Gem man and Cap girl... maybe I'm doing it right?

Hi all...

I've been here a couple of times. Washed my hands off mr virgo from last year who broke my heart.. but found myself healing with a Gemini man. We've been dating for 6 months.. decided we don't want to date anyone else and so we're giving it a shot.

It's been interesting how we've developed and how well we've worked. I can't say I am possessive.. but if I have that tendency, it's because I don't trust that person. With my boy right now, I have this feeling that I can trust him and I do. So no, I have never ball and chained him and we both have very active separate lives, but when we come together.. it's fantastic! We have so much to talk about, share, and we love telling each other about other things in life that inspires us to be who we are.

The one thing I know is that he's always been afraid of losing his independence. With me though.. he's not felt that way (because i don't!). Hes told me that in his past, he's had girls who demand a call everyday and to see him four times a week. for us.. we text and call maybe every other day.. and we see each other when we can which is consistently once or twice a week, schedule permitting. We're honest about what we are doing and we talk about our goals and I admire how we strive to better ourselves in every way and we are coming together well. BTW.. he works 6 days a week. He's a doctor and owns his own practice. I am working full time, a part time athlete and in part time school. it's a miracle how we find the energy to date really.. but we make the time.

At first, he talks about how he doesn't really open up.. but recently he's told me that there's a crack in that heart. And its funny because he says that, and yet.. he will text me in the mornings to wish me good morning.. he can't stop planting kisses all over me when he sees me (majorly affectionate) and he also told me he adores me. I hear that gems don't really open up.. so if that's the case, it's a good sign! 🙂

So I do try to make things interesting for us. I LOVE food so I am always cooking.. and i usually cook dinner for us. we go for movies, different restaurants and stuff.. so hopefully as we get closer, we'll start doing a variety of things to spice things up! occasionally, I'll send him a naughty text, or a naughty photo... or something sweet.. or surprise him with a small present. I like making him happy. Seeing him smile or excited brings me joy. 🙂

any advice thus far? just thought I'd ask now that I am in the realm o

You seem to be doing it all too well. Seems like more of an emotional, and healing connection than a sexual one from what I can tell. Good luck. I have a Cappy friend who's a girl. We've been friends since we were kids. We do play this game however that Caps like to do. You know, the "if someone else wants you it makes me want you even more" stuff. The Cap women I know show this trait often. Be careful! When a Gemini man sees this chink, he will use it. Not always for the bad. But, to keep your nose open. He may flirt just to get your attention, and it will work. Am I right?

Hmm... both of us don't really do that.

i don't like playing the jealous card and he's not one for it either.
jealousy is insecurity.

I'm too stubborn to be insecure and i heard geminis never admit to anything that would make them look insecure?

sexual chemistry is INTENSE.

maybe our charts are somewhat a good match.

sava .... some (most) Gemini's are players of the jealous game, so this is why that is the first thought that popped into his head about how this relationship should be progressing.


Sounds like the two of you are having a mature and grown up relationship built around communication, trust and respect .... congratulations, you've found a keeper 🙂

it really hard to find a gem guy who is loving and caring and not out to play games...sounds like you have...many blessings in your relationship....

I've never known gems to be players.. unless they are just casually dating around.
My sister's a gem and so is my best friend... both are pretty loyal when they say I'm not dating anyone else.
But then again.. I don't know if being loyal or not is a horoscope thing.

one thing though i find, gems are communicative if you talk to them. I find that most gems find it uncomfortable, but they will still do it.

Posted by dward417
it really hard to find a gem guy who is loving and caring and not out to play games...sounds like you have...many blessings in your relationship....

She is obviously more blessed than you my friend. She gets it. You do not. If you could understand us than you will have knowledge. You do not. Too bad. Keep living.

geminimind...I am very blessed...as a matter of fact I have a gem man wrap around my finger...he is very loyal to me and loves me very much....im just saying they are very hard to find based on the gems ive dealt with in the past

Dward,

I'd be careful with the "wrapped around my finger" thingy. I don't care what sign a man is, being wrapped around the finger is never positive. Somebody's in for a rude awakening. However, I'm a Gemini with a Taurus moon and a Leo rising. So I have the intellect of the Gem, the stability of the Bull, and I am mistaken for a Leo all the time. My chart has a lot of water in it. So, I don't know about those Gems that were difficult for you. But, I'll tell you this: A Gemini has the potential to be the most important yet powerful sign in the Zodiac. IF....they learn themselves, in order to control themselves (My Taurus is probably speaking here). Just imagine a Gemini that figures it all out. You think we are hated on now? Hmph, we'd rule the world. Donald Trump is an example of this in my opinnion. So was JFK. I'm working on it dward. I am. What's your sign by the way? Nevermind, I see you were born on April 17th. Aries and Gemini. My kids mother is an Aries. She thought she had me wrapped too. She had to learn the hard way. I hope you have success with your Gem. I'm sure there's a lot of passion at least.

lol, what a fool.


