Candeh15
@Candeh15
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Gem disappearing act
Well the thing is, I was the one who texted him first the last two times. The last time I heard from him, I texted him and everything seemed fine. But even before then I didn't really hear from him for a couple of days, and I texted him just to say hi and see how he was doing. I didn't want to do it too much and I had gone out of town the next day. So I couldn't really tell if he was just mirroring me or if it was him. In the VERY beginning, I was pretty slow to get back to him because I was trying to get over someone else, but eventually I warmed up and started to really speak to him. But that was in the beginning, so I know it wouldn't have much affect on his actions now. But he never really bothered me when we were talking, so I don't know what's up. And I wasn't sure if I should try texting him again or wait to see if he did. I know gems like to have their freedom and often bounce back and forth between things, so I didn't want to be the one bothering him.
Thanks so much cdarling. This was really helpful. I was starting to think he could be waiting, but I wasn't sure. And I was having an off couple of days, so I kind of needed a little time to myself. I'm just hoping he doesn't think I'm I've forgotten about him, lol.
So an update that is followed by a question:
I decided to text the gym yesterday in the morning, and I told him hey before asking where he had disappeared off too. I didn't get a text the entire day. In the end, I figured he was just ignoring me because I knew he was around, so I had already decided to just give up even though I couldn't understand why he'd ignore (except that he just lost interest). However, he did text me back this morning and told me that he had been lost in his books, which I could believe.
However, I'm a fairly cautious person, and while I knew he was busy and I had been studying too, it just made me a little uncomfortable and put me back in my shell. Is it normal for gem guys to do this or to not respond for a long period of time?
I decided to text the gym yesterday in the morning, and I told him hey before asking where he had disappeared off too. I didn't get a text the entire day. In the end, I figured he was just ignoring me because I knew he was around, so I had already decided to just give up even though I couldn't understand why he'd ignore (except that he just lost interest). However, he did text me back this morning and told me that he had been lost in his books, which I could believe.
However, I'm a fairly cautious person, and while I knew he was busy and I had been studying too, it just made me a little uncomfortable and put me back in my shell. Is it normal for gem guys to do this or to not respond for a long period of time?
Posted by Ccdarling
He may even be waiting for another response from you, I have done this. Just as a test to see if the other person is really into me or not.
I second this Gemini test! I do this all the time with someone I'm into. In the courting process if they don't bother to contact me when I haven't contacted them in a while then I assume they're not into me. I just need to know from the other person that they desire me/want to spend time with me/ want to talk to me.
Geminis can be attention wh0res. The best way to irritate a gemini is to ignore them/ not talk to them. Especially if we're being ignored by someone who we like. Virgos should remember that you might not think you're ignoring us (we're probably in your thoughts and such) but Geminis expect to be called, texted, talked to constantly. If not constantly then as close to it as possible, lol. We are the Communication sign after all.
Give it another shot, maybe call him? Texting can be a hassle sometimes. He may have not done the disappearing act, maybe just testing you. Give him some attention, make him feel wanted and you'll probably be fine. I have my fingers crossed for you!
Posted by Candeh15
However, I'm a fairly cautious person, and while I knew he was busy and I had been studying too, it just made me a little uncomfortable and put me back in my shell. Is it normal for gem guys to do this or to not respond for a long period of time?
Oh dear. Well, he DID contact you back, this is a good thing. If I had lost all interest, I probably wouldn't have bothered to say anything (it's a very a $ $ holey thing to do, but it happens). Its very possible he was busy. Try getting in touch with him when you're both not busy studying. that's the only way to see if he was actually "busy" or just ignoring you.
But, like I said, the fact that he did contact you, is a good thing.
Oh god!! It all matches with what I am going through....and I never realized it!! lol My gem always wants attention and throws many such tests at me too...truthfully it's irritating sometimes lol but as I am coping with it, I get to see new sides of my personality, so I like it in a way too... Candeh I wish you all the best!! Hang in there! And like gemiguy said,try to call him when he's not BUSY 😉...
