Gemini boyfriend has already moved on!

I can't understand how men seem to move on so quickly. I posted on here before about how me and my boyfriend had the same birthday, same year. We had been together for the last 8 months but the same problem kept popping up. Thing is things were going great and we had all these plans for this year. So its not like feelings were not the same. However I had had enough of his nonchalant attitude and again this same problem came up. I sent him a long message explaining how I felt and how I was just tired of it all. To which he just replied 'I see well we should stop speaking then' (something along those lines) and that was it. This was just yesterday. Not even up to 24 hours later and he is already out with his friends with a group of girls and they seem to each have one to themselves. I had deleted everything of his but saw this off his friends snapchat. They were play fighting and being very flirty. I am just completely heart broken and so angry. I only just saw him on Thursday, we had gone out for dinner and next thing you know things were over and now he's already getting comfortable with someone else.

We all deal with heart-break differently - just because he did that doesn't mean he's over everything.

Or:

"However I had had enough of his nonchalant attitude "
The reason for his nonchalance may have been that he was drifting away already...meaning that he may already have had some time to digest it.

Or:

He's pissed at you for breaking up with him and is currently acting out.

Imo.

Hope you are alright! Well wishes.🙂

Posted by littlemegabytes
It sounds like someone else caught his eye while you two were together. I would leave him alone and DO not message him, lashing out and asking for explanations, if you are hoping for reconciliation.. that will only push him further away. I'm sorry this happened - I've had a few similar experiences with such things.

Agreed!

You have the right to be upset, but truth is: you're broken up and he doesn't have any obligations towards you.

OP, Did you do or say something that upset him? Some of us Gems can be sensitive, and I am not by any means excusing his behavior. Just trying to make sense out of why he would suddenly look for a reason to up and leave you like that. Is it possible he was bored with you for one reason or another? There usually has to be a reason; repetitive fighting, loss of mental connection, you calling for issues that were insignificant, pressure/ultimatums, specific commitments, etc...

After reading your post again, if you were too serious about things, specifically, the way you talked to him, he probably got tired of dealing with it. Why should he feel sad if you are the one who ended it. He is mirroring you. His way of thinking is "hmmm so, you don't see me as worth anything, while now I am going to take control and show you that I can get anyone and don't need you and I'll give you an idea of what it feels like to be tossed out."

For the most part us Geminis are pretty laid back about most things, but play with our feelings when we actually like you or continually criticize us, we'll have the tendency to take it from one extreme to the other (dual sided nature) liking you one moment and treating you as non existent by avoiding you the next. Only one other sign acts this way in certain ways -Libra.

Non-chalant doesn't go over well with with Venus in Taurus and Mercury.....If a Gemini is not that into you, they will move on quickly, if he was really into you, he would be mopeing around all depressed and he would have grilled you from here to eternity after sending that message. He was probably relieved you broke up with him first.

Posted by HadesMoonCrabRising
Non-chalant doesn't go over well with with Venus in Taurus and Mercury.....If a Gemini is not that into you, they will move on quickly, if he was really into you, he would be mopeing around all depressed and he would have grilled you from here to eternity after sending that message. He was probably relieved you broke up with him first.

His Venus and Mercury are the same and his moon is in Pisces. The last time we broke up it wasn't till about a month before he started missing me and calling me randomly 'just to hear my voice'

Posted by Hayleysays

Posted by HadesMoonCrabRising
Non-chalant doesn't go over well with with Venus in Taurus and Mercury.....If a Gemini is not that into you, they will move on quickly, if he was really into you, he would be mopeing around all depressed and he would have grilled you from here to eternity after sending that message. He was probably relieved you broke up with him first.

His Venus and Mercury are the same and his moon is in Pisces. The last time we broke up it wasn't till about a month before he started missing me and calling me randomly 'just to hear my voice'

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Ugh....Mutable sun, Mutable Moon....so he's got a dual personality and he's a two fishies swimming in opposite directions....lol

Consider yourself lucky.

After having some time to reflect over it I'm not too upset about the whole situation as I do think I have found a soul mate in him. We love the same shows, we want to visit the same countries and live in the same places, both want to adopt. We make each other laugh and we understand each other. We know when to give the other person space and when it's just the two of us things are great. The issue for us is timing. He has a child with someone he doesn't want to be with and this is the cause of most of our arguments. She depends too much on him and this makes things difficult for us. There is always something going on and she doesn't want to let go. Due to cultural reasons his mum wants him to work things out with her. Thing is I'd known him years before and we liked each other then but I wasn't ready. Now we both feel like we are more mature and ready. But he has a child with this woman. She attends his family parties cause of their son, she is always around. I do feel like in the past we will find a way back to each other but right now I can't deal with the baby mum drama

Posted by jadedpearl
one of our unfortunate and hurtful qualities: we can easily cut people out of our lives without thinking twice about it....we sometimes lack emotion or feeling.

That's the fascinating quality about Gemini. Some may hate it, but the way they handle their emotions is amazing. I know deep inside, it must have hurt hard.

Posted by Hayleysays
I can't understand how men seem to move on so quickly. I posted on here before about how me and my boyfriend had the same birthday, same year. We had been together for the last 8 months but the same problem kept popping up. Thing is things were going great and we had all these plans for this year. So its not like feelings were not the same. However I had had enough of his nonchalant attitude and again this same problem came up. I sent him a long message explaining how I felt and how I was just tired of it all. To which he just replied 'I see well we should stop speaking then' (something along those lines) and that was it. This was just yesterday. Not even up to 24 hours later and he is already out with his friends with a group of girls and they seem to each have one to themselves. I had deleted everything of his but saw this off his friends snapchat. They were play fighting and being very flirty. I am just completely heart broken and so angry. I only just saw him on Thursday, we had gone out for dinner and next thing you know things were over and now he's already getting comfortable with someone else.

Is this a fucking joke?

Or are you the joke?


You tell him you've had it, you've had enough of his attitude ... you send a long description to him explaining how you're tired of him and his shit .....



.... and now here you are making him out to be a bad guy, making it sound like he's the one who broke your heart.


He didn't break your heart .... YOU are the one who broke up.


So, if you didn't want to break up with him ... then that means you're a manipulator, and you only told him those things in an attempt to twist and maneuver him to bend to you.


jfc ....... you're getting exactly what you deserve. And that's the real kick in the ass that you can't handle, and you know you can't. You know you fucked up and are blaming him because you can't handle the truth about yourself.

Sit there and rot for a while in your fuck up .... maybe that'll teach you.

His guy friends were cheering him up with a group date after you explained how miserable you are in your relationship.

This is just your ego talking. Find someone to be happy with.

You probably just wanted him to fight for you after you telling him you were tired of it. You're upset because he decided to throw it in the trash; the opposite of what you hoped for. I'm sure he hasn't moved on, he's just trying to ride out the pain.

Posted by libralotus

You're upset because he decided to throw it in the trash; the opposite of what you hoped for.

Which means ... instead of communicating with him like a respectful and rational adult - she played a head game with him, to try and manipulate him.

It's likely that this was her modus operandi all along and the very reason why he has a shitty attitude with her.

You get what you deserve ..... and you are steadily working on deserving to be regarded as useless.