do the boredom problems get better with age?

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lend some insight fellow gemini, the biggest curse of being gemini(i think) is boredom and the thoughts that follow it once its set in. with me i feel its so much worse, if i dont have something on my mind constantly it kicks in and my imagination gets to me,whether it be daydreaming or seeing false evil. if im in a math class, i have to mentally prepare for that shit and get a dope song going in my head and im tapping both legs and tapping with both hands, but its only then i can fully concentrate on algebra and geometrical bullshit, and my teacher is flattered to the core that im paying so much attention, and i might be able to hold that up for 2 or 3 hours but after that im exhausted, was/is anyone else like this when they were young? if so does it get better eventually and if so how the hell did you manage to improve?
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Im the exact same way bordom bordom bordom haha its no joke with us, its just in our nature 2 switch hot cold / cold hot but in a good way though dont matter if people think its negative or not. I tap my fingers on the table sometimes or even the wall 2 make a beat and for some odd reason it relaxes me for a minute and also we have alot of i'll call it PASSION ENERGY that just makes me want 2 get up and go somewhere anywhere for that matter, So while your in math class it takes awhile for that PASSION ENERGY 2 go down a bit for you 2 focus. All the day-dreaming and seeing false evil for me thats your intuition and that comes in 2 play when knowing whether 2 trust someone or not, cus for me i dont trust easy, 2 tell you the truth i doubt it gets better with age but who knows it could!
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yea i know what you mean, just tapping on anything around to get a beat going, i cant even stand in a line without having to walk in circles or some other random activity to keep my mind busy. my leg is bouncing at all times when sitting idk why but it annoys some people to no end, couldnt tell you how many times a charm smile kept people from goin all out ape shit.
thats a bummer to hear >.
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yea i know what you mean, just tapping on anything around to get a beat going, i cant even stand in a line without having to walk in circles or some other random activity to keep my mind busy. my leg is bouncing at all times when sitting idk why but it annoys some people to no end, couldnt tell you how many times a charm smile kept people from goin all out ape shit.
thats a bummer to hear >.


haha i feel you man, i cant even stand without moving back and forth sometime. My brain is always going 100 miles an/hour thinking and pondering on things, heck if people dont like seeing your leg bouncing at all times so what forget them they can go elswhere and look at someone pick there nose, i bet you then they wouldnt mind seeing your leg bouncing around...but dont get all down and sad on me becus where one of the best and misunderstood sign out walking the face of the earth, so stay strong becus Geminis always do!
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read something that gets you to think, like umm bible or something, its full of stuff you have to figure out, if u do understand most of it you will become a good psychologist, a great insight reader, and other stuff.. i read it for spiritual balance(i dont read it often now) and since i was little i learned so much.. but if ur not interested in that then be with people, be around people and etc. my gem grandma she lives alone in her house now she was actually the one who encouraged me to read bible since i was little, and she still goes to work she cant be alone, and she reads bible, and you know a lot of elderly people are kind of stupid, live on their past and experiences? she can barely mention about past if ud ask her, she is always well informed about everything, she has connections everywhere, and she is the best natural psychologist ive ever met, she will just look at a person and will see who they are, thats what shes been teaching me, and she said it was all from reading and understanding bible, if you dont understand reread 10 times and you will understand with time, so all that kind of keeps her not bored lol, well all this may sound like a crazy ppl bible talk but i just suggested what helps my gem grannie or me sometimes
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lend some insight fellow gemini, the biggest curse of being gemini(i think) is boredom and the thoughts that follow it once its set in. with me i feel its so much worse, if i dont have something on my mind constantly it kicks in and my imagination gets to me,whether it be daydreaming or seeing false evil. if im in a math class, i have to mentally prepare for that shit and get a dope song going in my head and im tapping both legs and tapping with both hands, but its only then i can fully concentrate on algebra and geometrical bullshit, and my teacher is flattered to the core that im paying so much attention, and i might be able to hold that up for 2 or 3 hours but after that im exhausted, was/is anyone else like this when they were young? if so does it get better eventually and if so how the hell did you manage to improve?



I'm a Cancer, but also a Gem/Cancer cusp. To answer your question, NO. Life only gets more boring with age. I'm not going to bullshit you. At times, you're probably going to be so bored that you wish you were dead. It doesn't matter where you live, how much money you have, or how active your life is. Shit just gets boring. See how many f*cked up, drugged up, crazy celebrities there are? It's because they're bored with life. It doesn't matter how successful or rich you are. You'll always become accustomed to it, and eventually get bored and want more.
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for me i think it does matter where you live becus in other places there are alot more things 2 do and people 2 meet and things 2 see, im a people person and love 2 meet people from different places tribes and ethnicities so being able 2 do those kind of things will help curb my high powered restless nervous energy!
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yea i know what you mean, just tapping on anything around to get a beat going, i cant even stand in a line without having to walk in circles or some other random activity to keep my mind busy. my leg is bouncing at all times when sitting idk why but it annoys some people to no end, couldnt tell you how many times a charm smile kept people from goin all out ape shit.
thats a bummer to hear >.


haha i feel you man, i cant even stand without moving back and forth sometime. My brain is always going 100 miles an/hour thinking and pondering on things, heck if people dont like seeing your leg bouncing at all times so what forget them they can go elswhere and look at someone pick there nose, i bet you then they wouldnt mind seeing your leg bouncing around...but dont get all down and sad on me becus where one of the best and misunderstood sign out walking the face of the earth, so stay strong becus Geminis always do!
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yea man no doubt just gotta keep it movin.