You know, Mr. GeminiMind ... you'd be wise if you listened for a while before speaking, so that you won't have to keep putting your foot in your mouth.

btw .. which of course you wouldn't know because you refuse to pay attention because you foolishly believe you have it all figured out ... dward is one of the few people in here who don't .. do NOT ... bash Gemini's because of her fondness for them, mainly her man.


And in your stupidity ... you berate her for something she didn't even do .... due to your powerful mind.

I've hit a hiccup and I don't know what to do.

I went away on a two week vacation and we were texting a little while I was away flirting, but now I am back, he seems a little distant. I feel like something is bothering him but he's not talking and if theres anything I know, is that I don't push a gemini to talk unless they are ready.

Even though he's distant, he's still being present by texting me in the morning and wishing me well like always.

Before I left, I know he had talked about needing some space and thought he was being smothered. He's been very independent all of his life, so being with me has been a change and he's trying to figure things out. I asked him if its because he wants to date other girls and he said that has never been an issue with us because he's never thought of doing so. He's just afraid of losing his independence and he's also never been in a serious relationship so he said it's not me, but he's got issues that he needs to deal with.

So I've been patient and since then we've been acting like normal and even when I saw him after the talk and before I left, we were fine.

But now I'm back, I don't expect to immediately talk about things but I think he thinks that I do. I am giving him the space he needs and letting him come to me, but it's driving me INSANE because he seems so slow at it.

while I was away, we did text.. and there was an incident where we were texting back and forth, and he texted "Muah" like "kiss" to me. I thought it was so sweet because he's never done that and then i was distracted by something and didn't reply. He texted 12 hours later saying "whats up? you didn't hit me back"
I know he cares for me.. and I can feel that he cares alot.. but he just seems to have difficulty having me close to him emotionally

I need some support through this and need help in learning to calm my nerves through this. Can you guys advise me on what to do? I am trying to be as patient as I can and I need advice on how to handle the gem.. before I do something stupid like constantly call and text asking what's wrong and why and being all crazy.

😢 HELP!
I adore him.. and

I adore the man so much..

Hey! I remember you 🙂

Hi cappysweetie! Nice to see you again

Emerald gem... how can i communicate when he doesn't seem to? sigh..

to me texting is no form of communicating...especially in a relationship

Both of you have career oriented life style s so its possible the time that you do get when together might come across as refreshing.

Posted by savagetai
I've hit a hiccup and I don't know what to do.

I went away on a two week vacation and we were texting a little while I was away flirting, but now I am back, he seems a little distant. I feel like something is bothering him but he's not talking and if theres anything I know, is that I don't push a gemini to talk unless they are ready.

Even though he's distant, he's still being present by texting me in the morning and wishing me well like always.

Before I left, I know he had talked about needing some space and thought he was being smothered. He's been very independent all of his life, so being with me has been a change and he's trying to figure things out. I asked him if its because he wants to date other girls and he said that has never been an issue with us because he's never thought of doing so. He's just afraid of losing his independence and he's also never been in a serious relationship so he said it's not me, but he's got issues that he needs to deal with.

So I've been patient and since then we've been acting like normal and even when I saw him after the talk and before I left, we were fine.

But now I'm back, I don't expect to immediately talk about things but I think he thinks that I do. I am giving him the space he needs and letting him come to me, but it's driving me INSANE because he seems so slow at it.

while I was away, we did text.. and there was an incident where we were texting back and forth, and he texted "Muah" like "kiss" to me. I thought it was so sweet because he's never done that and then i was distracted by something and didn't reply. He texted 12 hours later saying "whats up? you didn't hit me back"
I know he cares for me.. and I can feel that he cares alot.. but he just seems to have difficulty having me close to him emotionally

I need some support through this and need help in learning to calm my nerves through this. Can you guys advise me on what to do? I am trying to be as patient as I can and I need advice on how to handle the gem.. before I do something stupid like constantly call and text asking what's wrong and why and being all crazy.

😢 HELP!
I adore him.. and

Its probably a matter of commitment > he needs to be commited to his work while your issue might lean towards marriageable suitability< and if you feel this way think things feel right then this might become a preoccupying thing with you. T

hmmmm my input disappeared or something/.

Phew...

saw my man this weekend. He was dealing with something and wasn't in the best of moods that week and didn't want me to know but he eventually told me himself.

good thing I didn't burst or accuse him before he talked to me.
I would have felt silly. 🙂