Gemini...Stalkers?!

Does anyone have a problem with people stalking them? I'm trying to be nicer to people and often someone mistakes my kindness for more. I don't even do anything spectacular...just a chat, smile, or hello. No batting eyes, giggle faces, or pats on the back( I have a giant no-contact bubble)

Then I realized that this happened most of my life and is a part of why I'm so anti-social. Please please please tell me this happens to you too and how you handle it bc I almost punched someone in the face while walking on the treadmill today...

Posted by CuspyGem
Does anyone have a problem with people stalking them? I'm trying to be nicer to people and often someone mistakes my kindness for more. I don't even do anything spectacular...just a chat, smile, or hello. No batting eyes, giggle faces, or pats on the back( I have a giant no-contact bubble)

Then I realized that this happened most of my life and is a part of why I'm so anti-social. Please please please tell me this happens to you too and how you handle it bc I almost punched someone in the face while walking on the treadmill today...

me too! but as to your question.... i've had issues with unwanted ppl who won't leave me alone, but never any stalkers. it just comes down to deciding who i want around and who i don't and work towards breaking free from them. mostly with negative ppl.

Posted by CuspyGem
Does anyone have a problem with people stalking them? I'm trying to be nicer to people and often someone mistakes my kindness for more. I don't even do anything spectacular...just a chat, smile, or hello. No batting eyes, giggle faces, or pats on the back( I have a giant no-contact bubble)

Then I realized that this happened most of my life and is a part of why I'm so anti-social. Please please please tell me this happens to you too and how you handle it bc I almost punched someone in the face while walking on the treadmill today...

lol!.. yup! exactly that! all the time..drives me insane and for as long as I can remember, thats the very reason Im being a recluse at the minute and well on here so much!.. Ive had it from both extremes, through crushing and secondly hate driven from an ex which is now a police matter, The thing is though what I have found is that people they speak to they make out its you chasing them or harassing them IT ACTUALLY REALLY IS NOT!.. Ive found its best to keep myself to my self, then Im neither encouraging it or being stitched up, Ive been less sociable this year because of this, I havent been mixing with single guy friends it becomes hassle, you let them down gently it isnt good enough, the pursue continues.

a couple of months ago this guy briefly spoke to me at the train station,I commute to work, Im talking for about 2 seconds "do you want some help with that? oh thankyou! 🙂" when I got home that day I had a mail on my facebook, it was the guy from the train station, I was like UHHH??!! how did you know my name and where to find me— he had clocked my work pass and searched for me on the net, said he couldnt get me off his mind all day, I didnt even look all that, quite a zombie actually I was tired it was early, I think I just gave a friendly smile... I travel different times now.

Posted by GeminiLovesVirgo
Omg. You know what, I had a stalker that scared the hell out of me few months ago. The guy was a friend of a friend of my friend. So, guy saw me on fb and added me. Got my number through his friend. Texted me and called me. At first, it was ok. I was single. Open to meet. But then one day he asked me what my bf and I does in bed. And even asked if I would get mad if I learn that someone fantasizes me. He said he fantasizes me every night. Wtf. Blocked him in every account that I have. When he calls, I don't pick up. I don't respond to his texts. Creepy.

In my facebook, I have unknown subscribers too. I dunno how they found my profile because supposedly, my account is unsearchable. So I dunno. But yeah. Having stalkers are creepy.

LMAOOOO!! The guy is fessing up he is chokin his chick`n all abouts you.. bahahahahahaha!! blehh!.. I guess not so bad If you liked him lol

Lol See I wouldnt have been able to leave it there im too curious which is my own worst enemy at times Id have been like "so eurrgh what was I doing? and did it make ya O_o......" paha

Posted by piscesmoon

Posted by CuspyGem
Does anyone have a problem with people stalking them? I'm trying to be nicer to people and often someone mistakes my kindness for more. I don't even do anything spectacular...just a chat, smile, or hello. No batting eyes, giggle faces, or pats on the back( I have a giant no-contact bubble)

Then I realized that this happened most of my life and is a part of why I'm so anti-social. Please please please tell me this happens to you too and how you handle it bc I almost punched someone in the face while walking on the treadmill today...

I feel you... try being the guy and 74 year old grandmother pinches your ass... What can you do... I mean really...

I have an old lady stalker... and a friends little sister... It is times like this I am happy I don't have face book... yea...


lol


There is nothing you can do... people are drawn to you... It happens to me at times and sometimes you have to not feel bad about being very blunt... The biggest problem is they all just want to be "friends" when they normally don't... and then when they start not acting like a friend you feel sorry for them... or most people...