@koa thats sounds like a pretty good idea thanks. haha at the thought of me walkin around with a bible

@cat picture(cant remember your namehaha) i understand, thanks for not sugarcoating that shit,fuck tactful nawmean.

@gm HAHA wow..which jobs would you reccomend i stay away from? and i hope mine never gets that bad..

i have found that the more i become aware of it and why it happens, the better i can manage and fight it

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At times, you're probably going to be so bored that you wish you were dead.



LMAO, that is so depressing! You just have to fill your life w/ things that you love and people who stimulate you. The restless feelings has lessened A LITTLE with age and the more spiritually grounded I become. But the shit is still there, gnawing at me.



LOL yeah, I probably should've been a little more tactful.
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Aww shit! Please don't encourage people to let other people to dictate how to feel good about themselves. Encourage people to encourage themselves, por favor. 🙂
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Fricken lazy arses, of course something like volunteer work would never cross your little shallow minds huh? Theres plenty of volunteer organizations looking for ex-lazy arses, hopefully any of you will become one of those.



I already do, actually. Boredom isn't not having something to do. It's a feeling. You can work your fucking ass off and still be unbelievably bored with life.
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Boredom is a feeling acquired by the realisation that you have nothing to entertain yourself or your mind with at the moment. Volunteer work is about working with people, by interacting with them/helping them you soon realise how much your life has been enriched and how fortunate you've been all along. When you get to that point, a certain awareness opens itself and the feeling of boredom will probably not come back.
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No, boredom for me did not get better with age. And yes, I am a volunteer and help where I feel I can do the most good, which has been volunteering for death penalty apellate attorneys for the past 12 years. I spend weeks and weeks at a time pouring over trial transcripts and taking notes looking for anything at all that could be appealed. But as someone said, boredom takes place in my mind whether or not I am actually physically busy. I would actually say the boredom is worse now that I am older. When I was younger and got bored, I just took off. I've been lucky enough to have traveled throughout the majority of Europe and part of Asia. Almost every trip started because I was bored. Now that I am older and have the responsibility and privilege of raising my child, I can't do what I used to and just take off so I have to find other ways to get over my boredom.
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Fricken lazy arses, of course something like volunteer work would never cross your little shallow minds huh? Theres plenty of volunteer organizations looking for ex-lazy arses, hopefully any of you will become one of those.



I already do, actually. Boredom isn't not having something to do. It's a feeling. You can work your fucking ass off and still be unbelievably bored with life.



Boredom is a feeling acquired by the realisation that you have nothing to entertain yourself or your mind with at the moment. Volunteer work is about working with people, by interacting with them/helping them you soon realise how much your life has been enriched and how fortunate you've been all along. When you get to that point, a certain awareness opens itself and the feeling of boredom will probably not come back.
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That's bullshit. That's thinking inside of a box. You don't have to do volunteer work to get the sensation of "Enrichment" in your life. That's insane. You sound like a rich kid that has had everything given to him, and the only way you know poverty is to work with the poor. Get the fuck outta here with that bullshit. That's insulting; listen to what you're saying and how it sounds.
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Fricken lazy arses, of course something like volunteer work would never cross your little shallow minds huh? Theres plenty of volunteer organizations looking for ex-lazy arses, hopefully any of you will become one of those.
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Where did this earth crappy capi GOAT dude come from talking out the crack of his ass about the Air GEMINI that he can't comprehend...I said before we are one of the misunderstood signs and what this fool said confirmed it, what a idiot who's brain is lacking intelligence...And yeah we do volunteer work, But i can tell you this you and the rest of your fellow earth GOATS should volunteer digging a dench and throwing yourselves in it and never come out of it!!!!
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Fricken lazy arses, of course something like volunteer work would never cross your little shallow minds huh? Theres plenty of volunteer organizations looking for ex-lazy arses, hopefully any of you will become one of those.



what? i cant even begin to explain how much you dont understand..i read your other comment and its clear you and everyone else are on a totally different page. now that i think about it the whole topic is probably just an air thing..

ps. nice bitch.

@zeoblade ...that was a surprisingly hard question, being trapped inside a building where i dont want to be isnt the entire reason but there is alittle fault there. it comes down to being stuck in a place and knowing i cant leave, being somewhere where i dont want to be in the first place, and god forbid i have no one to communicate with cuz thats when it gets the worst, i wont even be able to sleep.