I second this Gemini test! I do this all the time with someone I'm into. In the courting process if they don't bother to contact me when I haven't contacted them in a while then I assume they're not into me. I just need to know from the other person that they desire me/want to spend time with me/ want to talk to me.
Geminis can be attention wh0res. The best way to irritate a gemini is to ignore them/ not talk to them. Especially if we're being ignored by someone who we like. Virgos should remember that you might not think you're ignoring us (we're probably in your thoughts and such) but Geminis expect to be called, texted, talked to constantly. If not constantly then as close to it as possible, lol. We are the Communication sign after all.
Give it another shot, maybe call him? Texting can be a hassle sometimes. He may have not done the disappearing act, maybe just testing you. Give him some attention, make him feel wanted and you'll probably be fine. I have my fingers crossed for you!
Oh man, I remember reading that Gems like to throw tests at you left and right. I'm often oblivious to these things, so half the time, I don't even realize it. Truthfully, I've had a bad track record with gems, so this is the first time I've actually gotten this far with one; he's incredibly sweet and we definitely connect on a mental and emotional level (this gem happens to have a lot of earth in him). I actually do tests myself, but nothing that could match a gemini. I agree, it's slightly irritating, but at the same time, kind of cute if you look past how frustrating they are. I'm so the type of person that is very straightforward, but it does test me a bit lol.
My gem and I did talk a little more today and he seemed like himself; he just seemed a little stressed and tired from work and studying, and I told him I've been the same. If he is testing, I at least have a better idea of what to do. I may not like it, but I'm not one to back down unless necessary, lol.
My gem MIA for 4 years (after few dates and all that bullbutter chemistry). Now back in the picture asking me out more than ever. I gave him benefit of a doubt so I went out in a group with him and all my friends are saying that he was so into me. Really don't understand this dissapearing business to be honest.
Posted by DominOo
But the thing is, normally, I just ditch everyone and not show up for days, etc. I just go do my own thing for a bit, come back for a bit, and out again. That's just my nature. I'm a busy person...got lots of stuff to do. Likewise, I like my alone time just as much as I like spending it when others.
True. I'm like that too. I'm not a Gemini but a Virgo & I just have to re-group. Not that I'm being standoffish or anything. I like my space. ALOT!! 🙂
Posted by cosmicgirrl
My gem MIA for 4 years (after few dates and all that bullbutter chemistry). Now back in the picture asking me out more than ever. I gave him benefit of a doubt so I went out in a group with him and all my friends are saying that he was so into me. Really don't understand this dissapearing business to be honest.
4 years MIA and you let him back into your life?
I know I am an impatient Aries and that, but I think years with no word is unspeakably rude. How exactly are you supposed to know if he likes you but is taking his sweet azz time or if he hates your guts?
FFS
I think hes just not that into you. I'll be the first to say...
Geminis do play games but not to hurt but to collect observations of other people. to prescreen to access. This makes the people of the sign everyone's friend, party friend, lover, because they are adaptable and they quickly learn what word usage to apply in conversations with other people's vibes. I feel when now that you guys have briefly stop talking...he is accessing many things about you. Furthermore, what he wants in tie with it.
This is what i think goes on in his head.
1) if she texts me everyday then i know she is into me. That it COULD lead to something
a. Am i into her? if so then i'll text her
b. Im not into her then i'll just ignore her
c. I like her as a person so i'll maintain contact (but i'll expect her to understand im busy)
IN tie with C. ..if you gave him crap about his disappearance he'll gather info that you "may" be a girl of control, or clinginess (not validated though) so he'll still be stay around filing that observation away. He'll then access certain things in 1). if its a) he'll enjoy the text and apologize and compensate his lacking. If he doesnt feel you yet.. he'll do the social protocol. Responding with respect and courtesy. If he was really into you he'll make time. Its that simple. So if you want him the best thing YOU can do is continue to be yourself. If your the type of person who has her own life and does her own things. or the type that is optimistic and understands others...you'll have no problem with him. The only problem is if you let the negative thoughts overpower who you really are and he'll access you in a different light. After all the accessing and he has got you all figured out and all the "figuring" out is not to his liking. He'll just disappear.
