Do gems initiate conversation often?

In the very beginning, my gem always did it; whether he'd call or text me first. Lately, I've been noticing that I've been the one to do it mostly, now. Thankfully he always answers, but when I become busy and can't get to my phone, I sometimes don't hear from him for a couple of days until I say something. I'm only asking to ease my virgoan mind before it starts to overanalyze anything, lol.

Posted by Lauren89
is he busy with studying? ~He sounded pretty much concentrated on his goals from your description.

The last time I had a conversation with him, I asked him how his class was going, and he told me that he was hanging in there and studying. I offered my support and left it there. That following weekend, which was this past weekend, I asked him if he still wanted to come with me to see an improv show, and I didn't get a text back that entire day. That really worried me until he texted me the next day responding to it. He'd only done that once before. The day of the show, I texted him asking him if his truck was okay to use, but I didn't a text for most of the day. I texted him before leaving for show, giving him directions in case he still wanted to come, and he texted me right after telling me he had just gotten off work. I knew he wasn't going to make it, so I told him it was alright if he didn't make it but the invitation was still open.

I know he's busy, but I guess I don't know whether I'm bothering him or not when I want to hear from him. So I wonder if I should check to see f he's alive or wait until he wants to talk to me. I usually do the former because I'm impatient lol. I just keep telling myself as long as he answers, it's alright.

Thank you! That's what I thought about doing. I've been trying to focus more on myself and waiting to see if he'd get back to me. When I last saw him a little over a week ago, he seemed a little stressed about his school work, but I told him he'd do fine, and I'd still be around. And he responded with, "that's nice." And just sort of smiled. So, I'm just assuming he's really focusing on his work (school, job, and exercise) and will get back to me when he can.

i think you're overanalyzing. how long have you guys been together?

me and my gemini might be the most annoying people on the face of the earth haha. his cell phones doesn't get reception in his building at work so at lunch when he walks outside all his messages will appear at once, so ill go out of my way to text him like 30 times so his phone explodes beeping for 5 minutes straight and then he texts me back even more ridiculously. we also both stay signed in to our yahoo accounts all day so the yahoo messanger is up and we can talk randomly throughout the day if we want. i dont even know what the eff we find to talk about but we're annoying like that when nobody else can see 😄 i feel like a lot of girls kinda walk on eggshells and make rules about not initiating the calls or the texts or only being the responder or only texting once during the day but i think that sucks when you're actually in a relationship with someone. i feel like the shamelessness is one of the big things that differentiates being in a relationship versus dating or having crushes. but what do i know? i might come back crying to this board crying about how gemini dumped me for blowing up his phone 😛 i guess it also depends on how long a couples been together too

Most Gems have a problem with speach they slur there words and drool a lot so no they don't start many conversations.

Posted by Lauren89
TBH to all of you girls here that are posting and asking about gems...

Most gemini guys ( and sometimes the girls too) have a SMALL ATTENTION SPAN.

So you need to make sure that he has a burning desire for you before you start feeling that you two are an item.

And to achieve this either you are a natural gemini magnet or you have to learn how to keep your gemini on his toes the minute he gets lazy!

Lol, the funny thing is, I get bored too if I'm not kept on my toes. I blame my venus in leo. So the more I wait, the more I desire attention, and the more discouraged I get. But I fgure I can think of something if I don't hear from him soon.

and I love ewe, I'm a virgo. I'm prone to overanalyzing everything, hahaha.

Honestly, this happened once between me and him, and finally I just texting him asking where he disappeared, and he told me he had gotten caught up in things the very next day.

Oh, and I never considered us an "item," yet. I don't really think that until I'm sure. When my friends ask about him, I just sort of shrug and say we're seeing each other but nothing label worthy yet.

Lol perhaps. What advice do you think I would get?

Hahahaha you're probably right. xD
If there is one thing I can't really do well it's thinking on my toes.
I can be manipulative, but it takes time.
I might be taking a small trip to the aries board, hahaha.

Most geminis, when they want you, you know. no matter how busy we are, if our minds are on you, you will know. the problem is, you have to figure out your gemini. There is a fine line while dating. you might text too much and it irritates him so he isn't quick to always respond. Or he is just that busy. But knowing me and my male gemini friends, if he is really feeling you, you would get more of a response.. usually. Almost obsessive.

That might sound discouraging, but in reality what i'm trying to say is you have to get his mind focused on you. So learning his interests and his sexual (mental) side will really come in handy. Little sweet nothings that get him reflecting on you and things you have done... work really well. the secret to us geminis is keeping our very easily distracted minds on YOU. And it is really easy to get distracted, so you might have to work hard to keep his focus on you. If i drift off, i usually don't drift back because if you can't keep me focused on you now you won't keep me focused later.

young gemini males are notorious for being playboys, so hun make sure you aren't feeling any red flags. If you guys are just dating, which it sounds like, make sure you are paying attention to him enough to know if he is out there seeing other people.

