Gemini man confusing Virgo woman

I want to vent about a wishy washy Gemini man lol whom i've been involved with for 2 months. Things were so awesome. No problems. No issues. Technically still no issues other than the fact we haven't talked for a week for no reason at all! He's being true to his Gemini nature and although I know it's their nature to disappear for a while, I still take it sooooo personal because im sooooo emotionally invested in him! He's divorced with a kid and he's busy with work and school but still made tons of time for me. We both did. We both made lots of time for each other. But the last week of July and beginning of this month we haven't been connected and it's bothering me so much. I am too stubborn to reach out to him to see what's up but i know I have to just to get a peace of mind. It's killing me inside. Truth is I truly miss him I do. We are so happy when we're together whether we go out to eat, drinks, watching movies, or just talking about life we love each other's company. Maybe he's done idk idk idk. Idk if I should reach out and keep the text brief. Gems what do you all think?

Virgo Sun
Libra Moon/Venus
Gemini Rising

Gemini man has a Cancer venus and Pisces rising.
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Every answer is not just to dump someone, dang. Lol. First off she never even said they were actually —together?? she said they were —dealing with each other?? BIG difference.

In my opinion I??ve only talked to a few gems, and each one are the same but somewhat different one is more mature and put together than the other two. He's wonderful. However they all have a tendency to get a tad bored with routine, and which case they depend on their partner to shake things up or switch it up or they will do it for you. They have multiple personalities and mainly I think this is why it's a little challenging to keep them on their toes. I'm a Libra so I accept the challenge to charm the pants off of someone any day, the only time I back off is if I feel it's not working. I don't like losing.
In your case, I feel if you miss him and want to see him or something your going to have to speak up. A gem man will not try to read your mind because he doesn't feel he should have to because he wont do that to you. He expects you to talk to him and let him know what's up. I don't recommend you go all mushy on him, but I definitely don't see the harm in calling and saying —Hey stranger, how you been.?? If his response is cheerful, just be like —LOL. Well I was only calling because this gorgeous woman you??ve been dating misses you or whatever?? Then laugh, he??ll probably giggle and play along.
I did that with mines, whom I currently like and he ate it up. They like flirting and knowing they are thought about. Just don't go over board to the point where they are overwhelmed by your gestures. But the cute little cheesy gestures they love, they think it's cute. He may say —You are so cheesy?? But I can bet he's smiling hard from the inside. I have a bestfriend whom is a Gemini female, and she loves a guy that's stern and direct with her, respects her, and lets her know how much he's thinking about her. The guys she likes will never know it, but she falls and cooes at the most cheesiest things they say, she finds it adorable. I laugh at her everytime because she wears this cool, and nonchalant behavior as a shell, but it's only because she afraid of looking like a fool or getting played.

Yes, I agree 100% . My bestie whom is a gem is dating a virgo male, and she really likes him but at times she's unsure if she can be his girl because he over does it.
For the little while they could??nt get it right. He jumps in these little moods, and wont tell her. Her being a Gemini she approaches the situation head on, and that's the only way he??ll tell her wassup. That's why I'm encouraging the OP to make sure she tells the Gemini what's going on with her, in a direct non-emotional way

I appreciate you hesitancy in contacting him because you might not like what you hear. That said, only he can tell you whether his feelings have cooled off. This isn't a gemini thing. It's just a man thing. He might be busy. He might need a breather. He might be doubting whether this relationship is really right for him. It's very common for both men and women to hide their doubts in the beginning because they don't want to put adverse pressure on the relationship by voicing them. It takes about 3 months to gel in a relationship and you're at the 2 month mark, which means to be frank, things can go either way. Of course things can go either way beyond 3 months but if you haven't settled into a stable partnership by then, it's not looking too hot for the future. At least that reflects my experiences in the dating world. Bottom line. You've got to ask him what's up because only he can answer the questions you have in your mind. If he's not invested in the relationship like you are, hurtful as that will be, it's better to know sooner rather than later. The longer it goes, the more invested you become and the longer you'll grieve. Have the talk and really listen to what he says. That's the only way you'll gain clarity here. Not by talking to us or drawing upon general observations about the sun signs. At the end of the day, he's not a sun sign. He's a man.