Some people don't want to be your friend... some people just want to get in your pants... real friends what what is best for you and don't really even think about getting in your pants... lol


I find some girls like the idea of me as their bf but don't really care enough about me or know me enough... They just think that what they want matters more then everyone...


Hang in and just be blunt...


Look at me... what do you think the police would say if I ask them to arrest a 74 year old lady because she will not quit touching my ass...

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I totally get this, its so superficial, if you dont want them for anything more then they dont want to know, I cant stand that because I value people regardless of whether they want me in that way or not.


LMAO about the granny 😄 OOOOOOOH YOUNG MAN! 😉.. bahahaha!!! ..Lol you will have to sort it other wise you are cornered boyo, dont be feelin all sorry for for her now!? O_O .. she LU YOU LONG TIME ... bah, just Thump her 🙂

For you, sent with true gemini friendship love 🙂...

Oh my gosh!

I made a post about this probably a couple of months ago. I constantly have stalkers. I don't understand why either. One of them was an ex boyfriend who stalked me for more time than we actually dated. We dated for three years, and he stalked me for four. Now he lives a few streets over, drives the same make of car I do, his gf looks like me, shes the same sign, and in the same type of business I am. I told him I was like ugh...yeah that's not creepy or anything and he had no idea what I was talking about.

But there is always someone stalking me. Calling I don't pick up, texts (one guy texted me up to 120 times in one day), showing up at my house (exes do this), etc.

Oh and to Piscesmoon I thought you were a girl! Yay a sexy boy in our forums!!!! SQUEE!

Gucci - Yeah not sure why I thought that maybe it's the picture, or maybe it's because we both don't read any fine print LOL! I sure as hell don't I was like oh ok, blah blah blah. Oh you're a guy?!?!?! WHAAAT? LOL

Geez No one ever stalks us Libras Not sure if thats a good thing or not 🙂


I read alot of the posts and these people really need to get a life of their own

I have a lot of Libra placements does that count? LOL

I've always had the "relationship stamp" on my forehead now that it rubbed off I feel like I'm wearing love potion #5. Wonder if I acted overly friendly and spunky instead of hot/cold, people might be turned off from that. Or I might talk at guys like they are babies. "Oh look at you little cubscout! Your so so so cute! Look at those eyes! Amazing! Let me insta-gram them. TTYL Sweetie honey boo pumkin"

I'm trying to be nice to people because i'm an anti-social selfish mean lady. If i act mean people might know I'm not getting laid or something lmao

Posted by DeeGee
Unfortunately, us Gems gotta be more aware of what we say and do and with whom we do it with....we have the gift for gab.

Our perception of people are pretty good, our gift for gab tends to over power that. We need to tune into more silence and utilize our other sensibilities.

You are so right, I think we are quite confident and open with people too so i guess people feel we are approachable and feel familiar with us, if youre not an open person i guess that may come across as you like them alot more than what we do?..

ive always wondered what we give out that causes these obsessions.

I'd be horribly mean to someone before they got to the stalking point lol
C'mon now, us Gems are known for the dagger words. Bring-em out

Posted by domz

Posted by guccigemini55


ive always wondered what we give out that causes these obsessions.

it's the admiration of our out going personalities. people don't show the level of confidence we do in social situations nor its level in many other enduring situations. people like positivity and are therefore drawn to it.

the unique thing is, I find, is that although we are open, there are portions of us, our innermost feelings, are very closed. we aren't as open as people think we are. sure we are open to our personal lives sometimes, but our deepest feelings are very reserved and rarely expressed except towards those we consider closest and trustable.

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@ deegee and domz..NO BUTTERS! Omg that is bang on the mark, it couldnt have been said better.. WOW!

@domz Thanks, working out(bodybuidling) is my life!

My black box! I think someone opened it and spilt its contents everywhere...ugh picking up the precious pieces

@Geminems Damn some guys get off on verbal abuse and I hate getting angry. (I secretly cry everytime my temper gets out of control) I'm not into arguing, if I say f off it means now and in the future.

I guess some people like to be picked at and be thrown through different emotions by others. I can't even handle my own happiness to hell and back! Don't have the energy to take someone else's neg vibes. Its one thing to be neg to yourself but negative people that push it on others are icky! Bad vibes, bad karma, bad luck...no thanks! Rainbows and cotton candy for me!

