order to free yourself

platonic friends - no benefits

and

you continue dating others

and

don't tell him all your business

because

it seems like he wants to prove

that he is right and

when something happens

he will shove it in your face

I have a big problem with people who continually want to tell me how I am and what is wrong with me and what I should do differently - lol - and these people really don't know me so when I get this, I give them the Taurus/Cap stare and they stfu

let's shift the focus to him and his problems and deal with that rather than dealing with a 'what if' bs

you don't have to prove anything to him - if he doesn't like you the way you are

move on

LOL.

I love you Effervescent....

I found Gemini men are very open and upfront just not on their own. If you ask them a direct question they will give you a direct answer, but they won't volunteer anything. They can be so tight I don't even know if the other twin know what the other one is digesting.

First you need to decide what your expectations are and maybe we can help you by letting you know if we think a Gemini man can meat those expectations and needs. They will adore you to death if you like that kind of thing but don't get use to it because they will adore you to death, put you on a shelf for a few days even a week or two depending on what they got going on and completely ignore you. Then when they ready to play with you again take you off the shelf and adore you like it was yesterday and not a week ago, a not phantom any idea why you may be pissed about it.

He won't care if you are pissed about it because he will apologize easily, then proceed to seduce you right out of your panties and sex you up like no other all while sex talking you until you can breathe or get a word in edgewise. The nastier you talk him up the more he will adore you for it, until you find yourself on the shelf again. Yes he can be hurt if he has been hurt before, because if he allow you to dig in that deep trust me you knew things he's never told anyone so yes he will feel the hurt deeper than even a Scorpio, but like Scorpio's they may sting you with words they can't take back as they try to ease the hurt. Also like Scorpio, they will not let you see the pain you inflicted. The one thing they aren't is self absorb in their pain like Scorpio's. Scorpio is the worst for dishing it out but not being able to take it. So if that is what you are doing, be mindful of your own faults before setting down the Gemini male for his. The only way to live, love or know a Gemini man is to have your own life and live it while he is living his, yet leaving the door open at all times for his need to come and go. This is not because he's a cheating sign and he's hooking up with other women, no he will be loyal to a fault if he's chosen you as his partner. Also don't get me wrong he will also cheat, but only if you want to watch him or participate. Remember he is always the exhibitionist, no sign besides a Leo love being watched as much. It works for me because I'm the Virgo Voyeur, I can live a lifetime without physical sex and get my rocks off my way happily.

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Posted by tcta
is there really such a thing as an innocent person these days

if I were you, I would lay down the law in order to free yourself

platonic friends - no benefits

and

you continue dating others

and

don't tell him all your business

because

it seems like he wants to prove

that he is right and

when something happens

he will shove it in your face

I have a big problem with people who continually want to tell me how I am and what is wrong with me and what I should do differently - lol - and these people really don't know me so when I get this, I give them the Taurus/Cap stare and they stfu

let's shift the focus to him and his problems and deal with that rather than dealing with a 'what if' bs

you don't have to prove anything to him - if he doesn't like you the way you are

move on

In other words, who the fuck does he think he is?

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lllol

Posted by Effervescent
He is way too open for a Gemini. We don't say these personal things so openly. Ever.

True.

We cantalk very well and express ourselves but yeah,its odd the amount of stuff hes revealing.

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Posted by Effervescent
He is way too open for a Gemini. We don't say these personal things so openly. Ever.

True.

We cantalk very well and express ourselves but yeah,its odd the amount of stuff hes revealing.

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Yeah... my Gem guy friend did the same thing and Also revealed he was scared of getting hurt. In the long run the signs were there that he just didn't want to be with anyone and I felt I had to help him until it clicked. I would just move on from this guy and keep him as a friend.