Hmmm Este, I actually like your answer better than my own. Haha!
Your helping me too little do you know it. Especially the whole 2 month-3month mark thing. Ugh, Lord knows I??ve been down that road so I know exactly what you mean right there.
I'm actually at my 3 months with my Gem and well we still talk almost everyday, the longest I went without hearing from him is 2 days, and we've hung out plenty of times between now and then. However I got to admit we haven't had that talk because I sort of hate bringing up the —where is this thing going?? topic because men I??ve met either tell you what they think you want to hear, or they give a run-around non-direct answer. So in this case I'm trying to let him bring it up, and if he doesn't bring up being more solid or spending more time then I assume it's not where his head is at. I don't know. Then again, I'm kind of stomping myself in the foot with my own advice huh? Lol. It's just that I always bring the solid talk convo to the table I prefer the other person do it this time.
HOWEVER if I think of him, or miss him, or want to see him I tell him. How else is he supposed to know. Lol,

Este8 and Pinklibra have great responses.

What's his moon sign? I can tell you the best way to find out what he is feeling is do what PinkLib said. I always will come back playful to some light hearted banter if I am really into someone. This is how my crush gets me every time, I tell myself I am done talking to him out of fear of the unknown and he pulls the cuties stuff on me and plays on my wittle heart strings. I love it!! However, if I don't like you I kind of cringe. lol

There is a Cancer man really trying to get to know me right now. He started over a year ago and was so aggressive that it completely turned me off, but he has figured out that I am the kind of female you have to really get to know. The more I talk to him and hear him talk to me, I just kind of melt. I don't mean melt as in I want to date him but I am starting to see that I could really like him, if this is really who he is.

Hey all! Thanks for the comments and feedback! Soooo a lil update well...I broke down and sent him a text yesterday late afternoon saying "hey whats up" and till this minute he still hasn't texted back at all smh!! I am totally bummed out about it! I'm taking it harder than I thought I would meaning I didn't know I really cared about him this much! I just don't get it! Why would he do that to me?? We have absolutely no issues at all! We had plans to do things later this month and in the fall and everything. Idk i am totally shocked. I guess as soon as I started to put my guard down he switched up on me like a Gemini. I feared this would happen though. Unfortunately the situation is out of my hands and I am too scorned by this to even talk to him again. I am done. I deleted any and everything that reminded me of him. It really hurt me a lot 😭 welp life goes on..ya gotta move forward. Live & Learn. Idk if he'll ever be back and at this point I don't know if id care...

Hurt Virgo lol 😭 😭

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Hmmm Este, I actually like your answer better than my own. Haha!
Your helping me too little do you know it. Especially the whole 2 month-3month mark thing. Ugh, Lord knows I??ve been down that road so I know exactly what you mean right there.
I'm actually at my 3 months with my Gem and well we still talk almost everyday, the longest I went without hearing from him is 2 days, and we've hung out plenty of times between now and then. However I got to admit we haven't had that talk because I sort of hate bringing up the —where is this thing going?? topic because men I??ve met either tell you what they think you want to hear, or they give a run-around non-direct answer. So in this case I'm trying to let him bring it up, and if he doesn't bring up being more solid or spending more time then I assume it's not where his head is at. I don't know. Then again, I'm kind of stomping myself in the foot with my own advice huh? Lol. It's just that I always bring the solid talk convo to the table I prefer the other person do it this time.
HOWEVER if I think of him, or miss him, or want to see him I tell him. How else is he supposed to know. Lol,

I think actions speak louder than words. If you're spending quality time together it sounds like things are moving in the right direction. I'd continue to go with the flow but if you find yourself compelled to ask, well then ask.