@bubbly I'm only secretive when I'm unsure of something but really all I want is someone to cuddle in some blankets and tell my secrets to. Like when I stole some big red when I was five. I ate it all and it burned my mouth. I'd heart someone enjoyed my little secrets and I'll tell the same exact thing 5xs to make sure you really really got how funny I thought it was 🙂

Posted by domz

Posted by guccigemini55


ive always wondered what we give out that causes these obsessions.

it's the admiration of our out going personalities. people don't show the level of confidence we do in social situations nor its level in many other enduring situations. people like positivity and are therefore drawn to it.

the unique thing is, I find, is that although we are open, there are portions of us, our innermost feelings, are very closed. we aren't as open as people think we are. sure we are open to our personal lives sometimes, but our deepest feelings are very reserved and rarely expressed except towards those we consider closest and trustable.

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+1

Totally true. We aren't as open as people claim us to be. It's almost a defense mechanism. Hey let me litter my life and my stories with glitter and gold and fun things so they don't see the door at the end of the hall that is locked up. Create a diversion so to speak.

And to the comment about stalking Scorpios, hell no. I will NEVER stalk one of them. I mean I have to really really like something about someone to go that far. Honestly I find them to be unbearably mean. Who wants to stalk someone like that? No thanks.

I'm friendly and outgoing by nature. However, I'm quite shy and avoid men I'm interested in....backwards, I know! So, it may come off as though I'm flirting, but I'm actually just being cordial.
In my case it may be due in part to the "I'm interested" signals i unwittingly emit when I am not interested! The other day a kid who is probably 20 years younger than me followed me out of starbucks and wanted to go out. I see him every day, we go in at about the same time, and I usually chit chat while we're in line (that we always look younger probably contributed). I thought nothing of it because, well, he's so much younger, I already have a bf, and I don't consider him to be a guy I'd date.
I do have to pay attention, sometimes our friendliness can be misconstrued. When I was younger friends would tell me to stop flirting with their bf's. I wasn't flirting, in my mind, I considered them strictly off limits, so I relaxed and treated them like friends. I had no interest at all (if I did you can bet I'd be ignoring them), and at parties I'd socialize with them, just one of the boys. But as it botheredmy friends, I did tone it down.
It's when a guy who you don't like keeps approaching, it feels a bit like stalking. If you like them, it's part of the courtship.
DG, yes, I have noticed that others feel the need to control or possess us. Gems can only be experienced, never possessed. This is maddening to those who need to control to feel secure.
Domz and Xin. We're probably the most secretive, but we don't advertise it. Our outgoing nature gives the appearance of "openess" when in reality we only reveal little pieces of ourselves. We are good at getting people to reveal their secrets, though. The ones you let us know, and the ones you don't.

Domz and Xin. We're probably the most secretive, but we don't advertise it. Our outgoing nature gives the appearance of "openess" when in reality we only reveal little pieces of ourselves. We are good at getting people to reveal their secrets, though. The ones you let us know, and the ones you don't.


^^^^ +1

So so true.

Posted by DeeGee

Posted by domz

Posted by Xin
Domz and Xin. We're probably the most secretive, but we don't advertise it. Our outgoing nature gives the appearance of "openess" when in reality we only reveal little pieces of ourselves. We are good at getting people to reveal their secrets, though. The ones you let us know, and the ones you don't.


^^^^ +1

So so true.

Quoted for truth! You are definitely right at getting people to reveal their secrets; we tend to see right past people's walls before they even open up to us. The problem is, is although we may not know exactly what it is, or exactly what is the main reason to our perspective on the person, we can easily judge if the person is "good or bad". That six sense is present in a lot of gems.

I notice, in the end, when reason and facts don't work, you just shove BS into the air to counter their BS. I can't believe how far some people would go when they know they're wrong or too immature to admit their faults without excuses or some sort of emotional manipulation or self-pity thrown into the mix. It's really due to the lies and deception thrown at you on their end, confusing the fuck out of you. It's annoying as hell.

Domz...you are way beyond your years my friend.....YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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YES!!! .. and I dont get why people dont learn from it!!?? they are like that because of insecurities I get that, but, dont they realise they are creating their own prison? I drop this hint, time and time again, well actually blatantly in your face more like.. I want to see REAL! STRIPPED DOWN!!.. I dont know why gemini`s are so mistrusted, the ones I know just dont give a dayemn about admitting their faults.

Domz - OMG I KNOW RIGHT! That quote about you saying "You know how much it takes to get through a day without feeling a hint of boredom". If that isn't the truth.

I get so bored of people, routines, errands, I prefer just not to do them at all cause it bores me to death. I have a real problem with this. I won't talk to people because I already know what they will say (since the first couple of times are mostly the same) that I'll completely avoid them entirely, cause they bore me to death. *Groans* This kind of sucks for the guys that I am interested in. If they get too complacent, routine, I start looking around.