@norcalman im curious, what do you mean you use it to your advantage?
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@ Westside: When I state that I use boredom too my advantage is today I use it too motivate me into action.
Back in the day (teens early 20's) I'd frequently get bored with people or places and just run after 'whatever' better came along. Be it a girls, cars, weekend outings etc. Did not matter what the better was. So I wasted many years chasing after dead ends.
Flash forward over 2 decades and when I get bored: I tell myself 'out loud' get up, get back on this or that project and finish one of your goals. This is how I've learned to channel the boredom energy into productive use. Now,...the only problem is turning the 'get motivated' drive off and take the time too relax.



If I didn't know any better I would've thought that I wrote this. ^^^

Wassup Norcalman? How's the Gemini wife treating you? 🙂
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Agree, agree, agree with all the Gems here. Gem boredom is hard to explain to those who don't "get it". It has nothing to do with activity. There are days when I literally don't have two minutes to sit down from dawn til bedtime (lazy? I don't think so), but I can still be bored. In fact, there may have only been one or two days in the past 6 months when I haven't been bored to some degree.

I also am in a profession in which I meet lots of new people and help them. Yes, it's rewarding, but that doesn't mean it's not boring. Boredom is lack of NEW mental stimulation. That doesn't mean I need constant entertainment. It means that I need to be seeing, doing, or learning something new and interesting on a consistent basis. As a Gem, I'm an information and experience collector (I must collect and relay information) and that's my prime motivation in life! If I'm in a boring situation, I feel like I'm not doing what I was put on earth to do. Seeking out the new isn't an indulgence, it's a necessity for my soul! Why can't I relieve my boredom myself? I CAN to an extent, but creating newness isn't my job...experiencing and reporting it is!

You might say that every moment and every person is new and that nothing ever really repeats itself- and that's true- but everyday events can be similar enough to each other to be lumped together into "the familiar". Yes, I do try to trick myself into thinking things are less boring than they seem, but a feeling doesn't respond to mental trickery.

When I was younger, I was almost never bored. As you get older, things can get more boring, because it can be harder to take off and do something new at the drop of a hat. Houses and jobs and obligations and so forth.
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Cancer sun and Gemini moon here and it is nice to come accross this thread because lately I have been feeling this intensely (boredom). In High school, I was so busy it would make me crazy, but at the same time if felt right. I found stimulus around every corner. Doing anything in routine kills me...the only thing I have found to keep my interest enough is sales because I am always meeting new people and getting a piece of there life story while I work with them and sell them something.

That is why I look up so much on Astrology, it is kind of the ultimate puzzle for me.I use my Cancer suit to validate certain truths about signs because of the energy out put and how I feel it, and my Gemini moon mind keeps me asking questions. With regaurds to normal life, this shit (feeling boredom) is getting more difficult the older I get because I am always seeking new stimulation.

Volunteering isn't always the answer because it isn't always stimulating. I want to be thrilled constantly by something the captures my imagination. The human puzzle is the only puzzle that I can work on so much and still find so much to think and ponder about.

The formalities of other studies will have me bored too, because I want to dig straight to the root of what fascinates me and feed on the nectar but don't always appreciate the road of how to get there because I am more interested in solving the puzzle rather than the path of the puzzle.

What to do about it? I am still working on that, but the only thing that comes to mind for an immediate answer is have kids, because that seems like a descent 18 year challenge...but fuck if it doesn't seem like a challenge you would hate to falter on. Not to mention the idea of who to have them with and how to not get into a heap of shit with them, while dragging your kids through it.

It could be worse I suppose...I could be a boring ass mofo with no good ideas and totally complacent...blissfully ignorant!?

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@zeoblade ...that was a surprisingly hard question, being trapped inside a building where i dont want to be isnt the entire reason but there is alittle fault there. it comes down to being stuck in a place and knowing i cant leave, being somewhere where i dont want to be in the first place, and god forbid i have no one to communicate with cuz thats when it gets the worst, i wont even be able to sleep.





I had this problem very often in high school. That feeling of being trapped or caged was the worst I've ever felt. It literally drove me to depression. I remember staring outside at how beautiful it was and keeping myself calm by pretending to be somewhere else. I really thought it was a personal issue but I'm starting to think that isn't entirely true.

That did get better with age. I have more control over my life. I did appreciate and want to take advantage of the education I was being given, but there were other issues at play.

I still get bored with work. The same scene for too long becomes a monotonous routine. I dread going in and doing the same thing over and over. I've started to get to the point where even just imagining the routine of some other place gives me that feeling of dread. That I haven't learned to deal with just yet...so I can't help you there.

The trapped feeling does go away though. That will stay in your past. The other I suspect will be a lifelong issue.
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"I had this problem very often in high school. That feeling of being trapped or caged was the worst I've ever felt. It literally drove me to depression. I remember staring outside at how beautiful it was and keeping myself calm by pretending to be somewhere else. I really thought it was a personal issue but I'm starting to think that isn't entirely true. "

omg i do this every single day.



"The trapped feeling does go away though. That will stay in your past. The other I suspect will be a lifelong issue."

i see..

i have found my solution-listening to my ipod at all times,during class,between class,talking with people. it keeps my mind pacing