Thanks baby-grl, that was pretty helpful. I haven't experienced any red flags at all, and usually I can pick those out VERY early. Seeing as this is the first gemini I really wanted to get to know, I'm still figuring the ins-and-outs before I jump into anything. When he responds to me, he never seems too exasperated, although, I'm not one to obsessively text in the first place. I know he gets caught up in his work, so during the week, I don't talk to him much, but when I do, he definitely pays attention. I usually know what to say to get him interested again, but I think I was just having a crisis of confidence this week because of outside things, and because he hasn't been as responsive as usual, even though he is responding.

Posted by Candeh15
Oh, and I never considered us an "item," yet. I don't really think that until I'm sure. When my friends ask about him, I just sort of shrug and say we're seeing each other but nothing label worthy yet.

ohhhh you guys are in the beginning phase. hmmmm i don't know then. i don't want to be negative or say he's uninterested because nobody really knows that for sure but i had a different experience when i met my gemini. we both work full time (he had 2 jobs then actually) and we were both in school full time when we met (we met at school). i think i said this in a post not too long ago but gemini found every excuse in the book to contact me every day (he would email me cheesy jokes at work). i've never gone a day and not heard from him since we met. i know a lot of guys might be different or not communicate very well or might simply be immature because they've never been a a real relationship before, but i think needing space is a kind of lame excuse to not hear from somebody. like, i don't see my gemini every single day but i at least get a text or something. i understand "space" but flat out no communication would confuse me. but like you said, you guys aren't offcial so it's hard to tell

Lol we've been seeing each other for almost 3 months. It just takes a little longer for me to call it "official." And it's not like he isn't responding to me at all. Like a month ago, before his classes started up again, he hugged me and told me that he'd probably only get a chance to talk to me like once a week (he was joking/underexxagerating), and wouldn't get to see me as much as he'd wanted to, but backed it up by saying that not seeing me in 2 or 3 weeks is too long. I've been in a few relationships where communication wasn't always constant, but that's alright with me since sometimes I check out and don't talk to people when I'm busy. I told this gem this, and he seemed happy since he does the same thing and glad that someone understood him.

^^ No we didn't. We have fooled around, but we have not had sex.

And I am trying to be patient and just worry about my own things, lol. If there is one thing I learned from seeing this cap a while back, it's patience lol. Like you said, If I don't hear from him in like a week or so, I'm just going to shoot him a call.

We don't get to see each other that often and when we do, he'll usually initiate things. I said before he was celibate for a while and it only became a recent development (like a month ago) that he started to open up more sexually. We were being playful a couple of weeks ago through text and he told me that I knew exactly what to do to get him excited. So while he wasn't pushed for it, it hasn't really upset me or anything. But if that's any indication of what's to come, I suppose I can't do much about that.

Lol I actually am still one. He knows that.

But if that is the case, then I don't know. I still feel like I should at least check on him to gauge his reaction after a while. Like I said before, this is recent, and when I last spoke to him, he had been excited to come with me to the improv show, but it's always a possibility that he could have suddenly lost interest.

From my perspective, I wasn't really holding back. If he wanted to, I wouldn't have had any issue with that. So I don't think it's the lack of sex.

If anything, I just think it's a lot of other obligations that have him distracted and I come in when they are more so out of the way. Which, in a way, is irritating, but at the same time, something I can understand. All the same, it's why I don't push for things and will let whatever fall into place.

The more I think about this situation, the more I feel like I'm freaking out over nothing. If he lost interest, I don't think it had anything to do with my character.

Thank you very much. That brought a smile to my face. 🙂

The way I see it, he doesn't not like me, because he hasn't shown any disinterest even when he was getting very busy. But what comes first for him will come first, and regardless, I still like hanging out with him even if something doesn't develop further. So I'll see, and probably give him a nice little text when I'm also not busy doing things, lol.

Posted by Lauren89
@i love owe

don't say this!

If I am not close with someone long time I do need my free time too. Flat out no communication for 2-3 days. Even with the guy that I fancy. It takes me time to get used to a person being in my life.

And space is important. It is not a bad excuse and not always is hiding bad things.

i didn't say space is bad, i said not communicating was bad. im fine with space and i will never deny somebody the need for it, but if that need for space wasn't communicated i'd be pissed off because i wouldn't understand why somebody im in a serious relationship with would leave me hanging for 3 days without explaining, yah know?