also the above is really the LAST thought on his mind. He has a billion things to do ambitions, plans, anxiety, energy, and stresses that he probably isn't really sweating it.
this is what i would do:
if he is busy and not texting ...many possiblities. two options in my head (if he is accessing you unconsciously that is)
a) text him with the intention of seeing how he is doing and with a goal to hang out eventually*. Dont text for attention...they'll smell it and probably not respond at all. he is too busy for petty stuff. but if he finds that you are genuine then he'll respond a bit more i think.
b) text him less. Despite the above about seeing if shes into me d
Geminis do play games but not to hurt but to collect observations of other people. to prescreen to access. This makes the people of the sign everyone's friend, party friend, lover, because they are adaptable and they quickly learn what word usage to apply in conversations with other people's vibes. I feel when now that you guys have briefly stop talking...he is accessing many things about you. Furthermore, what he wants in tie with it.
This is what i think goes on in his head.
1) if she texts me everyday then i know she is into me. That it COULD lead to something
a. Am i into her? if so then i'll text her
b. Im not into her then i'll just ignore her
c. I like her as a person so i'll maintain contact (but i'll expect her to understand im busy)
IN tie with C. ..if you gave him crap about his disappearance he'll gather info that you "may" be a girl of control, or clinginess (not validated though) so he'll still be stay around filing that observation away. He'll then access certain things in 1). if its a) he'll enjoy the text and apologize and compensate his lacking. If he doesnt feel you yet.. he'll do the social protocol. Responding with respect and courtesy. If he was really into you he'll make time. Its that simple. So if you want him the best thing YOU can do is continue to be yourself. If your the type of person who has her own life and does her own things. or the type that is optimistic and understands others...you'll have no problem with him. The only problem is if you let the negative thoughts overpower who you really are and he'll access you in a different light. After all the accessing and he has got you all figured out and all the "figuring" out is not to his liking. He'll just disappear.
also the above is really the LAST thought on his mind. He has a billion things to do ambitions, plans, anxiety, energy, and stresses that he probably isn't really sweating it.
this is what i would do:
if he is busy and not texting ...many possiblities. two options in my head (if he is accessing you unconsciously that is)
a) text him with the intention of seeing how he is doing and with a goal to hang out eventually*. Dont text for attention...they'll smell it and probably not respond at all. he is too busy for petty stuff. but if he finds that you are genuine then he'll respond a bit more i think.
b) text him less. Despite the above about seeing if shes into me d
b) text him less. Despite the above about accessing if he likes you ..which is too fantastical he probably hasn't even accessed if hes into you yet. I feel the texting him first is backfiring for you. IGNORE. i think this will in fact exude confidence and strength that he'll want to be around that and that he'll feel more comfortable.
c) Make it interesting put a note in his book "meet me library __(time) 😉"
anyways im probably talking to much ahaha.. Candeh15..i hope my insight made it understandable—
c) Make it interesting put a note in his book "meet me library __(time) 😉"
anyways im probably talking to much ahaha.. Candeh15..i hope my insight made it understandable—
LOL!
This thread is probably already dead but i figured id still comment but yo i never understood the whole disappearing thing. Obviously, everyone will take it differently but it just doesn't make sense. Then again, i hear the same about alot of scorpios. If i ever do it, it is just bc i wanna chill - have my space but ...everyone is different.
I haven't read a single one that makes any sense about a Gem man. All your observations suck! The Gem man is the most difficult sign to understand and the reason is because he is —The twins??. If he left you, then he is a goner, you are dreaming if you think he is coming back, you had your chance and you blow it, now you plan to play games to get his attention again? Your ignorance and sense of rightfulness is pathetic. Best would be for you to play with people of same kind and forget the female games, good men are a premium and obviously you have no vision for them.
you have huge boobs candeh15
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